
Is it just me — or is it kind of wild that the conversation of perimenopause (and menopause and post-menopause) seems to be coming up more than it ever has? I thought about that when I read about a team-up that Queen Latifah and Weight Watchers are currently doing to bring perimenopause awareness to as many people as possible.
Good. Glad to hear it because, if you’re a woman who is blessed enough to reach the average age of menopause (the day when you’ve gone 12 months without a cycle), which is 51, you definitely need to know what you are in for during the seasons that are leading up to it. And boy — can it be quite the ride.
Perimenopause (the years of physical and even mental and emotional transitions that you tend to experience before menopause) is something that I have discussed quite a bit on this platform (check out “Perimenopause Has Your Period Being All Over The Place? Here's What To Do.," “Perimenopause Shifting Your Shape? 7 Ways to Deal,” and “5 Signs Your Estrogen Is Too High. 5 Signs It's Too Low.”) However, it wasn’t until I happened upon an article on Hello! entitled, “Perimenopause made me hate autumn,” that it even occurred to me that perimenopause would cause some similar issues that my favorite time of the year does. Wow.
So, as the temperature is dropping and leaves are changing — if you are also “going through some changes,” take a moment to read what perimenopause and autumn have in common…so that you know how to handle what is actually happening to you…either way.
Autumn Cultivates Drier Skin
GiphyAlthough hot flashes and brain fog haven’t really been my personal perimenopause issues, two things that did rise up in my life are dry skin and waking up at 3 a.m. like clockwork — and yes, dry skin is something that can also be an issue during the autumn season. As far as perimenopause goes, if your skin can’t seem to get enough moisture, it’s probably because of the combination of your estrogen levels dropping along with your skin becoming thinner (which makes it harder for it to retain moisture) over time.
Then, if you add to this the fact that autumn weather has less humidity, you’re usually wearing fabrics like wool, taking hot showers and then turning on the heat in your home which results in dry, hot air blowing on you for hours on end — definitely make sure to have a humidifier on in your bedroom at night, to take warm instead of hot showers and that you seal your skin once you get out of it.
Oh, and eat the kind of foods that will moisturize your skin from the inside out. Check out “These Foods Will Give Your Skin & Hair The Moisture They Crave” for a list of some of those.
Autumn Can Impact Your Moods
GiphyWhile reading an article on menopause rage, I thought about the fact that it really is underestimated, all that a woman’s hormones go through during perimenopause. One of the things that the piece stated (that is quite legit) is, as your estrogen levels start to drop, that can do a number on your serotonin levels (a brain chemical that affects moods, sleep and your sex drive) too — and boy, when that happens, it can have you on a real emotional roller coaster ride (sometimes).
Know what else can do that? Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) which is a pretty big deal for some during the fall. Since (with the help of time change) the days are shorter and there is less natural light that people are able to receive, that can trigger depression (or depression-related symptoms) in some individuals. Not to mention the fact that your system naturally produces more melatonin when it’s dark which can cause you to drag and feel more fatigued.
As far as the perimenopausal side of this, plant-based, estrogen-enriched foods (known as phytoestrogens) can help to bring more estrogen into your body. Some of those foods include carrots, oranges, red clover tea, broccoli and coffee. As far as SAD is concerned, you can combat that with the help of an official diagnosis by a licensed professional.
Beyond that, spend as much time in natural light as much as you possibly can; consider investing in what is known as a SAD light therapy lamp; take a vitamin D supplement (it’s an all-natural mood regulator); create and/or maintain a consistent exercise regimen, and do your best to keep stress at a minimum (especially during the holiday season).
Autumn Will Probably “Adjust” Your Libido
GiphyAnyone who told you that you have to kiss your sex life (or even the quality of your sex life) goodbye after menopause is someone who should see their doctor (to check on their physical health) and/or a sex therapist (check out “Have You Ever Wondered If You Should See A Sex Therapist?”). Listen, the reason why I’ve written articles for the platform like “What Having Sex After Menopause Is Like, According To 10 Women” is because there are PLENTY of women out here who are having AMAZING sex post-menopause.
Still, that doesn’t mean that the transition within the perimenopause period doesn’t come with a few bumps in the road. That’s because a drop in sex hormones can sometimes result in less (natural) lubrication, a harder time getting aroused and less (genital) sensitivity in some women while it can actually cause the sex drive to skyrocket in others (if their estrogen and progesterone levels end up fluctuating on the higher end).
For similar reasons, autumn can alter your libido a bit too. That’s because it’s been proven that testosterone levels typically increase in both men and women during the fall season. Not to mention the fact that certain fall-themed foods (like pumpkin, pears and butternut squash) are aphrodisiacs and the cooler it is outdoors, the better a man’s sperm tends to be.
Autumn Can Cause Hair Loss
GiphyI’m telling you — estrogen plays such a pivotal role in a woman’s overall health and well-being. Take your hair, for example. If you’ve been noticing that your locks are shedding more than usual or that they are thinning out in some areas, it could be because a drop in estrogen has shortened your hair growth phase.
And how in the world could the autumn season play a role in hair loss? Actually, I wrote an article on this very thing last year. If you read “We Shed More Hair During The Fall. Here's What To Do About It.,” you’ll peep that autumn can trigger hair loss due to the fact that your hair goes through more shedding in the fall so that, hopefully, you will grow more hair in the winter (in order to protect your hair from winter’s cold).
Problem is, if you’re going through perimenopause and the fall season at the same time, you could see way more shedding than usual. Some hacks for this? Reduce the amount of heat that you apply to your hair (including hot oil treatments). Limit the hairstyles that cause tension (like ponytails that are always in the same spot on your head or tight braids; especially around your edges).
Try to keep harsh chemical usage to a minimum including relaxers and hair dyes. And definitely give yourself scalp massages and use a volumizing shampoo.
Autumn Might Jack Up Your Sleep Patterns
GiphyEstrogen, progesterone and testosterone are all hormones that are influx during perimenopause. Unfortunately, since they also tend to send conflicting messages to the neurotransmitters in your brain during this time, that’s why they can disrupt your sleep whenever you’re going through this season of your life. Not to mention the fact that few folks find it easy to stay asleep when they feel like they are burning up and hot flashes are a very common symptom of perimenopause (especially the latter stages of it).
Interestingly enough, trying to sleep during the autumn season poses to be a challenge for many people too. From the potential for feeling depressed and your melatonin levels being all over the place (due to you being exposed to less sunlight) to your immune system being challenged by flu bugs and viruses (sleep quality is virtually shot when you’re sick) and even consuming more comfort food which can make you prone to napping which can make it challenging to sleep throughout the night — all of this can have you tossing and turning all night long, if you’re not careful.
As far as what you can do to make sleeping easier during perimenopause, creating a consistent exercise routine is always a good idea. So is setting your thermostat to around 68 degrees so that you don’t find yourself experiencing hot sweats quite so much. And what about combating autumn-related sleep issues? Spend more time outdoors (when the sun is out) so that you can naturally set your circadian rhythm (which is your body’s internal clock). Be intentional about keeping your immune system strong, so that you don’t have to try to fall asleep while you have a cold or the flu.
Keep a sleep schedule, so that you don’t nap too much during the day or oversleep at night (since it does get darker quicker; especially once time “falls back” an hour).
Autumn May Increase Your Appetite
GiphyIf it seems like you are gaining weight faster than ever (or it’s harder for you to lose weight than it used to be), it’s probably not in your head. The reality is that, during perimenopause, as your estrogen and progesterone decline, that can do a real number on your metabolism which can make it easier to pack on the pounds; especially if you work a job that keeps you seated most of the time and you don’t work out regularly (because perimenopause can also cause you to lose muscle mass as well). And all of this doesn’t even touch on the fact that your mood swings may cause you to want to emotionally comfort yourself with food while the shifts in your hormones may trigger certain cravings as well.
Autumn? Remember how we talked about SAD (seasonal affective disorder) earlier? If it starts to affect you on some levels, it can also bring about cravings and increase your appetite. And since it’s colder outside and you may not be moving around and about as much, well, from the junk food that may bring you joy, the late-night snacking that might be your thing and/or all of the holiday food that you might be consuming — some health experts say that most people will gain anywhere between 1-7 pounds during this time of the year.
Whether your appetite has increased due to perimenopause and/or autumn — drink water and infused water to help to quell your desire for food (and detox your system); snack on foods that are healthy and full of water like cucumber, zucchini, celery, peaches, yogurt, broccoli, grapefruit, apples and grapes. Studies show that essential oils like bergamot, mint and cinnamon can help to suppress your appetite while eating more protein can help you to feel fuller for a longer period of time and fiber can clean out your system quicker.
Autumn Could Make You Less Motivated
GiphyFluctuating hormones can lead to a lack of sleep and a lack of sleep can uptick your stress levels — and when that happens during perimenopause, you could end up with what is known as brain fog. Brain fog is what happens when you find yourself forgetting things, you have trouble concentrating and/or you don’t feel very motivated or inspired to do much. A part of what is causing all of this to happen is because estrogen and testosterone are essential when it comes to cognitive function and when their levels drop, your mind isn’t working at an optimal pace.
Interestingly enough, changes in weather during the fall and wintertime can lead to fatigue, headaches, irritability, a lack of concentration and the ability to make the best decisions (which might be why cuffing season is so “big” during the autumn season).
As far as perimenopause goes — exercise, meditation and consuming more antioxidants are all things that can help your brain to get back on track. If your brain fog is more about the cooler weather — getting more rest, reducing your stress and, believe it or not, drinking more water (because water contains oxygen and that is something that your brain thrives on) can help to bring about some immediate relief.
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I know, right? Who would’ve thought that perimenopause and autumn would be out here mimicking each other (as far as certain symptoms go). Now that you know how they do, prepare.
That way, you can enjoy all of what the fall season has to offer — without letting what I just mentioned get in your way. Perimenopause or weather-wise.
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Kayla Nicole is among xoNecole’s It Girl 100 Class of 2025, powered by SheaMoisture, recognized in the Viral Voices category for her work in media and the trends she sets on our timelines, all while prioritizing her own mental and physical health. As she puts it: “Yes, I’m curating conversations on my podcast The Pre-Game, and cultivating community with my wellness brand Tribe Therepē.”
Despite being the frequent topic of conversation online, Kayla Nicole says she’s learning to take advantage of her growing social media platform without becoming consumed by it. “I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out,” she says.
On The Pre-Game, which launched earlier this year, she has positioned herself as listeners “homegirl.” “There’s definitely a delicate dance between being genuine and oversharing, and I’ve had to learn that the hard way. Now I share from a place of reflection, not reaction,” she says. “If it can help someone feel seen or less alone, I’ll talk about it within reason. But I’ve certainly learned to protect parts of my life that I cherish most. I share what serves connection but doesn’t cost me peace.
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There is a very specific reason why I decided to write this article before the holiday season officially gets underway. It’s because I once read a study that said it’s quite common for most Americans to double the amount of alcohol that they consume between Thanksgiving and New Year’s Day.
It makes sense when you stop to think about all of the holiday parties, time off, and moments spent with loved ones that transpire around this time of year. And while there is certainly nothing wrong with enjoying some mulled wine, real-deal eggnog, or peppermint martinis, because your health is something that never “takes a vacation,” I thought it was important to share with you some of the benefits (pros) and challenges (cons) that can arise from alcohol consumption.
My main motive? Mostly, I hope that it will serve as a solid reminder to embrace all of the things that you adore about this time of year, so long as you do it in moderation and you weigh the costs.
Especially as far as drinking alcohol is concerned.
PRO: Manages Blood Sugar Levels
GiphyHere’s something that you may have never seen coming. Were you aware of the fact that alcohol can actually help to stabilize your blood sugar? Yep, according to the American Diabetes Association, so long as you leave it to no more than 1-2 cocktails a day, alcohol may be able to lower your A1C levels. Pretty cool, right?
CON: It’s a Carcinogen
GiphyAlcohol is a carcinogen. The reason why this should somewhat alarm you is because carcinogens are things (like tobacco, UV rays, processed meats, etc.) that can increase your chances of being diagnosed with cancer (especially mouth, throat, esophagus, stomach and breast cancer). There are various ways this happens including the fact that alcohol, specifically, can hinder your body from breaking down certain nutrients, it can cause your estrogen levels to spike and alcohol can also cause certain toxins to damage your DNA and certain bodily proteins over time.
PRO: Cultivates Euphoric Feelings
GiphyIf you find yourself feeling more euphoric while you’re enjoying a drink, it’s not all up in your head. Although, for the more part, alcohol is considered to be a depressant, when consumed in small amounts, it can provide a stimulant effect. This happens due to the fact that when you first start to consume alcohol, it causes the production of the feel-good hormone known as dopamine to increase — and since dopamine makes us all feel more relaxed and confident while heightening our senses of pleasure too…well, there you have it.
CON: May Increase Anxiety/Depression
GiphyAs they say, “what goes up, most come down” at some point — and that is what you have to be careful of when it comes to alcohol consumption. For instance, when you drink alcohol, although it tends to initially cause your dopamine levels to uptick, because it is a temporary bodily response, sometimes the dips are lower than the rises…and that is when anxiety starts to kick in. A similar point is made with depression because oftentimes, people with depression-related symptoms, will use alcohol as a way to deflect from what’s really going on with them — and that can make them feel even worse than ever once the buzz of alcohol starts to wear off.
PRO: Has Some Heart-Related Benefits
GiphyWhen it comes to your heart, there are interesting findings surrounding its relationship to alcohol. For instance, some research states that, so long as the consumption is moderate, alcohol can actually help to increase the good cholesterol in your system while also breaking down proteins that can potentially lead to blood clots; both of these factors alone can reduce your chances of dying from heart disease.
CON: Packs on Pounds
GiphyIt’s no secret that alcohol tends to contain quite a few calories. That’s why, it’s not uncommon for people who’ve lost weight to mention “I’ve stopped drinking” as one of the causes for the shed pounds. That’s not to say that there aren’t some alcoholic beverages that have less calories than others including vodka (133 calories per serving), white wine (148 calories per serving) and tequila (99 calories per shot). Just keep in mind that the more you drink, the more calories get into your system and the more weight you stand to gain.
PRO: Lowers Inhibitions
GiphyAlthough you really should only be uninhibited around people who you absolutely trust, if that person is your partner and you’re looking to have a pretty — eh hem — active evening, alcohol can certainly help to make that happen. The science of it all is the prefrontal cortex of your brain is what regulates your inhibitions and levels of self-control. Meanwhile, alcohol suppresses your inhibitions which can cause you to be more spontaneous and open to trying things that you might not immediately do if you were sober. And with the right individual, that can be sexually beneficial (emphasis on “right person”).
CON: Makes It Harder to Orgasm
GiphyOn the other hand, as odd as it may seem (in light of what I just said), if you have too much alcohol in your system, it could make climaxing difficult. That’s because orgasms happen, in part, due to your nervous system being stimulated — and since alcohol is technically a depressant…well, it could reduce nerve sensitivity (especially as far as your clitoris goes) for you while making it challenging for your partner to remain erect or have consistent stamina. And yeah, that sucks.
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‘Tis the season. And with that, if some wassails or hot buttered rums are in your immediate future — hey, don’t let me stop you — not even a lil’ bit.
All I’m saying is now that you know what alcoholic drinks have to offer (both ways), you can know exactly how to incorporate them into your holiday plans. Enjoy!
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