Lizzo had an educated and eloquent answer when a TikTok user posed this question on the app: "Would you wake up and trade places with someone who was on the heavier side?"
Even though the question wasn't aimed directly at her, the "Truth Hurts" singer took it upon herself to offer a response: "I'm glad she asked because this is giving me very much when that sociologist, Dr. Jane [Elliott], asked that room full of white people, 'raise your hand if you want to be treated like how Black people are treated in this country.' Or 'raise your hand if you would wake up and be Black tomorrow,' and nobody raised their hand. And that's because they know there's some systemic bullsh-t that happens to Black people that does not happen to them and would never happen to white people."
"Yes, if I asked you right now, have you been shamed, yes you've been through a lot, yes it sucks being a person in this society because we have to go through so much to love ourselves, but would you switch places with a fat person's body tomorrow? You would not because you know there's a whole system that oppresses fat people that you do not experience and that you will never experience."
@lizzo #stitch with @cocainecuban I remember fantasizing about waking up in a slim persons body.. it was exhausting.
"So let's remember, body positivity, yes. We want to end harassment and shame, but we are also working to dismantle a system that oppresses fat people."
Boom. Leave it to the 32-year-old to school folks on how the body positivity movement has been co-opted from "fat" people and no longer serves them. Of course, this isn't the first time she exercised her advocacy for the big girl community on the video-sharing app. Whether it's with a dance routine or a clapback in the form of a monologue, Lizzo sprinkles self-love all up and down TikTok.
Below see Lizzo's best body positive moments on TikToks that will make you feel good as hell just watching.
She’s Mastered Being Her Own Hype Man
@lizzo POV ur hyping up a beautiful fat girl
She Asked Folks to Keep that Same Energy
@lizzo Please use the body positive movement to empower yourself. But we need to protect and uplift the bodies it was created for and by.
She Couldn’t Make Everyone Happy, So She Made a TikTok Instead
@lizzo 🥴 moral of the story is: you can’t make everyone happy so just make yourself happy 🤷🏾♀️
She Released an Unofficial Sing Called “My Body Is My Body”
@lizzo New single alert 🥴
She Clapped Back at the Fake Doctors Out There
@lizzo From one fat girl to y’all. With love 😘
She Showed Appreciation For Her Body at All Stages
@lizzo It’s ok to change. I love every stage my body fluctuates to. The feats your body pulls off everyday to function is iconic honestly 💁🏾♀️ love u
She Showed Off a Lifestyle Change She Was Proud of
@lizzo i used to look at old pics of myself when I hated my body & say “I was so fine back then!”.. now I appreciate ALL OF ME in the moment no matter what!
She Showed Her Belly Some Extra Love
@lizzo I started talking to my belly this year. I hated my belly I wanted to cut it off. But it’s literally part of ME. So I’m loving her the way I deserve!
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'Sistas' Star Skyh Black On The Power Of Hypnotherapy & Emotional Vulnerability For Men
In this insightful episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Sistas star Skyh Black, as he opened up about his journey of emotional growth, resilience, and self-discovery. The episode touches on emotional availability, self-worth, masculinity, and the importance of therapy in overcoming personal struggles.
Skyh Black on Emotional Availability & Love
On Emotional Availability & Vulnerability
“My wife and I wouldn't be where we are today if both of us weren't emotionally available,” he shared about his wife and Sistas co-star KJ Smith, highlighting the value of vulnerability and emotional openness in a relationship. His approach to masculinity stands in contrast to the traditional, stoic ideals. Skyh is not afraid to embrace softness as part of his emotional expression.
On Overcoming Self-Doubt & Worthiness Issues
Skyh reflected on the self-doubt and worthiness issues that he struggled with, especially early in his career. He opens up about his time in Los Angeles, living what he calls the “LA struggle story”—in a one-bedroom with three roommates—and being homeless three times over the span of 16 years. “I always had this self-sabotaging thought process,” Skyh said. “For me, I feel therapy is essential, period. I have a regular therapist and I go to a hypnotherapist.”
How Therapy Helped Him Heal From Self-Doubt
On Hypnotherapy & Empowering Self-Acceptance
Skyh’s journey is a testament to the power of tapping into self-development despite life’s struggles and being open to growth. “I had to submit to the fact that God was doing good in my life, and that I'm worthy of it. I had a worthiness issue and I did not realize that. So, that’s what the hypnotherapy did. It brought me back to the core. What is wrong so that I can fix it?”
Watch the full podcast episode below:
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Quinta Brunson Gets Real About Divorce, Boundaries & Becoming
Quinta Brunson is the woman who chooses herself, even when the world is watching. And in her June 30 cover story for Bustle, she gives us a rare glimpse into the soft, centered place she's navigating her life from now. From leading one of television's most beloved series in the last decade to quietly moving through life shifts, the creator of Abbott Elementary is walking through a personal evolution and doing so with intention, grace, and a firm grip on her boundaries.
Back in March, the 35-year-old filed for divorce from Kevin Jay Anik after nearly three years of marriage, citing "irreconcilable differences." The news hit the headlines of news outlets fast, but Quinta hadn't planned to announce their dissolution to the public so quickly.
Quinta Brunson On Divorce, Public Scrutiny & Sacred Boundaries
"I remember seeing people be like, ‘She announced her divorce,’" she told Bustle. “I didn’t announce anything. I think people have this idea that people in the public eye want the public to know their every move. None of us do. I promise you. No one wants [everyone] to know when you buy a house, when you move, when a major change happens in your personal life. It’s just that that’s public record information."
In regards to her private moves becoming tabloid fodder, Quinta continued, "I hated that. I hate all of it."
"I Am An Artist First": Quinta On Cutting Her Hair & Reclaiming Herself
Still, the diminutive phenom holds her crown high in the face of change and is returning to the essence of who she is, especially as an artist. "Cutting my hair reminded me that I am an artist first. I want to feel things. I want to make choices. I want to be a person, and not just stuck in having to be a certain way for business." It's giving sacred rebirth. It's giving self-liberation. It's especially giving main character energy.
And while the headlines keep spinning their narratives, the one that Quinta is focused on is her own. For her, slowing down and nourishing herself in ways that feed her is what matters. "It’s a transitional time. I think it’s true for me and my personal life, and it’s how I feel about myself, my career, and the world," Quinta shared with Bustle. “I feel very serious about focusing on watering my own gardens, taking care of myself and the people around me who I actually interact with day-to-day."
That includes indulging in simple rituals that ground her like "making myself a meal" which has become "really, really important to me."
That spirit of agency doesn't stop at the personal. In her professional world, as the creator, executive producer, and lead actress of the critically-acclaimed Abbott Elementary, Quinta understands the weight her choices carry, both on- and off-screen. She revealed to Bustle, "People used to tell me at the beginning of this that the No. 1 on the call sheet sets the tone, and the producer sets the tone — and I’m both of those roles."
She continued, "I understand now, after doing this for four years, how important it was that I set the tone that I did when we first started."
Quinta doesn't just lead, she understands the importance of curating the energy of any space she enters. Even amid a season of shifts and shedding, her power speaks loudly. Sometimes that power looks like quiet resistance. Sometimes that power is soft leadership.
And sometimes that power looks like cutting your hair and taking back your name in rooms that have forgotten you were an artist long before you were a brand.
Read Quinta's cover story on Bustle here to witness the fullness of Quinta's becoming.
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