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Lizzo Slays The Cover Of 'British Vogue' & Opens Up About Negative Self-Talk

Lizzo showed up for the cover of British Vogue and showed TF out.

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Whoever said a plus-sized Black woman couldn't star on the cover of Vogue and f*cking kill it was a damn lie and you can tell them Lizzo said it. The woman who gave us all the "Juice", reminded us that the "Truth Hurts", and constantly encourages us to give ourselves "Good As Hell" love that we deserve was recently featured on the cover of British Vogue and showed TF out.

In a form-fitting low-cut, Versace dress and feather boa, Lizzo gave us our entire lives and shared how her quest to carve out her own lane allowed her to create a whole new avenue for women who look like her. In an Instagram post, the singer wrote:

"Big black girls, if you're reading this... you're a cover star. Nothin less. Period Pooh. Fin b*tch"

Although the 31-year-old singer may have the confidence of 1000 Beyonce's now, she revealed that her issues with self-worth are decades in the making and ultimately impacted her mindset in a major way. Negative self-talk is one hell of a drug; one that Lizzo says she indulged in unapologetically. She explained:

"I would watch things on television and I would look at magazines and I would not see myself. When you don't see yourself, you start to think something's wrong with you. Then you want to look like those things and when you realize it's a physical impossibility, you start to think, 'What the fuck is wrong with me?' I think that took a greater toll on me, psychologically, growing up than what anyone could have said to me."

In the past, Lizzo has been transparent about her battle with anxiety and depression and says that fame hasn't made her journey any easier. Although the singer still has anxious moments, self-care has been her key to leveling up her mental health and rediscovering self-love.

"I think if I was 21 right now, I would not be able to maintain this lifestyle without having major anxiety and panic attacks. But thank God, my journey is all about self-care and finding that love for yourself and nurturing yourself. Because that's what artists need more than anything."

The singer also says that over the years, she has found some upside to her anxiety. The mark of a true boss is being able to turn any disadvantage into a win, and Lizzo says she's done exactly that by channeling her restlessness into her art:

"When I get really, really anxious before a show, I just go harder and harder and harder when I'm performing and I just go crazy. I don't know why, but my anxiety sometimes fuels who I am as a performer and who I am as an artist – and I know that is not the case for everyone. I don't know if my body just, like, out of a desperate need to find a place for my anxiety or find a use for it, takes it and puts it there."

Today, Lizzo has become the representation that she so desperately needed as a kid but according to her, her goal has never been to sell records. To Lizzo, her hustle has been all about self-love:

"Anybody that uses body positivity to sell something is using it for their personal gain. That's just it,. We weren't selling anything in the beginning. We were just selling ourselves and selling ourselves on the idea – selling ourselves on ourselves, you know? I'm not trying to sell you me. I'm trying to sell you, you."

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