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Your June 2024 Horoscopes Are All About Inspiration, Manifestation, And Determination
Explore your sign’s 2024 horoscope predictions to learn what is in store for you this year in love, career, and more. Check out the love compatibility of each sign to learn more about zodiac pairings and all things compatibility.
June is a month of owning your power and aligning with your strength and perseverance. There isn’t much going on in the sky in June. However, what is happening is significant. Mercury moves into Gemini at the start of the month on June 3 and will be in this sign until June 17. Mercury loves being in Gemini and communication channels get a boost of positive growth in this energy. Mercury in Gemini is the grand communicator and important insights and messages are getting across this month.
With Gemini season also fueling most of June, the best thing to do right now is to expect the unexpected.
The New Moon of the month will be in Gemini on June 6, and this New Moon is important when it comes to gaining some renewed inspiration for a new beginning. This is the New Moon to set intentions for your self-expression, communication, the people you want to connect with, and the places you want to go. This is a good time of the month to network, put yourself out there, and experience a meeting of the minds. A few days later, Mars enters Taurus on June 9, and Mars in Taurus brings the focus to luxury, self-care, love, and stability.
Mars, being in this lush earth sign until July 20, will be an exciting time for financial growth, and this is good for creating new plans financially, paying off debts, bringing more comfort into the home, or increasing your income in some way.
What June 2024 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
Venus, the planet of love, is in Gemini until June 17 and will be keeping things spicy and a little up in the air until she moves into Cancer. With Venus in Cancer from June 17 until July 11 and Mercury in Cancer from June 17 until July 2 as well, this is a good time for experiencing healing and nurturing energy in your love life, and this is also the time to focus on the needs of your relationships.
Venus in Cancer is a giver, and people are more willing to love and be there for their loved ones in this energy. Mercury in Cancer speaks from the heart, and you can expect important communication happening regarding love matters this month. However, be careful with overextending yourself emotionally during this time as well, and remember balance is key no matter what you are doing or saying.
Cancer Season officially begins on June 20, and this heart-centered switch of energy is exactly what we need right now. The following day, there is a Full Moon in Capricorn and this Full Moon is bringing things full circle when it comes to your finances, achievements, and goals in life.
This is a good time to allow yourself a little break and congratulate yourself on how far you have come. Before the month ends, the most important transit of the month occurs, and that is Saturn going retrograde in Pisces from June 29 until November 15. With Saturn in retrograde motion for the next five months, there will be a lot of shifts happening when it comes to people’s belief systems, spirituality, emotional clarity, and creativity.
Saturn retrograde helps you retrace your steps and gives you the push you need to see what you are building for yourself in a new light. In Pisces, a lot of this energy and change will be happening behind the scenes and within our emotional world. Overall, this is a good month for progress and a new beginning, but you may need some extra support right now to make that happen.
Read on for your sun sign and rising sign below to see what June 2024 has in store for you:
ARIES
Dreams are coming true for you in June, Aries. This is an important month for financial freedom, clarity, and reaching some new goals. You have been creating plans for yourself and putting things into motion, and you are going to start seeing some significant manifestations in your life unfold this month.
The New Moon at the beginning of the month on June 6 will be a good time for you to express yourself and your mind and to allow your voice to be heard. Set intentions for the way you want to communicate and be received right now.
Moving further into June, Mars enters your 2nd house of income on June 9 until the end of July, and you are feeling motivated financially. This is a good time to ask for a raise and go after that promotion, to create greater stability for yourself and your financial world. Saturn will be going retrograde at the end of the month, and this change of energy will be creating a shift for you emotionally. You are moving through some closures this summer, and you are being guided to let go of what is no longer needed or healthy for you anymore.
TAURUS
June is all about making your voice heard, Taurus. Mars enters your sign on the 9th, where it will be until the end of July, and you have a lot of passion and energy at your disposal right now. You are going to want to move forward, take initiative, and create breakthroughs in your life, and you are letting nothing get in the way of that this month. The more you allow yourself to communicate and share your perspectives and ideas, the more confident you are going to feel about the new beginnings you are creating in your life right now.
Venus, your ruling planet, moves into your 3rd house of communication on the 17th, and this is going to be helping you align your heart with your head and make some important decisions in your life. On June 21, there is a Full Moon in fellow earth sign Capricorn, and this Full Moon is highlighting your sense of adventure in life. Plans and intentions are coming to fruition for you now, and you are getting the opportunity to see the future a little clearer. By the end of June, you are looking to get inspired, get some space, and follow your passions.
GEMINI
Your season is here, and it’s your time to shine Gemini! This is a month of freedom, empowerment, and also a month of getting some more rest and taking care of yourself. You have a lot going on in June and you’ll want to remind yourself that you can’t be at your best if you are not allowing yourself the sleep and rest it takes to get there. Mercury moves into Gemini on June 3, however, and with your ruling planet in your sign for most of the month, you are feeling pretty clear-headed about what you want and what you need right now.
On June 6, there is a New Moon in your sign, and this is a fortunate time to manifest and create a new beginning in your life. This is a New Moon to take a look in the mirror and remind yourself you are that girl and that you deserve everything you are seeking in your life right now. With Venus entering your 2nd house of income, gifts, and values on June 17, love and money come together for you right now in a new way that allows you to support and nurture both. Before June ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your 10th house of career, and you are going to be moving through some changes professionally during this time.
CANCER
June is about opening your heart and allowing yourself to be the person you are, Cancer. This month is a time of shining in your truth, getting back to you, and feeling the love and support in your life. The New Moon happening at the beginning of the month will allow you to let go of what has been making your heart heavy, and you will get the closure you need to move forward again.
This is a big month for making new developments in your life and love, but you need some time to close some doors before then as well. On June 17, Venus and Mercury both enter your sign, and this is when things are going to start picking up for you this year.
You are not only feeling a little more heard and understood right now, but you are also feeling more of the love and like your relationships are supporting the growth you are moving through. On June 20, Cancer season officially begins, and you get to be your emotional, supportive, moody, and creative self without feeling as much judgment from others for doing so. Overall, this is a month of receiving the love you have been giving and feeling more of a connection and nurturing in your life.
LEO
You are not messing around or playing any games in June, Leo. You are highly focused and in tune with your desires this month, and you are focused on what you need to do to create a better long-term future for yourself. You are cutting out what is not serving you or your life and making plans for what you feel will. The New Moon happening on June 6 is going to be one of the most important New Moons of the year for you to manifest, and it’s time to write a list of your visions and what inspirations and dreams you want to come true for you.
Mars moves into your 11th house on June 9, the same area of your birth chart the New Moon was, and you are moving into a few months of receiving new opportunities and miracles. The 11th house is all about your hopes, dreams, manifestations, and friendships, and that is where a lot of your energy will be going while Mars is here until the end of July. Before the month ends, however, the Sun moves into Cancer and into your 12th house of healing and endings, and you are going to be taking the time you need to regroup, rest, and renew as June ends.
VIRGO
June is about growing in stability and finding your balance in life, Virgo. You are an overthinker at the core of you and are learning to let go of this energy in June and allow yourself to think more positively about what is possible for you in this life. With the Sun in your 10th house of career for most of the month and a New Moon here on June 6, you are focused on your goals and achievements right now, but you may be being too hard on yourself on how things are developing. Take moments to appreciate the little things and set your intentions for what else you want to see through within your professional world.
On June 7, Venus moves into Cancer and enters your house of friendship, and some new support and comfort are coming into your life during this time. While Venus is in your 11th house, you may meet some new people, feel more community in your life, and overall feel a little more stable and secure right now. However, with Mars entering your 9th house of adventure a few days later, there is a bit of a push and pull you are moving through this month when it comes to feeling stable and wanting more freedom. Balance is key for you overall this month, and remember you are creating your life by the thoughts you are thinking.
LIBRA
You are moving into a successful month, Libra. You have the power, vision, and stamina with you to see your goals through in June, and you are doing so with the support of others. The month begins with a New Moon happening in your 9th house, and this is a good month for you to travel or to create your intentions and plans for where you want to go this year.
You are beginning the month feeling inspired and like the wisdom you have gained so far in life is serving you well right now. On June 17, your ruling planet Venus, moves into Cancer and enters your 10th house of career, reputation, and professional life.
With Venus here you are receiving some extra love at work and when it comes to what you are putting out into the world. Financially, you are also growing in your wealth and are overall focused on building your legacy right now. Before June comes to a close, there is a Full Moon occurring in an area of your chart having to do with the home and family, and you are ending the month needing some time with the people who keep you feeling grounded.
SCORPIO
June is all about perspective for you, Scorpio. You are gaining some much-needed clarity this month, but the insights can feel like a whiplash at times. You are being guided towards seeing things with an open mind, and not letting yourself get too mixed up in how you think things should be that you miss the gift and opportunities of where they are now. The New Moon in Gemini on June 6 will be opening a door for you for rebirth, and this is a New Moon to focus on your health, shared finances, and emotional world, and to allow yourself a fresh start.
Mars moves into Taurus, your opposite sign, on June 9, and this is good news for your love life. Mars in Taurus will be bringing passion to your one-on-one relationships, and things are getting sexy for you right now. You are focused on building with the people you love and are creating space for more emotional connection and passion to enter your life. Before the month ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your 5th house of romance, however, and you are still learning the lessons of balancing your heart with your head.
SAGITTARIUS
Everything's coming together for you this month, Sagittarius. You are feeling renewed in your life and like you are more on top of things over the next month, and this energy is like a breath of fresh air for you. With the Sun being in your 7th house of love and partnership for most of the month, and with a New Moon here on June 6, there is a lot to be grateful for right now and a lot of love to hold onto. You are moving into June feeling a sense of security that you are going to be able to build upon.
On June 21, a Full Moon is happening in your house of income, values, and self-confidence, and you are seeing the fruition of your desires right now. This Full Moon is about allowing yourself to take note of the gains you have made this year and what you want to do with the financial stature you find yourself in now. By the end of the month, Saturn goes retrograde in your 4th house of home and family, and some changes may need to be made in the home over the next month. Overall, June is about supporting yourself, supporting others, and allowing yourself and your life to thrive.
CAPRICORN
June is a month of putting in the work, Capricorn. You are focused on your dreams and goals right now and are working diligently to reach them. The month begins with Mars moving into your 5th house on June 9, and this is fueling your passion for your creativity, your self-expression, and the things that make you happy. You are focused on having fun right now, but you are also concerned with taking the appropriate steps and finishing the projects you have to do before then. Remember to give yourself some breaks this month.
On June 17, Venus moves into Cancer, your opposite sign, and love takes on a new tone. Venus in Cancer is good news for you as a Capricorn, and it signifies a time of the year when you are feeling more support, connection, and reciprocity in your love life.
Before the month ends there is a Full Moon in your sign on June 21, and this is the Strawberry Moon of the year. This Full Moon is a big full circle moment when it comes to the way you see yourself and your life, and you are acknowledging your growth and are focused on your life path right now. Overall, this is a month of effort, intention, and love for you, Capricorn.
AQUARIUS
You are taking initiative and focused on your abundance this month, Aquarius. This is a month of feeling inspired, capable, and like you have reached some important goals in life. You are feeling comfortable with the position you are sitting in, and growth is all around you. On June 6, there is a New Moon in a fellow air sign, Gemini, and this New Moon is opening your eyes to the love that is possible for you in life. This is a good New Moon to set your intentions for your happiness, the romance in your life, and how you want to express your heart and feel understood.
On June 21, a Full Moon is happening that is creating some closures in your life, and you are ready to create space for greater abundance to enter. During this Full Moon, make sure you are taking care of your body, your mind, and your heart, and remaining open to receiving some guidance from the universe. Before June comes to a close, Saturn goes retrograde in Pisces and will be retrograde in your 2nd house of income until November. What this is going to do for you is help you rebuild financially, and it will be putting you in different experiences and around different people to do so.
PISCES
Make a wish, and believe in yourself, Pisces! June is a beautiful month for you and you are feeling emotionally satisfied. There is a lot of love and support coming your way this month, and you are also giving out this abundant sense of energy as well. June begins with a New Moon in your 4th house, and this is a good time to set your intentions for your stability, your home, and your relationships with your close loved ones. You are entering the month feeling a little more stable and sure of yourself, and this is attracting miracles into your life.
On June 9, Mars moves into your house of communication, and you have a lot to say right now. Be careful with impulsive speaking and remember to think things through; however, overall this energy will be good for you and making new connections. On June 17, Venus and Mercury will enter fellow water sign Cancer and will move into your 5th house of romance. You are hearing some good news when it comes to your love life by the end of the month, and it’s changing things for the better for you moving forward.
Before the month ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your sign until November 15, and it’s best not to rush yourself or your progress during this time.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
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UnPrisonedhas returned for its highly anticipated second season, delving deeper into the complex dynamics of the Alexander family.
The series premiere comes a year after its debut season garnered rave reviews from fans and critics and earned record-breaking ratings for Hulu's Onyx Collective brand. UnPrisoned's success can be attributed to its raw, relatable themes and comedic appeal.
Inspired by creator Tracy McMillan's life, the show follows Paige (Kerry Washington), a therapist and single mother whose life takes an unexpected turn when her father, Edwin (Delroy Lindo) --who was released from prison-- moves in with her and her teenage son, Finn (Faly Rakotohavana).
Throughout UnPrisoned's first season, viewers witnessed how Edwin's incarceration deeply affected Paige's life and relationships. In the series, Paige unpacks her trauma through interactions with her inner child and her online followers. Meanwhile, Edwin is overcoming specific struggles with his own past that led to his life of crime, including a dysfunctional upbringing and his mother's arrest. As the Alexanders attempt to reconcile, new challenges arise.
This new season promises to further explore their unconventional family dynamic. Here are several compelling reasons why season two of UnPrisoned should be on everyone's watchlist.
The Alexander Family Life Is Still In Shambles
UnPrisoned's second season resumes where the series left off, with Paige grappling with the fallout from her troubled therapy practice and Edwin navigating life independently after moving out. Meanwhile, Finn faces his own challenges. The teenager is battling anxiety and seeking information about his father—a topic Paige avoids discussing.
The Alexander Family Are Attending Therapy To Resolve Their Underlying Issues
Amid the chaos in their lives, the Alexander family decides to mend their bond by confronting their past traumas. They seek professional help and attend therapy sessions with a “family radical healing coach,” played by John Stamos, a new cast member. This collective effort aims to unravel the complexities of their shared history and strengthen their relationships.
The process of unraveling each character's internal conflicts and their potential impact on future relationships may clash with Paige's textbook therapy approach. While Paige is used to being in the therapist's seat in both career and family, this forces her into the unfamiliar role of a patient during therapy sessions. This shift would compel her to look in the mirror and try a radically different approach.
The Alexander Family Learned A Big Lesson During A Therapy Session
In therapy, the Alexanders are tasked with addressing their individual traumas to salvage their remaining relationships. One of the family therapist’s eccentric suggestions was an exercise involving a family wrestling match. During this session, Paige faces tough questions about her refusal to share information about Finn's father.
While it's unclear whether this scene is reality or fantasy, the image of the family duking it out in the ring certainly makes for hilarious yet compelling television.
Paige Tries Dating Again Following Failed Relationships
Amid her life's chaos, Paige decides to step back into the dating field. However, her many attempts have left her with mixed results. The dating apps have turned out to be a fail, and an outing with her ex Mal (Marque Richardson), who is also her father's parole officer, doesn’t go quite as expected after he brings an unexpected guest – his new girlfriend.
The situation takes an awkward turn when Mal's new partner learns why the former couple split, partly due to Paige's self-sabotage.
UnPrisoned Is A Perfect Balance Of Comedy And Drama
As a dramedy, UnPrisoned takes a comedic approach to its heavy subjects. The show takes us on a ride with Paige's dating misadventures and navigating a friendship with her ex.
Other lighthearted moments include Edwin's attempts at CPR based on online videos and, of course, the antics of the Alexander family's unconventional new healing coach.
The second season of UnPrisoned is now available on Hulu.
UnPrisoned | Season 2 Trailer | Hulu
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The Common Denominator Is You. So, Why Do You Keep Choosing The Wrong Men?
Everywhere you go, there you are. It’s one of those popular sayings (kind of like “It is what it is”) that I find myself using a lot, especially when I’m in sessions with my clients. Why? Well, it’s kind of likean article that I once read that pretty much said our culture likes to play the toxic game of blaming other people because it’s an easy way to deflect from personal accountability (check out “What It Actually Means To 'Hold Yourself Accountable'”). So true, so true,
Well, another way of saying “everywhere you go, there you are” is using the math term “common denominator” — and today, what we’re going to attempt to tackle is, why is it that some of us, if we stepped back a moment to take a very real and honest assessment of our dating life, do we always end up with the same kind of guy? One who really isn’t the best for us; sometimes, not even close.
Before getting into some questions that I think can help you get to the answer, let me just say that this is definitely one of the kinds of pieces that may step on at least your pinky toe before it’s all said and done. At the same time, although this might not be the most comfortable of reads, keep in mind what the late poet, singer, and publisher Tuli Kupferberg once said, “When patterns are broken, new worlds emerge.”
And so, if when it comes to the caliber of men you’ve dated, what you’ve been doing is revealing that your pattern is not really working for your ultimate good, spend a bit of time trying to unpack just why that could be the case — why, at the end of the day, you truly are the common denominator in it all.
How Self-Aware Are You?
About five years ago, I penned an article for the site entitled “These Are The Things Self-Aware People Do Daily.” You know, of all of the things to be in this life, prioritizing self-awareness is king because self-aware people do things like hold themselves accountable, know their strengths and weaknesses, identify their triggers, have good boundaries, self-reflect, pay attention to their own “blind spots” — and they can — eh hem — take feedback and constructive criticism pretty well.
That last one? If you’re constantly in a hamster wheel or even a cul-de-sac when it comes to men, be honest with yourself: did your family, friends, hell, even your co-workers warn you about some of the guys you dated, and you found yourself either defending, deflecting or getting offended? Yeah, self-aware people don’t get down like that because they would rather have peace and be wrong than act like they are always right and remain in chaos.
So yeah, if you’re always in some foolishness or even in relationships that are simply a counterproductive waste of time, pondering how self-aware you actually are is a really good place to start. Self-reflect. Know your weaknesses. Listen to what others have to say about your tendencies. All of this can do you a whole lot of good.
How Humble Are You?
Society is a wild place, boy. The reason why I say that is because, while it’s out here acting like humility is a bad thing, Scripture says, “By humility and the fear of the Lord are riches and honor and life.” (Proverbs 22:4) And why is humility such a vital spiritual attribute? Because, when you’re humble — you’re grateful; you’re teachable; you’re open to seeing things outside of your own perspective; you’re compassionate and empathetic; you’re flexible; you’re forgiving, and you’re able to release your ego so that you can accept what you need over what you want.
What you need over what you want. Chile, if that doesn’t keep some people in cyclic stuff, I honestly don’t know what does. There’s a client that I have right now who only contacts me when she’s basically blown up her life because she constantly gets caught up in a man’s looks and bedroom performance. When I tell her that she needs to stop making that #1 and #2 of things to look for in a relationship, she “uh-huh's” me and then does what she wants to do anyway — only for it to end up wreaking all sorts of havoc…again.
It’s another message for another time about how some of us could stand to look within to see if wanting a fine man above all else is more about validating some deep-rooted insecurities that we have about our own looks (ouch). For now, I’ll just say that if your ego is out here telling you that looks and sexual performance should trump things like character and consistency, it is LYING to you. If you chose to heed the humble side of yourself, you would know that.
And this actually brings me to my next question.
How Stuck Are You in Your “Type”?
The reason why I wrote “According To Experts, We All Have A ‘Type’” back in the day is because it’s true — pretty much all of us have a type which is pretty much a preference; there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that either. At the same time, I’m advising, from very up close and personal experience, that it’s a good idea to spend some time pondering “the origin story” of where your type came from.
Me? I’m always gonna be down for a very tall, hella chocolate, basketball (or soccer) build Black man. However, I’m a sexual abuse survivor and my molester looked a lot like that, so during the healing process of what he did to me, I had to factor in his influence. Plus, my first love also fits the physical mold and he definitely had quite an impact on my life. So…see what I mean? My type didn’t just come out of nowhere. Yes, sometimes your type may have some trauma or drama attached to it. And yes, that might be really uncomfortable to think about; still, that doesn’t mean it’s not true.
Now my late fiancé? He was right at about 6’ and, complexion-wise, he was lighter than I am. He treated me better than most of the men of my past, though — and even though he definitely pursued me for a while to get me to consider us beyond being friends, because I took a risk outside of my type, I learned what it was like to be loved in a healthy way. And what that did for me was it taught me to remain open outside of my standard type. I still like a tall-ass Godiva man, chile (and don’t let him have a beard and be in a tailored suit!). I don’t limit myself to that package, though. To do so would be severely limiting — potentially tragic even.
How Healed Are You?
“Healed” is a word that comes up A LOT in the social media space. When it comes to relationships, specifically, it’s important to ask yourself if you are healed from your past because, if you aren’t, you very well could be reliving it over and over…and over again, whether you realize it (or choose to accept it) or not.
Just so that we’re all on the same page, the word “heal” means things like healthy, sound, and whole. Synonyms for the word include improve, restore, mend, soothe, and rehabilitate. Signs that you have healed from past hurts of a relationship (or a series of relationships) include you don’t think of them with anger or bitterness; you can see the silver linings from the experience; you’ve forgiven them for things that they did wrong (or that simply hurt you — and no, that’s not always one and the same), and you don’t pick (or avoid) other people to be in your life solely based on what someone else did to you.
What I mean by that last one is an unhealed woman may say something like, “I don’t want to do [such and such] for a first date. That’s what my ex liked to do.” The new guy isn’t him, so why does he have to be beholden to your past? Or, “I don’t trust men who won’t let me go through their phone. That’s how I found out my ex was cheating.” You know, for all of the women who like to play a non-animated form ofInspector Gadget (the real ones know), they sure don’t want their phones inspected as much as they like to do all of the inspecting. SMDH. Anyway, I don’t go through phones. For what? I don’t pay the bill and I’m not anyone’s parent. And so, your next guy not preferring it either? That doesn’t automatically mean that he’s up to no good — he may just want his boundaries respected. An unhealed person may not accept that. A healed one tends to, though.
And how can being unhealed play a direct role in you choosing the same guys over and over again? It’s weird because, sometimes you will go back to what’s familiar to you — because the new guy is such a risk, you’d prefer to “stick to the devil you know” than take a chance on someone who rolls very differently. It’s a cryptic way of remaining the common denominator in your dating dynamics. Oh, but it happens all of the time, chile.
What Makes a Man WRONG for You? Specifically?
Okay, with a lot of the inner work out of the way, how do you even come to the conclusion that someone (or several people) is wrong for you? Because you know what? Once you’ve done some real healing (and serious maturing), you can oftentimes find yourself accepting the fact that just because someone may not be right for you, that doesn’t automatically or necessarily make them a bad person. No, not at all.
Although the word “wrong” can mean that something or someone isn’t morally right, wrong also means things like erroneous, not suitable or appropriate, not in accordance with certain requirements, or — and please catch it — out of order (which sometimes consists of the right thing happening at the wrong time). So, if it does seem like you keep choosing (because it is always a choice; that is also where accountability comes in) men who aren’t appropriate, aren’t in accordance with your needs or standards, or who aren’t what you need at the time — why is that? Is it rooted in fear? Impatience? Settling? What?
I have had enough clients go through this to know that it’s not good enough to be abstract about someone being “wrong” for you. You need to set aside one weekend, get some wine and a fresh journal, and really get into what wrong looks like. For instance, if you keep lowering your standards (which is the wrong thing to do, by definition), why is that? Because no matter how wrong the guy may ultimately turn out to be, what you have to be willing to accept is — again — you chose him. Why do you choose what’s wrong? Because, more times than not, some red (or at least orange) flags were waving long before the relationship came crashing down; oftentimes, they reveal themselves within the first couple of dates. You just chose to ignore them.
One more.
Do You Know a Good Man When You See One? You Sure?
As we close all of this out, when you get a chance, please check out “Question: Is The Man In Your Life Good 'TO' You? Good 'FOR' You? Or...Both?” Learning the difference between “to” and “for” took my own relational processing to an entirely new and freeing level. And you know what? Back to the healing point, another way to know that you’ve healed is you don’t generalize men. Meaning, that if you’re out here declaring that there aren’t any good ones, that’s not true; you’re just jaded (I mean, it’s the truth), and that head and energy space is affecting your judgment and perspective.
That said, if you’re constantly selecting the wrong men, ask yourself if you even know what a good man looks like (cue India.Arie’s “Good Man”). Again, by definition, good means things like morally excellent, right, kind, friendly, benevolent, educated, financially sound (not rich, stable and responsible…goodness), genuine, reliable, dependable, responsible, attractive, warm, intimate — satisfactory to the purpose (yes, that’s a literal definition).
For a man to be good for you, you need to know what purpose he is to serve at this particular point in your life because if, for example, all men seem to do, in your eyes, is use you for sex, why are you prioritizing sex over an emotional connection if the latter is the purpose that you seek right now? A lot of women can stop being the common denominator when it comes to choosing the wrong man if they 1) become the good that they seek and 2) do not betray the purpose behind why they even desire a relationship in the first place.
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I know. When things aren’t going your way when it comes to matters of the heart, it can be easy to always say it’s the man’s fault. If there’s a pattern, though, please be a bit more self-reflective than that.
Once you do, you’d be amazed by how much about you shifts — to where the wrong guys can’t even get close to you, in the way that they used to, anymore.
Because you cease to be the “common denominator” you once were.
And how wonderful is that?
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