
Your June 2024 Horoscopes Are All About Inspiration, Manifestation, And Determination

Explore your sign’s 2024 horoscope predictions to learn what is in store for you this year in love, career, and more. Check out the love compatibility of each sign to learn more about zodiac pairings and all things compatibility.
June is a month of owning your power and aligning with your strength and perseverance. There isn’t much going on in the sky in June. However, what is happening is significant. Mercury moves into Gemini at the start of the month on June 3 and will be in this sign until June 17. Mercury loves being in Gemini and communication channels get a boost of positive growth in this energy. Mercury in Gemini is the grand communicator and important insights and messages are getting across this month.
With Gemini season also fueling most of June, the best thing to do right now is to expect the unexpected.
The New Moon of the month will be in Gemini on June 6, and this New Moon is important when it comes to gaining some renewed inspiration for a new beginning. This is the New Moon to set intentions for your self-expression, communication, the people you want to connect with, and the places you want to go. This is a good time of the month to network, put yourself out there, and experience a meeting of the minds. A few days later, Mars enters Taurus on June 9, and Mars in Taurus brings the focus to luxury, self-care, love, and stability.
Mars, being in this lush earth sign until July 20, will be an exciting time for financial growth, and this is good for creating new plans financially, paying off debts, bringing more comfort into the home, or increasing your income in some way.
What June 2024 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
Venus, the planet of love, is in Gemini until June 17 and will be keeping things spicy and a little up in the air until she moves into Cancer. With Venus in Cancer from June 17 until July 11 and Mercury in Cancer from June 17 until July 2 as well, this is a good time for experiencing healing and nurturing energy in your love life, and this is also the time to focus on the needs of your relationships.
Venus in Cancer is a giver, and people are more willing to love and be there for their loved ones in this energy. Mercury in Cancer speaks from the heart, and you can expect important communication happening regarding love matters this month. However, be careful with overextending yourself emotionally during this time as well, and remember balance is key no matter what you are doing or saying.
Cancer Season officially begins on June 20, and this heart-centered switch of energy is exactly what we need right now. The following day, there is a Full Moon in Capricorn and this Full Moon is bringing things full circle when it comes to your finances, achievements, and goals in life.
This is a good time to allow yourself a little break and congratulate yourself on how far you have come. Before the month ends, the most important transit of the month occurs, and that is Saturn going retrograde in Pisces from June 29 until November 15. With Saturn in retrograde motion for the next five months, there will be a lot of shifts happening when it comes to people’s belief systems, spirituality, emotional clarity, and creativity.
Saturn retrograde helps you retrace your steps and gives you the push you need to see what you are building for yourself in a new light. In Pisces, a lot of this energy and change will be happening behind the scenes and within our emotional world. Overall, this is a good month for progress and a new beginning, but you may need some extra support right now to make that happen.
Read on for your sun sign and rising sign below to see what June 2024 has in store for you:
ARIES
Dreams are coming true for you in June, Aries. This is an important month for financial freedom, clarity, and reaching some new goals. You have been creating plans for yourself and putting things into motion, and you are going to start seeing some significant manifestations in your life unfold this month.
The New Moon at the beginning of the month on June 6 will be a good time for you to express yourself and your mind and to allow your voice to be heard. Set intentions for the way you want to communicate and be received right now.
Moving further into June, Mars enters your 2nd house of income on June 9 until the end of July, and you are feeling motivated financially. This is a good time to ask for a raise and go after that promotion, to create greater stability for yourself and your financial world. Saturn will be going retrograde at the end of the month, and this change of energy will be creating a shift for you emotionally. You are moving through some closures this summer, and you are being guided to let go of what is no longer needed or healthy for you anymore.
TAURUS
June is all about making your voice heard, Taurus. Mars enters your sign on the 9th, where it will be until the end of July, and you have a lot of passion and energy at your disposal right now. You are going to want to move forward, take initiative, and create breakthroughs in your life, and you are letting nothing get in the way of that this month. The more you allow yourself to communicate and share your perspectives and ideas, the more confident you are going to feel about the new beginnings you are creating in your life right now.
Venus, your ruling planet, moves into your 3rd house of communication on the 17th, and this is going to be helping you align your heart with your head and make some important decisions in your life. On June 21, there is a Full Moon in fellow earth sign Capricorn, and this Full Moon is highlighting your sense of adventure in life. Plans and intentions are coming to fruition for you now, and you are getting the opportunity to see the future a little clearer. By the end of June, you are looking to get inspired, get some space, and follow your passions.
GEMINI
Your season is here, and it’s your time to shine Gemini! This is a month of freedom, empowerment, and also a month of getting some more rest and taking care of yourself. You have a lot going on in June and you’ll want to remind yourself that you can’t be at your best if you are not allowing yourself the sleep and rest it takes to get there. Mercury moves into Gemini on June 3, however, and with your ruling planet in your sign for most of the month, you are feeling pretty clear-headed about what you want and what you need right now.
On June 6, there is a New Moon in your sign, and this is a fortunate time to manifest and create a new beginning in your life. This is a New Moon to take a look in the mirror and remind yourself you are that girl and that you deserve everything you are seeking in your life right now. With Venus entering your 2nd house of income, gifts, and values on June 17, love and money come together for you right now in a new way that allows you to support and nurture both. Before June ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your 10th house of career, and you are going to be moving through some changes professionally during this time.
CANCER
June is about opening your heart and allowing yourself to be the person you are, Cancer. This month is a time of shining in your truth, getting back to you, and feeling the love and support in your life. The New Moon happening at the beginning of the month will allow you to let go of what has been making your heart heavy, and you will get the closure you need to move forward again.
This is a big month for making new developments in your life and love, but you need some time to close some doors before then as well. On June 17, Venus and Mercury both enter your sign, and this is when things are going to start picking up for you this year.
You are not only feeling a little more heard and understood right now, but you are also feeling more of the love and like your relationships are supporting the growth you are moving through. On June 20, Cancer season officially begins, and you get to be your emotional, supportive, moody, and creative self without feeling as much judgment from others for doing so. Overall, this is a month of receiving the love you have been giving and feeling more of a connection and nurturing in your life.
LEO
You are not messing around or playing any games in June, Leo. You are highly focused and in tune with your desires this month, and you are focused on what you need to do to create a better long-term future for yourself. You are cutting out what is not serving you or your life and making plans for what you feel will. The New Moon happening on June 6 is going to be one of the most important New Moons of the year for you to manifest, and it’s time to write a list of your visions and what inspirations and dreams you want to come true for you.
Mars moves into your 11th house on June 9, the same area of your birth chart the New Moon was, and you are moving into a few months of receiving new opportunities and miracles. The 11th house is all about your hopes, dreams, manifestations, and friendships, and that is where a lot of your energy will be going while Mars is here until the end of July. Before the month ends, however, the Sun moves into Cancer and into your 12th house of healing and endings, and you are going to be taking the time you need to regroup, rest, and renew as June ends.
VIRGO
June is about growing in stability and finding your balance in life, Virgo. You are an overthinker at the core of you and are learning to let go of this energy in June and allow yourself to think more positively about what is possible for you in this life. With the Sun in your 10th house of career for most of the month and a New Moon here on June 6, you are focused on your goals and achievements right now, but you may be being too hard on yourself on how things are developing. Take moments to appreciate the little things and set your intentions for what else you want to see through within your professional world.
On June 7, Venus moves into Cancer and enters your house of friendship, and some new support and comfort are coming into your life during this time. While Venus is in your 11th house, you may meet some new people, feel more community in your life, and overall feel a little more stable and secure right now. However, with Mars entering your 9th house of adventure a few days later, there is a bit of a push and pull you are moving through this month when it comes to feeling stable and wanting more freedom. Balance is key for you overall this month, and remember you are creating your life by the thoughts you are thinking.
LIBRA
You are moving into a successful month, Libra. You have the power, vision, and stamina with you to see your goals through in June, and you are doing so with the support of others. The month begins with a New Moon happening in your 9th house, and this is a good month for you to travel or to create your intentions and plans for where you want to go this year.
You are beginning the month feeling inspired and like the wisdom you have gained so far in life is serving you well right now. On June 17, your ruling planet Venus, moves into Cancer and enters your 10th house of career, reputation, and professional life.
With Venus here you are receiving some extra love at work and when it comes to what you are putting out into the world. Financially, you are also growing in your wealth and are overall focused on building your legacy right now. Before June comes to a close, there is a Full Moon occurring in an area of your chart having to do with the home and family, and you are ending the month needing some time with the people who keep you feeling grounded.
SCORPIO
June is all about perspective for you, Scorpio. You are gaining some much-needed clarity this month, but the insights can feel like a whiplash at times. You are being guided towards seeing things with an open mind, and not letting yourself get too mixed up in how you think things should be that you miss the gift and opportunities of where they are now. The New Moon in Gemini on June 6 will be opening a door for you for rebirth, and this is a New Moon to focus on your health, shared finances, and emotional world, and to allow yourself a fresh start.
Mars moves into Taurus, your opposite sign, on June 9, and this is good news for your love life. Mars in Taurus will be bringing passion to your one-on-one relationships, and things are getting sexy for you right now. You are focused on building with the people you love and are creating space for more emotional connection and passion to enter your life. Before the month ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your 5th house of romance, however, and you are still learning the lessons of balancing your heart with your head.
SAGITTARIUS
Everything's coming together for you this month, Sagittarius. You are feeling renewed in your life and like you are more on top of things over the next month, and this energy is like a breath of fresh air for you. With the Sun being in your 7th house of love and partnership for most of the month, and with a New Moon here on June 6, there is a lot to be grateful for right now and a lot of love to hold onto. You are moving into June feeling a sense of security that you are going to be able to build upon.
On June 21, a Full Moon is happening in your house of income, values, and self-confidence, and you are seeing the fruition of your desires right now. This Full Moon is about allowing yourself to take note of the gains you have made this year and what you want to do with the financial stature you find yourself in now. By the end of the month, Saturn goes retrograde in your 4th house of home and family, and some changes may need to be made in the home over the next month. Overall, June is about supporting yourself, supporting others, and allowing yourself and your life to thrive.
CAPRICORN
June is a month of putting in the work, Capricorn. You are focused on your dreams and goals right now and are working diligently to reach them. The month begins with Mars moving into your 5th house on June 9, and this is fueling your passion for your creativity, your self-expression, and the things that make you happy. You are focused on having fun right now, but you are also concerned with taking the appropriate steps and finishing the projects you have to do before then. Remember to give yourself some breaks this month.
On June 17, Venus moves into Cancer, your opposite sign, and love takes on a new tone. Venus in Cancer is good news for you as a Capricorn, and it signifies a time of the year when you are feeling more support, connection, and reciprocity in your love life.
Before the month ends there is a Full Moon in your sign on June 21, and this is the Strawberry Moon of the year. This Full Moon is a big full circle moment when it comes to the way you see yourself and your life, and you are acknowledging your growth and are focused on your life path right now. Overall, this is a month of effort, intention, and love for you, Capricorn.
AQUARIUS
You are taking initiative and focused on your abundance this month, Aquarius. This is a month of feeling inspired, capable, and like you have reached some important goals in life. You are feeling comfortable with the position you are sitting in, and growth is all around you. On June 6, there is a New Moon in a fellow air sign, Gemini, and this New Moon is opening your eyes to the love that is possible for you in life. This is a good New Moon to set your intentions for your happiness, the romance in your life, and how you want to express your heart and feel understood.
On June 21, a Full Moon is happening that is creating some closures in your life, and you are ready to create space for greater abundance to enter. During this Full Moon, make sure you are taking care of your body, your mind, and your heart, and remaining open to receiving some guidance from the universe. Before June comes to a close, Saturn goes retrograde in Pisces and will be retrograde in your 2nd house of income until November. What this is going to do for you is help you rebuild financially, and it will be putting you in different experiences and around different people to do so.
PISCES
Make a wish, and believe in yourself, Pisces! June is a beautiful month for you and you are feeling emotionally satisfied. There is a lot of love and support coming your way this month, and you are also giving out this abundant sense of energy as well. June begins with a New Moon in your 4th house, and this is a good time to set your intentions for your stability, your home, and your relationships with your close loved ones. You are entering the month feeling a little more stable and sure of yourself, and this is attracting miracles into your life.
On June 9, Mars moves into your house of communication, and you have a lot to say right now. Be careful with impulsive speaking and remember to think things through; however, overall this energy will be good for you and making new connections. On June 17, Venus and Mercury will enter fellow water sign Cancer and will move into your 5th house of romance. You are hearing some good news when it comes to your love life by the end of the month, and it’s changing things for the better for you moving forward.
Before the month ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your sign until November 15, and it’s best not to rush yourself or your progress during this time.
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Tayler Barakat is a Mystic who has studied Astrology for over a decade. She does intuitive astrology and tarot readings for people all over the world, and her work focuses on healing and empowering individuals. Follow her on Instagram @taylerbarakat_ and check out her website www.listentothevirgo.com.
Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney & Jill Marie Jones On 'Games Women Play' & Dating Over 40
What do you get when you mix unfiltered truths, high-stakes romance, and a few well-timed one-liners? You get Games Women Play—the sizzling new stage play by Je’Caryous Johnson that’s part relationship rollercoaster, part grown-woman group chat.
With a powerhouse cast that includes Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney, Jill Marie Jones, Carl Payne, Chico Bean, and Brian J. White, the play dives headfirst into the messy, hilarious, and heart-wrenching games people play for love, power, and peace of mind. And the women leading this story? They’re bringing their whole selves to the stage—and leaving nothing behind.
From Script to Spotlight
The road to Games Women Play started over 20 years ago—literally.
“This script was written 20 years ago,” Jill Marie Jones said with a smile. “It was originally called Men, Money & Gold Diggers, and I was in the film version. So when Je’Caryous called me to bring it to the stage, I was like, ‘Let’s go.’” Now reimagined for 2025, the play is updated with sharp dialogue and modern relationship dynamics that feel all too real.
Demetria McKinney, no stranger to Je’Caryous Johnson’s productions, jumped at the opportunity to join the cast once again. “This is my third time working with him,” she shared. “It was an opportunity to stretch. I’d never been directed by Carl Payne before, and the chance to work with talent I admire—Jill, Claudia, Chico—it was a no-brainer.”
Claudia Jordan joked that she originally saw the role as just another check. “I didn’t take it that seriously at first,” she admitted. “But this is my first full-on tour—and now I’ve got a whole new respect for how hard people work in theater. This ain’t easy.”
Modern Love, Stage Left
The play doesn’t hold back when it comes to the messier parts of love. One jaw-dropping moment comes when a live podcast proposal flips into a prenup bombshell—leaving the audience (and the characters) gasping.
Demetria broke it down with honesty. “People don’t ask the real questions when they date. Like, ‘Do you want kids? How do you feel about money?’ These convos aren’t happening, and then everyone’s confused. That moment in the play—it’s real. That happens all the time.”
Jill chimed in, noting how the play speaks to emotional disconnect. “We’re giving each other different tokens of love. Men might offer security and money. Women, we’re giving our hearts. But there’s a disconnect—and that’s where things fall apart.”
And then Claudia, of course, took it all the way there. “These men don’t even want to sign our prenups now!” she laughed. “They want to live the soft life, too. Wearing units, gloss, getting their brows done. We can’t have nothing! Y’all want to be like us? Then get a damn period and go through menopause.”
Dating Over 40: “You Better Come Correct”
When the conversation turned to real-life relationships, all three women lit up. Their experiences dating in their 40s and 50s have given them both clarity—and zero tolerance for games.
“I feel sexier than I’ve ever felt,” said Jill, who proudly turned 50 in January. “I say what I want. I mean what I say. I’m inside my woman, and I’m not apologizing for it.”
Demetria added that dating now comes with deeper self-awareness. “Anybody in my life is there because I want them there. I’ve worked hard to need nobody. But I’m open to love—as long as you keep doing what got me there in the first place.”
For Claudia, the bar is high—and the peace is priceless. “I’ve worked hard for my peace,” she said. “I’m not dating for food. I’m dating because I want to spend time with you. And honestly, if being with you isn’t better than being alone with my candles and fountains and cats? Then no thanks.”
Channeling Strength & Icon Status
Each actress brings something different to the play—but all of them deliver.
“I actually wish I could be messier on stage,” Claudia joked. “But I think about my grandmother—she was born in 1929, couldn’t even vote or buy a house without a man, and didn’t give a damn. She was fearless. That’s where my strength comes from.”
For Jill, the comparisons to her iconic Girlfriends character Toni Childs aren’t far off—but this role gave her a chance to dig deeper. “If you really understood Toni, you’d see how layered she was. And Paisley is the same—misunderstood, but strong. There’s more to her than people see at first glance.”
Demetria, who juggles singing and acting seamlessly, shared that live theater pushes her in a new way. “Every moment on stage counts. You can’t redo anything. It’s a different kind of love and discipline. You have to give the performance away—live, in the moment—and trust that it lands.”
Laughter, Lessons & Black Girl Gems
The show has plenty of laugh-out-loud moments—and the cast isn’t shy about who steals scenes.
“Chico Bean gets a lot of gasps and laughs,” Claudia said. “And Naomi Booker? Every scene she’s in—she’s hilarious.”
But the play isn’t just about humor. It leaves space for reflection—especially for Black women.
“I hope we get back to the foundation of love and communication,” said Demetria. “A lot of us are in protector mode. But that’s turned into survival mode. We’ve lost softness. We’ve lost connection.”
Claudia agreed. “We’re doing it all—but it’s not because we want to be strong all the time. It’s because we have to be. And I just want women to know: You can have peace, you can be soft. But stop bringing your old pain into new love. Don’t let past heartbreak build walls so high that the right person can’t climb over.”
Final Act: Pack the House
If there’s one thing this cast agrees on, it’s that this play isn’t just entertainment—it’s necessary.
“Atlanta is the Black entertainment hub,” Claudia said. “We need y’all to show up for this play. Support the arts. Support each other. Because when we pack the house, we make space for more stories like this.”
Games Women Play is more than a play—it’s a mirror. You’ll see yourself, your friends, your exes, and maybe even your next chapter. So get ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe even heal—because the games are on.
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Be Careful. Those Casual Friendships Can Be Red Flags Too.
A couple of weeks ago, I was listening to someone vent about an area of frustration that they couldn’t seem to get to the root of — why they keep getting taken advantage of by certain individuals. When you’ve been a life coach for as long as I have (and you were a journalist before that), you learn how to ask certain questions that can cause people to consider things that they may never have before.
So, when I asked her, “What is the common thread with all of those folks? And sit still for two minutes before answering,” when she finally heard her own self speak, her eyes got wide and her mouth dropped open: “They’re all people who I’m not really sure what they are in my life.”
Ding. Ding. DING.
A life coach by the name of Thomas Leonard once said that “Clarity affords focus” and, believe you me, when it comes to dealing with other human beings, if you don’t get clear on where you stand when it comes to your interactions with them, you can very easily find yourself “focusing too much” on those who don’t deserve it and too little on those who absolutely do. And y’all, this lil’ PSA couldn’t be more relevant than when it comes to what I call “casual friendships.”
Let’s dig — and for some of us, dig our way out of — what it means to have a casual friend, so that you can get clear on if you really need those in your life…and if so…why?
Article continues after the video.
It Can’t Be Said Enough: Always Remember What “Casual” Means
There’s a reason why I decided to share two videos by mental health coach Isaiah Frizzle at the top and bottom of this article. It’s because a lot of what he shares in both of them complements a piece that I wrote for the platform last year entitled, “This Is Just What Purposeful Relationships Look Like.”
It’s the author M. Scott Peck who once said, “Until you value yourself, you won't value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it” and please believe that the older (and hopefully more mature) you get, the more you tend to see just how valuable — and fleeting — time is; and that is what plays a huge role in motivating you want to only involve yourself with people, places, things and ideas that will honor your time — and when something is casual? In my opinion, it’s highly debatable that it’s worth much of your months, days, hours, or even too many of your minutes.
The main reason why is addressed in an article that I wrote back in the day entitled, “We Should Really Rethink The Term 'Casual Sex.'” The gist? When it comes to relationships, “casual” is certainly not a favorite word of mine because I know what it means. Have mercy — why would you want to invest your time, energy, and emotions into something that is, by definition, apathetic, indifferent, careless, lacking emotional intimacy, and/or is without purpose?
I don’t know about y’all but that sounds like a complete and total crap shoot to me — especially if you are going to go so far as to consider this type of dynamic a true friendship (check out “Ever Wonder If A Friend Is Just...Not That Into You?,” “6 Signs You're About To Make A Huge Mistake In Making Them A Close Friend,” “5 Signs Of A Toxic Friendship That Is Secretly Poisoning Your Life,” “12 Friend Facts That Might Cause You To Rethink (Some Of) Your Own,” and “Less & Less Of Us Have Close Friends These Days. Why Is That?” ).
To me, when you decide to call someone “friend,” it means that they are loyal, reliable, consistent, trustworthy and willing to be there to support you to the very best of their ability — even if it’s inconvenient to do so sometimes (check out “Life Taught Me That True Friendships Are 'Inconvenient'”). How in the world can you expect that from something that has the word “casual” in it?
And you know what? That actually segues into my next point about casual friendships pretty darn well.
Ponder the Purpose “Casual Friends” Serve in Your Life
A couple of years ago, Verywell Mind published an article entitled, “How the 4 Types of Friendship Fit Into Your Life.” The four that it listed were acquaintances (which I actually don’t consider to be friends; check out “6 Differences Between A Close Acquaintance And An Actual Friend”), casual friends, close friends, and lifelong friends. After reading the piece, I think they consider casual friends to be the “pleasure” friends that I mentioned in the article, “According To Aristotle, We Need ‘Utility’, ‘Pleasure’ & ‘Good’ Friends.”
And although I certainly get that, I think my “cause for pause” is calling those people “friends” when they probably should be called something like an associate or possibly even a buddy instead. Why do I feel this way? Well, I’ve shared in other articles that I think social media has jacked up vocabulary words and their true meaning on a billion different levels.
Take “friend,” for example. Facebook had us out here calling everyone we connected to on their platform “friends” when some of them, we’ve never even spoken to before — and I personally think that influenced, affected and perhaps even infected our psyche to the point where we will call folks, both online and off, “friend” even when they haven’t earned it and/or who possibly don’t deserve it.
That said, do I think that we all could use lighthearted interactions that don’t go very deep and are filled with not much more than fun? Sure. However, if we were to move this over into a sexual thing — those types of people would probably be called a sneaky link, and there is nothing significant or substantial about ‘em. In fact, if anything pretty much automatically comes with an expiration date, sneaky links would have to be it.
And that’s kind of the point that I’m trying to make about a casual friend — so long as you know that the word “casual” is being used to describe them, while you may enjoy the people who fit that bill, they aren’t really anything that you can or even should fully rely on. Instead, take them for what they are and don’t really expect much more than that. Otherwise, you could be in for some profound levels of disappointment. And who wants that?
Final point.
How a Casual Friend Can Become a Huge Red Flag
I’m telling you, y’all gonna quit clowning Tubi. LOL. To me, the best way to describe it is it’s the Cricket of current streaming apps. What I mean by that is, back when Cricket (the cell phone service) first came out, people, like me, who used it service got incessantly clowned because it was seen as a bootleg provider. Now it’s owned by AT&T, and as someone who has rocked with them since I was in my 20s, I don’t have one regret for doing so. Cricket has always been good to me, chile.
And Tubi? Well, when you get a chance, check out CNBC’s article, “CEO at 33, Tubi’s Anjali Sud on success hacks she learned at Amazon, IAC on way to top of Fox streaming” — take note of the moves the streaming app is making and the quality of programming that is transpiring in real time.
Anyway, I find myself bringing up Tubi more and more in my content because it helps to amplify some of the points that I like to make. This time, it’s a movie that’s (currently) on there calledRight Man, Wrong Woman. If you haven’t seen it before, I don’t want to give too much of the film away. What I will say is that the main female character, she had a casual friend and then she had a close friend.
That casual friend—the one who liked to kick it all of the time—was a lot of fun; however, dealing with her came with a ton of semi-unforeseen consequences. Meanwhile, the close friend? She’s what the Aristotle article (that I mentioned earlier) would call the “good friend” because she tried her best to hold her friend accountable.
And really, it shouldn’t be a shock that the casual friend turned out to be a plum trip because if someone is loads of entertainment and pleasure and yet they are indifferent towards you, they make careless decisions around you and/or they don’t really make known the purpose for you being in their life other than to pass some time — where really do you and that person have to go past drinks after work or dinner on a rooftop restaurant from time to time? And if that is all that the two of you are doing, again, why are they deserving of the word “friend”?
Hmph and don’t get me started on the lack of reciprocity that typically transpires when it comes to dealing with people like this because, while they won’t mind you spending your coins on them, taking their calls in the middle of the night or listening to all of their issues — when it comes time for them to show up for you, they very well may gaslight you into thinking that you are being dramatic, clingy or “doing the most.” Why? Well, it’s mostly because the two of you never really established what the hell the both of you are to one another.
And so, while you’re somewhere taking them seriously, they are out here seeing you casually, and as much as it might hurt to hear, that doesn’t automatically or necessarily make them a bad person. You shouldn’t expect much where no clarity is involved. After all, casual is just that: CASUAL.
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I’m hoping that you can now see why I entitled this piece in the way that I did. It’s because a red flag is pretty much a warning, and to me, a casual friend is about as big of an oxymoron (again, to me) as casual sex is. Friends and sex are both too intimate to be seen or treated casually. Oh, but if you step out and take that risk, you could find yourself getting far more involved than the other individual ever wanted to go, because casual is how things have always been. “Friend” was simply to get you more mentally and emotionally invested. SMDH.
American columnist Walter Winchell once said, “A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” A wise person once said, “One good friendship will outlive forty average loves." Former President Ulysses S. Grant once said, “The friend in my adversity I shall always cherish most. I can better trust those who helped to relieve the gloom of my dark hours than those who are so ready to enjoy with me the sunshine of my prosperity.” Does any of this sound casual to you? Yeah, me neither.
Again, I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have people in your life who aren’t on deep levels. I’m just saying that you might want to consider putting them into another category than friend, because what friends do for people? There ain’t nothin’ even remotely casual about it, sis. Not even a lil’ bit.
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