Explore your sign’s 2024 horoscope predictions to learn what is in store for you this year in love, career, and more. Check out the love compatibility of each sign to learn more about zodiac pairings and all things compatibility.
June is a month of owning your power and aligning with your strength and perseverance. There isn’t much going on in the sky in June. However, what is happening is significant. Mercury moves into Gemini at the start of the month on June 3 and will be in this sign until June 17. Mercury loves being in Gemini and communication channels get a boost of positive growth in this energy. Mercury in Gemini is the grand communicator and important insights and messages are getting across this month.
With Gemini season also fueling most of June, the best thing to do right now is to expect the unexpected.
The New Moon of the month will be in Gemini on June 6, and this New Moon is important when it comes to gaining some renewed inspiration for a new beginning. This is the New Moon to set intentions for your self-expression, communication, the people you want to connect with, and the places you want to go. This is a good time of the month to network, put yourself out there, and experience a meeting of the minds. A few days later, Mars enters Taurus on June 9, and Mars in Taurus brings the focus to luxury, self-care, love, and stability.
Mars, being in this lush earth sign until July 20, will be an exciting time for financial growth, and this is good for creating new plans financially, paying off debts, bringing more comfort into the home, or increasing your income in some way.
What June 2024 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
Venus, the planet of love, is in Gemini until June 17 and will be keeping things spicy and a little up in the air until she moves into Cancer. With Venus in Cancer from June 17 until July 11 and Mercury in Cancer from June 17 until July 2 as well, this is a good time for experiencing healing and nurturing energy in your love life, and this is also the time to focus on the needs of your relationships.
Venus in Cancer is a giver, and people are more willing to love and be there for their loved ones in this energy. Mercury in Cancer speaks from the heart, and you can expect important communication happening regarding love matters this month. However, be careful with overextending yourself emotionally during this time as well, and remember balance is key no matter what you are doing or saying.
Cancer Season officially begins on June 20, and this heart-centered switch of energy is exactly what we need right now. The following day, there is a Full Moon in Capricorn and this Full Moon is bringing things full circle when it comes to your finances, achievements, and goals in life.
This is a good time to allow yourself a little break and congratulate yourself on how far you have come. Before the month ends, the most important transit of the month occurs, and that is Saturn going retrograde in Pisces from June 29 until November 15. With Saturn in retrograde motion for the next five months, there will be a lot of shifts happening when it comes to people’s belief systems, spirituality, emotional clarity, and creativity.
Saturn retrograde helps you retrace your steps and gives you the push you need to see what you are building for yourself in a new light. In Pisces, a lot of this energy and change will be happening behind the scenes and within our emotional world. Overall, this is a good month for progress and a new beginning, but you may need some extra support right now to make that happen.
Read on for your sun sign and rising sign below to see what June 2024 has in store for you:
ARIES
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleDreams are coming true for you in June, Aries. This is an important month for financial freedom, clarity, and reaching some new goals. You have been creating plans for yourself and putting things into motion, and you are going to start seeing some significant manifestations in your life unfold this month.
The New Moon at the beginning of the month on June 6 will be a good time for you to express yourself and your mind and to allow your voice to be heard. Set intentions for the way you want to communicate and be received right now.
Moving further into June, Mars enters your 2nd house of income on June 9 until the end of July, and you are feeling motivated financially. This is a good time to ask for a raise and go after that promotion, to create greater stability for yourself and your financial world. Saturn will be going retrograde at the end of the month, and this change of energy will be creating a shift for you emotionally. You are moving through some closures this summer, and you are being guided to let go of what is no longer needed or healthy for you anymore.
TAURUS
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is all about making your voice heard, Taurus. Mars enters your sign on the 9th, where it will be until the end of July, and you have a lot of passion and energy at your disposal right now. You are going to want to move forward, take initiative, and create breakthroughs in your life, and you are letting nothing get in the way of that this month. The more you allow yourself to communicate and share your perspectives and ideas, the more confident you are going to feel about the new beginnings you are creating in your life right now.
Venus, your ruling planet, moves into your 3rd house of communication on the 17th, and this is going to be helping you align your heart with your head and make some important decisions in your life. On June 21, there is a Full Moon in fellow earth sign Capricorn, and this Full Moon is highlighting your sense of adventure in life. Plans and intentions are coming to fruition for you now, and you are getting the opportunity to see the future a little clearer. By the end of June, you are looking to get inspired, get some space, and follow your passions.
GEMINI
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYour season is here, and it’s your time to shine Gemini! This is a month of freedom, empowerment, and also a month of getting some more rest and taking care of yourself. You have a lot going on in June and you’ll want to remind yourself that you can’t be at your best if you are not allowing yourself the sleep and rest it takes to get there. Mercury moves into Gemini on June 3, however, and with your ruling planet in your sign for most of the month, you are feeling pretty clear-headed about what you want and what you need right now.
On June 6, there is a New Moon in your sign, and this is a fortunate time to manifest and create a new beginning in your life. This is a New Moon to take a look in the mirror and remind yourself you are that girl and that you deserve everything you are seeking in your life right now. With Venus entering your 2nd house of income, gifts, and values on June 17, love and money come together for you right now in a new way that allows you to support and nurture both. Before June ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your 10th house of career, and you are going to be moving through some changes professionally during this time.
CANCER
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is about opening your heart and allowing yourself to be the person you are, Cancer. This month is a time of shining in your truth, getting back to you, and feeling the love and support in your life. The New Moon happening at the beginning of the month will allow you to let go of what has been making your heart heavy, and you will get the closure you need to move forward again.
This is a big month for making new developments in your life and love, but you need some time to close some doors before then as well. On June 17, Venus and Mercury both enter your sign, and this is when things are going to start picking up for you this year.
You are not only feeling a little more heard and understood right now, but you are also feeling more of the love and like your relationships are supporting the growth you are moving through. On June 20, Cancer season officially begins, and you get to be your emotional, supportive, moody, and creative self without feeling as much judgment from others for doing so. Overall, this is a month of receiving the love you have been giving and feeling more of a connection and nurturing in your life.
LEO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYou are not messing around or playing any games in June, Leo. You are highly focused and in tune with your desires this month, and you are focused on what you need to do to create a better long-term future for yourself. You are cutting out what is not serving you or your life and making plans for what you feel will. The New Moon happening on June 6 is going to be one of the most important New Moons of the year for you to manifest, and it’s time to write a list of your visions and what inspirations and dreams you want to come true for you.
Mars moves into your 11th house on June 9, the same area of your birth chart the New Moon was, and you are moving into a few months of receiving new opportunities and miracles. The 11th house is all about your hopes, dreams, manifestations, and friendships, and that is where a lot of your energy will be going while Mars is here until the end of July. Before the month ends, however, the Sun moves into Cancer and into your 12th house of healing and endings, and you are going to be taking the time you need to regroup, rest, and renew as June ends.
VIRGO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is about growing in stability and finding your balance in life, Virgo. You are an overthinker at the core of you and are learning to let go of this energy in June and allow yourself to think more positively about what is possible for you in this life. With the Sun in your 10th house of career for most of the month and a New Moon here on June 6, you are focused on your goals and achievements right now, but you may be being too hard on yourself on how things are developing. Take moments to appreciate the little things and set your intentions for what else you want to see through within your professional world.
On June 7, Venus moves into Cancer and enters your house of friendship, and some new support and comfort are coming into your life during this time. While Venus is in your 11th house, you may meet some new people, feel more community in your life, and overall feel a little more stable and secure right now. However, with Mars entering your 9th house of adventure a few days later, there is a bit of a push and pull you are moving through this month when it comes to feeling stable and wanting more freedom. Balance is key for you overall this month, and remember you are creating your life by the thoughts you are thinking.
LIBRA
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYou are moving into a successful month, Libra. You have the power, vision, and stamina with you to see your goals through in June, and you are doing so with the support of others. The month begins with a New Moon happening in your 9th house, and this is a good month for you to travel or to create your intentions and plans for where you want to go this year.
You are beginning the month feeling inspired and like the wisdom you have gained so far in life is serving you well right now. On June 17, your ruling planet Venus, moves into Cancer and enters your 10th house of career, reputation, and professional life.
With Venus here you are receiving some extra love at work and when it comes to what you are putting out into the world. Financially, you are also growing in your wealth and are overall focused on building your legacy right now. Before June comes to a close, there is a Full Moon occurring in an area of your chart having to do with the home and family, and you are ending the month needing some time with the people who keep you feeling grounded.
SCORPIO
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is all about perspective for you, Scorpio. You are gaining some much-needed clarity this month, but the insights can feel like a whiplash at times. You are being guided towards seeing things with an open mind, and not letting yourself get too mixed up in how you think things should be that you miss the gift and opportunities of where they are now. The New Moon in Gemini on June 6 will be opening a door for you for rebirth, and this is a New Moon to focus on your health, shared finances, and emotional world, and to allow yourself a fresh start.
Mars moves into Taurus, your opposite sign, on June 9, and this is good news for your love life. Mars in Taurus will be bringing passion to your one-on-one relationships, and things are getting sexy for you right now. You are focused on building with the people you love and are creating space for more emotional connection and passion to enter your life. Before the month ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your 5th house of romance, however, and you are still learning the lessons of balancing your heart with your head.
SAGITTARIUS
SAGITTARIUSKyra Jay for xoNecoleEverything's coming together for you this month, Sagittarius. You are feeling renewed in your life and like you are more on top of things over the next month, and this energy is like a breath of fresh air for you. With the Sun being in your 7th house of love and partnership for most of the month, and with a New Moon here on June 6, there is a lot to be grateful for right now and a lot of love to hold onto. You are moving into June feeling a sense of security that you are going to be able to build upon.
On June 21, a Full Moon is happening in your house of income, values, and self-confidence, and you are seeing the fruition of your desires right now. This Full Moon is about allowing yourself to take note of the gains you have made this year and what you want to do with the financial stature you find yourself in now. By the end of the month, Saturn goes retrograde in your 4th house of home and family, and some changes may need to be made in the home over the next month. Overall, June is about supporting yourself, supporting others, and allowing yourself and your life to thrive.
CAPRICORN
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleJune is a month of putting in the work, Capricorn. You are focused on your dreams and goals right now and are working diligently to reach them. The month begins with Mars moving into your 5th house on June 9, and this is fueling your passion for your creativity, your self-expression, and the things that make you happy. You are focused on having fun right now, but you are also concerned with taking the appropriate steps and finishing the projects you have to do before then. Remember to give yourself some breaks this month.
On June 17, Venus moves into Cancer, your opposite sign, and love takes on a new tone. Venus in Cancer is good news for you as a Capricorn, and it signifies a time of the year when you are feeling more support, connection, and reciprocity in your love life.
Before the month ends there is a Full Moon in your sign on June 21, and this is the Strawberry Moon of the year. This Full Moon is a big full circle moment when it comes to the way you see yourself and your life, and you are acknowledging your growth and are focused on your life path right now. Overall, this is a month of effort, intention, and love for you, Capricorn.
AQUARIUS
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleYou are taking initiative and focused on your abundance this month, Aquarius. This is a month of feeling inspired, capable, and like you have reached some important goals in life. You are feeling comfortable with the position you are sitting in, and growth is all around you. On June 6, there is a New Moon in a fellow air sign, Gemini, and this New Moon is opening your eyes to the love that is possible for you in life. This is a good New Moon to set your intentions for your happiness, the romance in your life, and how you want to express your heart and feel understood.
On June 21, a Full Moon is happening that is creating some closures in your life, and you are ready to create space for greater abundance to enter. During this Full Moon, make sure you are taking care of your body, your mind, and your heart, and remaining open to receiving some guidance from the universe. Before June comes to a close, Saturn goes retrograde in Pisces and will be retrograde in your 2nd house of income until November. What this is going to do for you is help you rebuild financially, and it will be putting you in different experiences and around different people to do so.
PISCES
Kyra Jay for xoNecoleMake a wish, and believe in yourself, Pisces! June is a beautiful month for you and you are feeling emotionally satisfied. There is a lot of love and support coming your way this month, and you are also giving out this abundant sense of energy as well. June begins with a New Moon in your 4th house, and this is a good time to set your intentions for your stability, your home, and your relationships with your close loved ones. You are entering the month feeling a little more stable and sure of yourself, and this is attracting miracles into your life.
On June 9, Mars moves into your house of communication, and you have a lot to say right now. Be careful with impulsive speaking and remember to think things through; however, overall this energy will be good for you and making new connections. On June 17, Venus and Mercury will enter fellow water sign Cancer and will move into your 5th house of romance. You are hearing some good news when it comes to your love life by the end of the month, and it’s changing things for the better for you moving forward.
Before the month ends, Saturn goes retrograde in your sign until November 15, and it’s best not to rush yourself or your progress during this time.
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Whether you're planning to meet a certain financial or fitness goal, or you're simply trying to maintain and build on the progress you made this year, having something to look forward to is always a good look. Setting actual goals, according to research, actually leads to more success than just playing things by ear. So here are a few to get you started, sis:
(Disclaimer: Not everything is for everyone, so do like my Granny always says: "Eat the meat. Spit out the bone." Take on five out of the 40 and focus on that for the remainder of the year, or do them all. Either way, this is just to get you started.)
40 Ways To End The Year Strong and Inspired
Money Moves
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1. Increase your retirement (or other savings/investment) contributions by 1%.
Experts have found that you could be leaving money on the table by not upping your contributions when you can.
2. Cancel two to five subscriptions.
You could be missing hundreds, even thousands, of dollars a year due to sneaky price hikes and "updates."
3. Create a "fun" in a high-yield savings account.
This is especially important if you struggle with the dreaded b-word (budget) and will make next year's efforts a lot less intimidating. Even if it's $10 a month, do it.
4. Put on your big-girl panties, and set up automatic transfers and payments for at least one bill.
It reduces the stress of managing bills, lessens the chance of a missed payment---and the fees that come with that---and there can be cost savings for doing so.
5. Invest in a cleaner or housekeeping service.
Bosses who value their time (and mental health) invest their dollars into areas where the time they'd spend doing those tasks themselves could be better used to focus on other money-making projects. (And yes, rest is part of that.) Get a housekeeper, sis, or drop off that laundry, even if it's once per month.
6. Donate to a charity.
Beyond the tax benefits, it's a win-win for the greater good of communities you care about.
7. Review your insurance policies and negotiate a better rate (or move on) before their end dates.
Experts often agree this is a small but mighty step to take each year, especially since insurance rates are competitive, you could be spending more money than you need to (or not enough) and your insurance rates can affect your mortgage payments.
8. Call your loan provider and refinance.
As interest rates fall, “millions of borrowers may be able to refinance and get more affordable payments. As interest rates eased down to 6.5%, about 2.5 million borrowers could already refinance and save at least 75 basis points (0.75%) on their interest rate,” the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau reports. You can also refinance student and other types of loans.
9. Stop buying individual items and stock up via going bulk.
Research has found that, among 30 common products, buying in bulk could save you 27% compared with buying in lower quantities. Water, paper products, and baby products like diapers, toiletries, and garbage bags are the top items where people see the most cost-effectiveness. (This has been a lifesaver for me—children, large family, or not—especially when it comes to toothpaste, deodorant, toilet paper, and feminine hygiene products, saving stress, time, and money.)
10. Go cash-only for the holidays.
If you set smart goals and stick to limits on things like gifts, going out to eat, or groceries, you'll see the benefits of this. Cash-stuffing is one method recommended, but something as simple as taking a $10 bill out for lunch, disabling that card for an hour, and leaving your card in a safe place at the office can give you that mindset jump start to see how far you can take your money without the need to splurge.
Love And Romance
11. Say "no."
There are clear mental and physical health benefits to saying no including the setting of healthy boundaries, creating time and energy for other self-care activities, and protecting yourself from physically harmful situations (i.e. unprotected sex or abuse). Just say it, clearly and simply, when you need to.
12. Set a fun, free, adults-only date night for once a week or twice a month with your spouse.
If busy, high-profile folk have touted the success of this, even you can make the time for quality time with your partner. And it's even better when it costs nothing. The best connections are made doing something chill, challenging, or outside the usual dinner-and-a-movie date. Play a game that allows you to reconnect, take a walk in your neighborhood to chat and laugh, or try a little erotic chocolate/edible liquid/paint episode a la Mea Culpa.
13. Go out with Mr. or Ms. "Not My Type."
I love my man, but if I were waiting out for my "type" at the time, we wouldn't be celebrating seven (going on eight) years together. Sometimes having strict, unrealistic expectations for a spouse (especially related to things like height, physical features, or career path) is what's keeping you alone and lonely.
Take the pressure off and explore all your options. I'm not telling you to stop popping the balloon on the guy who earns $20,000 less than you if that's a hard no that Jesus himself told you to skip. I'm asking you to explore other options and see what else God might have out there for your love journey.
14. Immediately apologize and pray together.
I've learned that always being "right" isn't always ideal when you truly care about someone and you're in a relationship for the long haul. Defaulting to an apology when necessary, even when things aren't 100% resolved, is a good way to prioritize peace and save your energy for more worthwhile battles. Research has even supported the benefits of apologies in relationships, and how couples married for five or more years do it often.
15. Get a Rose and discover true self-love.
Do I really have to explain this? You've gotta know what satisfies you, and how better to figure that out than to practice self-love in the bed by yourself? You can also try this with a partner, but as a woman who got on this train very much later in my sexual activity journey. I have a lot more learning to do on my own, and even in a satisfying relationship, I like to find out new things about myself, by myself.
Figure out what you're into, watch what you want to watch, and read what you want to read to define pleasure for yourself. There's a freedom and empowering element there especially if you're used to prioritizing pleasing your partner.
16. Be direct and have the "money talk" with bae.
Money issues are one of the leading causes of divorce, so you need to have those conversations before you even think about marrying someone. And true, nobody can predict the future so you won't be able to avoid some challenges altogether, however, talking with your potential spouse about how they view money, their spending habits, and the pain points in terms of their approach to money management can at least give you a glimpse into what's in store if you do walk down the aisle, move in with them, or decide to share a bank account/business/child with them.
17. Invest in the "paid" version of that dating app.
I know plenty of successful, married folk who did this and met "the one" as a result. Let's be honest: The free version is for playing around. I had a lot of fun with my "free" profile back in the day, trust me. Upgrade that photo, profile, and package, and see if the quality of your dating adventures changes when you're serious about finding a true partner. Dating coaches and matchmakers cosign this.
18. Solo travel to meet that long-distance connection.
Sometimes, your perfect match isn't within 100 miles of you, and that's okay. Make it an adventure, enjoy the memories, and book that ticket. I met my man this way and it's been a whirlwind escape ever since. If you're not comfortable traveling solo, travel or (network to plan travel) with a group via Facebook.
Career And Business
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19. Schedule coffee or virtual meetups with smart people from your graduating class, previous employer, or current employer.
I have gotten many freelance opportunities by doing this. It's as simple as connecting and offering value (or simply learning how you can better equip yourself to do so.) It's also a great way to expand your network, spark new friendships, or find out about new job opportunities.
20. Invest in a well-made suit.
I don't care what industry you're in, a suit says "power," and it's not as old-school or out-of-style as you'd think. Plus the whole experience of looking for a new one (or getting one tailored) is fun and affirming. Try these options. I swear, anytime I wear a blazer, I'm treated like a celebrity or boss, especially when traveling. I was once upgraded to first-class wearing a yellow blazer outfit, and the airline professional literally said, "You look like somebody important. Here you go."
21. Volunteer for a worthwhile project or cause that's important to your company.
If you're overworked and underappreciated, skip this one, but if you truly have the time, love what you do, and want to advance, this move is clutch. Volunteering for extra projects got me where I am today in media because I had foresight, and knew that was the only way at the time to leverage relationships, and I was able to challenge myself to learn skills that 20 years later are still bankable. That VP you can't get a meeting with will be at that gala your company is planning, so join that committee, sis.
22. Write down why you deserve a raise and ask for it in your next one-on-one.
Gather those receipts (ie sales increase numbers, KPIs met, deals closed, people acquired via recruitment, the impact of systems updates, or other tangible success metrics) and ask for that raise before the first or second-quarter budgets are being finalized.
23. Instead of quitting, write down your exit plan.
While revenge quitting is set to be a thing next year (and maybe you're among those who will be leading the trend), try the better boss move and quit with a real plan.
24. Start automatically separating that estimated self-employed quarterly tax estimate.
If you have side hustles (or you're collecting 1099 income,) baby, you do not want to neglect those quarter tax payments. Talk to a professional, do your research, and set up automatic transfers to an account specifically for paying these at the appropriate due dates.
25. Sign up for a free one- to 11-week course related to your industry—or the industry you want to be in next year.
Institutions like Harvard University and platforms like Coursera offer free courses that can enhance your skills. You can also invest in certificate courses with accredited colleges as well as tech training.
26. Hit "Easy Apply" for 10 dream jobs listed on LinkedIn.
While you shouldn't solely rely on this when actively job-seeking, using this convenient LinkedIn option is a great way to get into the habit of applying for positions. And if you're already employed, you should still be "dating" other employers if you're looking to make a move in the next six months. Keep your interview skills sharp, practice toughening up for the "nos," and get a bit of an ego boost in the process.
Self-Care And Wellness
27. Pre-schedule three month's worth of massages.
Oftentimes this is cost-effective since some spas offer deals for multiple bookings. Also, it makes an act of self-care deliberate and important, not an option. When you get that reminder call, you'll know it's real.
28. Fire that therapist and try another one.
Cultural competency in mental health support is one major problem that can hinder Black women from even bothering with therapy. And who wants the added stress of spending multiple, paid sessions explaining why something is a microaggression? Cut the cord and move on to try someone else, either via a Black women therapists channel or recommendations from others.
29. Join a small group at church.
Bedside service ain't gonna cut it and neither is going to the usual Sunday service. Join a smaller group and upgrade your efforts to connect, network, and elevate spiritually. Even if virtually, take a step to dig a bit deeper with more targeted Bible study and discussions.
30. Say no, even to loved ones.
This is on here twice, for a reason. Saying no is the simplest, most powerful micro-action you can take today to make 2025 better. No explanations. No guilt. Say no.
31. Choose one "luxury" beauty product for skincare and stick to it.
This was trending big on social, especially for millennials hitting their 40s. There's just something so freeing about not giving in to every trend and sticking to the basics that work, especially when there are quality, healthy ingredients involved. Put those orders on auto-renew.
32. Sign up for a new sport or fitness class just for fun, not for results.
It's great to be on a weight-loss or weight-lifting journey, but try something just for the fun of it. Switch things up with a couple of these fitness activities.
33. Book a staycation.
Leave the passport at home and explore a nearby community or another town in your state. There's so much enrichment in your own backyard right here in the U.S., and you don't even have to break the bank.
34. Pre-schedule your mammograms, Pap smear, and peri-menopause checkups for next year.
Take control of your health by pre-scheduling essential appointments like mammograms, Pap smears, and peri-menopause check-ups for 2025. Prioritizing these screenings early ensures you stay on top of your wellness and make time for self-care in the new year.
35. Cut off support of beauty and wellness professionals whose customer service is below standard.
This is another one that many Black women have been vocal about—from unrealistic pre-appointment requirements, to booking fees, to long waits, to unsavory in-salon experiences. Spot the red flags early, and just stop accommodating foolishness. Support salons or experienced stylists who are kind, have proper systems in place and value your time.
36. Schedule five to 10-minute moments of silence on your calendar.
Again, wellness is not optional, and if it's not on my calendar, it's not official. Sit quietly. Pray. Meditate. Or do nothing. The benefits of silent moments are almost endless.
37. Download a meditation app.
If you've found that meditation is difficult to schedule or to even start, an app can help. Try this, this, or this one, and take that step to embrace something new to enhance your wellness routine. If you're tired of downloading apps, create a playlist for meditation via Amazon Music or Spotify and schedule a reminder to do it once a day or week.
38. Invest in a healthy meal prep or delivery service.
Time is emotionally expensive, so save as much of it as possible. Getting into meal prep to keep to your goals is a great way to save time, stress, and effort. The health benefits of meal prepping have also been proven via research.
39. Create a positive playlist on Spotify, Amazon Music, YouTube, or other streaming platform.
It can be podcasts, music, affirmations, or somatic sounds. It's a game-changer. You can even set an alarm to wake you up to start your day with the positive playlist. Not into creating your own? There are plenty to choose from with a quick search.
40. Set up reminders for Alexa (Siri or other AI) to remind you, "You are loved," and "You are okay."
This simple effort can boost your endorphins and remind you that you're indeed, not alone, and you will be okay, regardless. To set mine up, I simply commanded, "Alexa, remind me everyday 'Jesus loves me,'" and like clockwork she does. She almost scared the ish out of me one day when I'd forgotten the reminder was active, but it was the reminder I needed when anxiety had gotten the best of me that week.
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Either way, we’re breaking down how to harness the alluring black cat energy to attract and cultivate your purrrfect match, or how to deepen your current relationship.
What is Black Cat Energy?
Black cat energy has made a splash all over TikTok since 2021 where users have popularized “the black cat/golden retriever” theory based on the notorious attributes of felines and pups.
Pet owners and those who have had the pleasure of engaging with furry friends know that cats tend to have personality traits of being more independent, cautious, and unbothered until they develop a relationship with you – then you’ll be graced with their loveable side – whereas dogs, much like golden retrievers, are often overly excited to see you, bursting with happy energy, and seeking your affection, even if they just met you.
Black cats especially possess an elusive, regal, and pompous vibe that makes them irresistible. You can’t simply win these mysterious creatures over with your mere presence. You’ll have to earn their affection.
And if by a stroke of luck, they open up to you, they’ll always keep you wanting more of them. That same je ne sais quoi is what TikTokers are raving about, claiming that if you channel black cat energy into your love life, you’ll summon the person of your dreams and make them fall in love with every part of you.
What’s more, according to The Spruce Pets, single women in Japan who own black cats are believed to attract more suitors. In parts of Great Britain, a black cat is the quintessential wedding gift because they’re believed to bring good luck and happiness to the bride.
Why the Black Cat/Golden Retriever Dynamic Works
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Anyone can be the black cat or the golden retriever in the relationship, but TikTokers and some relationship experts say the best way to ensure long-lasting compatibility is for the woman to be the black cat, while the man exudes golden retriever tendencies.
Dating coach Anwar White solidifies finding the yin to your yang, instructing women to find their complement. “Most people look to date their clone and you’re going to need to date looking for your compliment – that is what is going to bring you the most success.”
In the 14 years he’s been a dating coach, he shared the best complementary personalities that make for a good match. “If you’re a type A, boss babe, you’re going to be looking for the optimistic golden retriever guy. This is the guy that wants to get done whatever you want to get done. This is the engineer, the federal employee, or an architect. It’s very much black cat/golden retriever vibes.”
No matter what stage you’re at in your love life, it’s never too late to transition from subservient golden retriever to omnipotent black cat.
TikToker @jaclyn.dasilva explains that she used to be in her golden retriever energy in her marriage – catering to her husband, and what he needed and liked until she learned how to epitomize the black cat energy.
“We have this beautiful energy as women. When we learn to put all that beautiful, nurturing energy into ourselves that is when they want us. That is when they chase us. Now I think about what I want to eat. What do I want to drink? What book do I want to read? And I put my energy into myself.”
She continues, “And now he’s the one chasing me. He’s the one who can’t get enough of me. When we see ourselves as the prize, that is when he sees us as the prize. Stop chasing him. Let him chase you. Be about you, he’ll be about you.”
How To Embody The Black Cat Principles In Your Dating Life
Dating and maintaining a flourishing relationship in today’s technology-driven world is no easy feat. We have abundantly more access to swipe right or left on apps, or serendipitously meet a great catch in person than our parents and grandparent’s generations.
And yet, with all the potential options, somehow it seems more difficult to stumble across Mr. or Mrs. Right or to maintain a long-term symbiotic relationship. Fortunately navigating dating and relationships becomes easier when you know exactly who you are–your different quirks, flaws, and assets–and when you keenly understand the little things that titillate your world and accept the nuances and icks of a person that you know are not aligned with you.
A woman relishing in her black cat energy and femininity knows exactly what she wants and needs and doesn’t detour from who she is for anyone. These are the qualities of black cat women:
High Standards
Nothing says you’re the main character or HBIC like flaunting high standards and sticking to them.
TikToker Anna Kristina, the self-proclaimed creator of the "black cat theory" shared how to become the ultimate black cat and have men eating from the palm of your hand. “You have to be inconvenient. You have to be bitchy. You have to have standards and certain expectations. The higher the expectations, and the more unrealistic, the better.”
Elusiveness
Relationship TikToker Tomisin Atobatele offers women insights into the essence of being elusive. "I want you to stop being eager to tell men everything you’re thinking and feeling, and especially tell men exactly what you desire. If a guy asks you what you want out of a guy, or what you’re looking for, I want you to be vague…When you’re vague, and someone’s interested in you, it forces them to do work in order to get those answers.”
"And just that fast, you’ve created a scenario where he’s thinking about you," he added. "He’s thinking about your needs. He’s thinking about your wants and desires. And in the process of him thinking about your wants and desires, his focus is on you.”
Firm Boundary Setter
Self-preservation, respect, and overall happiness stem from healthy boundaries. A woman basking in black cat energy knows exactly when and how to implement boundaries. Black cats have boundaries. They will let you know when they are done getting petted," said TikToker Marian Bacol.
“They will let you know when they want to give you attention. They will stare you down if they are done with you. They are clear on their boundaries and they’re not afraid to enforce it. They don’t give love and affection to anyone and everyone the way that dogs do. Cats are more selective and that’s how you have to be with your energy.”
Unapologetically Authentic
A sure way to have a man perpetually falling for you is to be authentically you without changing who you are, solely for him.
“If you want him to chase you as opposed to you chasing him, you need to remember this one thing…whatever attributes you have: your style, your hair color, your whatever you’ve got going on – you don’t change for him," said life coach Margarita Nazarenko. "The black cat would never change for a man and that’s what’s going to make him chase you.”
She cements the rule with an analogy: “The rule is: if you make the best chocolate cake and he likes apple pie, make him the best chocolate cake, not a sub apple pie.”
Famous Couples That Successfully Personify Black Cat/Golden Retriever Energy
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These power couples prove why women who helm their black cat energy make their men swoon:
Rihanna & ASAP Rocky
"[The relationship] is going great. I don’t think there’s a more perfect person because when the schedules are hectic, she’s very understanding of that," A$AP Rocky told Billboard about his relationship with Rihanna. "And when the schedule’s freed up, that’s when you get to spend [the] most time together. It’s all understanding and compatibility.
Ashanti & Nelly
Lauren Speed Hamilton & Cameron Hamilton
Lauren Speed Hamilton and Cameron Hamilton are proof positive of the Love Is Blind concept. More recently, the married couple got real on their podcast about the struggles of expanding their family through fertility treatments. "When I saw what you were going through, terms of taking the medications, doing the daily shots, knowing that IVF and all this stuff wasn't really something that you naturally wanted to do but you did it for me," Cameron shared in episode 2 of The Love Seat podcast with Lauren, his voice beginning to crack.
"You showed me a new level of love that I'd never seen before."
Kristy Scott & Desmond Scott
Zendaya & Tom Holland
"You can’t really find anything against Zendaya, she’s kind of like the perfect person," Tom Holland shared about girlfriend Zendaya in a 2021 interview with Backstage. "It was so wonderful to have someone like her in my corner, to help me grow through that process … Having her as a friend has been so valuable to the success and happiness of my career and life."
Gabrielle Union & Dwyane Wade
Ciara & Russell Wilson
"For me, I knew that God had brought me in her life to bless her and for her to bless me," Russell Wilson told Access Hollywood about wife Ciara.
Serena Williams & Alexis Ohanian
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