
Don't even act like you didn't know this was coming. As we're entering the "out with the old, in with the new" portion of the 2019 program, this is when you won't be able to get online without seeing at least two articles a day on what will be trending in the new decade. However, what might be harder to find than anything else are the healthy food trends that you should take special note of.
In 2020, things will be interesting. "Interesting" in the sense of being a little all over the place, super intriguing and definitely what will require a little more effort on our parts. But if you're looking to expand your palate and also spend a little more time in your own kitchen in the new year, these are things that will help you to accomplish both goals—exquisitely and effectively so.
1.West African Foods

When I read that West African foods would be big in 2020, I immediately smiled. I know several people from Ghana and pretty much every single one of them are gorgeous. GORGEOUS. Anyway, as far as the types of foods that part of the world eats—millet, teff, fufu, yams, avocados, black-eyed peas, mangos, pineapple, ginger, lemongrass, coconut, peanut oil and the combo of tomatoes, onions, and bell peppers as a base for dishes are all extremely popular.
If 2020 is the year that you want to expand your diet with something unique, another popular West African food is sorghum. It's a cereal grain that is gluten-free, rich in fiber, high in protein and iron, and is able to help with controlling your blood sugar levels. You can buy it as a grain; some people enjoy it in syrup form as well.
2. CBD Foods and Drinks
OK, so in the spirit of responsible writing, I would be remiss if I didn't share this off the rip—"CBD-Infused Food and Beverages Are Still Illegal Under US law. So Why Are They Everywhere?". From what I read, this is battle that the FDA knows that they probably won't win; especially since there are currently over 1000 CBD-infused foods and drinks available online alone. That said, yep, it is another food trend that is only going to get bigger in the new year.
And just what are the benefits of consuming foods (and drinks) that have cannabidiol—the non-intoxicating chemical compound that's found in the cannabis plant)—in it? Well, the properties in CBD are anti-inflammatory, anti-anxiety and anti-spasmodic. This makes CBD great at treating pain, depression, keeping diabetes at bay, strengthening the heart and even getting rid of acne if it's consumed on a semi-consistent basis.
If you'd like to see a few examples of CBD foods, it's worth your time to read "What Are CBD Foods and Why Are They Everywhere?" A Hemp Bar or two might be just what the doctor ordered (relatively speaking).
3. Nut and Seed Butters and Spreads

If you'd like to put a spread on your toast or crackers, but you don't want it to be butter, go to your local health food store to pick up some nut or seed butters instead. Some examples of a nut butter include cashew, almond, hazelnut, walnut and, of course, peanut. Some seed butters include pumpkin, watermelon, and sunflower. All are packed with protein, have their own unique flavor, and are full of vitamins and minerals.
4. Jackfruit
Believe it or not, jackfruit is being used more and more as a meat substitute. So, if you're vegetarian or are attempting to go vegan in the new year, this is a food that you'll definitely want to have on hand. Jackfruit contains a significant amount of vitamins A and C. It also has about two grams of protein and six grams of fiber in it per serving. Unripe jackfruit is ideal for meat-like recipes while ripe jackfruit is oftentimes put into smoothies and baked goods. As far as where to cop some, you should be able to find it pretty easily at your local Whole Foods or Trader Joe's stores.
5. Mocktails

Mocktails (fake cocktails) will also be big in 2020. As I was reading a few articles on this particular food trend, some of the authors brought up a valid point. With mocktails, not only do you not have to work around the after-effects that alcohol can bring, drinking and serving them can save you a heck of a lot of money too. So, if you've got a party coming up, consider offering a couple of mocktails as alternatives. If you have no clue of where to even begin when it comes to building your mocktail mental library, this link features 50 mocktail recipes to get you started.
6. Lotus Seeds
The lotus plant is the kind of plant that is popular in parts of Southeast Asia. The seeds themselves contain a good amount of calcium, magnesium, manganese, pantothenic acid, phosphorus, potassium, protein and thiamin.
As far as its health benefits go, lotus seeds have a good reputation for treating insomnia, strengthening your digestive system, fighting aging signs, healing gum disease, giving an energy boost and supporting newly pregnant moms by giving their babies what they need to have a strong nervous system.
Believe it or not, Walmart sells lotus seeds. So does Amazon. As far as how to eat them, many mash the seeds up with some sugar and salt and serve it as a paste on pancakes, etc. You can check out an easy-to-make recipe here.
7. Middle Eastern Spices

If you enjoy Middle Eastern cuisine, commit to preparing more dishes from the comfort of your own home by stocking up on some traditional Middle Eastern spices. Ones that top the list include turmeric, cumin, cardamom, cinnamon, Baharat, sumac, nutmeg, allspice and anise seed. If you want to impress your own damn self with your knowledge of Middle Eastern foods, also pick up some ras el hanout. It's a spice that is a combo of sweet, spicy and savory. It's so good that its name literally translates to mean "top shelf". (You should be able to find all of those at your local grocery store, by the way.)
8. Fruit and Veggie Flours
Here's the deal—when things are refined, a lot of what makes them good in the first place are removed. Such is the case with refined white flour (read "The Dark Side of White Flour"). But if you like to bake, even half as much as I do, an alternative you might want to try that just happens to be another big food trend for next year are flours that are made from fruits and vegetables. Two that are going to be getting a lot of shine are banana flour and cauliflower flour. Both contain a similar texture to refined white flour while also having the nutrients that naturally come with them. It truly is the best of both worlds.
9. Biodynamic Wine

C'mon, wine experts. You tell me what biodynamic wine is. Basically, it's the kind of wine that is prepared in such a way where it has no chemicals at all in it; not only is this kind of sustainable processing good for the planet, it's healthier for you in the long run as well. This is an alcohol trend that's been growing for a couple of years now, so it's not hard to find. But if you'd like a cheat sheet on how to get the best kind of biodynamic wine at an affordable price, check out "The Best Biodynamic and Organic Wines For Under $30".
10. Alternative Sweeteners
If there are two things that all of us could stand to consume a heck of a lot less of next year, it's dairy (eww) and white sugar (double eww). As far as sugar goes, consuming less of it doesn't mean that you can't still appease your sweet tooth. The key is to do it in a healthier fashion. Molasses is packed with iron. Coconut sugar is unrefined, so it contains all of the nutrients that coconuts do. Monk fruit is actually 150 times sweeter than sugar, which means you can use much less of it, which means you don't have to worry about accumulating as many calories as with sugar. All you need to do to enjoy date paste is to combine ¾ teaspoon of water, ½ teaspoon of vanilla extract and a cup of dates. Mash it all up and you're good to go.
And then there's honey. Honey helps to lower cholesterol levels, is an energy booster, is a great sugar substitute for diabetics, is loaded with antioxidants and, has antibacterial and antifungal properties in it too. The best kind of honey to get is raw (unrefined) honey.
You can click here to figure out which brand would prove to be best for you.
11. Supporting Local Farmers

Another way to be more responsible with your diet is to support local farmers by going to farmer's markets more often. The food is fresher, it helps to stabilize our local economies, it's sustainable, it's a wonderful way to stay connected within your community and, oftentimes it's cheaper than going to the grocery store. Everything about the farmer's markets is worth making a weekend run. Try and do more of that next year, will you?
12. Meal Kits
Just last week, I was talking to a male friend of mine who is the consummate bachelor. He admittedly sucks in the kitchen and shared that one of the best things that's happened to him lately are meal kits. His exact words were, "It's a lot healthier than eating out and it makes me feel like I know what I'm doing, even though I don't." If you can relate to where he's coming from, meal kits are also pretty cool because they come with all that you need to prepare a full meal in a box. If you'd like to try "meal kitting" next year—Sun Basket has a great reputation among vegetarians and Home Chef has the best reputation overall. Some other companies that are also popular include Blue Apron, Hello Fresh and Purple Carrot.
Or, if you still want to go out, but you want to eat healthier and preferably at Black-owned establishments, check out Eboneats.
Or, if you happen to live in Georgia or New Jersey, Eat Clean Bro does meal prepping. Here's to eatin' right in 2020, y'all. For real, for real.
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Before getting married and becoming a mother, Danielle Brooks was just fine focusing on her career.
“I did not want children,” Brooks shared on the first episode of Pregnant Pause, a new podcast for Black women at the intersection of motherhood and ambition. “I was one of those women who believed I was not gonna be married and I was not gonna have kids, and I was ok with that.”
But after meeting her now husband Dennis Gelin, The Color Purple actress had second thoughts about building a family. And one moment in particular rocked her world and changed her mind.
While playing the role of Sophia in The Color Purple on Broadway and playing Tasha “Taystee” Jefferson on the Netflix series Orange is the New Black, Brooks shared she struggled with severe acne and decided to get on Accutane. However, because it is a potent teratogen, meaning it can cause significant harm to a developing fetus, experts warn the retinoid medication should never be taken during pregnancy due to the high risk of severe birth defects. When Brooks found out she was pregnant while taking the medication she realized she did, in fact, want a child.
“I will never forget, when I saw that pregnancy test, I broke down,” she said. “And it wasn’t out of fear. I broke down because I realized I wanted to be a mom, and that option was no longer on the table in this moment. And it shocked the hell out of me.”
Brooks eventually had her daughter Freeya in November 2019, and got married in 2022. Today she juggles her career with being a wife and mother and got real on how hard it can be but how necessary it is to pull back at times.
“There are moments in motherhood, in marriage, in life that you need stillness,” she said. “And I’m learning that that is ok and beautiful.”
Watch her full interview on the Pregnant Pause Podcast here, or listen to the episode on Apple, Spotify, iHeart or where you listen to podcasts.
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This Is How To Keep Your Goals From Overwhelming You (So Much)
Opinions are like…y’all know what they are like. LOL. I thought about that when I was reading up on the importance of goal-setting, and I happened upon several articles that said setting goals is completely overrated.
I mean, I’ve got a — you know what I’ve got — which means that I have an opinion too, and mine is that goals are absolutely necessary if you want to accomplish certain things in life. Goals give you something to look forward to. Goals help to keep you centered and focused. Goals instill confidence because, as you set and reach them, that gives you the motivation and strength to set even more…bigger ones, at that. So yeah, I’m always gonna be a fan of establishing short as well as long-term goals.
That said, I do think that there’s a key to reaching one’s goals that gets overlooked far too often: not allowing them to overwhelm you — because being overwhelmed is hella counterproductive when it comes to getting things done in this thing that we all call “life.”
So, if you’ve got some goals in mind, on paper or in your phone and either the mere thought of them or the process of executing them has you all irritable, stressed, exhausted, unable to focus, negative or just plain ole’ paralyzed (you know, mentally or emotionally), I want to share with you some things that could help to remove those emotions. That way, you won’t just reach your goals, you’ll actually enjoy the process of doing so.
Put a Mission Statement on Your Goals
GiphySomething that can totally blindside you while you’re in the process of reaching your goals is being so caught up in the work that comes with manifesting them that you forget (at least momentarily) why you are doing so much in the first place.
Take a (current) client that I have. When I tell you that almost every time we speak, they’ve got a new set of goals that they want to achieve — and because of this, they rarely get anything done. SMDH. A big part of the reason why is because they refuse to put together a mission statement that will help to keep them focused and committed; not only that but a mission statement can help them to come up with plans and ideas that are logical instead of emotional — ones that actually cause dots to connect, so that their goals can be properly streamlined.
A mission statement doesn’t have to be long. A solid paragraph of 3-5 sentences will do. At the end of the day, it’s simply a summary of why you set the goals that you did and what you hope to achieve with them. Post ‘em somewhere that will keep you inspired until they are achieved. This one hack alone is a total game-changer. Promise you that.
Set Goals for Yourself. Not to Keep Up with Other People.
GiphyOne more thing about a particular client of mine (and then I’m gonna get up off of their neck — LOL) — one reason why they switch up their goals so much is because they are constantly looking around at what other people are doing (or not doing). For instance, if there is something that they want to do professionally yet it will take a bit more time than some of their friends who are already financially where they want to be, they will talk themselves out of that goal in order to try and find a way to make money quicker. Ugh.
Author Betty Jamie Chung once said, “Comparison with myself brings improvement, comparison with others brings discontent.” Author Bangambiki Habyarimana once said, “You are not required to perform like them, you are required to perform like you.” And author Eleanor Brown once said, “Stop thinking you’re doing it all wrong. Your path doesn’t look like anybody else’s because it can’t, it shouldn’t, and it won’t.” All of these things are very true.
When it comes to this particular topic, one of my favorite Scriptures is “He fashions their hearts individually; He considers all their works.” (Psalm 33:15 — AMPC) And, to this, I will add one of my favorite quotes of all-time: “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name of Larry Dixon is credited for saying that.)
Y’all, that client of mine is wasting a ton of time and insulting their own individuality by constantly comparing themselves to other people. Their goals, your goals, my goals — all of them are individual ones that have their own lane, purpose and timing. Please don’t spend — or is it waste? — a ton of moments paying attention to what others are doing. You can’t fully concentrate on your own self and your own life that way.
Have Weekly, Bi-Weekly, Monthly and Seasonal Goals
GiphySometimes goals are hella overwhelming because you will state a huge one to the world and then…that’s it. For instance, if you want to leave your job and start your own business within a year, that can seem semi-daunting unless you have smaller goals that can help you to reach your biggest one. And that’s why it’s always a good idea to come up with weekly, bi-weekly, monthly and seasonal (once a season) goals as well.
For this particular hypothetical — for the weekly goals, write down 3-5 things that you can do each week to shift you from your current job to your own business. For bi-weekly goals, 1-2 things. A monthly goal can be one thing (like putting money into your savings or business account) and your seasonal goals should be something that “puts a bow” on your weekly and bi-weekly ones.
Like if your weekly goals were about designing a website and your bi-weekly goals are about meeting with a life coach or someone who can help you to put your business together, your seasonal goals can be making sure that the site is done and that you have enough money saved up if you realize that you need to leave your job before the 12 months are up.
“Breaking up goals” will always make the process of accomplishing big things so much easier on your mind, body and spirit. Try it. I think that you will like it.
Get Yourself Some Accountability
GiphyEven though I am a marriage life coach, ask my clients and they will tell you that I think that the quote, “The excess of a virtue is a vice” even applies to seeing a therapist/counselor/coach. Meaning, even though meeting with a mental health professional is a STELLAR idea (and everyone should do it at some point in their life), if you’re not careful, you can find yourself in a codependent (if not completely dependent) relationship with your therapist/counselor/coach — and because they are making money off of your sessions, many won’t bring this possibility up.
That said, some experts say that when it comes to using professional support for specific issues, 10-20 sessions will probably suffice and, depending how long those are spaced out, that could equate to spending 1-2 years of time with them. As for my clients, some have been with me for years simply because we continue to roll over into new topics or goals to tackle. Either way, I recommend you reading articles like Open Counseling’s “5 Signs It’s Time to End Therapy (Plus a Huge Mistake to Avoid)” and The Atlantic’s “Plenty of People Could Quit Therapy Right Now” just to see if any of what is shared personally resonates.
And if you do sense that it’s time to shift, I personally think that it’s a good idea to schedule some, what I call, “oil change visits” (meaning, see your support every 3-6 months or so). Also, get yourself an accountability partner — because, at the end of the day, that’s a huge part of what a therapist/counselor/coach does for people: hold them accountable.
And yes, in order to stick to your goals, so that you are able to reach them, you need someone who will hold you accountable to what you said that you were going to do. My two cents would be to pick someone who is excited about what you want to do, is completely trustworthy and also an individual who you can hear and receive the good and challenging stuff — both about yourself and what you are doing — from. Also go with someone who is going to celebrate with you once your check-off list is complete…and won’t let up until it is.
A revolutionary by the name of Thomas Paine once said, “A body of men holding themselves accountable to nobody ought not to be trusted by anybody.” You wanna be truly great? Hold yourself accountable and do that, in part, by getting someone to help you to do that — someone who will do it both effectively and well.
Develop Your Strengths More than Your Weaknesses
GiphyMy friendship circle is dope. I mean, really dope. Since a lot of them are creatives, many will say some truly profound things that they think is the basic equivalent of saying “What’s up?” LOL. Take, my friend, Shannon (who can BLOW blow — check him here). Years ago, I heard him speak at the college I once attended (one that DEI is trying to remove my late fiancé’s scholarship for minorities as we speak — whew, that orange man…). Something he said that stood out to me is, “If you spend time developing your weaknesses, you will be mediocre. If you spend time developing your strengths, you will become supernatural.” LISTEN.
A compliment this same friend has given me (and because he’s got GRAMMYs, Emmys and a Dove Award, I am humbled) is he thinks that I can sing. He was actually caught off guard the first time he heard me because I’m pretty much only known for writing (and public speaking). Y’all don’t have enough time for a part of this being that I was never encouraged in my home to develop that talent. Another reason, though, is because singing, for me, is just that — a talent (a skill that takes some work).
Writing, for me, is a gift (an ability given by God that requires very little effort on my part). So, although I maybe could’ve done some background vocal sessions if I had focused on singing more, to get really, REALLY good at it would’ve taken a lot more work than where I’ve landed as a writer and author because my writing gift comes very naturally to me.
My (ultimate) point? When it comes to reaching your goals, gifts, talents and skill sets are going to have to come into play. And while you should definitely discipline your weaknesses (like say, your weakness is marketing), you’d be better off getting someone who is solid in that area to help you out, so that your energy and effort can go into what you know you are naturally strong at. Not only will that keep you motivated, it will make getting through your goals so much easier as well.
Revisit Your Goals Once a Month
GiphyEven though I’ve known it for quite some time, it’s still semi-difficult for me to comprehend that research says that each of us make somewhere around a whopping 35,000 decisions on a daily basis. And if that is indeed the case, since decisions find ways to alter who we are and how our lives play out, you should never just assume that a goal that you set three months ago, you will see the exact same way by this coming weekend.
Moral to the story here — make it a point and practice to revisit your goals on a monthly basis. The reason why is to make sure that you still feel the same way about each goal as you did…when you first set it or even four weeks ago. Not so much so that you will totally change it (a fickle goal is a never accomplished one); it’s more so you will do some editing, so that what you are trying to achieve makes the most sense to you.
Case in point: When I was in the process of writing my latest book, my initial goal was to have it come out in June — just like my first book did 20 years prior. However, because so much about me has evolved since then, it seemed to be a better fit to release it right after the new year that I observe (Rosh Hashanah) and close to the birthdays of two of my favorite men: my father and fiancé who are both gone now. The book still was written and released in 2024…I just tweaked the plan a bit, so that I could feel more at peace about my approach.
Write the goal. Edit as needed. It’s a great hack.
Honor ALL of Your Efforts
GiphyI try to toast myself, especially at the end of every week. I also am a huge fan of celebrating my achievements (big or small; it doesn’t matter). As I’ve gotten older (and hopefully wiser), though, I am really getting into the word “honor”. Honor is about respect, esteem and giving credit where credit is due. And if you have goals that you are genuinely and consistently striving for, you should honor the blood, sweat and tears that you put into them as well as honor yourself — because, unfortunately, many people will never see just how big and rich their life could’ve been if they had simply done the same.
THAT SAID — no, DO NOT WAIT until all of your goals are reached to honor what you’ve accomplished. For every weekly, bi-weekly, monthly and seasonal goal that you have hit, HONOR IT whether it’s by praising what you’ve done in a journal, setting an appointment to pamper yourself (which is a form of rejuvenation) or doing something that you know will give your self-esteem levels an extra boost. Doing this will help to keep you from feeling overwhelmed. It will give you something to look forward to. It will also keep your confidence levels where they need to be.
Remain (Semi) Flexible
GiphyAuthor and life coach Tony Robbins once said, “Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach” — and he’s spot-on. So many relationships end because people are stubborn. So many people self-sabotage plans because they are too rigid. And yes, many goals do not get accomplished because folks are too freakin’ inflexible.
- Got a budget for a goal and an unexpected expense comes up? Push the goal back a month; don’t quit altogether (don’t super procrastinate either).
- Had a big meeting with a potential investor that fell through? Find someone else.
- Got some things that came up that conflict with your goal-setting schedule? Cut down that social media or TV time to get the goals done.
Point is: Learn to bend and adjust because ish happens; that’s just how life is. Oh, but if you master what is probably my favorite Bruce Lee quote, you’d be amazed how little “life shifts” really will rattle you:
“Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.” (Bruce Lee)
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It’s the Canadian hockey player, Maxime Lagacé who once said, “It’s not the goal that will make you successful. It’s what you do daily.” And indeed, if you do, even just a little bit, goal-wise, on a daily basis — what once seemed really large and maybe even a bit intimidating, it will be closer to being accomplished than you realize.
So…feeling overwhelmed about a goal right now? Congrats. It must be pretty damn amazing.
And now that you know how to reach you…all you’ve got to do is…do that.
One tip — then step — at a time.
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