
Call me weird (it’s cool; I’m fine with that), yet one of my favorite things about this time of year is that the days are shorter — because I actually don’t mind when it’s dark outside.
There’s something about a chilly and starry night that totally puts me in the mood to light up a scented soy candle, cuddle up under a huge cable knit blanket and watch some sort of warm ‘n fuzzy movie as I sip on some hot chocolate — and yes, when time “falls back,” it means that moments like this can happen (a bit) quicker than usual (this year, time changes on November 2, by the way).
Yeah, I get that I am probably not in the majority when it comes to that specific part of the fall and winter seasons, though. In fact, The Guardian recently published an article entitled, “Daylight savings haters rejoice: scientists confirm it’s bad for health,” and Popular Mechanics published, “Americans Still Obey a Time System From 1916. Scientists Say It’s Breaking Our Bodies,” to confirm this very point.
As I was checking them both out, it inspired me to write this piece for those of you who may dread the one-hour time change (especially when you are “losing” an hour) while secretly wondering if you are blowing things totally out of proportion about it or…not.
Hmm…let’s see.
“Falling Back” Leads to an Increase of Health Risks
GiphyIf you’ve ever wondered if daylight savings time can have a direct impact on your health, the answer is “yes.” Some studies reveal that getting even one hour less of sleep than you are used to receiving can negatively impact your motor skills; weaken your immunity; increase inflammation; make it harder to concentrate; elevate mental and physical stress levels; result in (brief) memory loss, and even cause a bit of overall cognitive decline — and this brings me to the next point.
“Falling Back” Can Mess with Your Sleep Patterns
GiphyI’m not sure if an official end of daylight savings will ever happen (as far as the government is concerned); however, the American Academy of Sleep Medicine is certainly doing its part to bring it to a close. According to them, one of the biggest issues with time springing forward/falling back every year is it throws off your circadian rhythm which can throw off your sleep cycle.
And when you’re not getting enough rest, it can lead to depression; anxiety; an increased risk of type 2 diabetes and heart disease; more accidents; three times the chances of catching a cold, and even shortened longevity (which reminds me: check out “The Self-Care Bedtime Routine Every Single Woman Needs” when you get a chance).
“Falling Back” May Make You More Irritable in the Morning
GiphySpeaking of sleep, have you ever wondered why, if you’re not getting enough rest, you may end up feeling really irritable in the morning? There is actually a scientific explanation for that because sleep disruption can throw your hormones off — and when your system is on an emotional roller coaster ride, that can have you not feeling (or operating at) your best best. You might feel anxious. Your patience might be short. Mentally drained and even all-out frustrated may come with your hormonal yo-yo’ing too.
“Falling Back” Could Mean a Change in Your Appetite
GiphyDoes it seem like right around the time change, you crave more junk food or you’re eating more than you typically do? There are two hormones in your body that could play a role in that — ghrelin and leptin. Ghrelin is also known as “the hunger hormone” because it helps to regulate your appetite. Meanwhile, leptin helps to balance your appetite and weight. Well, if you find yourself eating an hour later (due to the “fall back”), that could cause your system to feel hungrier; not only that but it could also throw your hormones off a bit which could make you crave more carbs and sugar.
“Falling Back” Means Needing to Move with More Alertness
GiphyIf you lose an hour in the fall, there’s a pretty good chance that if you work outside of the home, you’re going to be caught in traffic while on the way to your house — and since it will be darker once 5 or 6 p.m. rolls around, that can increase your chances of experiencing a car accident; some studies say by as much as six percent.
And although household burglaries tend to drop, just a bit, during the fall season (I guess because thieves don’t want to take that big of a risk in colder weather), robberies overall tend to escalate right around “falling back” too. One study said that it’s because approximately 27 percent of robberies transpire right as the sun is setting and right after it actually does. Y’all be careful out here.
“Falling Back” Oftentimes Leads to More Alcohol and Caffeine Consumption
GiphyIf you want to learn more about what official alcohol consumption entails (as far as health professionals are concerned), feel free to go here. For the sake of today’s focus, it’s a good idea to keep in mind that two glasses a day for men and one glass a day for women are the (health) standard recommendation. That said, something else to keep in mind about falling back is it “tempts” some people to drink more than they usually do.
One reason could be that the colder the weather is, the more folks tend to spend time alone and the isolation may cause them to pass the time by drinking. Another may be due to the fact that consuming alcohol could make you feel (temporarily) warmer (which is more about it speeding up your heart rate and opening up your blood vessels more than anything else). Also, some folks find alcohol to feel comforting.
Whatever the reason, the cold and dark weather cultivates an atmosphere for alcohol consumption to significantly increase during the fall and winter seasons.
And then there’s coffee. I once read that coffee consumption drops somewhere around 12 percent during the summertime. Makes sense because people usually drink it hot and while it’s cold outside. However, did you also know that people like to have more java in the fall and winter because our taste buds shift to a richer palate in colder weather? Not to mention the fact that if you do need a bit of a pick-me-up, coffee can provide that (at least temporarily).
“Falling Back” Can Trigger Something Known As Social Jet Lag
GiphyIf you’ve never heard of social jet lag before, the long story short of it is it’s what happens whenever a person’s natural biological clock finds itself falling out of sync with their social calendar. In other words, when time changes influence how you sleep, that can also impact your health and even you having enough energy and interest to do other things like exercise, shop and hang out with your friends (which is sometimes referred to as the “winter blues”).
Still…a Bit of “Falling Back” Is Definitely in Your Head
GiphySo yes, as you can clearly see — if things feel a bit “off” whenever time changes, there is some scientific data to support that you probably aren’t gaslighting yourself…well, not completely. I frame it that way because, what research also reveals is, most of these mental and physical “issues” tend to only last for a couple of weeks as your system adjusts.
And what this means is, if you are still talking about you can’t get into the groove of things, after an hour time shift, well into February — well, you might be exaggerating or dramatizing things just a bit (except for when it comes to seasonal depression; you might want to speak with your doctor if you sense that is what’s going on).
Anyway, you know what they say: If you stay ready, you never have to get ready, right? Now that you know more about what “falling back” truly entails — you’ve still got a few weeks to get yourself ready for it.
For the sake of the transition going as smoothly as possible — sis, please make sure that you absolutely do.
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It’s nice to have a podcast when you’re constantly trending online. One week after setting timelines ablaze on Halloween, Kayla Nicole released an episode of her Dear Media pop culture podcast, The Pre-Game, where she took listeners behind the scenes of her viral costume.
The 34-year-old had been torn between dressing up as Beyoncé or Toni Braxton, she says in the episode. She couldn’t decide which version of Bey she’d be, though. Two days before the holiday, she locked in her choice, filming a short recreation of Braxton’s “He Wasn’t Man Enough for Me” music video that has since garnered nearly 6.5M views on TikTok.
Kayla Nicole says she wore a dress that was once worn by Braxton herself for the Halloween costume. “It’s not a secret Toni is more on the petite side. I’m obsessed with all 5’2” of her,” she tells xoNecole via email. “But I’m 5’10'' and not missing any meals, honey, so to my surprise, when I got the dress and it actually fit, I knew it was destiny.”
The episode was the perfect way for the multihyphenate to take control of her own narrative. By addressing the viral moment on her own platform, she was able to stir the conversation and keep the focus on her adoration for Braxton, an artist she says she grew up listening to and who still makes her most-played playlist every year. Elsewhere, she likely would’ve received questions about whether or not the costume was a subliminal aimed at her ex-boyfriend and his pop star fiancée. “I think that people will try to project their own narratives, right?” she said, hinting at this in the episode. “But, for me personally – I think it’s very important to say this in this moment – I’m not in the business of tearing other women down. I’m in the business of celebrating them.”
Kayla Nicole is among xoNecole’s It Girl 100 Class of 2025, powered by SheaMoisture, recognized in the Viral Voices category for her work in media and the trends she sets on our timelines, all while prioritizing her own mental and physical health. As she puts it: “Yes, I’m curating conversations on my podcast The Pre-Game, and cultivating community with my wellness brand Tribe Therepē.”
Despite being the frequent topic of conversation online, Kayla Nicole says she’s learning to take advantage of her growing social media platform without becoming consumed by it. “I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out,” she says.
On The Pre-Game, which launched earlier this year, she has positioned herself as listeners “homegirl.” “There’s definitely a delicate dance between being genuine and oversharing, and I’ve had to learn that the hard way. Now I share from a place of reflection, not reaction,” she says. “If it can help someone feel seen or less alone, I’ll talk about it within reason. But I’ve certainly learned to protect parts of my life that I cherish most. I share what serves connection but doesn’t cost me peace.
"I refuse to let the internet consume me. It’s supposed to be a resource and tool for connection, so if it becomes anything beyond that I will log out."

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Throughout each episode, she sips a cocktail and addresses trending topics (even when they involve herself). It’s a platform the Pepperdine University alumnus has been preparing to have since she graduated with a degree in broadcast journalism, with a concentration in political science.
“I just knew I was going to end up on a local news network at the head anchor table, breaking high speed chases, and tossing it to the weather girl,” she says. Instead, she ended up working as an assistant at TMZ before covering sports as a freelance reporter. (She’s said she didn’t work for ESPN, despite previous reports saying otherwise.) The Pre-Game combines her love for pop culture and sports in a way that once felt inaccessible to her in traditional media.
She’s not just a podcaster, though. When she’s not behind the mic, taking acting classes or making her New York Fashion Week debut, Kayla Nicole is also busy elevating her wellness brand Tribe Therepē, where she shares her workouts and the workout equipment that helps her look chic while staying fit. She says the brand will add apparel to its line up in early 2026.
“Tribe Therepē has evolved into exactly what I have always envisioned. A community of women who care about being fit not just for the aesthetic, but for their mental and emotional well-being too. It’s grounded. It’s feminine. It’s strong,” she says. “And honestly, it's a reflection of where I am in my life right now. I feel so damn good - mentally, emotionally, and physically. And I am grateful to be in a space where I can pour that love and light back into the community that continues to pour into me.”
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If there is one thing that I am going to do, it’s buy myself some scented soy candles. And, as I was looking at a display of them in a TJ Maxx store a couple of weekends ago, I found myself wondering just who decided which scents were considered to be “holiday” ones. The origin stories are actually pretty layered, so, for now, I’ll just share a few of ‘em.
I’m sure it’s pretty obvious that pine comes from the smell of fresh Christmas trees; however, scents like cloves, oranges, and cinnamon are attributed to two things: being natural ways to get well during the cold and flu season, and also being flavors that are used in many traditional holiday meals.
Meanwhile, frankincense and myrrh originate from the Middle East and Africa (you know, like the Bible does — some folks need to be reminded of that—eh hem — Trumpers) and ginger? It too helps with indigestion (which can definitely creep up at Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner tables); plus, it’s a key ingredient for ginger snaps and gingerbread houses. So, as you can see, holiday-themed scents have a rhyme and reason to them.
Tying this all in together — several years ago, I penned an article for the platform entitled, “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry ‘Christmas Sex’?” Well, in the spirit of revisiting some of that content, with a bit of a twist, I decided to broach some traditional holiday scents from the perspective of which ones will do your libido a ton of good from now through New Year’s Eve (check out “Make This Your Best NYE. For Sex. EVER.”).
Are you ready to check some of them out, so that, whether it’s via a candle, a diffuser, some essential oil, or some DIY body cream (check out “How To Incorporate All Five Senses To Have The Best Sex Ever”), you can bring some extra festive ambiance into your own boudoir? Excellent.
1. Vanilla

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When it comes to holiday desserts, you’re going to be hard-pressed to find recipes that don’t include vanilla — and that alone explains why it is considered to be a traditional holiday scent. As far as your libido goes, vanilla is absolutely considered to be an aphrodisiac — partly because its sweet scent is considered to be very sensual. Some studies even reveal that vanillin (the active ingredient in vanilla) is able to increase sexual arousal and improve erectile dysfunction in men. So, if you adore the smell, here is more incentive to use it.
2. Frankincense

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Although, typically, when people think about frankincense (and myrrh), it’s in the context of the gifts that the wise men brought Christ after he was born; it’s a part of the biblical Christmas story. However, frankincense goes much deeper than that. Sexually, since it has an earthy and spicy scent, some people like to use it to meditate (check out “What Exactly Is 'Orgasmic Meditation'?”). Also, since it has the ability to put you in a better mood, soothe and soften your skin and maintain your oral health — with the help of frankincense, every touch and kiss can be that much…sexier.
3. Cinnamon

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I already gave cinnamon a shout-out in the intro. Personally, I’ve been a fan of it, in the sex department, for a long time now (check out “12 ‘Sex Condiments’ That Can Make Coitus Even More...Delicious”). When it’s in oil form, it can be very sweet to the taste while sending a warm sensation throughout the body — which is why the giver and receiver of oral sex can benefit from its usage. Beyond that, cinnamon helps to increase blood flow to your genital region, elevate sexual desire and, some studies say that it can even help improve fertility. Beautiful.
4. Peppermint

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If there’s a signature candy for the holiday season, it’s probably a candy cane — which automatically puts peppermint in the running for being an official holiday scent. Pretty much, in any form, it’s got your sex life’s back because it’s hailed as being a sexual stimulant; in part, because its smell is so invigorating. Plus, it helps to (eh hem) ease headaches, it gives you more energy and it can definitely help to freshen your breath. Also, that minty sensation? The same thing that I said about cinnamon can apply to peppermint too (if you catch my drift).
5. Ginger

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Whether it’s in a meal or in your bedroom, ginger is going to produce results that are hella spicy. On the sex tip, science has praised ginger for being able to increase sexual arousal, improve blood circulation (which intensifies orgasms) and strengthen fertility for many years. Scent-wise, I find it to be one that both men and women enjoy because it is both woodsy and sweet. So, if you’ve got some massage oil in mind, adding some ginger is a way to please you both.
6. Pomegranate

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September through December is the time of year when pomegranates are considered to be in season. And, as someone who is a Rosh Hashanah observer, I have a personal adoration for them because I am aware of the various things that they symbolize in Hebrew culture including the fact that they are a fruit that represents love and fertility. So yeah, they would absolutely be an aphrodisiac — one that is perfect for this time of the year. While consuming it helps to boost testosterone levels in both men and women, the floral bittersweet smell that it produces can help to reduce stress while promoting relaxation (like most floral scents do) — and the more relaxed you are, the easier it is to climax.
7. Nutmeg

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Another signature seasoning during the holiday season is nutmeg. It’s perfect in Thanksgiving sweet potato (or pumpkin) pie and Christmas morning French toast. And yes, it can also make your sex life better. If you consume it, it can intensify your libido and, overall, its warm-meets-spicy-meets-sweet smell is so inviting that it is considered to be a pretty seductive scent.
8. Cloves

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I ain’t got not one lie to tell you — if you’ve got a toothache, put some clove oil on that bad boy and send me a Christmas present for putting you on game. Aside from that, as I round all of this out, cloves are another holiday scent that can do wonders for your sex life. For men, it has the ability to significantly increase sexual arousal and improve stamina and endurance. For men and women alike, it also has a reputation for strengthening sexual desire. And for women solely? Well, if you want an all-natural way to increase natural lubrication down below — the scent and and feel (in DILUTED oil form) can make that happen. It can make the holidays especially special…if you know what I mean.
Ah yes — the atmosphere of the holidays and what it can do.
Take it all in! Scent ‘n whatever stimulating that comes with it! #wink
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