I Got Clear On My Why

Like anything in life, what you want to accomplish first starts with being clear on why you want to accomplish it. My sabbatical wasn’t about a fun getaway; I was seeking confirmation as to whether LA should once again be my place of residence as I pursue my creative calling. And I wanted to test it out while still having the cushion of a 9-to-5 job and the ability to easily return home before spending thousands of dollars moving across the country.

This not only anchored my strategy moving forward but also made it easier to answer with confidence when curious (and concerned) minds wanted to know why I was leaving Atlanta for the summer.

In naming my why, I also acknowledged that my creativity deserved the same planning and seriousness I gave my corporate deadlines.

Maybe for you it’s not creative clarity. Maybe it’s having the opportunity to be still and dream again in a place you’ve always wanted to go. Or maybe it’s enjoying a quiet recharge away from the noise of your everyday life. Whatever your reason, your why is what will carry you through to the finish line when challenges try to stop you in your tracks.

I Identified Opportunities to Work Remotely

Once my why was clear, I had to figure out the how.

The idea for my 90-day creative sabbatical came after seeing a coworker spend a month overseas shooting a TV show while still working remotely in her downtime. I reached out to my manager to ask how she was able to do it, and I discovered that while PTO was limited, company policy allowed 90 days of domestic remote work. With my manager’s support, I secured approval.

It made me realize that we often don’t know all the benefits our companies offer, and many of us are afraid to ask. While a typical sabbatical includes pay without working, my situation required me to keep money flowing in, which meant shifting my language from “can I?” to “how can I?”

If you’re looking to do something similar, I’d encourage reaching out to your manager or HR team to see what opportunities they may have available.

I Created A Strategy for Cutting My Costs

Once I locked in my sabbatical start date, things started to feel real. I had a steady stream of income I could count on, but there was still one blocker: how was I going to pay my housing costs back home and in one of the most expensive cities in the country?

My original plan was to let a friend rent out my guest room, ideally close to the same cost I’d be paying for housing in LA. When that fell through, I was left with one option— rent my guest room to a stranger.

This may not be a big deal for some, but as someone particular about the people and energy I bring into my home, I hesitated. I had to remind myself that my home was only an asset if I chose to use it as such. With experience as a landlord, I listed my home on Furnished Finder— a mid-term rentals site for traveling professionals. In a short time, I found a tenant who was the perfect fit for a three-month stay.

I also came across home exchange platforms like HomeExchange and Kindred, where you make your home available to travelers from around the world in exchange for points or credits you can then use for your own stays. After completing two exchanges, I had enough points to book 11 days of free housing in a Downtown LA high-rise, saving me almost $1,000 in my first month.

This experience forced me to see my home not just as a place where I lived, but as an asset that could fund my dreams.

I Secured My Dream Home

Once I locked in my renter, I started looking to secure my own housing. I narrowed down walkable areas and turned to Furnished Finder to find the perfect fit.

I discovered a guest house in the Larchmont area of Los Angeles, which was not only great for getting around the city by foot or rideshare but also a peaceful space for a writer to thrive. On weekdays, I walked through beautiful neighborhoods that made me dream. On weekends, I worked in Larchmont Village cafés, planting the seeds of what I wanted next.

I Designed My Ideal Life

With housing secured both at home and in LA, I could finally focus on how I would spend my time. No longer was I succumbing to the hustle of adulthood. This was my opportunity to dream again without limitations, and I gave myself permission to create the life I truly wanted.

Excited, I pulled up my Milanote app and brainstormed what my days would look like — co-working with friends at coffee shops, dining at restaurants with mouth-watering menus, exploring overlooked corners of the city. I also identified opportunities to reconnect with people I hadn’t seen in years, planting seeds of community in case I made a permanent return.

Even before leaving for LA I could feel my creative wells flowing again. I came up with a blog series titled "Summer In LA," a slow-unfolding, real-time diary chronicling what happens when a woman steps away from the familiar and gives herself permission to feel again.

In reality, things didn’t always go according to plan— my job became more demanding than I’d expected. But having a vision made me feel intentional and purposeful, even when I had to pivot.

It was on the patio of Bricks and Scones, sipping a brown sugar oat milk latte, that the vision for my creative future began to unfold. It was while attending the festivities of the BET Awards and other exclusive events that I realized that the rooms I was in no longer aligned with the woman that I was becoming. It was a scenic train ride to Santa Barbara that reminded me that the life that I crave doesn’t come with soulless work and strict deadlines, it was freedom that I desired.

And it was why, by the end of the sabbatical, I bravely walked away from a job that no longer served me.

I left my time in LA with a quiet knowing that my life was about to change, and all I needed was the courage to embrace it. Perhaps your own sabbatical isn’t 90 days; even a one-week getaway can be the catalyst to your calling. What matters most isn’t the destination or the timeline, but the decision to create space for yourself and trusting that the life you imagine is worth pursuing.

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