

There’s so much power in not only how we see ourselves, but how we speak about who we desire to become. And in an era of “that girl” energy and “being delulu,” using your words to create or transform your reality can make a world of difference.
When we talk about living an abundant life, what can often be missed is how much our thoughts play into becoming a magnet for good fortune. “Change your thoughts, change your reality” isn’t just a clever cliche; it’s the framework for removing limiting beliefs to receive limitless opportunities and resources available to us.
The classic self-help guide, The Game of Life and How to Play It by Florence Scovel, delves into the principles of metaphysical thought and positive affirmations to achieve success and happiness. Through faith, visualization, and the power of positive affirmations, Scovel outlines how to use our words and thoughts to align with the energy of abundance.
When we place an emphasis on gratitude, having everything we need and everything naturally working out for our good, our realities will reflect these possibilities and solutions. And when we remove the “I can’t” to “How can I?” over time, our language will reshape our internal dialogue and, by extension, our external reality.
Let’s align with the energy of abundance with these powerful phrases to say every day — adjust each to the belief system you subscribe to.
Abundance Affirmations:
1. “God/Universe, show me how good life can get. I am open to receiving all the good that is available to me today.”
2. "Every day, I attract wealth and success into my life."I am grateful for the endless opportunities that come my way."
3. "I have everything I need to create the life I desire."
4. "Abundance flows to me effortlessly and continuously."
5. "Every day, in every way, I am becoming richer and richer. I am open to receiving limitless abundance in all areas of my life."
6. "I am worthy of all the abundance God/the Universe has to offer.”
7. “This isn’t happening to me, it’s happening for me.”
8. "I trust that the Universe is working in my favor and bringing me abundance."
9. "I am constantly discovering new ways to experience wealth, success, and fulfillment."
10. “I am a magnet for blessings and opportunity. Money flows to me without resistance and in abundance.”
11. “I release any limiting beliefs and embrace the mindset of abundance. There’s more than enough accessible to me.”
12. "My supply is endless, inexhaustible, and immediate. I give freely and receive abundantly."
13. "Prosperity surrounds me, fills me, and flows to me constantly."
14. "I trust that God/the Universe is providing for all my needs and desires."
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Originally published on May 27, 2024
Adrian Marcel On Purpose, Sacrifice, And The 'Signs Of Life'
In this week's episode of xoMAN, host Kiara Walker talked with R&B artist Adrian Marcel, who opened up, full of heart and authenticity, about his personal evolution. He discussed his days transitioning from a young Bay Area singer on the come-up to becoming a grounded husband and father of four.
With honesty and introspection, Marcel reflected on how life, love, and loss have shaped the man he is today.
On ‘Life’s Subtle Signals’
Much of the conversation centered around purpose, sacrifice, and listening to life’s subtle signals. “I think that you really have to pay attention to the signs of life,” Marcel said. “Because as much as we need to make money, we are not necessarily on this Earth for that sole purpose, you know what I mean?” While he acknowledged his ambitions, adding, “that is not me saying at all I’m not trying to ball out,” he emphasized that fulfillment goes deeper.
“We are here to be happy. We are here [to] fulfill a purpose that we are put on here for.”
On Passion vs. Survival
Adrian spoke candidly about the tension between passion and survival, describing how hardship can sometimes point us away from misaligned paths. “If you find it’s constantly hurting you… that’s telling you something. That’s telling you that you’re going outside of your purpose.”
Marcel’s path hasn’t been without detours. A promising athlete in his youth, he recalled, “Early on in my career, I was still doing sports… I was good… I had a scholarship.” An injury changed everything. “My femur broke. Hence why I always say, you know, I’m gonna keep you hip like a femur.” After the injury, he pivoted to explore other careers, including teaching and corporate jobs.
“It just did not get me—even with any success that happened in anything—those times, back then, I was so unhappy. And you know, to a different degree. Like not just like, ‘I really want to be a singer so that’s why I’m unhappy.’ Nah, it was like, it was not fulfilling me in any form or fashion.”
On Connection Between Pursuing Music & Fatherhood
He recalled performing old-school songs at age 12 to impress girls, then his father challenged him: “You can lie to these girls all you want, but you're really just lying to yourself. You ain't growing.” That push led him to the piano—and eventually, to his truth. “Music is my love,” Marcel affirmed. “I wouldn’t be a happy husband if I was here trying to do anything else just to appease her [his wife].”
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Ashley Versher is known for her work in the Tyler Perry's Beauty In Black series and more recently, she starred alongside Taraji P. Henson in the Netflix film Straw. But she is more than just her acting credits and stunning looks (her hair alone is everything). In an xoNecole exclusive, Ashley dishes on her first celebrity crush, how she spends her downtime, and her go-to haircare products because we need the deets.
Get to know Ashley below.
xoNecole: Where are you from?
Ashley Versher: San Francisco - BAY AREAAAAAA!!!!
xoN: What was your first major acting role?
AV: A 49ers Super Bowl commercial - I think I was 3.
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xoN: Have you ever had an embarrassing or funny audition story? If so, what happened?
AV: Yes! I was doing a self-tape once and I forgot to take off my bonnet. But the tape was so good I sent it in anyway.
xoN: Your hair is gorgeous. What has it been like navigating Hollywood with natural hair?
AV: Thank you so much! Navigating Hollywood with natural hair has definitely been a journey of self-discovery. Early on, I had to make a conscious decision about how I wanted to show up—not just in this industry, but for myself. Once I fully embraced my natural hair and committed to the journey, everything else began to align. It’s been nothing short of empowering.
Navigating Hollywood with natural hair has definitely been a journey of self-discovery. Early on, I had to make a conscious decision about how I wanted to show up—not just in this industry, but for myself.
xoN: What are your favorite go-to hair products?
AV: Ooooooo, right now I’m loving Camille Rose’s Jai Twisting Butter—it’s super moisturizing and gives me a fun, bouncy twist-out! I’ve also recently gotten into oils, and I’m especially loving sweet almond oil.
xoN: We know you as an actress, but what is another special talent you have that most people don't know about?
AV: I trained as a classical violinist for 13/14years.
xoN: Who is your hero?
AV: My mom. She’s incredible - full stop.
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Johnny Marlow
xoN: How do you like to spend your down time?
AV: Ha! What’s that!? Jk jk, I love to travel, that’s honestly my favorite thing.
xoN: Who was your first celebrity crush?
AV: Prince.
xoN: What is your dream role?
AV: One day I will play a witch with Harry Potter-like powers!
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