
Have you ever wondered why it seems as if you can never catch a break financially? Or do you find yourself complaining that you're "broke" more times than you would like to admit? I want to let you in on a little secret: your money mindset plays a major role in the overall success of your finances.
Those myths that you keep telling yourself, and believe to be true may be what's holding you back, boo. Most of the time you're thinking these things on a subconscious level and may not even realize the damage that's being done. But once you gain clarity and call out your limiting beliefs for what they are, you'll finally be able to break free and reach new levels financially.
Let's dig into a few myths that have a direct impact on your money and are keeping you BROKE.
1. “Money is the root of all evil.”
Nah, this right here is a straight-up LIE! The truth is this: the LOVE OF MONEY is the root of all evil. When you think that money is the root of all evil, you're limiting yourself from keeping money, as well as receiving more of it. Without even knowing it, you might be scared of going after opportunities that will get you to the money.
Think about it. How can money be evil? Money is simply a resource that we control. Instead of believing and saying that money is the root of all evil, replace it with this supporting belief instead:
"Money is a resource and a means to do good and live well."
2. "I'm broke."

Broke is a mindset, boo. Your financial situation is shaped by how you think about money, which influences how you manage your money. Guess what? If you keep crying that you're broke, you're going to remain that way. All you are doing is reinforcing that limiting belief into the universe and your actions aren't gonna line up with what you need to do in order to get ahead.
It's imperative that you get a grip on this way of thinking and behaving, or else you'll never be able to break the cycle. I challenge you to think more in terms of abundance and believing that you can be wealthy. Are you up for the challenge?
3. "I can afford it."
You say that you can afford that pair of shoes and then turn around and realize that you don't even have enough money for gas the morning after. You can't just look at your checking account balance in the moment and think that everything is all good. Trust me, I've been there. This is where having a clear-cut, written budget comes in handy.
A budget is really just a spending/savings plan. It's a strategic system that lets you know how much money is coming in and going out every month. In reality, a budget can:
- Help you understand your financial situation and whether you can really afford something or not.
- Help you save for the things you want and do more of what you enjoy.
- Help you avoid getting caught short by bills you can't pay.
- Help you escape the paycheck-to-paycheck life.
4. "I deserve to treat myself."
GiphyHow many "treats" do you need, sis? If you really sit down and keep it 100 with yourself, do you really deserve those so-called treats? Are you taking care of your responsibilities like you should be? Instead of buying things that you don't need (with money you don't have) and labeling them as a "treat," you should be treating yourself by investing in your future and saving some coins.
If you spend all of the money that you earn instead of saving and investing it, you will never create the financial abundance that you do desire to have.
Here's a tip: Try putting both your short-term and long-term savings on auto-pilot so you don't even notice the money that you could be missing. When you don't have to look at it, you aren't tempted by any "excess" that you might have.
5. "I need to make more money and then I'll be better with my finances."
If you can't manage the little that you have now, what makes you think that you're gonna be able to manage more money? The more money you make, the more you're gonna spend if you don't get those habits in check early on. You're going to go right back to complaining about your finances and crying that you're still broke and in need of even more money. You'll never be satisfied. There will never be enough money. Remember, there are former millionaires who are struggling out here in these streets because they wanted to live a "fake fancy" lifestyle and ball out of control.
Start by being content with the income that you currently have and handling it with better care. Learn the ins and outs of sound financial management now, so that when you're finally blessed with more, you'll be able to manage it with ease.
I challenge you to start thinking better, which will ultimately lead to you doing better. It's time to prioritize your finances in a way that you haven't done before if you want to level up this year. It's time to activate your discipline. It's time to finally do something different.
Make the commitment to yourself and decide that absolutely nothing's gonna stand in your way of breaking that broke mentality.
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Originally published on January 5, 2018
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Your October 2025 Monthly Horoscopes Are All About Magnetic Love & Divine Timing
October is about the power of attraction. This is the month to set your intentions, create space for a new beginning, and find your balance between the past, present, and future. There aren’t many astrological transits this month, signaling more possibilities in the air and an opportunity to create that which you desire.
We begin the month in Libra Season, and Libra Season is always the time of year when love is the highlight. With Juno also entering Sagittarius on October 1, right as we begin the month, it’s about committing yourself to a new adventure, to the gifts of love, and to perspectives that heal and bring you closer to another.
October 2025 Astrology: An Overview
Mercury enters Scorpio on October 6, and Mercury in Scorpio only knows depth. The conversations being had this month are inspiring, transformative, and a little more blunt than usual. This energy is good for the power of persuasion and for asking for what you want, especially within business and financial matters. On the same day, we have a Supermoon in Aries, and this is a powerful Full Moon for reflection, owning your power, and letting go of the insecurities that don’t resonate with what you want for yourself and your future.
Venus, the planet of love, moves into Libra on October 13 after being in Virgo for the past month, and after some time of healing and clarity in love, Libra is here to bring in the romance. Venus loves being in Libra, and this energy creates new beginnings within relationships and provides a little extra magic in this area of life. With Pluto going direct in Aquarius on the same day after being retrograde since May, life and love move forward mid-October, helping provide more stable and nurturing foundations in your personal life and community as well.
The New Moon of the month occurs in Libra on October 21, making it a beautiful time for manifesting romance, balance, and harmony in your world.
This New Moon aligns with the Sun in Libra, and it’s all about letting a new beginning transform your world and the love in your life for the better. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and Neptune retrograde enters Pisces on the same day, bringing in some water sign energy into the mix. As we close out the month, it’s time to renew, honor the transformations occurring, and know that your dreams aren’t as far out of reach as they may seem at times.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what October 2025 has in store for you.
What October 2025 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
ARIES
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is all about perspective, Aries. This is the month to trust the divine timing of your life, and not let the what-ifs overwhelm you. With the Sun in Libra, your sister sign, for most of the month, October is about building connections, finding your balance in love, and knowing that you are worthy of what your heart is seeking right now. We have a Supermoon in your sign on October 6, and emotions are a little heavier this month, but also healing. Give yourself grace, and let go of what isn’t working for you.
Venus is in your house of love from October 13 until November 6, and there is a lot to look forward to when it comes to romance and the relationship dynamics in your life as you move through the month. It’s about being confident in your power of attraction and letting love come to you right now. Before October comes to an end, we have a New Moon in your 7th house of love as well, and with all this energy in your relationship zone, life changes for you in love for the better in October.
TAURUS
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a spiritual month for you, Taurus. You are thinking a lot about your next steps ahead, and are getting organized, focused, and aligned. The Supermoon on October 6 is a time of reflection for you, and you are entering the month ready to let go of the past, heal, and create space for something new in your life. This month is all about trusting your intuition and letting your wisdom guide you in your personal growth and evolution.
You are more than where you have been, and this month is a reminder of that.
With Mars in Scorpio and in your 7th house of love all month, you are motivated by the partnerships in your life right now. Your love life and relationships are where the action is for you this month, and you are honoring your passion and direction here. Venus, your planetary ruler, moves into your house of health mid-month and into November, and you are leaving October seeking healthier habits, daily routines, and relationships. Overall, this month is helping you align with your vision.
GEMINI
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is a fresh start for you, Gemini. Your heart is free, love is beaming, and you are feeling larger than life. This month is about taking a leap of faith in yourself, honoring your confidence in life, and being your biggest advocate. With the Sun in your 5th house of self-expression, romance, and happiness, and with Venus entering this same area of your chart mid-October, there is a lot to look forward to right now, and things are looking up for you.
On October 21, we have a New Moon in a fellow air sign, and this is a good time to set your intentions for creative projects, hobbies, romance, and your overall happiness in life. There are a lot of little moments of magic unfolding for you this month, and this New Moon is one of them. Before October comes to an end, Mercury, your ruling planet, enters Sagittarius, and this brings open communication into your relationships, and you are having lively conversations and insights.
CANCER
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis is a transformative month for you, Cancer. You are moving through closure, healing, and depth as you navigate the opportunities that are coming into your life, with the stability you are seeking. With the Sun in your 4th house of home and family in October, this is the month to spend more time in your safe spaces, connect with your loved ones, and get grounded. You are also more focused on your financial world right now, and this is a good time for building new foundations for yourself and looking at the bigger picture when it comes to your career and life goals.
Mars is in your house of romance and happiness for the entire month, and this is one of the highlights of your life right now. You are passionate about your joy and all the things that light you up inside, and you are protecting your peace and giving more of your energy to your pleasure. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Libra, highlighting your home life, and some Cancers may be moving at the end of the month or getting the opportunity to turn a page here. Overall, this is your month to reflect, go within, and make sense of what has been restricting you from feeling stable.
LEO
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about taking things one day at a time and being patient with what is presenting itself to you, Leo. This month, you are getting your ducks in a row and gaining the clarity needed to create a new beginning in your life. The month begins with a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign on October 6, aligning in harmony with you and fueling your need for adventure. You are going over the wisdom you have gained as of late and how it has shifted the way you navigate your life and see the world around you.
On October 13, Pluto goes direct in your 7th house of love, after being retrograde here since May. This is bringing in more balance, empowerment, and passion into your love life, and this is a positive change of energy for you after a time of some power struggles within your relationships. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and this New Moon is the best time to set intentions for clarity, communication, and connection. October is about taking your time with things and knowing that everything is working out in your favor at the end of the day.
VIRGO
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis October is about finding your balance, Virgo. There is a lot of energy when it comes to your finances this month, but you may be overworking or overcommitting yourself in the process. Honor the opportunities and responsibilities in your life, but make sure you are equally taking care of your health and prioritizing your time and energy so that you don’t burn out. Venus, the planet of love, is in your sign until October 13; use this energy to your benefit and let things come to you.
You are a magnet for abundance, romance, and support if you allow yourself to receive it.
On October 13, Venus moves into your 2nd house of income, and your relationships are a supportive place for you to lean on right now. Your love life and partnerships are where your financial world is evolving this month, and this is a good time to ask for what you want; you never know what may happen. At the end of the month, Neptune goes retrograde in your sister sign, Pisces, and you are taking a step back and reassessing what love means for you right now. Overall, October is about remembering that you don’t have to do it all alone, Virgo.
LIBRA
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLibra Season is here, and it’s your time to shine and thrive! This Libra Season changes everything for you, and October is when you really begin to feel this shift in your life. The Sun is in your sign until October 22, and it’s time to put yourself first. With a Supermoon in Aries as we begin the month as well, you are letting go of any unhealthy attachments or relationship dynamics that take you away from yourself, and are moving into deeper clarity.
On October 13, Venus, your planetary ruler, enters your sign, where it loves to be the most. With Venus in your sign for the rest of the month, love takes on a new tone, and you are feeling more love for yourself and where life is taking you right now. To end the month, we have a New Moon in Libra, and it’s time to set your intentions for where you want life to grow for you over the next year. This is a month of embarking on a new journey of self, and allowing what is inspiring you right now to build your confidence in yourself and your relationships.
SCORPIO
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about honoring your freedom and your power to decide, Scorpio. A lot is going on for you this month, and you have the passion and energy to see things through. Mercury, the planet of communication, moves into your sign at the beginning of the month on October 6, and this is going to help you get your ideas across, making it a good month for business matters, networking, and getting inspired. With Mars also in your sign for the entire month, life moves forward for you in transformative ways in October, and you are a force to be reckoned with.
On October 13, Venus moves into your house of closure, healing, and endings, and you are ready to close one chapter of love and create space for a new one. You are in a contemplative space when it comes to matters of the heart, and you are ready to let go of any heaviness you have been feeling here. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and you are ready to begin again. This Scorpio Season is about owning your confidence in life while letting go of insecurities or self-doubts that have been getting in the way of that.
SAGITTARIUS
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleEverything unfolds for you in a beautiful way this month, Sagittarius. You are flowing well with the energy of October, and life opens up to you. With the Sun in your 11th house of aspirations, dreams, manifestations, and community, you are feeling in balance with your desires and your reality, and are bridging the gap here. This is a month of friendship, believing in your dreams, and creating space for love. With Juno also entering your sign at the beginning of the month until the end of the year, you are attracting soulmates into your life.
On October 6, we have a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign, allowing you some closure in love and a chance at healing. Your heart is feeling renewed, and you are owning your power in creating happiness in your life. Before the month ends, Mercury moves into Sagittarius, where it will be until mid-November, and inspiration is heightened. Pay attention to the guidance you are receiving this month, the conversations you are having, and the light bulb moments that are going off for you right now.
CAPRICORN
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about going within and connecting with the guidance of your soul, Capricorn. You are taking more time for yourself this month, and rightly so, as you need time to fully process what has happened so far this year. Pluto goes direct in your 2nd house of income, and this moves things forward when it comes to your earning potential, abundance, and values.
The key this month is in valuing yourself, your perspective, and what you are building in your life right now.
On October 21, we have a New Moon happening in your career zone, and this is a good time to manifest your goals within your professional world. Put yourself out there, show up, and know that you are worthy of success and that your dreams aren’t too big for you. As we close out the month, Mercury moves into your house of closure, even further facilitating your desire for contemplation and alone time this month. Overall, October is about taking care of your mental health, owning your successes, and finding your peace.
AQUARIUS
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a new beginning for you in love and in life, Aquarius. Your heart is feeling inspired, and there is a lot to look forward to right now. The Supermoon at the beginning of the month will be occurring in your 3rd house of communication, giving you the answers you have been looking for and helping you close the door on a chapter in your life that left you feeling misunderstood or misdirected. You are ready for a change of pace this month, and you are receiving that as we begin October.
Mid-October, Pluto goes direct in your sign after being retrograde since May, and this is a huge breath of fresh air for you and your path ahead. You may have been a little harder on yourself while Pluto was retrograde this year, and now you feel ready to forgive, move on, and own your power. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and you are embarking on a new adventure. The end of the month is a good time for traveling, exploring, and gaining a new perspective.
PISCES
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is giving you the guidance, perspective, and passion to see yourself with clear, loving eyes, Pisces. There is a sense of feeling more overwhelmed with life lately, and October is allowing you to gain the insight needed to move on from this energy, or at least see more of the gifts of what has occurred. On October 6, we have a Supermoon in an area of your chart having to do with self-worth, values, and income, and it’s time to see the gifts of what you have been investing in and valuing in your life, including yourself.
Let go of the need to play it small or count yourself out of important conversations, and know that you deserve a seat at the table.
With Pluto going direct in your 12th house of healing as we end the month, you are finally getting the answers you have been looking for emotionally, and it’s changing your perspective on your commitments in life and making you feel empowered. Before the month ends, Neptune goes retrograde in Pisces, and you are going to be moving through a personal revolution as we close out the year. You are inspired by change right now, and this month is what kicks starts this metamorphosis within you.
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What Your Scalp Needs You To Do If You Wear Wigs Or Weaves
There is something that you should always keep in mind when it comes to your hair and scalp — they aren’t exactly like the rest of your body. What I mean by that is, as far as your hair is concerned, what’s inside of your hair follicle is living (which is why you can feel it when you pull a strand of hair out of your head); however, the rest of your hair? It’s dead (which is why you don’t feel it whenever you cut it).
And your scalp? If you ever hear “it needs to breathe” — well, there is some truth and some exaggeration that come with that.
Yes, your scalp requires oxygen and care because it is skin — and, in some ways, it needs to be handled with even more intention and care than other parts of your body (check out “Your Scalp Ages Six Times Faster Than Your Face. Why It Matters.”); however, does it need to breathe like, say, your lungs do? Nope. And that is why you can feel perfectly fine about wearing your wigs or weaves without worrying that you are damaging your scalp in the process.
There is a caveat to what I just said, though: It’s important that you do some “pre-” and “post-” care for your scalp, just so that it remains in optimal health while you are choosing these particular types of hairstyles. And that is what we’re going to explore today — how to properly care for your scalp before putting on a wig or weave and…after you remove ‘em.
PRE-WIG/WEAVE
A Scalp Treatment
If either you don’t know what a scalp treatment is or you can’t remember the last time that you got one — it’s past time for you to put this on your priority list. Honestly, whether you rock wigs or weaves or not, it’s a good idea to go to a (reputable) salon to get your scalp professionally massaged and exfoliated because the massaging will increase blood circulation to your scalp (which makes your scalp and hair healthier) and the exfoliating will help to remove scalp build-up, unclog your hair follicles and get rid of any dandruff flakes that you may have.
Plus, a thorough scalp treatment can reduce your chances of experiencing hair thinning or loss from your wigs or weaves — and you definitely need to stay on top of that. That said, if you’d prefer to do a scalp treatment at home, some cool recipes can be found here. It’s a good idea to give yourself one 3-5 days before installing your wig or weave.
A Moisturizing Shampoo
Remember how I said in the intro that your scalp typically ages at a much faster rate than the rest of your skin does? A part of that is because scalps tend to be parched — and that’s because we’re not proactive enough about providing it with the moisture that it so desperately needs.
One way to hydrate it is to wash your scalp and hair with a deeply moisturizing shampoo. Those are dope because not only do they not strip your scalp of its natural sebum, they also help to keep the pH balance of your scalp where it needs to be. Amazon has a wide variety of hydrating shampoos listed here.
A Tea Tree and Lavender Oil Blend
I really hope that you don’t forego the scalp treatment tip (especially if you plan on wearing your wig or weave for more than a few days at a time); however, if you do, definitely make sure to create a blend of tea tree oil, lavender oil and a carrier oil — all of these work together to nourish and protect your scalp. Tea tree oil is great because it contains anti-inflammatory and antifungal properties that can reduce bacteria and help to prevent scalp irritation from occurring.
Lavender oil is awesome because it has antimicrobial properties that can reduce itching, inflammation and dandruff. A carrier oil like rosemary will increase blood circulation to your scalp while one like avocado oil can deeply moisturize your scalp. Apply it to your scalp before your installation and keep it on tap for “touch ups” (where you can reach your scalp) along the way as well.
A Silk-Lined Wig Cap
When it comes to wigs, specifically, make sure that your wig cap is one that comes with silk lining. Not only will that help to reduce the friction of your wig (which could lead to frizz and even breakage of your natural hair), it can also help to keep your natural hair from drying out (which can also cause breakage over time). As a bonus, a silk-lined cap is a breathable fabric that can “cushion” your scalp, so that it doesn’t become irritated and inflamed by your wig. A variety of options to choose from are located here and here.
A Quality Wig/A Professional Weave
Wigs these days have come a LONG way, chile. I mean, just think about it — some of them can stay on your head for as much as 4-6 weeks at a time! And that is why it is so important — crucial, even — that you only invest in quality wigs: ones that are lightweight, fit well and are customizable. Some other things to look out for are wigs that shed very little and are advertised to last 1-3 years (if it’s human hair) and no less than 3-6 months (if it’s synthetic). All of these tips will not only help you to get the most out of your wig — it will keep your scalp in tip-top shape for a longer period of time too.
As far as weaves go — listen, YouTube and TikTok will have you out here thinking that you can build a house let alone install a weave. Still, for the sake of your scalp’s overall health and well-being (especially if you plan on keeping your weave in for several weeks at a time), invest in having a professional do it. They can recommend the best hair to use, they are trained to install your weave in a way that is comfortable on your head (and doesn’t pull too tight on your edges and nape) and typically know how to give your scalp some “breathing room,” so that you can care for it while your weave is in.
POST-WIG/WEAVE
A Scalp Detox
If there has been a wig or weave sitting on your scalp for weeks at a time, you absolutely need to detox your scalp once you remove it. Back in the day, I actually wrote an article on this topic entitled, “Treat Your Scalp To A Little Bit Of Detoxing This Weekend.” However, I can also give you some quickie tips here: after taking off your wig or weave, wash your hair and scalp with a clarifying shampoo (to remove any sebum, sweat or product build-up); apply a scalp mask (to deeply cleanse your scalp); rinse your hair and scalp with an apple cider vinegar mixture (to restore your scalp’s pH balance), and consider steaming your scalp (in order to deeply hydrate it).
A Scalp Massage
With a wig or tracks in the way, it’s hard to really get to your scalp — and that’s why it’s always a good idea to either get or give yourself a scalp massage once you remove your “other” hair. Scalp massages are super beneficial because not only do they reduce stress and tension, they also help to get the blood circulation going in your scalp, so that your hair follicles are able to receive even more of the nutrients that they need in order for your hair to be/remain healthy and strong.
Another bonus that comes with a scalp massage is it helps your scalp to produce natural sebum which can condition that part of your body as well. Plus, they feel amazing.
A Hot Oil Treatment
While you’re in the process of getting or giving yourself a scalp massage, it will serve you oh so very well to apply a hot oil treatment to your scalp too. Aside from the fact that hot oil treatments feel wonderful, they can help to reduce hair frizzing, they encourage blood circulation to your scalp and they are ideal for removing scalp flakes that may have made their way to your scalp while you had your wig or weave on.
And which oils should you use for this particular treatment? Jojoba oil helps to balance your scalp’s sebum levels. Castor oil helps to protect your scalp’s follicles. Grapeseed contains antioxidants and vitamin E that can help to heal your scalp. Essential oils like peppermint and ginger help to stimulate your scalp and encourage hair growth and strength.
A Zinc Spray
Zinc is a mineral that can benefit you in a myriad of different ways. It can boost your immunity. It can reduce the stress that is within your system. Due to its powerful anti-inflammatory properties, it can also help to speed up the healing process of acne as well. And when it’s in the form that’s known as zinc pyrithione, the antifungal, antibacterial and antimicrobial properties that are in it can help to clear up any fungal or bacteria-related issues that may have transpired on your scalp while you were wearing your wigs or weaves.
So, whether it’s in the form of a shampoo or spray, you can’t go wrong with applying zinc pyrithione to your scalp (if you’re not allergic to it, that is).
A Thorough Wig Cleansing
I once heard someone say that getting back with an ex is like hopping out of the shower and putting the same underwear back on. SMDH. LOL. While that is semi-debatable (I mean, check out “I'm Thrilled That Ryan Destiny & Keith Powers Are Back Together. 5 Things Before Reuniting With Your Ex, Tho.”), I won’t lie — that is exactly what came to my mind when I thought about this last tip: because what’s the point in following all of these scalp care tips — if you’re just going to turn around and put a dirty wig back onto your clean scalp? RIDICULOUS.
So yes, definitely make sure that you take out a couple of hours to really — and I mean, really — cleanse your wig. There are some videos that can help you out here, here, and here.
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Are wigs and weaves considered to be protective styles? They are. However, what’s the point in using them for that purpose if your natural hair and scalp are suffering in the process?
Hopefully, these tips will help to prevent that from ever being an issue — because, in the long run, a wig or weave is only as beautiful as the hair it protects. Straight up.
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