Summer Walker Believes Investing In A Spiritual Coach And Therapist Is Essential

The very pregnant Summer Walker has had somewhat of a tough time adjusting to fame. In fact, she has openly criticized it, often mentioning that the lifestyle is not for her and leaving fans walking a very fine line of respecting someone's boundaries, and selfishly wanting more music. Despite it all, the R&B crooner has gained the respect of industry peers and mentors alike, allowing us the space to enjoy her voice for that much longer.
A combination of all the above compelled Walker take to social media to encourage us all to seek help in navigating those areas that make us uncomfortable, an area in which she is newly engaged in. She wrote:
bags & chains are nice but seriously if your willing to drop that type of money you should really consider investing in a spiritual life coach & a therapist. Mann that shit is really liberating. It's essential for healing that child hood trauma that WE ALL have (shadow work) & plays a major part in transitioning into a well rounded multifaceted evolved & mature adult. you'll stop hurting yourself & others only opening soo many doors mentally spiritually physically & financially. & honestly lol to come healed is extremely attractive. I hope this encourages someone to start their spiritual/mental health journey.
Walker, who has been vocal about her childhood trauma, says the roots of her trauma are deep, even ultimately influencing the men she chooses to date. And now that she is expecting her first child with on-again-off-again boyfriend/producer London On Da Track, she has openly criticized--and accepted responsibility for--her own decisions, and has linked the two as going hand-in-hand.
"I have the worst taste in men. I like literally find my childhood trauma and then date it."
But make no mistake, she also holds the men she chooses just as responsible for not seeking out their own therapy or mental mechanisms to better themselves. She wrote on Instagram:
"Black men gotta start doing better when it comes to being a father. My grandfather lame, my father lame & dis n**** lame. lol and I guess the cycle will continue. I guess n***** still dealing with the shackles of mental slavery or some s***, back when whit men ripped you from your families and beat you to death if you tried to protect them. It goes deep. S**** really sad…But at least I can afford to take care of my child."
Regardless of any blame at all, it's important for us to seek therapy to become the best versions of ourselves. Additionally, by doing so, you are giving yourself the opportunity to explore your thoughts, feelings, and patterns of behavior. So, for 2021, here’s to giving ourselves the grace to end our own generational damages.
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Your October 2025 Monthly Horoscopes Are All About Magnetic Love & Divine Timing
October is about the power of attraction. This is the month to set your intentions, create space for a new beginning, and find your balance between the past, present, and future. There aren’t many astrological transits this month, signaling more possibilities in the air and an opportunity to create that which you desire.
We begin the month in Libra Season, and Libra Season is always the time of year when love is the highlight. With Juno also entering Sagittarius on October 1, right as we begin the month, it’s about committing yourself to a new adventure, to the gifts of love, and to perspectives that heal and bring you closer to another.
October 2025 Astrology: An Overview
Mercury enters Scorpio on October 6, and Mercury in Scorpio only knows depth. The conversations being had this month are inspiring, transformative, and a little more blunt than usual. This energy is good for the power of persuasion and for asking for what you want, especially within business and financial matters. On the same day, we have a Supermoon in Aries, and this is a powerful Full Moon for reflection, owning your power, and letting go of the insecurities that don’t resonate with what you want for yourself and your future.
Venus, the planet of love, moves into Libra on October 13 after being in Virgo for the past month, and after some time of healing and clarity in love, Libra is here to bring in the romance. Venus loves being in Libra, and this energy creates new beginnings within relationships and provides a little extra magic in this area of life. With Pluto going direct in Aquarius on the same day after being retrograde since May, life and love move forward mid-October, helping provide more stable and nurturing foundations in your personal life and community as well.
The New Moon of the month occurs in Libra on October 21, making it a beautiful time for manifesting romance, balance, and harmony in your world.
This New Moon aligns with the Sun in Libra, and it’s all about letting a new beginning transform your world and the love in your life for the better. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and Neptune retrograde enters Pisces on the same day, bringing in some water sign energy into the mix. As we close out the month, it’s time to renew, honor the transformations occurring, and know that your dreams aren’t as far out of reach as they may seem at times.
Read for your sun and rising sign below to see what October 2025 has in store for you.
What October 2025 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
ARIES
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is all about perspective, Aries. This is the month to trust the divine timing of your life, and not let the what-ifs overwhelm you. With the Sun in Libra, your sister sign, for most of the month, October is about building connections, finding your balance in love, and knowing that you are worthy of what your heart is seeking right now. We have a Supermoon in your sign on October 6, and emotions are a little heavier this month, but also healing. Give yourself grace, and let go of what isn’t working for you.
Venus is in your house of love from October 13 until November 6, and there is a lot to look forward to when it comes to romance and the relationship dynamics in your life as you move through the month. It’s about being confident in your power of attraction and letting love come to you right now. Before October comes to an end, we have a New Moon in your 7th house of love as well, and with all this energy in your relationship zone, life changes for you in love for the better in October.
TAURUS
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a spiritual month for you, Taurus. You are thinking a lot about your next steps ahead, and are getting organized, focused, and aligned. The Supermoon on October 6 is a time of reflection for you, and you are entering the month ready to let go of the past, heal, and create space for something new in your life. This month is all about trusting your intuition and letting your wisdom guide you in your personal growth and evolution.
You are more than where you have been, and this month is a reminder of that.
With Mars in Scorpio and in your 7th house of love all month, you are motivated by the partnerships in your life right now. Your love life and relationships are where the action is for you this month, and you are honoring your passion and direction here. Venus, your planetary ruler, moves into your house of health mid-month and into November, and you are leaving October seeking healthier habits, daily routines, and relationships. Overall, this month is helping you align with your vision.
GEMINI
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is a fresh start for you, Gemini. Your heart is free, love is beaming, and you are feeling larger than life. This month is about taking a leap of faith in yourself, honoring your confidence in life, and being your biggest advocate. With the Sun in your 5th house of self-expression, romance, and happiness, and with Venus entering this same area of your chart mid-October, there is a lot to look forward to right now, and things are looking up for you.
On October 21, we have a New Moon in a fellow air sign, and this is a good time to set your intentions for creative projects, hobbies, romance, and your overall happiness in life. There are a lot of little moments of magic unfolding for you this month, and this New Moon is one of them. Before October comes to an end, Mercury, your ruling planet, enters Sagittarius, and this brings open communication into your relationships, and you are having lively conversations and insights.
CANCER
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis is a transformative month for you, Cancer. You are moving through closure, healing, and depth as you navigate the opportunities that are coming into your life, with the stability you are seeking. With the Sun in your 4th house of home and family in October, this is the month to spend more time in your safe spaces, connect with your loved ones, and get grounded. You are also more focused on your financial world right now, and this is a good time for building new foundations for yourself and looking at the bigger picture when it comes to your career and life goals.
Mars is in your house of romance and happiness for the entire month, and this is one of the highlights of your life right now. You are passionate about your joy and all the things that light you up inside, and you are protecting your peace and giving more of your energy to your pleasure. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in Libra, highlighting your home life, and some Cancers may be moving at the end of the month or getting the opportunity to turn a page here. Overall, this is your month to reflect, go within, and make sense of what has been restricting you from feeling stable.
LEO
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about taking things one day at a time and being patient with what is presenting itself to you, Leo. This month, you are getting your ducks in a row and gaining the clarity needed to create a new beginning in your life. The month begins with a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign on October 6, aligning in harmony with you and fueling your need for adventure. You are going over the wisdom you have gained as of late and how it has shifted the way you navigate your life and see the world around you.
On October 13, Pluto goes direct in your 7th house of love, after being retrograde here since May. This is bringing in more balance, empowerment, and passion into your love life, and this is a positive change of energy for you after a time of some power struggles within your relationships. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and this New Moon is the best time to set intentions for clarity, communication, and connection. October is about taking your time with things and knowing that everything is working out in your favor at the end of the day.
VIRGO
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis October is about finding your balance, Virgo. There is a lot of energy when it comes to your finances this month, but you may be overworking or overcommitting yourself in the process. Honor the opportunities and responsibilities in your life, but make sure you are equally taking care of your health and prioritizing your time and energy so that you don’t burn out. Venus, the planet of love, is in your sign until October 13; use this energy to your benefit and let things come to you.
You are a magnet for abundance, romance, and support if you allow yourself to receive it.
On October 13, Venus moves into your 2nd house of income, and your relationships are a supportive place for you to lean on right now. Your love life and partnerships are where your financial world is evolving this month, and this is a good time to ask for what you want; you never know what may happen. At the end of the month, Neptune goes retrograde in your sister sign, Pisces, and you are taking a step back and reassessing what love means for you right now. Overall, October is about remembering that you don’t have to do it all alone, Virgo.
LIBRA
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleLibra Season is here, and it’s your time to shine and thrive! This Libra Season changes everything for you, and October is when you really begin to feel this shift in your life. The Sun is in your sign until October 22, and it’s time to put yourself first. With a Supermoon in Aries as we begin the month as well, you are letting go of any unhealthy attachments or relationship dynamics that take you away from yourself, and are moving into deeper clarity.
On October 13, Venus, your planetary ruler, enters your sign, where it loves to be the most. With Venus in your sign for the rest of the month, love takes on a new tone, and you are feeling more love for yourself and where life is taking you right now. To end the month, we have a New Moon in Libra, and it’s time to set your intentions for where you want life to grow for you over the next year. This is a month of embarking on a new journey of self, and allowing what is inspiring you right now to build your confidence in yourself and your relationships.
SCORPIO
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about honoring your freedom and your power to decide, Scorpio. A lot is going on for you this month, and you have the passion and energy to see things through. Mercury, the planet of communication, moves into your sign at the beginning of the month on October 6, and this is going to help you get your ideas across, making it a good month for business matters, networking, and getting inspired. With Mars also in your sign for the entire month, life moves forward for you in transformative ways in October, and you are a force to be reckoned with.
On October 13, Venus moves into your house of closure, healing, and endings, and you are ready to close one chapter of love and create space for a new one. You are in a contemplative space when it comes to matters of the heart, and you are ready to let go of any heaviness you have been feeling here. Scorpio Season officially begins on October 22, and you are ready to begin again. This Scorpio Season is about owning your confidence in life while letting go of insecurities or self-doubts that have been getting in the way of that.
SAGITTARIUS
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleEverything unfolds for you in a beautiful way this month, Sagittarius. You are flowing well with the energy of October, and life opens up to you. With the Sun in your 11th house of aspirations, dreams, manifestations, and community, you are feeling in balance with your desires and your reality, and are bridging the gap here. This is a month of friendship, believing in your dreams, and creating space for love. With Juno also entering your sign at the beginning of the month until the end of the year, you are attracting soulmates into your life.
On October 6, we have a Supermoon in a fellow fire sign, allowing you some closure in love and a chance at healing. Your heart is feeling renewed, and you are owning your power in creating happiness in your life. Before the month ends, Mercury moves into Sagittarius, where it will be until mid-November, and inspiration is heightened. Pay attention to the guidance you are receiving this month, the conversations you are having, and the light bulb moments that are going off for you right now.
CAPRICORN
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is about going within and connecting with the guidance of your soul, Capricorn. You are taking more time for yourself this month, and rightly so, as you need time to fully process what has happened so far this year. Pluto goes direct in your 2nd house of income, and this moves things forward when it comes to your earning potential, abundance, and values.
The key this month is in valuing yourself, your perspective, and what you are building in your life right now.
On October 21, we have a New Moon happening in your career zone, and this is a good time to manifest your goals within your professional world. Put yourself out there, show up, and know that you are worthy of success and that your dreams aren’t too big for you. As we close out the month, Mercury moves into your house of closure, even further facilitating your desire for contemplation and alone time this month. Overall, October is about taking care of your mental health, owning your successes, and finding your peace.
AQUARIUS
AquariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleOctober is a new beginning for you in love and in life, Aquarius. Your heart is feeling inspired, and there is a lot to look forward to right now. The Supermoon at the beginning of the month will be occurring in your 3rd house of communication, giving you the answers you have been looking for and helping you close the door on a chapter in your life that left you feeling misunderstood or misdirected. You are ready for a change of pace this month, and you are receiving that as we begin October.
Mid-October, Pluto goes direct in your sign after being retrograde since May, and this is a huge breath of fresh air for you and your path ahead. You may have been a little harder on yourself while Pluto was retrograde this year, and now you feel ready to forgive, move on, and own your power. Before the month comes to an end, we have a New Moon in Libra, and you are embarking on a new adventure. The end of the month is a good time for traveling, exploring, and gaining a new perspective.
PISCES
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is giving you the guidance, perspective, and passion to see yourself with clear, loving eyes, Pisces. There is a sense of feeling more overwhelmed with life lately, and October is allowing you to gain the insight needed to move on from this energy, or at least see more of the gifts of what has occurred. On October 6, we have a Supermoon in an area of your chart having to do with self-worth, values, and income, and it’s time to see the gifts of what you have been investing in and valuing in your life, including yourself.
Let go of the need to play it small or count yourself out of important conversations, and know that you deserve a seat at the table.
With Pluto going direct in your 12th house of healing as we end the month, you are finally getting the answers you have been looking for emotionally, and it’s changing your perspective on your commitments in life and making you feel empowered. Before the month ends, Neptune goes retrograde in Pisces, and you are going to be moving through a personal revolution as we close out the year. You are inspired by change right now, and this month is what kicks starts this metamorphosis within you.
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Miguel On Love, Fatherhood, And The Healing Behind His New Era
According to Miguel, his forthcoming album CAOS (out October 23) is his angriest, horniest, and most relatable body of work yet. In the eight years since the release of his last studio album, War & Leisure, the Grammy-winning artist has weathered the storm of a very public divorce, stepped into fatherhood, and even contemplated walking away from music altogether.
In a recent interview with The Breakfast Club, the "Banana Clip" vocalist gave fans an intimate glimpse into his process of endings, healing, and rebirth that shaped his time away from the spotlight and sparked the creation of CAOS.
"We've been through everything. We made it through the rapture, apparently," he half-joked. "It's everything everywhere all at once at all times... I feel we're doing the best we can; there's a lot of pressure right now. That's what really created the album, I think."
Miguel On Relearning His Why
Following some of the successes he experienced in his career with hits like "Adorn," "Sure Thing," and more recently, "Sky Walker," Miguel confessed that there came a shift in how he viewed his artistry.
"I think I entered into my career as a musician as an artist with the idea of becoming someone who was on the main stage and on the, you know, TV screen and getting the record," he told The Breakfast Club. "And we've been very blessed. I have an amazing audience and I love them deeply and they really made my music successful."
But over time, he realized there was a disconnect between creating for the love and chasing numbers. The success began to eclipse his purpose.
"I think that can really take priority of and really rinse the real purpose of creating from one's own motivation and it can kinda like cannibalize the whole experience... and I needed to take some time to figure out what was going to be my motivation moving forward."
That intentional pause became a turning point for the musician. And though he didn't stop releasing music—including a feature on K-pop artist J-Hope's "Sweet Dreams" released earlier this year—Miguel chose to spend most of his hiatus doing deep internal work.
"Relearning, re-finding my love and also doing some real hard work on me," he stated.
Through therapy, shadow work, and meditation, he found clarity and reconnected with his purpose.
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On Embracing His Heritage And Fatherhood
A part of that healing journey was leaning more fully into his Mexican heritage. For Miguel, figuring out how to own the parts of himself he used to keep at a distance was a natural extension of his self-work.
Though he was always proud of his mixed heritage (his father is Mexican, his mother is Black), his self-work pushed him more into that heritage and taught him to view it more as something to appreciate about himself versus a challenge to be overcome. The eight-year journey helped him value his racial identity as his "unique perspective" that he now sees as a gift.
That perspective deepened even more when he became a father.
"As you become a parent, you really start to look at the things that are great about your child," Miguel said. "You start to look at everything."
The 39-year-old recently shared with the world that he has a one-year-old son with partner Margaret Zhang. Fatherhood, he explained, gave him energy and clarity like nothing else in his life has. When sharing with The Breakfast Club what fatherhood was like, Miguel said, "It's incredible."
"I don't sleep but I'm the most-I've got the most energy I've ever had. I also I feel so much more sure about what is and what isn't for me...," he said. "Even my next 10 years, I'm the most clear... I think he's you know a catalyst for where I'm at and where I'm going."
"You have to be so clear with yourself,” Miguel added. “You have to have ultimate clarity about what you want. If you’re not clear, you’re susceptible to being pulled in and swayed in different directions."
Miguel On The Meaning Of 'Always Time,' Loyalty, And Letting Go
Another theme present in CAOS is one of heartbreak, something Miguel knows well. The R&B crooner opened up about the end of his nearly two-decade relationship with ex-wife, actress and model Nazanin Mandi that was a cornerstone for his growth and self-reflection.
"It was a big part of my experience as a human being this time around... I was with Naz when I was 19. It was a long time... It was a lot of learning. It's a lot of learning."
A track on the album titled "Always Time" was one he admitted to The Breakfast Club hosts was inspired by that chapter of his life. More specifically, the grief that comes with realizing love isn't enough to sustain a relationship and sometimes the best thing you can do is let go.
"That song was written because I was uncovering a lot of my values in real time. And one of those things I've always been -- the word loyal is crazy because loyalty, I saw my grandparents stay together all my entire life," he explained. "You know, they were loyal to the family. The loyalty, like were they happy? You know, I don't know. That's a crazy one."
Ultimately, within his own values, he has come to understand that loyalty and love are not always synonymous.
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"That song is about kind of like coming to terms with, 'I can't even be the right person for you,'" Miguel admitted. "And discovering that in real time is crazy work when you're like, 'Damn I thought the whole thing was like I'm supposed to fight it out...' and at some point when you stop and you go, 'You know what? The best thing I can do is actually let it go.'"
Even with the heartbreak, Miguel has a lot of gratitude for Nazanin and the love that they shared.
"I was so happy to be married when I was, whether or not I was able to be true to it, I think it's a beautiful idea. The words and the symbolism sometimes take away the purpose... the symbolism takes precedence over the actual core thing of what it's supposed to be."
In a moment of hindsight, Miguel made mention of how things could have been different if he was who he is now back then:
"We would have had a much better shot. But you know the past is, you look back... it's so much clearer. It would have been a different experience but you can't change the past...," he said. "I'm very happy that we've had adult, real [conversations], man... It's different when you're able to come to somebody and go, 'You know, I didn't realize I was doing this and I'm really sorry.'"
Miguel added, "To be able to say that doesn't erase it but it at least let's them know, there's real love here. And that's at the core. 'I just wasn't a big enough person. I wasn't an aware enough person to protect you from my automatic ways.'"
Miguel On Love, Healing & What's Next For Him
After everything, the heartbreak, becoming a father for the first time, and the self-work, Miguel's relationship with love has evolved. He shared with the hosts that he doesn't believe that there's only one person for every person. He believes in love and being in love, but doesn't think love is only true if there is a "one."
Despite alluding to being in a relationship with his child's mother, when asked if he is in love now though, his answer was refreshingly self-aware.
"In love? I need some healing to be in love. Right now, I'm working on being in love with me. If I'm being very, very honest," he said. "And I have to do that work for my son. But I love myself more and more every day because I'm proud of the decisions I've been making, and I lean on those... I'm getting closer and I do hope one day I can be in love again."
Though there is scrutiny around his personal life, Miguel is proud of where he stands now, especially in his decision to become a father.
"I did it with so much intention. I'm really am proud. I'm proud to be a father. I'm proud of my partner. She's incredible. He couldn't have a better mother. Life doesn't always happen the way that we imagine things to happen."
Don't let the name fool you, after years of transformation and self-discovery, with CAOS, Miguel isn't just returning to music. He's returned to himself. Within the CAOS, he's found peace.
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