
5 Things I Wish I Knew Before Buying My First Home That Can Save You Money

The day I closed on my first home was met with mixed emotions. On one hand, I was excited to take a big step in my life and towards my financial goals. I had found the perfect investment property that would serve as my primary residence for at least the next year—a cute little bungalow in an area that was sure to significantly increase my property value in a few years.
Yet, there was a bit of anxiety as I walked through the door. Was I making the right decision? Would buying this home be a blessing and not a curse? Would I be cleared to close, or would one final run of my credit report show something that would stop me from being able to purchase the home?
I swallowed my fears, said a little prayer, and proceeded with the process of signing on the dotted line. The home was officially mine, and getting the keys to my new abode brought a wave of pride. But as I would later discover while making my new house a home, there were many things I wished I had considered before buying my first home, and even more so now that I’m in my second one.
“Purchasing a home is a beautiful experience,” shares Lauren Cobb, realtor at Keller Williams Peachtree Road in Atlanta, Georgia. “I’ve seen real estate change the lives of many clients, including myself, by buying at the right time and within budget. It’s also a unique experience for each buyer. No buyer has the same experience as their family or peers.”
With that in mind, here are five tips I wish I'd known before buying my first home.
1.The underwriting process is thorough; they will examine everything.
The underwriting process for my first home went relatively smoothly. I had just gotten out of debt and had a great credit score. I’d been at my job for four years, so I could show consistent income. I didn’t have any student loans or car payments to consider, and I didn’t anticipate taking on any new debt. I was glad I had worked hard to get my finances in order before going into underwriting. But it’s not always that easy, and here’s why.
Once you get pre-approved, you should generally expect your lender to ask for one month of pay stubs, two months of bank statements, and two years of W-2s to start the underwriting process. This can vary depending on the type of loan you’re going for, where your income comes from (W-2, your own business, etc.), and the industry you work in. During this time, you shouldn’t take on any new credit as they will compare your original credit report to the one pulled right before closing.
In HGTV host Egypt Sherrod’s book Keep Calm, It’s Just Real Estate: Your No-Stress Guide to Buying a Home, she shares that “banks approve you for your mortgage based upon your credit score and savings at the time of approval. Your approval is contingent upon those items remaining the same through closing.” In other words, any new additional debts will impact your loan from closing. Even something as simple as using Afterpay or Klarna will be treated as an installment loan, and you will be asked to provide documentation for that transaction.
I recommend not making any major purchases before you close on your home as it can determine if you get a final approval to close and the interest rate. This will make your process much smoother, and you will be more likely to see the sweet words “Please see your attached final CD,” letting you know that you’ve successfully cleared underwriting and are approved to close.
2.Property taxes and insurance can significantly increase your monthly payments.
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One of the main reasons that many of us buy a home is that we’re hoping to escape the neverending rent increase that we’re presented with at the end of our lease. While a fixed-rate mortgage offers predictable monthly payments, what’s not often shared is how property tax and insurance increases can impact your mortgage payments.
I admittedly was caught by surprise when last year my mortgage went up by $400 because the county assessed my property value to be higher than years prior. If you purchase a home in an area where homes increase in value at a faster rate than others, you may find that the increased equity that you’re celebrating comes at a price, and depending on your budget that price may make or break whether or not you can still afford the home.
One way to combat rising property costs is to look into your state’s homestead exemption laws. According to the National Association of Realtors, the homestead exemption, at its core, “reduces the taxable value of a homeowner's primary residence, meaning a portion of the home value will not be taxed. This reduction results in lower property tax bills.” This exemption only applies to your primary residence and the requirements vary from state to state, but if you do qualify, it can save you from extreme hikes in property taxes and thousands of dollars over time.
3.Your mortgage impacts your debt-to-income ratio, affecting your ability to qualify for other credit.
In an ideal world, your mortgage would be less than the cost of rent you were proverbially shaking your fist over. But in reality, that’s not always the case. Due to high interest rates, the increasing cost of homeownership, and the type of home you’re looking for, you may find yourself paying more than you were before in rent (but hey, at least it’s going toward something that could potentially be an asset one day, right? Right?!).
Your lender may approve you for a higher monthly payment, but it’s not until you move into your lovely abode and attempt to apply for new credit or even refinance months or years down the road that you learn that with a higher monthly payment, you’ve also increased your debt-to-income (DTI) ratio. This is a number that lenders use to determine if you’re a good candidate for credit approval, and even a couple of hundred dollars can push you beyond the DTI they’re comfortable with approving.
If your income is increasing and you’re not taking on other debt, this may not be an issue for you. But as we all know, life happens, so it’s always good to be prepared and to plan accordingly in case you find yourself in need of credit in the future.
4.Ask the seller for a credit to help lower your out-of-pocket costs.
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One thing that held me back from buying sooner was assuming that I would need a lot more cash available for closing. While you should always be prepared to pay the estimated closing costs shared with you by the lender, it’s good to know that the final amount may be higher or lower than what is on the final Closing Disclosure (CD). One way to potentially lower that amount is to negotiate a seller credit.
A seller credit is money that the seller gives the buyer at closing, usually lowering your out-of-pocket closing costs. The main way to negotiate this is to use your inspection report to get an estimate of the cost of any repairs that the report highlights. For example, when I purchased my home, I knew from the inspection report that the HVAC was 18 years old and would need replacement soon. I reached out to a few different HVAC companies to get estimates on the cost of replacing the unit and used the highest estimate to negotiate with the seller to cover the cost of replacing the HVAC. I did the same with a few other needed repairs, and the seller agreed to contribute a $10,000 seller credit to cover these costs. This reduced my closing costs from $24,456 to $14,456.
Sometimes, the seller will even offer a credit upfront to incentivize the buyer to go under contract, especially if the home has been on the market for some time and/or they are looking to sell quickly. While these deals aren’t always easy to find, nor are sellers required to provide them, it’s good to know that it’s a possible option in case you’re looking for a way to lower your out-of-pocket costs.
5.Negotiate with the seller to buy down the interest rate.
Anyone who has been home shopping in the last couple of years can attest that current mortgage rates are high compared to rates during the pandemic, which, according to Investopedia, reached as low as 2.65% in January 2021 for 30-year, fixed-rate mortgages. Even a small increase in your mortgage rate can significantly raise your monthly payments and potentially price you out of your desired home. But there’s good news!
Similar to a seller credit, you can potentially negotiate a rate buydown with the seller. A rate buydown allows the buyer to secure a lower interest rate by having the seller pay the lender to reduce the interest rate. For example, you may have locked in a 7.5% fixed interest rate with your lender, but thanks to your realtor negotiating a buydown with the seller, they are willing to contribute enough money to lower your rate to 7%. Sellers are sometimes motivated to do this as it can often be cheaper than lowering the price of their home. A lower mortgage rate can significantly reduce your monthly payment and save you thousands of dollars over the lifetime of your mortgage.
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Navigating the home-buying process can be overwhelming, but understanding these key factors can help you make more informed decisions and save you thousands of dollars in the long run. Keep these tips in mind to ensure a smoother, more rewarding home-buying experience.
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Adrian Marcel On Purpose, Sacrifice, And The 'Signs Of Life'
In this week's episode of xoMAN, host Kiara Walker talked with R&B artist Adrian Marcel, who opened up, full of heart and authenticity, about his personal evolution. He discussed his days transitioning from a young Bay Area singer on the come-up to becoming a grounded husband and father of four.
With honesty and introspection, Marcel reflected on how life, love, and loss have shaped the man he is today.
On ‘Life’s Subtle Signals’
Much of the conversation centered around purpose, sacrifice, and listening to life’s subtle signals. “I think that you really have to pay attention to the signs of life,” Marcel said. “Because as much as we need to make money, we are not necessarily on this Earth for that sole purpose, you know what I mean?” While he acknowledged his ambitions, adding, “that is not me saying at all I’m not trying to ball out,” he emphasized that fulfillment goes deeper.
“We are here to be happy. We are here [to] fulfill a purpose that we are put on here for.”
On Passion vs. Survival
Adrian spoke candidly about the tension between passion and survival, describing how hardship can sometimes point us away from misaligned paths. “If you find it’s constantly hurting you… that’s telling you something. That’s telling you that you’re going outside of your purpose.”
Marcel’s path hasn’t been without detours. A promising athlete in his youth, he recalled, “Early on in my career, I was still doing sports… I was good… I had a scholarship.” An injury changed everything. “My femur broke. Hence why I always say, you know, I’m gonna keep you hip like a femur.” After the injury, he pivoted to explore other careers, including teaching and corporate jobs.
“It just did not get me—even with any success that happened in anything—those times, back then, I was so unhappy. And you know, to a different degree. Like not just like, ‘I really want to be a singer so that’s why I’m unhappy.’ Nah, it was like, it was not fulfilling me in any form or fashion.”
On Connection Between Pursuing Music & Fatherhood
He recalled performing old-school songs at age 12 to impress girls, then his father challenged him: “You can lie to these girls all you want, but you're really just lying to yourself. You ain't growing.” That push led him to the piano—and eventually, to his truth. “Music is my love,” Marcel affirmed. “I wouldn’t be a happy husband if I was here trying to do anything else just to appease her [his wife].”
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Self-Validation, No Meals After 5 P.M. & The Wellness Rituals That Helped Lizzo Take Her Power Back
Don't let the "weight release" fool you, Lizzo's transformation wasn't just physical. It was spiritual, emotional, and deeply personal. In her Women's Health cover story, the "Good As Hell" artist opened up about the low point that became the catalyst for radical change in her life, inside and out.
In the summer of 2023, Lizzo found herself at the center of what she calls painful allegations when some of her former dancers filed a lawsuit against her. The 37-year-old singer has denied their claims, and though she has experienced "backlash my entire career," going through such legal woes coupled with public scrutiny proved to be detrimental to her mental health, leading her to one of the darkest periods of her life.
She told Women's Health, "I got very paranoid and isolated. I wasn’t even talking to my therapist. I wasn’t present. I wasn’t open. I wasn’t myself anymore."
After spending months in isolation, Lizzo, whose real name is Melissa Viviane Jefferson, decided to go to a tour stop on the Renaissance World Tour. She was nervous that the public would shun her, boo her, or reject her, but instead, she was embraced. It shifted something in her and after feeling so in the dark, she saw the light again. "It made me feel like, wow, maybe I don’t want to die," she shared with Women's Health.
"That was the kick-starter to me being like, ‘Okay, Melissa, get your ass in gear and take your f*cking life back.’"
Her first step in Operation Get Your Life Back? Cutting out the external noise. She gave her team total control of her social media and stopped looking at comments. "My validation was from external sources, people telling me they loved me, or that I look good, and accepting me," she explained. "But if that’s all I’m getting my validation from, when it changes—and it will, because people are not always going to like you—what happens? Where are you going to get your love from?"
Lizzo continued, "I can convince myself that I’m beautiful, my body fine, no matter how big or small. But reminding myself that you can’t let others tell you who you are—that was hard work."
Lizzo started going to therapy again, she started practicing quigong meditation, reading books, journaling, and doing sound baths. She released unhealthy relationships, drank echinacea tea, and began incorporating Pilates as a means to "feel sacred" and "be gentle" with herself.
But what many have interpreted as a "weight loss transformation" after she popped out sharing she met her "weight release" goal earlier this year, Lizzo has clarified that it has been something deeper for her than the aesthetic of a smaller body. "I wanted to be big-girl skinny," she told the mag. "Every big girl knows what I’m talking about. Big-girl skinny is 250 pounds." According to her, it was her back issues that inspired her to take the physical part of her wellness journey seriously.
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Through her friend Kelly Rowland, she linked up with her now-trainer Marvin Telp and developed a fitness regimen that prioritized strength and intention. Her weekly schedule now includes moves like single-leg deadlifts, reverse flies, and lateral lunges, along with infrared sauna sessions and cardio. Add to that a change in eating habits after realizing her vegan diet no longer served her (to be fair, she wasn't doing the vegan thing the "healthiest" way).
All the meat substitutes, bread, cashew cheese, and soy left her bloated and lightheaded, so now she's switched things up a bit to fill the nutritional gaps. When it comes to diet, it's heavy on the protein and vegetables for Lizzo. A typical day eating looks like scrambled eggs and cauliflower hash browns for breakfast, Thai chicken salad or lettuce wraps for lunch, and turkey meatloaf with greens for dinner.
She also has a strict cutoff of no meals after 5 p.m. to support her GERD and give her body the time it needs before bed to digest her food sans the acid reflux. Of her relationship with food and wellness, she told Women's Health, "There's a balance. I think that's what true health is."
Read Lizzo's full cover story with Women's Health here.
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