You are what you eat, and for me, that means I'm a large frosted coffee and an eight-count nugget meal from Chic-fil-A, and it's not a good look. As a die-hard Pinterest user, I'm constantly intrigued by trendy diets that surface online. For example, a vegan diet is rich in nutrients, can lower the risk of heart disease, help you to lose excess weight, and put you in the running to win free Beyonce tickets for the rest of your life. If that's not reason enough for you to consider an alternative, I don't know what is.
At the end of January, Queen Bey challenged her fans to live a more plant-based lifestyle with her meal planning service, The Greenprint. Contrary to popular belief, Jay-Z and Beyonce aren't fully vegan, but they do abstain from meat on Mondays and consume plant-based eats for many of their meals and their meal planning service follows the same guidelines. The company, owned by the Carters and their trainer, Marco Borges, offers an array of dietary options including but not limited to: All plants, All the time; Plant-based for breakfast; Two plant-based meals a day; Meatless Mondays; or Plant-based on weekdays.
The Carters' enthusiasm has other celebrities hopping on the healthy lifestyle bandwagon, too. Steve Harvey mentioned on his show that his cholesterol levels have improved drastically since starting Beyonce's 22-day vegan challenge. And recently, we reported that The Real talk show host, Adrienne Houghton went (almost) vegan and the health benefits that come with the trendy diet make you (almost) want to join her. But if you're like me and you can't seem to ditch your meat-eating ways, here are a few other diets that may be more suitable for your lifestyle:
Ketogenic
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If you want to look like you're 25 when you're 52, the ketogenic life might be something you want to look into. Halle Berry shared that she made the switch to a keto diet at a young age after she was diagnosed with diabetes. This diet is high-fat and low in carbohydrates, which makes this option perfect for someone looking to balance out their insulin and blood sugar levels. A ketogenic lifestyle has proven to improve metabolism and burn fat more effectively.
Foods to Eat:
- Meat
- Seafood/Fish/Shellfish
- Avocados
- Eggs
- High-Fat Cheese
- Paleo
- Nuts & Seeds
- Berries
Foods to Avoid:
- Carrots
- Wheat/Rice/Oats
- Bread
- Pasta
- Low-Fat Cheese (Mozzarella, Cream Cheese)
- Legumes (Black/Brown/Kidney Beans)
- Chickpeas
Low-FODMAP
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This diet right here, ladies and gentleman, has been my best friend. I had my gallbladder removed when I was 16 and since, have had the digestion system from hell. Luckily, I'm not the only woman in the world who suffers from Irritable Bowel Syndrome (just ask my rich auntie, Tyra Banks) and there are options for people like me who suffer from ongoing constipation, diarrhea, and bloating. FODMAP stands for Fermentable Oligosaccharides, Disaccharides, Monosaccharides and Polyols, which are often poorly digested by the intestines, causing many of the aforementioned ailments. This lifestyle is perfect for women with food intolerances, or are just looking for a diet that's lower in high-fructose carbohydrates.
Foods to Eat
- Eggs
- Grapes
- Cantaloupe
- Oats
- Potatoes
- Leafy Greens (Spinach, Kale)
- Bananas
- Blueberries
- Bell Peppers
Foods to Avoid
- Artichokes
- Legumes
- Cauliflower
- Apples
- Mangos
- Peaches
- Soy Milk
- Wheat/Rye
Paleo
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This regime is the most throwback of them all. A Paleolithic (or caveman) diet consists of everything was eaten during the stone-age. This means, if you can't find it, kill it, and cook it, it shouldn't be on your plate. During this lifestyle transition, you should avoid any sugar or artificial sweeteners, trans fats, or highly processed foods. Issa Rae recently revealed that her paleo diet helped her slim down and keep the weight off on her new healthy lifestyle journey. Heavy hitters like Kobe Bryant and Lebron James have also lived the paleo life, making the diet perfect for a superstar baller life yourself. The paleo diet can be linked to improved overall health and weight loss.
Foods to Eat
- Unprocessed Meats
- Fish & Seafood
- Eggs
- Vegetables
- Frits
- Potatoes
- Nuts & Seeds
Foods to Avoid
- Sugar & High Fructose Corn Syrup
- Legumes (Beans, Lentils)
- Dairy
- Soybean Oil, Sunflower Oil, Grapeseed Oil
- Margarine
- Grains (Bread, Pasta, Rice)
- Diet & Low-Fat Products
- Artificial Sweeteners
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Although this might seem like a heavy way to intro this particular topic, because the O Method is an orgasm-achieving technique that centers around housing energy, embracing the mental practice of manifestation, and the attempt to achieve the best climaxes ever — it all works together pretty well if you ask me. If you want to take your orgasms to the next level, it’s important that you get out of yourself (to a certain extent), that you see the spiritual role that manifestation plays, and that you are open to trying new things. No doubt about it.
So, let’s learn more about what the O Method is all about and how it very well could be just what you’ve been looking for…even if you didn’t know it.
What Is the “O Method” All About?
GiphyQuestion: When’s the last time you’ve had an orgasm? Not just any orgasm — I mean a really mind-blowing one (I’ll give you a second to think about it). Now, what if you could manifest that experience to the point where it wasn’t a rare occurrence but something that happened almost every time that you and your partner had sex with each other? How absolutely awesome would that be?
That is pretty much what the O Method is all about — helping you achieve the kind of orgasms (and sexual pleasure, in general) that you desire through the practice of manifestation. And since your biggest sex organ is your brain, it would make perfect sense that even with all of the tips and techniques that you might learn to do as far as your body is concerned, honing in on what you think about is super imperative to sexual fulfillment, too. And that’s just where manifestation comes in.
What If You’ve Never “Manifested” Anything Before?
GiphyBefore we get into a quick lesson on manifestation, I think it’s important to mention two things. One, for the cynics, there is a lot of truth in the fact that it’s got some solid spiritual basis to it because even the Good Book says that as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7). At the same time, that same Good Book tells us that faith without works is dead (James 2:14-26). So, while it is always a good idea to focus on good, positive, and productive thoughts, just thinking about them isn’t enough — at some point, you’ve also gotta get out here and DO something (bookmark that).
Okay, with that mini-sermon out of the way, whether it’s in the bedroom or not, manifestation is basically about focusing on something tangible that you desire, harnessing your energy in such a way that your words and actions are directed towards that longing until what you want, well, manifests. For the record, aside from this having a spiritual backing to it, in many ways, science cosigns on manifesting, too. There is actually a scientific process known as neuroplasticity that consists of reframing your mind so that your actions ultimately end up aligning with your goals — and that is another way to look at manifestation.
So, what if you’re someone who has never set out to do a manifestation practice before? No worries. Something that’s awesome about it is there are several different approaches that you can take.
Some people manifest what they want in their lives via:
- Journaling
- Visualization/Creating vision boards
- Writing down their desires before going to bed (so that they can “download” them into their dream state)
- Creating mantras and affirmations
- Applying the 369 Manifestation Method (you can learn more about that here)
- Meditating
- Learning more about what you want to manifest (which brings forth clarity)
This is important to keep in mind because, when it comes to manifesting the types of orgasms that you want to have, as you can see, you can try different manifestation methods until you find one (or ones) that you are truly comfortable with. One that can ease you into the entire process rather smoothly is something known as sex journaling.
How Sex Journaling Can Actually Help You to Have an Orgasm
GiphyAs a writer, I’m a big fan of journaling. Mostly because it’s a way to get out some of your deepest thoughts and feelings so that you’re able to really process what is happening inside of you in a private setting. And when it comes to sex journaling, specifically, it’s all about centering yourself on the things sexually that you want to “unpack,” get clarity on or come to some revelations about. For instance, if there’s only been one partner from your past who’s been able to help you achieve the type of orgasms that you wish to manifest, journaling about what makes him different from the other guys can provide you with some solid ah-ha moments.
Or if you need help getting as specific as possible about the sexual experiences that you’re after, journaling can help to make that happen for you — because one thing that manifesting reminds us all to do is be as specific as possible.
Yeah, simply saying, “I want to have better sex” isn’t detailed enough when you want to get your energy to match with your desires — instead, describe how all of your senses should feel in the experience, along with why, that can get you so much closer to achieving your goal. Once those things are documented, you can segue into creating mantras and/or meditation that are based on them. Yeah, sex journaling really is an underrated superpower on a lot of levels (check out “The Art Of Sex Journaling (And Why You Should Do It)”).
5 Tips for Making the O Method Work for You
GiphyNow that you know more about what the O Method is and how manifestation plays a direct role in its process, let’s talk about five ways to make the O Method truly effective in your own (sex) life.
1. Focus, FULLY, on your feminine energy. What do rose quartz, amethyst, moonstone (which is a Gemini birthstone as well; yes, I’m a Gemini), selenite, and rhodonite all have in common? They’re crystals that help you to go deeper into your divine feminine energy. Traits that are associated with this include compassion, creativity, kindness, gentleness, and sensuality (feminine energy is also accepting and forgiving). If you were to study energy from a biological standpoint, it’s about producing change, responding to stimuli, and having the ability to do what needs to be done (work). So, when it comes to manifesting the kind of orgasms or sexual experiences that you want, using things like your creativity and gentleness in your thoughts and actions can play a role in bringing balance to your partner’s masculinity, which can create a profound sense of pleasure — after all, opposites do attract.
2. Don’t hold back on what it is that you desire. Whenever I interview sex therapists, something that they all say is, a huge mistake that people make as far as sexual satisfaction is concerned is, they have walls up — not just with their partners but even within themselves. Sometimes, there is intimidation, fear, or even shame around what they really want to happen during sex to the point where they aren’t able to channel their energy fully in those directions in order to manifest what they want. For the O Method to work, you can’t let those types of negative emotions hinder you; the more you are able to articulate what you want and how you want it, the better chance you have of making it happen. So yes, get graphic. As graphic as possible.
3. Make manifestation a daily practice. Repetition is important when it comes to manifestation. That’s because the more you declare what you desire (a mantra), get still and think on it (meditation), or look at the “art” that you’ve created surrounding it (visualization), the quicker it becomes a part of you. So yes, make manifestation a daily practice. For instance, if one of your mantras is, “I am going to have intensely passionate orgasms, one right after the other,” don’t just state that 15 minutes before sex is going to happen. Wake up and declare it. Then say it on your lunch break. And again before turning in. The more your thoughts are “streamlined” in this way, the easier it will be for your body to follow suit.
4. Share this practice with your partner. If you were to do even more research on the O Method, one thing that most of the articles will mention is it’s a practice that you can do alone or with your partner. Indeed. However, I just want to make sure that you get into your psyche that great sex is, in part, about good communication. And so, the more comfortable you are sharing with your partner what you are doing as far as the O Method is concerned and what you ultimately want to happen as a result of the practice, the easier it will be for him to “match your energy” — both in and out of the bedroom. And when your partner is on the same page as you? That definitely increases the chances of attaining your sexual desires — exponentially so.
5. Stay in the moment. While I was reading one article on manifestation, I really appreciated something that the author said: manifestation isn’t some supernatural power. In other words, while it can be beneficial, it’s not like you can just think of something, and it instantly appears out of nowhere. Manifesting is a discipline, and it must be accompanied by action, consistency, and patience — this means that you must also practice mindfulness. Meaning, now that you know better what you’re looking to achieve as far as sex is concerned, every time that it transpires, maintain a level of positive energy, remember what your end goal is, and then determine in your mind to enjoy the moments as they come. Remember, manifestation isn’t to add stress…it’s to cultivate clarity.
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At the end of the day, the O Method is simply a way of reminding you that your mind plays a huge role in your sexual pleasure, and when you channel it and your energy exactly where you want them both to go, you’ll be amazed what your body is capable of doing…and accomplishing.
So, what kind of orgasm are you wanting to achieve? You’ve got a tool to get you there. USE IT.
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