Sis, you gotta match your words with your actions. If you say it's all about you, then you need to be living in that truth and not just yapping off. We know you walk around with the "S" on your chest because you're a badass superwoman but after you're done taking care of everyone else, how are you personally feeling?
As amazing as it is to be a woman who can multitask and help aid others, we also have to learn how to not deplete ourselves and pour just as much into the development of self as we do others. It's OK to be a little selfish at times when it comes to prioritizing the things that make you happy. We only have one life to live and if we aren't putting ourselves first and making strides to keep a cooler head, then are we really living our best lives?
4 Ways To Make Yourself A Priority
1.Learn to Say “NO”
Say it loud and say it proud: "NO". You're not obligated to give your time and energy to everyone and everything. It's okay to turn down a night on the town or to tell your friends or family that they can't borrow money from you. Regardless of whatever reason applies to why you have to say "NO", if it has to do with giving yourself peace of mind, then go for it.
We are not robots and although we all have a number of roles we play in life, the role of being your happiest self comes above all. So next time your feeling overwhelmed, used, or just plain-out tired, tell those bug-a-boos "NO", you can't do whatever it is that they need or want you to do.
2.Self-Care Routine
Oh, you fancy huh? Nails done, hair done, everything did! Something magical happens to us ladies when we are looking and feeling our best. We literally transform into the best version of ourselves when we take look in the mirror and start feeling ourselves. Knowing just how bomb it makes us feel, we should always set aside time each month to treat ourselves to a moment of bliss.
It's not about keeping up with the Joneses but more so about keeping high morale about self. Rather you indulge in spa time, make hair, nail care, and a fitness routines, or change the batteries in that cucumber-shaped device in your nightstand, we've all gotta commit to doing something that keeps us feeling like a brand new woman. You are fine and divine so treat yourself boo!
3.Set Goals
We've gotta pave the way for ourselves because nothing in this life is guaranteed unless we go out and get it. It's all about having a plan and sticking to it, nothing more and, for certain, nothing less. We've all heard the phrase "grab life by the horns" and well, in this case, that's exactly what we need to do to get what we desire out of this crazy thing called life. Being realistic about our time, money and life circumstances is where you first need to begin. If you want something, you have to put the work in. Start by setting a start and end date and write down the steps that it's gonna take you to get to that goal you're trying to reach.
Say, for instance, you want to pay down debt to buy a condo, car, or house. Figure out what you owe, how much monthly you can afford to pay towards lowering the debt and implement a timeline. When you have a vision, a plan, and are taking action towards whatever goal it is your trying to meet, it empowers you and gives you a feeling of comfort that you can do whatever you set your mind to, even if it takes you some time to get there. Once you start something, stick to it. You've got this girl!
4.Find A Hobby
Simply put, do what makes you happy. It can feel like there isn't enough time in the day to balance the kids, catch up with piping hot tea your friends need to spill, and find a healthy balance between work and play. But if I'm keeping it all the way 100 with you, we find time for who and what we deem important, and our sanity should be at the top of that list.
Having a hobby is so much more than just occupying your free time, it's a time where you truly are enjoying the things that you are passionate about and bringing out the best in you. Having a hobby allows you to tap into that inner-child that you may have lost touch with and nurtures the hell out of it. It's all about foundation when it comes to being our best selves; and when we make time for the things that are the core of who and what we stand for, it keeps us feeling fully aligned.
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