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In Case You Didn't Know, Self-Care Is For Men Too

Why I Share My Wellness Tips With The Guys In My Life

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Nowadays, women aren't playing when it comes to self-care. I know I'm not. Whatever versions of it we individually decide to seek out, we stop at nothing to gain that inner peace and zen we all need. From taking solo or group trips, alone days at the spa, shutting out social media, turning the phone's ringer off for the day, a therapy session, or simply having a mug of tea, women are seemingly mastering the art of self-care and reclaiming our energy at any and all costs.

And while this is so necessary for survival, to take care of our families and be our badass selves in all facets of our lives, I'm now realizing the importance of sharing these self-care tips with the men in our lives. I know, I know, we can't let them in on all the secrets, but passing on a little bit of the wellness wealth to our husbands, boyfriends, fathers, brothers, friends, uncles, and even grandfathers could be a mutually beneficial deal. Here's why I share my self-care tips with the guys in my life.

1.They need it too, especially now.

Men are usually the last ones to admit that they need help, especially if it has to do with their mental or physical health; this is where we come in! If I'm being frank, Black people as a whole have been really seeing the ugly side of the world. From the ignorance with people using black face to sell clothing and shoes and even in politics, we've been straight up disrespected a lot recently. As women, we have our rituals and regimens down packed to help us fend off any and all negative energy that comes our way, but what about our guys? Sharing my self-care tips with the men in my life helps me to help them tackle the woes of the world as well because, I need them to survive!

2.It strengthens our bond.

I've always been super close with my dad, but over the past few years we tightened our bond over our love for healthy eating and using natural remedies to cure minor illnesses and my silly acne! For me, self-care is slathering fresh aloe vera on my face three times a week and now using his recipes for the best fresh juices. Sharing my moisturizing techniques with my husband or teaching my brothers how to pray and meditate all draw me closer to the men in my life.

3.Helping them helps me.

Who doesn't want their husband, fathers, brothers and uncles around and healthy for as long as possible? Since these are the men I live with or interact with on a daily basis, it only makes sense that helping them to be their healthiest and well cared for selves will reap benefits for me too. Who are the biggest babies when they sick? Men! But, armed with a world of knowledge on how to care for themselves, internally and externally, saves me from constantly having to be the "fixer."

Do you share your self-care and wellness tips with the men around you?

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