4 Job Hunting Tips From A Serial Job Hopper
Whenever I have an opportunity to level up, I take it, especially in my professional life. As a serial job hopper, I am always on the lookout for my next position. However, with job hopping comes job hunting and job hunting can present its fair share of woes, including unrealistically long interview periods and the disappointment that comes with job rejections.
If you're looking for your next best move or just can't seem to find a job, here are some tried and true tips I have used to secure positions throughout my professional journey. Check them out below.
Plan Your Exit
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Job hunting is highly unpredictable. You may find a position immediately or your job search may span months. Instead of just quitting your job, plan your exit. First, make a thorough list of what you'd like to experience in your next position. In this list, be as specific as possible and consider attributes such as work-life balance, level of seniority, and, even, commute time. From there, use platforms such as Glassdoor and LinkedIn to match the attributes on your list to specific job descriptions, establishing a solid but flexible idea of your next position.
Consider a Different Industry
Life and job skills are transferable. Positions in the field of education may seem completely disjointed from jobs in healthcare. However, in both of these industries, recruitment managers place high value on project and product management skills. Don't be afraid to move to another industry. In order to do so, you'll just need to make sure your resume and cover letter focus more on your skillset rather than specific tasks.
Research Companies
Increasingly, job seekers list company culture as a major deciding factor in their decision to join a new team. Rather than waiting for a job to be posted on a popular platform, research and identify any companies that you may want to work for and, from there, regularly check their internal careers page. Companies often post open positions on their own websites before posting them publicly.
Tap into Your Network
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Use your network to your advantage. Don't be too proud to ask supportive friends and family members about job openings at their companies or to candidly share that you're looking for another position. On social media sites, interact with posts about your target industry. Scroll through your friend's list and connect with anyone who may be able to help you.
Join FaceBook groups that feature your particular professional interests and post in the group asking for employment leads. Also, group participants regularly share job listings. On Eventbrite, search for conferences, happy hours, and recruitment events in your industry. With any meetup or job fair, make sure to show up as your best self, spend time mingling with the crowd, and speak openly about your employment needs.
Job hunting can be stressful and even the most experienced candidate can expect to receive some rejection. No matter the challenges, remember that a demanding or lengthy job search does not define you or your success. Find peace in knowing that what is meant for you will not pass you. Happy job hunting!
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How To Tell If You're Disciplining Your Child Or Seeking Revenge
When discussing the topic of raising children, discipline is often the first thing that comes to mind. Children need discipline. Full stop. But what is discipline? And how do we draw the line between discipline and revenge?
The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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