The Virgo's perfectionist tendencies serve them well in the bedroom, making them one of the best lovers of the zodiac. This earth sign knows the importance of sensuality, physical touch, and pleasure, and everything Virgo does in bed is intentional. There is seemingly a different side of Virgo that comes out behind closed doors, and it’s not the prude that people tend to consider this sign as. A Virgo’s sex life is an area of their life where they feel they can really live in the moment, feel alive, and be more spontaneous than usual.
Virgo Sexual Compatibility: Why Are Virgos So Good In Bed?
When it comes to Virgos in bed, this is a thoughtful zodiac sign, and you can be sure they are going to think of you and consider your pleasure. A Virgo is going to cover all bases and make sure everyone is happy and taken care of. Especially if they have been with you for a while, they will know all of your pleasure points, what is going to turn you on, and what you need- and they will do just that. Virgo’s sexuality runs deep, and there is something ethereal and sensual about this earth sign.
Virgo And The Virgin
The origin of Virgo’s name, Virgin, depicts a different meaning than meets the eye for these Maidens. In those times, a Virgin didn’t mean what it does now and actually meant freedom, self-sufficiency, and wholeness. What does that mean for Virgo and their sex life? It means they know what they want and what they don’t, and they have no problem expressing it. They also have no problem doing the job themselves if it is not up to par with the Virgo standards.
Virgo sees their sexuality as something that cannot be taken away and instead as an expression of self and the power of their sovereignty.
Virgos Are Open Sexually
If you are in bed with Virgo, you have already passed all of their tests, requirements, and a long list of high standards- and you are considered someone they can open up with. They will begin to show this other side of them that is notorious when it comes to sex, and a more kinky version of Virgo comes to the surface. This control freak likes to play with different submissive/dominant kinks, role play, and more.
Virgo is a mutable sign, making them up for experimenting in the bedroom, being flexible, and trying different things out with their partners. If Virgo thinks something or someone is going to benefit or teach them something, they will try just about anything at least once. Virgo wants to explore your body and wants you to have this same type of energy with them as well.
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Virgos And Acts Of Service
A Virgo’s love language is an act of service, and this serves their partners well in the bedroom. Virgos are often unforgettable, and once you are involved with one, it’s something you don’t stop thinking about. Virgos tend to your needs and have fun doing so. They feel a sense of love and empowerment in seeing their partners genuinely pleased, and you don’t have to worry about taking scores in the bedroom with a Virgo. Virgos are the type to go above and beyond.
Virgo's Best Sexual Compatibility
Virgo and Taurus
Virgo and Taurus have great chemistry in the bedroom. Two earth signs coming together is a match made in heaven, and these two are both high in sensuality. This pairing is filled with a lot of physical touch, taking things slow, and learning each other’s bodies. A Taurus is focused on pleasure, and a Virgo is focused on pleasing, so this is a good match for both of them.
Virgo and Scorpio
Virgo and Scorpio have a fun, kinky sex life. This is the type of pairing to do it often and anywhere, and this relationship is one where they both feel the passion and desire for one another. Virgo and Scorpio have high sexual compatibility, which is why this pairing is so common in Astrology. These two are both some of the most talked about in bed, so why not have the best of the best come together?
Virgo and Gemini
Virgo and Gemini are an experimental couple with high sexual chemistry. Being both mutable signs, they are always up for trying something new, and they are both open-minded people. They want to explore each other’s bodies, learn from each other, and create an environment where they can be themselves or maybe even someone else for a while.
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Overview
A Virgo’s sex life is often very different from their personal one. They are all business in public and more wild in private. So much of Virgos' personal life is controlled that this is an area of their life where they feel comfortable to let loose. Virgos are good partners to have in relationships and when it comes to something less serious. If they are looking for a committed partner, they will be open about that, and if they are looking for a short-term fling, you will have an f-buddy who is going to keep it real with you.
Although Virgo will be cleaning up, washing sheets, and making the bedroom look like nothing ever happened after the act is done, they are still a very fun partner to have in the bedroom. Virgos are so good in bed because they are the type who, once they decide they want to do something, will do it- and be the best at it.
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Although this might seem like a heavy way to intro this particular topic, because the O Method is an orgasm-achieving technique that centers around housing energy, embracing the mental practice of manifestation, and the attempt to achieve the best climaxes ever — it all works together pretty well if you ask me. If you want to take your orgasms to the next level, it’s important that you get out of yourself (to a certain extent), that you see the spiritual role that manifestation plays, and that you are open to trying new things. No doubt about it.
So, let’s learn more about what the O Method is all about and how it very well could be just what you’ve been looking for…even if you didn’t know it.
What Is the “O Method” All About?
GiphyQuestion: When’s the last time you’ve had an orgasm? Not just any orgasm — I mean a really mind-blowing one (I’ll give you a second to think about it). Now, what if you could manifest that experience to the point where it wasn’t a rare occurrence but something that happened almost every time that you and your partner had sex with each other? How absolutely awesome would that be?
That is pretty much what the O Method is all about — helping you achieve the kind of orgasms (and sexual pleasure, in general) that you desire through the practice of manifestation. And since your biggest sex organ is your brain, it would make perfect sense that even with all of the tips and techniques that you might learn to do as far as your body is concerned, honing in on what you think about is super imperative to sexual fulfillment, too. And that’s just where manifestation comes in.
What If You’ve Never “Manifested” Anything Before?
GiphyBefore we get into a quick lesson on manifestation, I think it’s important to mention two things. One, for the cynics, there is a lot of truth in the fact that it’s got some solid spiritual basis to it because even the Good Book says that as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7). At the same time, that same Good Book tells us that faith without works is dead (James 2:14-26). So, while it is always a good idea to focus on good, positive, and productive thoughts, just thinking about them isn’t enough — at some point, you’ve also gotta get out here and DO something (bookmark that).
Okay, with that mini-sermon out of the way, whether it’s in the bedroom or not, manifestation is basically about focusing on something tangible that you desire, harnessing your energy in such a way that your words and actions are directed towards that longing until what you want, well, manifests. For the record, aside from this having a spiritual backing to it, in many ways, science cosigns on manifesting, too. There is actually a scientific process known as neuroplasticity that consists of reframing your mind so that your actions ultimately end up aligning with your goals — and that is another way to look at manifestation.
So, what if you’re someone who has never set out to do a manifestation practice before? No worries. Something that’s awesome about it is there are several different approaches that you can take.
Some people manifest what they want in their lives via:
- Journaling
- Visualization/Creating vision boards
- Writing down their desires before going to bed (so that they can “download” them into their dream state)
- Creating mantras and affirmations
- Applying the 369 Manifestation Method (you can learn more about that here)
- Meditating
- Learning more about what you want to manifest (which brings forth clarity)
This is important to keep in mind because, when it comes to manifesting the types of orgasms that you want to have, as you can see, you can try different manifestation methods until you find one (or ones) that you are truly comfortable with. One that can ease you into the entire process rather smoothly is something known as sex journaling.
How Sex Journaling Can Actually Help You to Have an Orgasm
GiphyAs a writer, I’m a big fan of journaling. Mostly because it’s a way to get out some of your deepest thoughts and feelings so that you’re able to really process what is happening inside of you in a private setting. And when it comes to sex journaling, specifically, it’s all about centering yourself on the things sexually that you want to “unpack,” get clarity on or come to some revelations about. For instance, if there’s only been one partner from your past who’s been able to help you achieve the type of orgasms that you wish to manifest, journaling about what makes him different from the other guys can provide you with some solid ah-ha moments.
Or if you need help getting as specific as possible about the sexual experiences that you’re after, journaling can help to make that happen for you — because one thing that manifesting reminds us all to do is be as specific as possible.
Yeah, simply saying, “I want to have better sex” isn’t detailed enough when you want to get your energy to match with your desires — instead, describe how all of your senses should feel in the experience, along with why, that can get you so much closer to achieving your goal. Once those things are documented, you can segue into creating mantras and/or meditation that are based on them. Yeah, sex journaling really is an underrated superpower on a lot of levels (check out “The Art Of Sex Journaling (And Why You Should Do It)”).
5 Tips for Making the O Method Work for You
GiphyNow that you know more about what the O Method is and how manifestation plays a direct role in its process, let’s talk about five ways to make the O Method truly effective in your own (sex) life.
1. Focus, FULLY, on your feminine energy. What do rose quartz, amethyst, moonstone (which is a Gemini birthstone as well; yes, I’m a Gemini), selenite, and rhodonite all have in common? They’re crystals that help you to go deeper into your divine feminine energy. Traits that are associated with this include compassion, creativity, kindness, gentleness, and sensuality (feminine energy is also accepting and forgiving). If you were to study energy from a biological standpoint, it’s about producing change, responding to stimuli, and having the ability to do what needs to be done (work). So, when it comes to manifesting the kind of orgasms or sexual experiences that you want, using things like your creativity and gentleness in your thoughts and actions can play a role in bringing balance to your partner’s masculinity, which can create a profound sense of pleasure — after all, opposites do attract.
2. Don’t hold back on what it is that you desire. Whenever I interview sex therapists, something that they all say is, a huge mistake that people make as far as sexual satisfaction is concerned is, they have walls up — not just with their partners but even within themselves. Sometimes, there is intimidation, fear, or even shame around what they really want to happen during sex to the point where they aren’t able to channel their energy fully in those directions in order to manifest what they want. For the O Method to work, you can’t let those types of negative emotions hinder you; the more you are able to articulate what you want and how you want it, the better chance you have of making it happen. So yes, get graphic. As graphic as possible.
3. Make manifestation a daily practice. Repetition is important when it comes to manifestation. That’s because the more you declare what you desire (a mantra), get still and think on it (meditation), or look at the “art” that you’ve created surrounding it (visualization), the quicker it becomes a part of you. So yes, make manifestation a daily practice. For instance, if one of your mantras is, “I am going to have intensely passionate orgasms, one right after the other,” don’t just state that 15 minutes before sex is going to happen. Wake up and declare it. Then say it on your lunch break. And again before turning in. The more your thoughts are “streamlined” in this way, the easier it will be for your body to follow suit.
4. Share this practice with your partner. If you were to do even more research on the O Method, one thing that most of the articles will mention is it’s a practice that you can do alone or with your partner. Indeed. However, I just want to make sure that you get into your psyche that great sex is, in part, about good communication. And so, the more comfortable you are sharing with your partner what you are doing as far as the O Method is concerned and what you ultimately want to happen as a result of the practice, the easier it will be for him to “match your energy” — both in and out of the bedroom. And when your partner is on the same page as you? That definitely increases the chances of attaining your sexual desires — exponentially so.
5. Stay in the moment. While I was reading one article on manifestation, I really appreciated something that the author said: manifestation isn’t some supernatural power. In other words, while it can be beneficial, it’s not like you can just think of something, and it instantly appears out of nowhere. Manifesting is a discipline, and it must be accompanied by action, consistency, and patience — this means that you must also practice mindfulness. Meaning, now that you know better what you’re looking to achieve as far as sex is concerned, every time that it transpires, maintain a level of positive energy, remember what your end goal is, and then determine in your mind to enjoy the moments as they come. Remember, manifestation isn’t to add stress…it’s to cultivate clarity.
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At the end of the day, the O Method is simply a way of reminding you that your mind plays a huge role in your sexual pleasure, and when you channel it and your energy exactly where you want them both to go, you’ll be amazed what your body is capable of doing…and accomplishing.
So, what kind of orgasm are you wanting to achieve? You’ve got a tool to get you there. USE IT.
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