

Women of today are more sexually liberated than the women before us, however, there are moments when we millennials can get a little shy when speaking on our sexual appetites. What subconscious pleasures really turn you on? Some women like passionate and gentle love-making, others like it wild and rough. Maybe you lowkey like a strong spiritual connection, or perhaps naughty role playing gets you going. Read on to learn your hidden libido turn-on, based on your zodiac sign!
What Turns On An Aries
Make-up sex really gets the Aries nature in you riled up! After getting into a heated argument with your partner, one of the first things that comes to your dirty little mind, is how good the make-up sex is going to be! Aries women like things to go their way, and when things are leaning in the other direction, you know that you can use your magical sexual prowess to get things back in order. You know that make-up sex is bound to happen, and there is a part of you that makes a devious inward smirk after a fight with your lover, because you know it's about to be on and poppin'.
Pro Tip: If you and your boo are going through a little riff and you want to make it right, when you know they are coming home, leave a little trail of sweets from the door to the bedroom, and allow your honeypot to be the last treat.
What Turns On A Gemini
Gemini, you are the boss in bed! Subconsciously knowing that you are calling the shots really turns you on. Riding on top is likely to be one of your favorite positions. Your Gemini spirit loves the idea of being the dominant partner. You like to control the flow of love-making. You might even secretly like constraining your partner's hands so that you have free reign. If and when you decide to be more submissive, it's only because you said so...and that is how you like it.
Pro Tip: Give your lover a freaky clock-in text and tell them to report to work. Once they do, they will receive their nightly task in the bedroom.
What Turns On A Taurus
In everyday life, the Taurus woman is tough as nails, but in between the sheets, you melt just like hot chocolate when it comes to romantic and playful love-making. Being deeply in love and comfortable with your partner turns you on the most! You like being soft, sexy, and feminine. You like laughing and you like talking in between positions. You like gazing in your lover's eyes. Subconsciously, you love to let loose and have fun when you are getting it in.
Pro Tip: Tell your lover that a new burlesque club has opened up in the living room and the show starts at 11:11. They'd better be on time, if they want front row seats.
What Turns On A Cancer
The Cancer spirit in you loves the thrill of an unexpected and mysterious sexual escapade. Subconsciously, you are turned on by the fact that you and your partner both know that y'all came for one thing and one thing only. You likely love listening to steamy, seductive, driving melodies that seem to dictate the speed at which you groove on it. Discovering the little sexual secrets about your partner's body, takes you on an intoxicating trip leading to an infinite destination of bliss.
Pro Tip: Invite your lover on a little road trip to a private spot on the beach or a park and get frisky on the way there.
What Turns On A Leo
Leo women like it all about them. You subconsciously enjoy being ravished and worshipped. Your body is a temple, and your partner understands that they are in your house. You expect your lover to pull out all the stops in making sure that your pleasure is achieved. When your lover goes out of the way to cater to you, your body responds like Mother Earth herself. All of your volcanoes erupt, the waves of your waters collide, your winds blow, and your flowers bloom.
Pro Tip: Go on a couples' pedicure and massage date, then have them suck your toes and rub you down later on.
What Turns On A Virgo
The Virgo energy in you is subconsciously turned on when your partner says all the right things, and touches all the right places. You are a sucker for foreplay, and not just when you get in that bedroom...Virgos like to start the sexual experience way before they even hit the sheets. Receiving little dirty text messages about what's going down later on will drive a Virgo crazy! If you see a Virgo woman devilishly smiling to herself with her phone in hand throughout the day, best believe that she has a freaky appointment scheduled for later on.
Pro Tip: Send your boo a dirty text every hour on the hour, then see what that mouth do at the end of the day.
What Turns On A Libra
Nothing quite stirs a Libra woman up like a passionate night of revenge sex. After being hurt by someone you were intimate with, sex with someone else, regardless of whether they're connected to your partner or not, subconsciously gets your ocean flowing. This is an energy of "sex with no strings attached." This may not be your ideal long-term situation, but it gets the job done in the best way when you need it.
Pro Tip: Find every strong surface in your apartment, and go to town!
What Turns On A Scorpio
Scorpios are known for connecting with other people through the sacral chakra, which carries spiritual and sexual energies. Nothing turns the Scorpio woman on more than, a deep energetic and spiritual connection with their partner. Subconsciously, feeling like you are completely in sync with your lover in ways that cannot be explained with words, will have a Scorpio speaking in tongues.
Pro Trip: Buy a book on spiritual tantra for sexual meditation techniques, light some candles and some palo santo, play some Tibetan bell music, and sync your orgasms at the same time.
What Turns On A Sagittarius
The Sagittarius is an independent spirit, and that doesn't stop in the bedroom. Of course intimacy with someone else is adventurous and satisfying for her, but this self-starter likes to self-start, if you know what I mean… Before she can be pleased by anybody else, a Sagittarius is subconsciously turned on by pleasing herself. By knowing what she likes through trial and error, she is able to school her partner, for her own ultimate satisfaction. Don't be surprised if she gets it going without you.
Pro Tip: Take a trip to the sex shop together and buy yourselves new toys. Later on, test out your new buys and review them through dirty talk.
What Turns On A Capricorn
For a Capricorn, nothing is like that "good ole' thang," that "ole' reliable," or the one that your homegirls give you a shady side eye for dealing with. Subconsciously, your reasoning mind might feel like if the car drives well, is good on gas, and gets you from point A to point B, then why not take it for a little ride? Even if it's just once in a while. Sometimes all you need is a little tune up, or maybe a oil change, to get you back on track. You might regret it later, but that good-good is so worth it.
Pro Tip: Netflix and Sex: there will be no chilling.
What Turns On An Aquarius
Aquarius, nothing turns you on more than sex you ain't supposed to be having. This is that "on the low," "ain't nobody supposed to know," "out of sight out of mind" sex. Whether you or your partner for the moment is in a committed or an open relationship with someone else, or both of you want to keep it on a "need to know" basis, nothing revs you up more than a quick sexual rendezvous with a temporary partner. This is about breaking all the rules, and it ain't nobody else's business.
Pro Tip: Change the names of each other in your phones for a day to something ridiculous, and only communicate using those names when getting it in.
What Turns On A Pisces
Since the nature of the Pisces woman is as introverted as it is extroverted, you love to compartmentalize your lovers. Having one partner to fulfill one need, and another to fulfill something else, is your subconscious libido charger. You have your own team of sexual suitors, and you are the coach! The idea of being polyamorous is likely a fulfilling scenario for you because you can control the type of connection you have with each partner and give whomever no longer meshes with your vibe the pink slip when necessary.
Pro Tip: Schedule your lovers like night and day... literally.
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Devale Ellis On Being A Provider, Marriage Growth & Redefining Fatherhood
In this candid episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Devale Ellis, actor, social media personality, and star of Zatima, about modern masculinity, learning to be a better husband, emotional presence in marriage, fatherhood for Black men, and leading by example.
“I Wasn’t Present Emotionally”: Devale Ellis on Marriage Growth
Devale Ellis On Learning He Was a ‘Bad Husband’
Ellis grew up believing that a man should prioritize providing for his family. “I know this may come off as misogynistic, but I feel like it’s my responsibility as a man to pay for everything,” he said, emphasizing the wise guidance passed down by his father. However, five years into his marriage to long-time partner Khadeen Ellis, he realized provision wasn’t just financial.
“I was a bad husband because I wasn’t present emotionally… I wasn’t concerned about what she needed outside of the resources.”
Once he shifted his mindset, his marriage improved. “In me trying to be of service to her, I learned that me being of service created a woman who is now willing to be of service to me.”
On Redefining Masculinity and Fatherhood
For Ellis, “being a man is about being consistent.” As a father of four, he sees parenthood as a chance to reshape the future.
“Children give you another chance at life. I have four different opportunities right now to do my life all over again.”
He also works to uplift young Black men, reinforcing their worth in a world that often undermines them. His values extend to his career—Ellis refuses to play roles that involve domestic violence or sexual assault.
Watch the full episode below:
On Marriage, Family Planning, and Writing His Story
After his wife’s postpartum preeclampsia, Ellis chose a vasectomy over her taking hormonal birth control, further proving his commitment to their partnership. He and Khadeen share their journey in We Over Me, and his next book, Raising Kings: How Fatherhood Saved Me From Myself, is on the way.
Through honesty and growth, Devale Ellis challenges traditional ideas of masculinity, making his story one that resonates deeply with millennial women.
For the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker peels back the layers of masculinity with candid conversations that challenge stereotypes and celebrate vulnerability. Real men. Real stories. Real talk.
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6 Tabletop Sex Positions That'll Unlock You & Bae's Most Primal Desires
Something I will never tire of is finding new ways to bring new layers to intimacy. A wall you use as momentum, a bathroom sink to help you keep your balance as he worships you on his knees, a shower that is usually for cleansing but evolves into a sacred ritual of shared intimacy.
My favorite kind of sex is the kind of sex that prioritizes pleasure and connection. So, technically and thankfully, I can say most of my sex life has been quite pleasurable throughout the years. But the memorable encounters for sure take the cake. One such encounter actually took place on a kitchen counter, and with it unleashed inhibitions in ways I never anticipated while unlocking levels to top-tier sex. And that, that involved a kitchen counter.
Why Kitchen Counter Sex Just Hits Different
What is it about having your hips pressed into the edge of a kitchen counter that lets out something so primal in you? The cool-to-the-touch feel of the countertop against exposed skin as you rise to meet him again and again. The urgency in every movement. The playfulness of repurposing an everyday space for something far more erotic. If you’re looking to bring that energy into your own sex life, keep reading for positions and tips to explore.
1. The Bounce House
They don’t call it Bounce House for nothing. In this position, the penetrating partner lies flat on their back on a sturdy table or counter while the receiving partner straddles them, knees bent and facing away. With their hands gripping the edge of the surface for support, the receiving partner slides or bounces at their own pace, owning the rhythm, the motion, and the view.
According to sex therapist Michael Aaron, Ph.D., who spoke with Women’s Health, the receiving partner placing their legs between their partner’s creates a tighter sensation, while staying fully astride allows for more bounce and range of motion. Either way, this one puts the receiver in full control, and you know we love a good woman on top position. Pleasure and power? Say less.
2. The Bicycle
Well, you know what they say about riding a bike. In the case of this table top position, it's the receiving partner who is the rider...but not in the way you think. While lying back on a sturdy surface or a table, the receiver will bring their knees toward their chest, bending them as if in a cycling motion. The penetrating partner stands at the edge of the surface, grabbing the receiver's ankles, and guides themselves inside, slowly so as to savor the moment. This angle puts everything on display for the penetrating partner while allowing for deep, connected thrusting for the receiver.
To take things up a notch , the receiving partner can touch themselves or flex their thighs to control the depth or the rhythm. Because, who says only one person gets to have control?
3. Counter Offer
How could we be at the table and not use it to eat? Enter: Counter Offer. In this oral-focused sex position, the receiving partner perches on the edge of a counter or table, lying back or sitting upright with legs parted or bent for comfort. The penetrating partner kneels or stands between their thighs, depending on the setup and the kind of attention they’re ready to give. No doubt, this one’s all about access and intention.
With the vulva front and center, the height makes it easier to maintain eye contact, use hands freely for things like breast play or incorporating toys, and take their time with every moan-inducing taste. And that’s on five, six, seven, ATE.
4. Standing Doggy
Standing Doggy is what happens when a classic like doggy style gets an upgrade. Instead of being on all fours on a bed, the receiving partner bends over a hard surface like a table or counter, keeping their hips aligned at its edge. The penetrating partner stands behind and enters from the back, using the angle to go deeper and create a strong, steady rhythm. This one offers maximum control and visual appeal, especially if the penetrating partner reaches around for a little extra clitoral stimulation throughout thrusting.
This angle can get intense quickly, so bonus points if the receiving partner engages their pelvic floor muscles or shifts their weight to adjust how the pressure hits, especially if your goal is to hit that G-spot sweet spot.
5. Top Shelf
Men's Healthcalls this one "Yourself on the Shelf," but we like to call it "Top Shelf" because it's giving full view, full grip, and climax potential that's hard to top. The receiving partner sits on the edge of a sturdy table or counter while the penetrating partner stands in front of them and slowly slides in, thrusting while keeping them in position. From there, legs can wrap around their waist, arms can encircle their back, and the closeness at peak ecstasy? Chef's kiss.
If you have the core strength, add lifting to the menu for the final strokes leading to orgasm. Otherwise, allow the surface to the heavy lifting and enjoy the pleasure.
6. The Thumper
What better way to remind yourself that you're both the snack and the entrée than with a little tableside service courtesy of The Thumper? This position has the receiving partner kneeling on a sturdy table or counter (keyword: sturdy), hands gripping the edge or braced in front for support. The penetrating partner can then either kneel behind them (if there's room for two), or stay anchored on the ground with both feet planted on the floor (similar to the previously mentioned Standing Doggy). It all depends on the mood.
Kneeling on the table offers just the right amount of leverage for deep, steady strokes. The receiving partner can play with tightness by either keeping their knees closer together for a snug grip, or open their knees wider to invite more access, depth, and stretch. The Thumper is versatile that way, and the most important thing? The receiver gets to be the main course. Yum.
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