Angela Bassett and her husband Courtney B. Vance have one of those timeless love stories that prove an A-list marriage in Hollywood can stand the test of time. They met as classmates at the Yale School of Drama in the '80s and have remained peak relationship goals for each generation they have reintroduced themselves to throughout the years.
Since, the duo has accumulated years of accolades as a team (Vance winning his second Emmy in 2021, and Bassett’s highly-anticipated first Oscar win for Marvel’s Black Panther: Wakanda Forever, which takes place this weekend). We love them because they exemplify Black Love in definitive terms, and they value family and privacy despite starring in blockbuster shows and movies for decades.
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And the best part is that their marriage is a real-life fairytale, complete with making their way back to each other years after initially meeting.
Here's the relationship timeline of Angela Bassett and Courtney B. Vance’s love over the years:
1980s
Angela and Courtney were first introduced to one another at the Yale School of Drama. Vance had already obtained his BA from Harvard and attended Yale alongside Bassett for their MFAs. Their initial meeting in grad school wasn’t in a romantic capacity, as at the time, each of them was dating other people.
Angela Bassett and Courtney B. Vance in 1999.
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1990s
Roughly 14 years after meeting, the two had a reunion in LA, which was the first time the two had a budding romance. Bassett told People, “I was single. He was single. And I had such an appreciation for him over those years — of his consistency, how he treated other people, of what a supporter he is, what a connector of people he is, how passionate he is.”
The high-profile romance as we know it today almost didn’t happen, revealing first date details to Oprah, Bassett recalled, “Dare I say, it wasn’t memorable. He just seemed like a really, really nice guy, which translated to kind of boring. That was it. Wasn’t going to give him a second thought.”
The Vances eventually got married in 1997, trading off his and hers box office smashes --he starred in movies such as Dangerous Minds, The Preacher’s Wife, and Space Cowboys, and she, Malcolm X, The Jacksons: An American Dream, Boyz in the Hood, and What’s Love Got to Do With It.
Angela Bassett and Courtney B. Vance in 2002.
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2000s
After seven years of IVF, the pair’s children, fraternal twins Bronwyn and Slater were born in 2006, via surrogacy. A year later, they co-wrote a book about their relationship titled, Friends: A Love Story, where they opened up about the difficulties they’ve faced in becoming parents, Angela telling Oprah in 2007 after welcoming the twins, "I had a dream about seven years ago that we were going to have twins. I didn't know how it was going to happen. Just standing there together, holding each other with the realization that this is the moment that we've been working toward, praying for … [it's a dream come true]."
Bassett regularly shows off the twins, who are now 16 years old (omg!), on Instagram. Bronwyn reps the 2022 Los Angeles Team Member of the Year title for her work in raising money for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society (LLS). Slater is a musician, releasing music and even an album in 2021.
Angela Bassett and Courtney B. Vance in 2022.
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Present Day
The Vances celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary with a party, surrounded by family and friends in October of 2022, joining the ‘forever teammates’ class with other long-term couples such as Denzel and Pauletta Washington, Grant Hill and Tamia, and Magic and Cookie Johnson.
And although 2023 may be Auntie Angela’s season as Black Panther: Wakanda Forever is up for a string of awards, Vance is never far away, admiring his wife and filming her speeches on his phone.
“We’ve had successes, we’ve had failures; we’ve had spectacular wins, we’ve had devastating losses … But through it all, there’s been one, beautiful constant: We’ve always had each other!" Angela wrote in an Instagram post celebrating their anniversary.
A 25-year energy I wish on us all.
Happy 25th anniversary to the Vances!
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My main motive? Mostly, I hope that it will serve as a solid reminder to embrace all of the things that you adore about this time of year, so long as you do it in moderation and you weigh the costs.
Especially as far as drinking alcohol is concerned.
PRO: Manages Blood Sugar Levels
GiphyHere’s something that you may have never seen coming. Were you aware of the fact that alcohol can actually help to stabilize your blood sugar? Yep, according to the American Diabetes Association, so long as you leave it to no more than 1-2 cocktails a day, alcohol may be able to lower your A1C levels. Pretty cool, right?
CON: It’s a Carcinogen
GiphyAlcohol is a carcinogen. The reason why this should somewhat alarm you is because carcinogens are things (like tobacco, UV rays, processed meats, etc.) that can increase your chances of being diagnosed with cancer (especially mouth, throat, esophagus, stomach and breast cancer). There are various ways this happens including the fact that alcohol, specifically, can hinder your body from breaking down certain nutrients, it can cause your estrogen levels to spike and alcohol can also cause certain toxins to damage your DNA and certain bodily proteins over time.
PRO: Cultivates Euphoric Feelings
GiphyIf you find yourself feeling more euphoric while you’re enjoying a drink, it’s not all up in your head. Although, for the more part, alcohol is considered to be a depressant, when consumed in small amounts, it can provide a stimulant effect. This happens due to the fact that when you first start to consume alcohol, it causes the production of the feel-good hormone known as dopamine to increase — and since dopamine makes us all feel more relaxed and confident while heightening our senses of pleasure too…well, there you have it.
CON: May Increase Anxiety/Depression
GiphyAs they say, “what goes up, most come down” at some point — and that is what you have to be careful of when it comes to alcohol consumption. For instance, when you drink alcohol, although it tends to initially cause your dopamine levels to uptick, because it is a temporary bodily response, sometimes the dips are lower than the rises…and that is when anxiety starts to kick in. A similar point is made with depression because oftentimes, people with depression-related symptoms, will use alcohol as a way to deflect from what’s really going on with them — and that can make them feel even worse than ever once the buzz of alcohol starts to wear off.
PRO: Has Some Heart-Related Benefits
GiphyWhen it comes to your heart, there are interesting findings surrounding its relationship to alcohol. For instance, some research states that, so long as the consumption is moderate, alcohol can actually help to increase the good cholesterol in your system while also breaking down proteins that can potentially lead to blood clots; both of these factors alone can reduce your chances of dying from heart disease.
CON: Packs on Pounds
GiphyIt’s no secret that alcohol tends to contain quite a few calories. That’s why, it’s not uncommon for people who’ve lost weight to mention “I’ve stopped drinking” as one of the causes for the shed pounds. That’s not to say that there aren’t some alcoholic beverages that have less calories than others including vodka (133 calories per serving), white wine (148 calories per serving) and tequila (99 calories per shot). Just keep in mind that the more you drink, the more calories get into your system and the more weight you stand to gain.
PRO: Lowers Inhibitions
GiphyAlthough you really should only be uninhibited around people who you absolutely trust, if that person is your partner and you’re looking to have a pretty — eh hem — active evening, alcohol can certainly help to make that happen. The science of it all is the prefrontal cortex of your brain is what regulates your inhibitions and levels of self-control. Meanwhile, alcohol suppresses your inhibitions which can cause you to be more spontaneous and open to trying things that you might not immediately do if you were sober. And with the right individual, that can be sexually beneficial (emphasis on “right person”).
CON: Makes It Harder to Orgasm
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‘Tis the season. And with that, if some wassails or hot buttered rums are in your immediate future — hey, don’t let me stop you — not even a lil’ bit.
All I’m saying is now that you know what alcoholic drinks have to offer (both ways), you can know exactly how to incorporate them into your holiday plans. Enjoy!
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