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Jeannie Mai Reveals She & Jeezy Ended Up Getting Pregnant Naturally After Beginning IVF Treatments
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Jeannie Mai Reveals She & Jeezy Ended Up Getting Pregnant Naturally After Beginning IVF Treatments

The Real host gets candid about her journey to motherhood.

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A month after Jeannie Mai Jenkins surprised everyone with her pregnancy news, she dropped a video on her YouTube channel, Hello Hunnay with Jeanie Mai, where she got candid about her journey. The Real host married rapper Jeezy on March 27, 2021 and six months later in September, she revealed that she was pregnant. While many people congratulated the couple, others were shocked by the news as the 42-year-old was previously married and said that she didn't want kids. However, during her talk show, she gave a little insight into why she now felt ready to have kids.


"Jeezy made me realize I've never really felt safe in my life, you know? I never really, truly felt safe. And of course that has to do with things that happened when I was younger. But when you know what feeling unsafe is like, that becomes your world. And falling in love with Jeezy, meeting somebody who also didn't feel safe in their life, we began to really create a place where our happiness spelled out what safe looked like around us.
"So as soon as you feel safe in a healthy relationship, all of a sudden you start having visions and dreams. And for both of us, at the same time, it would be becoming parents, having kids."

Speaking on her YouTube channel, Jeannie explained that she and Jeezy were actually trying to get pregnant a year before they got married:

"We tried and tried a year before we actually got married and I did end up getting pregnant and I unfortunately lost the baby. I had a miscarriage. This was extremely shocking because I experienced all the things that women feel when you work so hard to create something, but it doesn't work out for you and you feel at blame. It was called a chemical pregnancy where you're told that you're pregnant and your body gets to develop as if you are pregnant, but you lose the baby in the first few stages and so it doesn't actually manifest and continue to grow, but your body continues to behave like you're pregnant."

While she admitted that the miscarriage made her emotional, it also brought her and Jeezy closer and they decided to go the IVF treatments route. They began the in vitro shots on the day of their wedding and had been doing the shots for two weeks before she discovered the surprising news. Jeannie went in for a routine appointment, left and boarded a plane when she realized the doctor was trying to contact her.

"Of course if a doctor starts calling you after any appointment you start flipping out," she said.

"I get off the plane, I call the doctor and the doctor's like stop taking your shots, you're pregnant. You guys got pregnant on your own. We got pregnant a week after the wedding."

What a beautiful story! This will be Jeannie's first child and Jeezy's third. The rapper has a 25-year-old son and a seven-year-old daughter.

Jeannie also said that they don't know the sex of the baby yet, but "we're gonna love whatever we get."

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Black Women, We Deserve More

When the NYT posted an article this week about the recent marriage of a Black woman VP of a multi-billion-dollar company and a Black man who took her on a first date at the parking lot of a Popeyes, the reaction on social media was swift and polarizing. The two met on Hinge and had their parking lot rendezvous after he’d canceled their first two dates. When the groom posted a photo from their wedding on social media, he bragged about how he never had “pressure” to take her on “any fancy dates or expensive restaurants.”

It’s worth reading on your own to get the full breadth of all the foolery that transpired. But the Twitter discourse it inspired on what could lead a successful Black woman to accept lower than bare minimum in pursuit of a relationship and marriage, made me think of the years of messaging that Black women receive about how our standards are too high and what we have to “bring to the table” in order to be "worthy" of what society has deemed is the ultimate showing of our worth: a marriage to a man.

That's right, the first pandemic I lived through was not Covid, but the pandemic of the Black male relationship expert. I was young – thirteen to be exact – when Steve Harvey published his best-selling book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. Though he was still just a stand-up comedian, oversized suit hoarder, and man on his third marriage at the time, his relationship advice was taken as the gospel truth.

The 2000s were a particularly bleak time to be a single Black woman. Much of the messaging –created by men – that surrounded Black women at the time blamed their desire for a successful career and for a partner that matched their drive and ambition for the lack of romance in their life. Statistics about Black women’s marriageability were always wielded against Black women as evidence of our lack of desirability.

It’s no wonder then that a man that donned a box cut well into the 2000s was able to convince women across the nation to not have sex for the first three months of a relationship. Or that a slew of other Black men had their go at telling Black women that they’re not good enough and why their book, seminar, or show will be the thing that makes them worthy of a Good Man™.

This is how we end up marrying men who cancel twice before taking us on a “date” in the Popeyes parking lot, or husbands writing social media posts about how their Black wife is not “the most beautiful” or “the most intelligent” or the latest season of trauma dumping known as Black Love on OWN.

Now that I’ve reached my late twenties, many things about how Black women approach dating and relationships have changed and many things have remained the same. For many Black women, the idea of chronic singleness is not the threat that it used to be. Wanting romance doesn’t exist in a way that threatens to undermine the other relationships we have with our friends, family, and ourselves as it once did, or at least once was presented to us. There is a version of life many of us are embracing where a man not wanting us, is not the end of what could still be fruitful and vibrant life.

There are still Black women out there however who have yet to unlearn the toxic ideals that have been projected onto us about our worthiness in relation to our intimate lives. I see it all the time online. The absolute humiliation and disrespect some Black women are willing to stomach in the name of being partnered. The hoops that some Black women are willing to jump through just to receive whatever lies beneath the bare minimum.

It's worth remembering that there are different forces at play that gather to make Black women feast off the scraps we are given. A world saturated by colorism, fatphobia, anti-Blackness, ableism, and classism will always punish Black women who demand more for themselves. Dismantling these systems also means divesting from any and everything that makes us question our worth.

Because truth be told, Black women are more than worthy of having a love that is built on mutual respect and admiration. A love that is honey sweet and radiates a light that rivals the sun. A love that is a steadying calming force that doesn’t bring confusion or anxiety. Black women deserve a love that is worthy of the prize that we are.

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