
Society is experiencing a shift where open conversations about nonmonogamy are becoming increasingly common.
In recent years, there has been a notable increase in the number of folx expressing interest in ethical nonmonogamy and polyamory on dating platforms. The CEO of Feeld, a dating app catering to those exploring alternative relationship structures, reported to Slate a 500% surge in users incorporating terms like "ethically nonmonogamous" and "polyamorous" in their profiles over the past three years.
Similarly, OkCupid observed a 45% rise in profile mentions of nonmonogamy-related terms between 2021 and 2023. These statistics, reported by Axios, highlight a growing trend towards open and alternative relationship styles.
Of course, we appreciate these numbers and it’s also important to talk about what this concept means for our people.
Ancestral Practices of Nonmonogamy in African Cultures
In many African societies, relationships were traditionally structured in ways that defied Western monogamous norms. Polygamy, for instance, was a common practice in several cultures, rooted in community building and mutual support rather than possessiveness. Highlighting historical practices like these can show the cultural lineage of ethical nonmonogamy in the Black diaspora.
Polyamory in Afro-Caribbean Spiritual Practices
Certain Afro-Caribbean spiritual traditions, such as Vodou, Santería, and Ifá, emphasize communal love and relationships that transcend monogamy. Practitioners often speak of building large, inclusive networks of love and care, which align with polyamorous ideals.
Modern Polyamory Advocates in Black Communities
There are some notable voices in today’s Black polyamorous and ethically nonmonogamous communities like Kevin Patterson, author of Love’s Not Colorblind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities, which addresses the intersections of race and polyamory.
Ahead, find a list of celebrities who lean into the polyamorous lifestyle.
1. Willow Smith
Willow Smith has been an outspoken advocate for ethical nonmonogamy and polyamory, sharing on Red Table Talk that she values the freedom to explore multiple loving relationships. She sees it as a way to break traditional molds and focus on emotional honesty. “With polyamory, I feel like the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you and not just stepping into monogamy because that's what everyone around you says is the right thing to do,” she said.
2 & 3. Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith
Willow's openness about nonmonogamy may come as no surprise, given her mom, Jada, has hinted at a flexible perspective on relationships. While not outright identifying as polyamorous, Jada has discussed nontraditional approaches to love and partnership.
"Jada never believed in conventional marriage ... Jada had family members that had an unconventional relationship," the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air alum told GQ in November 2021. "We have given each other trust and freedom, with the belief that everybody has to find their own way. And marriage for us can't be a prison. The freedoms that we've given one another and the unconditional support, to me, is the highest definition of love."
4. RuPaul
RuPaul, the renowned drag queen and creator of RuPaul's Drag Race, recently disclosed that he and his husband have an open relationship. "It’s just realistic. There’s no such thing as monogamy with men,” Ru said in an interview with the New Yorker. However, due to his celebrity status, he expressed that he no longer has a reliable "circle of people" for intimacy.
5. Kehlani
In 2018, musician Kehlani tweeted that they were a "lil poly pansexual," but it was unclear to fans whether they were identifying as polyamorous or polysexual.
In 2020, during an appearance on The Breakfast Club, Kehlani clarified that they had been in an open relationship with their former partner, YG, when questioned about alleged photos of him kissing another woman outside a club. "That wasn't a rule-breaking situation. I just don't feel like getting online and deeply explaining that that is not a situation that matters to me then I gotta deal with everybody coming at my mentality about an open relationship."
6. DeRay Davis
Comedian DeRay Davis has been open about his polyamorous relationship, or "throuple," including appearances with his partners Coco Crawford and Caro Peguero on The Real and his Oxygen show Living with Funny. Davis emphasizes that he doesn't view himself as a "player" and prioritizes open communication and comfort in the relationship. He had been with one partner for five years and the other for two and a half at the time of his 2017 interview on The Real.
7. Nick Cannon
Nick Cannon, a vocal advocate for open relationships, has fathered multiple children with different women while practicing consensual nonmonogamy. This excludes his two eldest children, who he shares with his ex-wife Mariah Carey. During a 2021 interview with Vermilion County First, Nick said, “That’s a Eurocentric concept. The idea that you’re supposed to have this one person for the rest of your life. The idea that a man should have one woman. We shouldn’t have anything. I have no ownership over this person.”
He continued, “If we’re really talking about how we co-exist and how we populate, it’s about what exchange can we create together. I understand the institution of marriage, but if we go back to what that was about … it was to classify property,” he argued.
8. Jidenna
“When I first started I had the basic dream of threesomes. But then I realized I really wanted to have a romantic relationship with another woman,” Jidenna admitted to Teyana Taylor on Bumble's Luv2SeeIt in August 2022. He shared that he initially explored polyamory to satisfy his sexual curiosities.
Jidenna is currently in a monogamous relationship with his girlfriend, whom he met when she was dating two other men. “Right now, people look at me and [my exclusive partner], and they’re like ‘Wow, y’all are monogamous.’ and I’m like – maybe! But we reserve the right to evolve. Our agreement has license to change; we can change whenever we want.”
9. Janelle Monáe
Like many stars, the “Float” singer spilled her tea on an episode of Red Table Talk. She came out as non-binary and confirmed that she’d been in a poly relationship before. “I wasn’t ready to have my family question my personal life or get calls from people who still look at me as Little Pumpkin — that’s what they call me back home,” she shared. “I needed to talk to my dad, who was just great. My sister knew already because I’ve been in monogamous relationships; I’ve been in polyamorous relationships. But I knew that I couldn’t be Little Pumpkin. I couldn’t be little Janelle.”
10. Omarion
Omarion expressed openness to polyamory on Club Shay Shay, stating that he believes his future partner or partners will seek him out. “She finds me. It’s been a while since I’ve actually been in a ‘girlfriend-boyfriend’ type of relationship. But I think a private life is a happy life. I believe that she finds me.”
The artist went on to say, “It might be ‘shes.’ ‘Shes’ might find me. Plurals. ‘Shes.’ I’m just saying if I really thought about my lifestyle and being with me—the pressure of being with me and it just being one woman. I don’t know if that exists. I don’t come from a traditional standpoint. I feel like I’ve definitely tried the traditional way, and I don’t know if that’s for me.”
11. Ne-Yo
Ne-Yo has five children from previous relationships: three with his ex-wife Crystal Renay and two with his ex-fiancée Monyetta Shaw. After his divorce from Crystal, Ne-Yo publicly acknowledged his involvement in a polyamorous relationship, stating that he had discovered monogamy wasn't the right path for him.
Society dictates that one should be with a single partner, get married, and remain together permanently. Ne-Yo clarified that he is not criticizing marriage or those who have made it work for them. He emphasized that while monogamy may be suitable for some, it is not the right fit for him. This realization has brought him a sense of relief and liberation.
In an episode of the YouTube show Lemon Drop, the singer discussed his polyamorous lifestyle with event planner Karleen Roy. "I realized that I've not been living my truth for a very, very long time. I'm living it now, and you could tell my skin is glowing." Ne-yo went on to say, "I'm in a great space, great space, mentally, emotionally, and everything else. I'm in a really good space, and I realized that everything is not for everybody. I know you've heard that said before. It is some of the truest shit that anyone has ever said."
Historical Figures Who Broke Monogamous Norms
Figures like Zora Neale Hurston and Langston Hughes, though not explicitly polyamorous, lived unconventional love lives that rejected strict monogamous boundaries. Their stories illustrate the longstanding tradition of challenging societal norms around love and relationships.
While Marsha P. Johnson and Sylvia Rivera weren’t in a relationship themselves, their work within the queer Black and Brown communities in the 1960s and 70s created spaces where nonmonogamous and nontraditional relationships thrived. Their advocacy normalized diverse expressions of love within marginalized communities.
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Because We Are Still IT, Girl: It Girl 100 Returns
Last year, when our xoNecole team dropped our inaugural It Girl 100 honoree list, the world felt, ahem, a bit brighter.
It was March 2024, and we still had a Black woman as the Vice President of the United States. DEI rollbacks weren’t being tossed around like confetti. And more than 300,000 Black women were still gainfully employed in the workforce.
Though that was just nineteen months ago, things were different. Perhaps the world then felt more receptive to our light as Black women.
At the time, we launched It Girl 100 to spotlight the huge motion we were making as dope, GenZennial Black women leaving our mark on culture. The girls were on the rise, flourishing, drinking their water, minding their business, leading companies, and learning to do it all softly, in rest. We wanted to celebrate that momentum—because we love that for us.
So, we handpicked one hundred It Girls who embody that palpable It Factor moving through us as young Black women, the kind of motion lighting up the world both IRL and across the internet.
It Girl 100 became xoNecole’s most successful program, with the hashtag organically reaching more than forty million impressions on Instagram in just twenty-four hours. Yes, it caught on like wildfire because we celebrated some of the most brilliant and influential GenZennial women of color setting trends and shaping culture. But more than that, it resonated because the women we celebrated felt seen.
Many were already known in their industries for keeping this generation fly and lit, but rarely received recognition or flowers. It Girl 100 became a safe space to be uplifted, and for us as Black women to bask in what felt like an era of our brilliance, beauty, and boundless influence on full display.
And then, almost overnight, it was as if the rug was pulled from under us as Black women, as the It Girls of the world.
Our much-needed, much-deserved season of ease and soft living quickly metamorphosed into a time of self-preservation and survival. Our motion and economic progression seemed strategically slowed, our light under siege.
The air feels heavier now. The headlines colder. Our Black girl magic is being picked apart and politicized for simply existing.
With that climate shift, as we prepare to launch our second annual It Girl 100 honoree list, our team has had to dig deep on the purpose and intention behind this year’s list. Knowing the spirit of It Girl 100 is about motion, sauce, strides, and progression, how do we celebrate amid uncertainty and collective grief when the juice feels like it is being squeezed out of us?
As we wrestled with that question, we were reminded that this tension isn’t new. Black women have always had to find joy in the midst of struggle, to create light even in the darkest corners. We have carried the weight of scrutiny for generations, expected to be strong, to serve, to smile through the sting. But this moment feels different. It feels deeply personal.
We are living at the intersection of liberation and backlash. We are learning to take off our capes, to say no when we are tired, to embrace softness without apology.
And somehow, the world has found new ways to punish us for it.

In lifestyle, women like Kayla Nicole and Ayesha Curry have been ridiculed for daring to choose themselves. Tracee Ellis Ross was labeled bitter for speaking her truth about love. Meghan Markle, still, cannot breathe without critique.
In politics, Kamala Harris, Letitia James, and Jasmine Crockett are dragged through the mud for standing tall in rooms not built for them.
In sports, Angel Reese, Coco Gauff, and Taylor Townsend have been reminded that even excellence will not shield you from racism or judgment.

In business, visionaries like Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye and Melissa Butler are fighting to keep their dreams alive in an economy that too often forgets us first.
Even our icons, Beyoncé, Serena, and SZA, have faced criticism simply for evolving beyond the boxes society tried to keep them in.
From everyday women to cultural phenoms, the pattern is the same. Our light is being tested.

And yet, somehow, through it all, we are still showing up as that girl, and that deserves to be celebrated.
Because while the world debates our worth, we keep raising our value. And that proof is all around us.
This year alone, Naomi Osaka returned from motherhood and mental health challenges to reach the semifinals of the US Open. A’ja Wilson claimed another MVP, reminding us that beauty and dominance can coexist. Brandy and Monica are snatching our edges on tour. Kahlana Barfield Brown sold out her new line in the face of a retailer that had been canceled. And Melissa Butler’s company, The Lip Bar, is projecting a forty percent surge in sales.

We are no longer defining strength by how much pain we can endure. We are defining it by the unbreakable light we continue to radiate.
We are the women walking our daily steps and also continuing to run solid businesses. We are growing in love, taking solo trips, laughing until it hurts, raising babies and ideas, drinking our green juice, and praying our peace back into existence.
We are rediscovering the joy of rest and realizing that softness is not weakness, it is strategy.
And through it all, we continue to lift one another. Emma Grede is creating seats at the table. Valeisha Butterfield has started a fund for jobless Black women. Arian Simone is leading in media with fearless conviction. We are pouring into each other in ways the world rarely sees but always feels.

So yes, we are in the midst of societal warfare. Yes, we are being tested. Yes, we are facing economic strain, political targeting, and public scrutiny. But even war cannot dim a light that is divinely ours.
And we are still shining.
And we are still softening.
And we are still creating.
And we are still It.

That is the quiet magic of Black womanhood, our ability to hold both truth and triumph in the same breath, to say yes, and to life’s contradictions.
It is no coincidence that this year, as SheaMoisture embraces the message “Yes, And,” they stand beside us as partners in celebrating this class of It Girls. Because that phrase, those two simple words, capture the very essence of this moment.
Yes, we are tired. And we are still rising.
Yes, we are questioned. And we are the answer.
Yes, we are bruised. And we are still beautiful.

This year’s It Girl 100 is more than a list. It is a love letter to every Black woman who dares to live out loud in a world that would rather she whisper. This year’s class is living proof of “Yes, And,” women who are finding ways to thrive and to heal, to build and to rest, to lead and to love, all at once.
It is proof that our joy is not naive, our success not accidental. It is the reminder that our light has never needed permission.
So without further ado, we celebrate the It Girl 100 Class of 2025–2026.
We celebrate the millions of us who keep doing it with grace, grit, and glory.
Because despite it all, we still shine.
Because we are still her.
Because we are still IT, girl.
Meet all 100 women shaping culture in the It Girl 100 Class of 2025. View the complete list of honorees here.
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'You Both Are Going To Change': Tabitha & Chance Brown On Their New Body Collection & Successful Partnership
Tabitha and Chance Brown are the epitome of Black love. They've been married for 22 years after first meeting in middle school and share a beautiful blended family. The beloved couple is no stranger to talking about their journey to the altar and the ups and downs they've faced together on their show, Fridays with Tab & Chance. Now, they have taken the name Fridays and expanded it into a body collection.
The new collection, which dropped on November 14, features a body wash and a body lotion that complement their fragrances, Her Business and His Business. "We had such a huge success with the fragrance launch, and it’s because of our customers and fans," Tabitha shares in an exclusive interview with xoNecole.
"They asked for body products and we wanted to make sure we listened. But also layering fragrance begins with the body routine." The body wash is $33, and the body lotion is $35. Keep reading below to hear more about Tabitha and Chance's new collection, their body rituals, and what makes their partnership successful.

Fridays with Tab and Chance body collection
Marcus Owens
xoNecole: How did you come up with the scents for the collection?
Tabitha Brown: We love warm scents that make you feel sexy and loved. [We’re] both fans of gourmand [scents], including bergamot, vanilla, tonka and chocolate.
xoN: If you could describe your working relationship in one word, what would it be and why?
Tabitha: It's our first time building a product line together and our first time working with fragrance. So having patience with the process and each other has been the best way to build.
xoN: What is your body care ritual?
Tabitha: Exfoliate with a scrub a few times a week, but using a moisturizing body wash daily. After a shower, I spray a body mist that compliments what scent I am choosing for the day. Most times vanilla mist wins because it’s a perfect base for layering. I then hydrate [my] skin with lotion. Then, once dressed, I layer my favorite fragrance, Her Business, first and then His Business on top.
Chance: [I’m] way more simple. Just body wash and lotion and then my cologne and I’m good to go.
xoN: We enjoy watching you two together online, whose idea was it to start 'Fridays with Tab & Chance'?
Tabitha: It actually happened by accident. Back in 2018, my fans had just been asking about how we met, so we did a video answering questions one Friday and people in the comments [asked], will y’all do it again next Friday? And so we did and the next thing you know Fridays with Tab & Chance was born.
xoN: In what other ways do you plan to expand Fridays? Restart the podcast? TV show?
Tabitha: We are working on a lifestyle content show vs the traditional Fridays podcast. More to come soon.
xoN: You do many things together, but what would you say is your favorite quality time activity and why?
Tabitha: We are really simple. We love watching movies or TV series together on the couch or in bed. It’s really one of our favorite things to do together.
xoN: What is your favorite thing about the other person?
Tabitha: I love that he makes me feel safe and how hard he works to be an amazing father.
Chance: I love that she is crazy enough to pursue her wildest dreams.
xoN: What is the key to a successful partnership in business and personal?
Tabitha: The key is knowing that you both are going to change, and giving each other grace, patience, and understanding during those changes.
See more on tabandchance.com.
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