

The next time I hear about a woman brag about not wearing wigs, I'll give her a cookie for her efforts and sashay away in my 28-inch frontal unit like a boss. The first time I saw my sister put on a wig, I wanted one of my own. She was in her mid-twenties when she was diagnosed with Leukemia, and despite her painful recovery process, she always looked f*cking fabulous. Even if she didn't feel that way. I realized then that wigs were a sort of armour for women of color and served as an outlet of creative expression for her in one of the roughest periods in her life.
When my sister put on her wig, she was no longer a woman who was hopeless and cancer-ridden. Having full autonomy to switch up her look despite losing her hair during chemotherapy was a sign of strength and demonstrative of the perseverance that eventually led her into remission. As a multifaceted, three-dimensional woman, I find that wigs and hair pieces offer me range in my personality and at times enable me with the bravery that it takes to kick ass in even the most uncomfortable areas of my life.
Some days, I wake up feeling like Ms. Celie, but soon after, I put on my mane of platinum blonde curls, I transform into Sasha Fierce. Don't get me wrong, I see so much beauty in Color Purple cornrows, but there is a whole wonderland of adventure that weave has to offer, and if you haven't yet, you should take advantage.
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Porsha Williams recently opened up to Allure about how a traumatic split from her estranged ex-husband led her discover new facets of her personality. In the interview, she said that she coped with the blow to her self-esteem after her highly publicized divorce from Kordell Stewart by tapping into known previously unknown archetypes of her personality and consequently finding love in her natural self.
Now, the reality star has her own line of unprocessed hair extensions and has a room in her home dedicated to more than 40 wigs of various lengths and colors that all have their own names. A few of the high-maintenance beauties mentioned in her glorious collection include Olivia, the highbrow business woman who doesn't take any bullsh*t, Carrington the Southern housewife with an eye for good houseware, and Pocahontas - yes, like the movie.
She told Allure:
"When my assistant got hired, he didn't think that half of his job would be maintaining my babies."
Wigs and frontal sew-ins are often given a bad name because it's assumed that since I'm using an alternative method of hair styling, there must be something that I don't like about myself. The truth is, protective styles are lit and can ensure that your natural hair stays healthy and without chemical additives.
A woman's hair is the extension of her personality, and wigs give us the opportunity to be whoever tf we wanna be without doubt or explanation. Porscha is a reminder that finding yourself means losing your old identity in more ways than one. Switching up your look can give you confidence that you didn't even know you needed.
For you, that may mean doing a big chop, or even taking a note from our girl and investing in your own personal wig closet.
Read Porsha's full feature over at Allure.
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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7 Spring-Themed Journal Prompts To Help You Bloom Into Your Dream Life
Spring symbolizes a rebirth and this rebirth is usually associated with nature. However, it can also take place in our minds. It can give us a renewed mindset and motivation regarding our goals, especially if the first quarter was rough.
As the sun emerges once more and the flowers start blooming, it’s the best time to reflect and grow into the person you were destined to be. One effective way to nurture your inner growth and embrace the vibrant energy of spring is through journaling.
Journaling is a wellness practice that can unlock creativity, emotions, and mental clarity. While it’s recommended to practice journaling daily or weekly, certain journal prompts can be tailored to suit different situations and times of the year.
Below are 7 journal prompts that can help you reflect and grow this spring.
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What intentions do you want to set for the next three months?
Include how you plan to stay aligned with them.
What brings you joy and lightness right now?
Describe how you can create more space for those moments.
What seeds do you want to plant and nurture this season?
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What does renewal mean to you?
Include how you can invite more opportunities for renewal in this season.
What personal growth have you experienced over the past few months?
Describe the moments you are most proud of.
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Spring is a balance of rain and sunshine. What contrasting emotions or experiences are you navigating right now?
Create solutions for each emotion.
Describe a time you felt truly energized and alive.
What are some things you can do to bring more of that feeling into your daily life?
If you're looking to go deeper into your mindful practice or to journal around a supportive group of individuals, then check out my virtual and in-person Bloom & Flow Spring Journaling Workshop.
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