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On Feb. 4, Venus enters Aries, Jupiter goes direct in Gemini, and the energy and passion return. Venus in Aries is fiery, dynamic, and puts self-love first. While Venus is in Aries for the entire month, February is all about going after the things you want in love, and trusting that you will be supported here. Jupiter goes direct on the same day after being retrograde since Oct. 9, and we can see our blessings manifest more effortlessly now, especially regarding communication matters, networking, short travels, education, and the mind. Jupiter finishes its Gemini transit on Jun. 9, so over the next few months, this is a good time to expand your mind and your vision, get creative, and meet new people.
What February 2025 Has In Store For Your Zodiac Sign
The Full Moon of February occurs in Leo on the 12th, and this is the Snow Moon of the year. This Full Moon brings emotions to the surface and creates self-clarity and honesty in the process. This Full Moon is a time to let go of old versions or ideas of yourself that don’t align with who you are today and to focus on what feels authentic and empowering for you right now.
On Valentine's Day, Mercury enters Pisces until Mar. 3, and the mind is on love right now.
While Mercury is in Pisces, we speak in words of poetry and spirituality, and mental connections turn into romantic ones. This is a beautiful energy to walk into on the day of love, signifying an urge to be around people who truly understand you right now.
Pisces season begins on Feb. 18, and we move into a time of closure, healing, creativity, and introspection. On Feb. 23, Mars goes direct in Cancer after being retrograde here since Jan. 6, and being retrograde in general since Dec. 6. With Mars now direct, there is more energy and direction at our disposal, and less confusion on where to go from here. Mars will be direct in Cancer until Apr. 18, and there is a lot of love, support, and intuition to be felt right now. Mars in Cancer supports others while also cherishing boundaries, and this is a good time to feel more stability in matters of the home and heart.
We end the month with a New Moon in Pisces on Feb. 27, and this is a time of magic, dreams coming to fruition, and romance in the air.
A New Moon in Pisces reminds us that what has been lost always comes back around in a new form, and helps us see what our heart is grateful for right now. This is a great New Moon to set your intentions for the future and to dream the dream. Overall, February is an inspiring and enlightening month, and your heart is the one leading the way right now.
Read for your Sun and Rising Sign below to see what February has in store for you.
ARIES
AriesKyra Jay for xoNecoleFebruary is all about love for you, Aries. You are thriving within relationship matters as Venus is in your sign for most of this month. Venus moves into Aries on Feb. 4 and will be here until Mar. 27, however, Venus will be going retrograde in your sign on Mar. 1. So, use February to walk into some new beginnings in love, but remember to take your time with things here as well. You are overall feeling more reciprocity, support, and positive recognition now, and self-love is key this month.
On Feb. 12, we have a Full Moon in fellow fire sign Leo, and this Full Moon occurs in your 5th house of romance.
This is a beautiful Full Moon for seeing love bloom and for experiencing a sense of fulfillment that brings you closer to another. Before the month ends, Mars goes direct after being retrograde in an area of your life having to do with the home, family, close loved ones, and emotional stability. With Mars now direct here, new foundations can be built in your world, and you feel more supported and secure as you end the month.
TAURUS
TaurusKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is a time to reflect, accept, and move into your new beginning, Taurus. There is a lot to process this month, and with the Sun in your 10th house for most of February, a lot of your focus right now is on your goals, purpose, and life path. The Full Moon happening mid-month is an opportunity for you to see things clearer in the home, and to create space for more support and nourishment here. You are letting go of what is weighing you down or making your emotional world feel more difficult to process this month.
Mercury enters your 11th house of hope, community, friendship, and manifestation on Valentine’s Day this year, and you move into a time of inspiration. You are thinking of all the things that make you feel empowered, loved, and in tune, and it’s time to create more of this energy around yourself. We have a New Moon in this same area of your chart before the month ends on Feb. 27, and you are ready to look forward in life rather than at the past of what could have been.
Overall, this month is about listening to your heart and spending more time taking care of yourself.
GEMINI
GeminiKyra Jay for xoNecoleFebruary is a chance to take a break, Gemini. You need more time to process and prepare for what’s ahead of you, and you are taking the time to do so this month. February begins with Jupiter going direct in your sign after being retrograde here since Oct. 9. Jupiter, the planet of blessings, will be direct in your sign until Jun. 9, and won’t be here again for another decade. This is your opportunity to set intentions, focus on your dreams, and make some important achievements happen.
Extra good luck and support from the universe are with you now, and the key for you is to let things come to you naturally through patience and dedication.
On Feb. 12, there is a Full Moon in your 3rd house of communication, and some important culminations are coming through in matters of the mind. You are coming to some conclusions about something, and it’s changing your perspective overall. Before the month ends we have a New Moon in an area of your life having to do with your career, professional world, and reputation, and this is a good time to set your intentions for what goals you want to see through right now.
CANCER
CancerKyra Jay for xoNecoleFebruary is a month of enlightenment, Cancer. You are aligned with the path you are walking on right now, and everything is starting to make a little more sense to your heart. This month we have a Full Moon in your 12th house of closure, and you are moving away from an emotionally heavy space. You are letting go of a lot of what has kept you conflicted, and there is a sense of peace that is being obtained in the process. This is your month of inspiring others through your resilience and gift of forgiveness.
Mars goes direct in your sign on Feb. 23 after being retrograde here since Jan. 6. With Mars retrograde in your sign since we began the year, there has been a lot for you to reflect on and emotionally process, and you are seeing yourself and your life with a new perspective and passion. Mars will be in Cancer until Apr. 18, and this is the time to take action on the things that you haven’t been ready to move forward with these past few months. On Feb. 27, we have a New Moon in Pisces, and you are leaving the month in the mood for an adventure.
This is the time to get out of your comfort zone, travel, or do something fun.
LEO
LeoKyra Jay for xoNecoleFebruary is about protecting your energy and what you are bringing to fruition in your life, Leo. With a Full Moon in your sign mid-month, you are moving through a time of culmination, release, and inner clarity, and there is a lot to reflect on right now. You are recognizing your need to create boundaries from those who don’t serve you or your life path and are focusing on the things that feel good for you.
With the Sun in your 7th house of love for most of the month as well, you are gaining clarity on the relationships you want to move forward with, and where you need to create more space.
Venus is in Aries and in your 5th house of romance, self-expression, creativity, and joy for most of the month, and your heart is yearning for some excitement. When it comes to love in February, opportunities are coming to the surface for you to get out of your head and into your heart, heed the call. At the end of the month, Mars goes direct in your 12th house of closure, and you are moving into a breakthrough. You end February with less weight on your shoulders and more energy to just be.
VIRGO
VirgoKyra Jay for xoNecoleTrust your intuition this month, Virgo. February is a month of getting organized, gaining clarity, and feeling purposeful. With Jupiter going direct in your 10th house at the start of the month, blessings follow through regarding your career and professional world. The intentions you have been setting and going over these past few months, are coming to fruition for you now, and you are being recognized and supported for your efforts here. This is a month of feeling a level up in your life, and like you are where you want to be.
Mars goes direct on Feb. 23, after being retrograde in an area of your life having to do with friendship, community, and your hopes and dreams over the past month or so. With Mars now direct in Cancer, it’s easier for you to feel hopeful and to see and experience the magic in life. Before the month ends, we have a New Moon in your sister sign Pisces on Feb. 27, and love takes on a new beginning. This New Moon is one of the best of the year for you to set your intentions for love, and trust where your heart is being called to right now.
LIBRA
LibraKyra Jay for xoNecoleFebruary is all about perspective and the intentions you are setting in your life through the thoughts you are thinking, Libra. The Sun is in your house of romance and Venus is in your house of partnership for most of the month, and there is a lot to look forward to right now. New developments are coming to fruition within your relationships, and you are reaping what you have sown, feeling grateful for what has come to fruition for you.
This is a beautiful month for travel, moving forward in your partnerships, and feeling more commitment and support in doing so.
With Jupiter also going direct this month, your home life and foundations see improvements and expansion. Anywhere you have been feeling limited here is being lifted for you now, and you are able to breathe and think bigger about what is possible for you and your sense of stability in life. The Full Moon happening on Feb. 12, is a chance for you to connect with the people who inspire you, and to let go of anything that doesn’t feel authentic to who you are today or how you feel about things.
SCORPIO
ScorpioKyra Jay for xoNecoleFebruary is a month of feeling loved, Scorpio. Everything's coming together for you exactly how you have envisioned it, and with the Sun in your house of family, support, and foundations, you are feeling closer to your loved ones in the process. We have a Full Moon in your 10th house of career in mid-February, and culminations are coming through in your professional world, as recognition for your efforts and hard work are here for you now. This Full Moon is about taking the time to congratulate yourself for how far you have come and to feel gratitude for your progress in life.
On Feb. 23, Mars goes direct in fellow water sign Cancer, after being retrograde in an area of your life having to do with travel, adventure, spirituality, and education over the past month or so. With Mars now direct, travel plans follow through and it’s easier for you to see the bigger picture. The New Moon of the month takes place on Feb. 27, and this is a beautiful time for you to experience joy and pleasure. You are ending the month by making your inner child happy, showing up, and connecting with the love that surrounds you now.
SAGITTARIUS
SagittariusKyra Jay for xoNecoleThis month is a transition month for you, Sagittarius. You are moving on from what has been, and a few of you may even be moving physically or traveling during this time. This is a month of getting into new energy and letting things go where it is needed. February begins with your ruling planet Jupiter going direct after being retrograde since last fall, and you are able to experience more of the blessings in love that you have been looking for.
Love turns a new page this month, and it’s because you are no longer settling for things that don’t align with what you want for yourself or your future.
On Feb. 12, a Full Moon is happening in an area of your life that has to do with your passion, inspiration, travel ventures, and perspective, and you are getting the full picture right now. This Full Moon is about accepting the truths that have come to the surface and following through on plans that you have had for yourself. Mars goes direct in your 8th house of transformation on Feb. 23, and you end the month experiencing a personal breakthrough. A lot is changing for you in February, and you are the one leading these efforts forward because you are owning the life you deserve.
CAPRICORN
CapricornKyra Jay for xoNecoleA new month is here, and you are looking forward to all of the new experiences you are about to get into, Capricorn. February is an inspiring, passionate, and eye-opening month for you and you are making a lot of progress. With the Sun in your 2nd house of finances, values, and self-confidence for most of the month, you are spending a lot of your time developing new plans and intentions for yourself, especially financially. Mid-month we have a Full Moon in your 8th house of shared resources, and the support that you need to thrive and expand financially right now is becoming clearer to you.
Towards the end of the month, Mars goes direct in your sister sign Cancer, after being retrograde in an area of your life having to do with love, partnership, and harmony over the past month or so. With Mars moving forward again, so are you in love, and your relationship dynamics feel a little more balanced and empowered for you. On Feb. 27, we have a New Moon in Pisces to close out the month, and this New Moon for you is all about setting your intentions regarding communication, networking, and the ideas you want to build off of right now.
AQUARIUS
Your season is here, and everything is falling into place for you now, Aquarius. This is a month of feeling a positive culmination of everything you have been working towards, and seeing the rewards for your efforts. With the Sun in your sign until the 18th, all eyes are on you and you are focused on your personal goals, investments, and self-courage. Jupiter goes direct as we begin the month, turning things around for you in love and helping you see things with a new perspective here.
Blessings and understanding within relationship matters bloom for you now, and you can finally take a break from the confusion here.
With Venus in your 11th house of friendship for most of February, this is the month for connecting with the people who you resonate with on a soul level and giving your heart more time to enjoy the company. The Full Moon happening mid-month occurs in your opposite sign, highlighting your romantic life and sense of partnership. Love comes full circle as you let go of the past here and see the gifts of the partnerships you have been building in your life.
PISCES
PiscesKyra Jay for xoNecoleFebruary is your month of abundance and opportunities, Pisces. There is a lot to tend to this month, but you have the empowerment and passion to do so. Jupiter goes direct in your 4th house as the month begins, and you are feeling stronger foundations emotionally and within the home right now. Progress is being made in the spaces that are close to the heart, and you are feeling the blessings of support and stability in your life. The Full Moon happening on Feb. 12, is about letting go of unhealthy daily routines or habits and giving yourself more space to figure out what feels right for you.
On Valentine's Day this year, Mercury enters your sign, and your mind is focused on love, understanding, and connection. The conversations you are having now are fulfilling your heart and inspiring you, and you are gaining clarity in relationship matters as well. Pisces season officially begins on Feb. 18, and it’s your time to shine, to love, and to be loved in return.
Before the month ends we have a New Moon in Pisces on Feb. 27, and this is one of the best times of the year for you to set your personal intentions, manifest, and reinvent yourself.
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Unless you oh so very rarely spend time on Instagram, TikTok, and/or YouTube, you’d have to be living under a rock (or be a helluva fast scroller) to miss out on what appears to be an in-real-time-crash-out (at least when it comes to the current/latest cast) of the relationship touring panelTonight’s Conversation. And although I am definitely the kind of person who will hyperlink the entire mess out of my content (in order to validate what I’m saying) — when it comes to this matter, I am choosing not to.
Mostly because the issues are so layered, varied and so many people have so many hot takes and opinions on them all, that I am just going to recommend that, if you’re interested, you do some low-key investigative deep diving yourself; trust me, the series of situations will not be hard, at all, to find. Tonight’s Conversation and the people who make it are quite the hot topic right through here.
Do I have a point of view on it all — c’mon now…is water wet? Honestly, though, at the end of the day, my takeaway with them is about how I feel about relationship-themed social media content overall — and that is featured in the six points below. So, if you happen to be someone who goes to social media to get your relationship-related info, here are a few things that you should definitely keep in mind. For your own sake and the sake of your (future) relationship, chile.
1. Know the Difference Between Entertainment and Edu-tainment
GiphySince I got my (professional) start covering entertainment, something that I find myself saying often about the entertainment industry is it’s always important to remember that one definition of entertain is “to distract” — which can be a good or a bad thing, if we’re gonna be real about it. It can be good if you need something that will help to de-stress you or make you laugh for a moment; it can be not-so-good if it keeps you from accepting the reality and facts of a matter (including whoever your favorite celebrity may be).
And so yeah, if you’re consuming a lot of online relationship-related content, something that you first need to ask yourself is, “Is this distracting me from what I need to address or is it giving me medicine with some ‘sugar’ in order to receive it better?” That second thing? That is what I would consider to be edu-tainment: education that is mixed with entertainment.
A good example of it? Something that my male friends and I do whenever we go out to eat is flip the tab back and forth. For the record, it wasn’t their idea, it was mine because I like bringing reciprocity into my relationships (just sayin’). When it comes to one friend, in particular, we happen to (eh hem) like The Cheesecake Factory and you know what? There has not been one time when we haven’t gotten up from there without at least a $130 tab. That’s why I don’t get how it was such an “issue” for people to go there on first dates a couple of years back. SMDH.
ANYWAY, when that was the focus of so much relationship-related commentary, I remember a comedian by the name of Malik Bazille posted a skit on his IG page that was classically hilarious (you can watch it here). You know, someone once said that comedians are prophets and that definitely came to mind as I watched it because, although it was super funny, points were made in the process (for one, entitlement and rudeness are not a ministry).
Research says that most people, on average, spend 2.5 hours on social media daily. If you happen to be one of them and relationship-driven content is your thing, be honest: does it make more sense to consume entertainment or edu-tainment? Time is something that you will never get back, so please, choose wisely.
2. It’s Okay to Research Credentials (and Bios)
GiphyA couple of years ago, I wrote an article for the platform entitled, “Thinking About Hiring A Life Coach? Read This Before You Do.” A part of my motivation was because I wanted people to understand that there is indeed a difference (actually a few differences) between what a life coach is and does vs. what a therapist is and does. That way, you can know what you actually need. Not only that but you can pick up on red flags when it comes to what people in social media claim to be vs. what they actually are.
For instance, a friend of mine who is also a life coach, and I were discussing a popular person who claims to be a therapist and yet, they have no letters behind their name, no formal training is mentioned in their bio, graduating from a school with that area of expertise isn’t referenced and we could find no proof of them being licensed (which is easily verifiable online and/or by phone).
Chile, you’d be amazed how much this happens, and listen — I was someone who was life coaching married couples for years before I got my own letters (in coaching, you can become an ACC, PCC, or MCC). That’s because it’s only been over the past couple of years that professional training has been required in the field. Therapists, though? Oh, that’s always been the case.
For the record, I’m not saying that only people with professional credentials should provide relationship content. To me, that’s just as ridiculous as saying that only married people should provide relationship advice (and I clearly don’t support that way of thinking — check out “Single Women: Yes, You Are Qualified To Talk About Relationships”). However, what people profess to be, needs to be verifiable because with certain credentials come certain expectations. Not only that but, something else that my friend and I cackle about are all of these folks out here who are charging for degrees through their programs when they don’t even have one.
Again, if you’re just looking to be entertained, this point is kind of “whatever.” On the flip side, if you take a lot of what you hear with more than just a grain of salt, researching the source is never not a wise decision. Trust me.
3. Yes. Pandering Is Indeed a Thing.
GiphyIn the relationship space, pandering is a word that is used just about as much as narcissist is. And what both words tend to have in common is the fact that folks use them while having a general idea of what they mean without exactly breaking them all the way down. When it comes to pander, one definition is “to cater to or profit from the weaknesses or vices of others” while another is (wait for it) “to act as a pimp or procurer of clients for (a prostitute).”
You know, when another very popular relationship content guy got busted for posting content that so many women enjoyed listening to, all the while doing the very things that he “held other men accountable” for, both men and women alike said that he was a panderer. Look again at what that means, though. Folks can’t tell you just what you want to hear if you’re strong in the areas that they’re addressing and pimps? Real pimps need money in order to survive and yes, many of those start out coddling women — only to be the ones who end up taking advantage of them in the long run.
My point here? Definitely give big-time side-eye to ANY relationship-content person who only sides with one gender. Even people who have a platform specifically for men or women should be bringing balance to what they are saying. For instance, if a person has an issue with single moms or women with many sex partners, and yet single fathers and men who are highly sexually active are never addressed — that is pandering.
On the flip, if someone is constantly ragging on men for their height or how much money they make and yet never addresses what men find to be attractive in women or calls out ladies who only go on “foodie dates” (you know, dates that are only for the sake of getting a free meal), they are problematic too. Content creators like this want to make people feel like only the opposite sex is the problem, that their audience doesn’t also have some self-reflection and inner work to do — and that is because they know that the more an ego is stroked, the easier it is to keep someone’s attention and even get their coins. Ladies (and gentlemen), pandering in a nutshell.
And speaking of what pandering can do…
4. Don’t Just Listen to What Strokes Your Ego/Coddles Your Pride
Giphy“Feeding the monster.” When it comes to stroking egos, content creators who pander are doing something that is pretty damn dangerous: they are feeding the pride of people and that ends up creating egomania…yes, its own “monster” of sorts. When content doesn’t hold you accountable; when content excuses and/or justifies your own poor behavior; when content encourages you to focus more on the external than the internal; when content praises you for being selfish and entitled; when content says that it’s okay to be rude, patronizing or condescending to others — oh, I could go on and on when it comes to this one yet yes, people who are like this are relationally counterproductive, to say the least.
The main point here is if you’re listening to relationship-related content that is damn near programming you to be unbearable to be around…that is the stuff that you need to totally avoid. I could name some platforms — oh, but I digress.
5. Make Sure You’re Clear About What Cognitive Dissonance Is
GiphyThere is plenty of data out here which says that social media, in general, isn’t necessarily benefitting relationships in the long run. If it’s not triggering jealousy and feelings of uncertainty, it’s creating feelings of anxiety and low self-esteem, plus it significantly compromises couples when it comes to their quality time together. Now, just think if you’re a married person who is listening to a platform that is either anti-marriage or acts like you can just toss a covenant away like it’s an old pair of socks. Listen to that too much and here comes what you may hear people online mention from time to time: cognitive dissonance.
Basically, cognitive dissonance is what transpires whenever you are processing two conflicting stances. For instance, if you profess to believe one thing and your life reflects something very different — at the end of the day…cognitive dissonance. So, when it comes to something like marriage, if you took vows to take your commitment seriously and then you’re online, in the comments, wearing your husband and relationship out — COGNITIVE DISSONANCE.
Another example? You claim that you want a serious relationship and yet everything about what you say and do speaks to the contrary — including how you speak of men, hanging around people who devalue men, and shooting down everything that men say that they need and want to be happy in a relationship, in part, because your favorite online folks do the same thing(s). As a result, here you are, in a conflicted resolve state — an emotional cul-de-sac if you will, and it’s getting you absolutely anywhere. Why? Because if there’s one thing that cognitive dissonance is gonna do, it’s stagnate you.
And do you think those content creators care? Sis, they don’t even know you and oftentimes, they are venting about their own drama more than actually giving helpful insights and advice because they are in their own hamster wheel of cognitive dissonance too.
Me? There are some content creators who I click off of as soon as I see them. I’ve heard them before, their message is also on the same stuff and so I already know what they’re about — it’s toxic and contradictory to what I stand on and for. Y’all, sometimes, even if something is entertaining, if it’s going to get you to start shifting who you are as a person and what you profess your standards to be, it needs to be avoided anyway. Blocked even, if necessary. Cognitive dissonance is more chaotic than anything. Straight up.
6. Avoid Letting Complete Strangers Wreck Your (Love) Life
GiphyWhen it comes to the relationship-related content creators who you pay the most attention to, tell me something — do they challenge you to become better, do you feel less stressed and more peaceful listening to them, do folks who are in healthy relationships respect what they have to say (and how they say it)?
I have not really specified platforms, by design, through all of this, yet I will shout out a few people (via their IG profiles) who fit this bill for me: @iamtaylorchandler, @his_daughter_7, @kimberlyevandsreed, @henryandvictoriadoss, @4fitfatherhood, @onedopecouple and @kristline_ _ who I wrote an article on last year: “Viral Sensation Christiana Sabino Is Using 'Pure Black Love' To Build Her Brand.” Trust me, this is just a mere handful and yet, I think that they are a solid example of what it means to be out here trying to make things better not worse and they certainly aren’t just saying whatever folks wanna hear. They actually make me think of a Message Version verse of the Bible that I like a lot: “Your task is to be true, not popular.” (Luke 6:26)
Are they perfect? NO ONE IS PERFECT. Are they trying to do more than just entertain or make a buck? They certainly seem to be and that’s a good thing because, in order to be in a beneficial relationship, you’ve got to say and do things that are beneficial — interesting how that works, huh? Meanwhile, if someone only wants money and/or attention? Well, doing all kinds of ridiculousness can get them that; however, being able to maintain a worthwhile connection with a person of quality and character in the process?
That will be a real struggle for them and we see examples of this being true (almost) daily. And gee — why would you want someone who doesn’t seem to care much about nurturing their own relationship (or relationships with others even outside of a romantic connection) to talk you into sabotaging your own? What kind of sense does that make?
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It seems like there is more relationship-related content out in these streets than there ever has been. As you’re trying to handle it all — think about your relational goals, find the people who complement those results and outcomes, and stay balanced in what you listen to.
Influencers can indeed influence you. The good news is you have the power to determine who does, why and how much. Use that power wisely. Your relationship, in many ways, depends on it.
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