For Adrienne & Israel Houghton, This Is The Key To A Successful Marriage

While she might not be Team Submission, the Houghtons are Team Surrender.

Celebrity News

A few weeks ago, Fantasia made some pretty controversial statements about women and why their lack of submission is keeping them single, and the ladies of The Real had a few words to say about it. While Tamera agreed that a woman should let her man lead the household, Adrienne Houghton said that she had an alternative perspective and opened up about these views on a her YouTube channel, All Things Adrienne.

Adrienne and her husband, Israel Houghton have been married since 2016 and say that the key to maintaining marital bliss is being open to an exchange of power. For this couple, the head of the household really depends on the day of the week. Adrienne explained:

"I think that we're definitely more of a modern, progressive couple in a lot of ways. Obviously we have a blended family, that's one way. [We're] professionals. Although I believe that there are a lot of things about us that are very traditional. I would say I don't like to put us in a box."

Although the couple has been known to take a more traditional approach when it comes to their relationship, even opting for celibacy until their wedding day, Adrienne and Israel say that their marriage is far from the norm. She continued:

"I don't like to put us in a box where it's like we're traditional and then the day that we're not doing something traditional, it's like woo, that's not how it's supposed to be. He supposed to be in charge or I'm supposed to be in charge. No, some days he's in charge, some days I'm in charge and that's okay."

Adrienne says that time, research, and patience have allowed her to develop a newfound perspective when it comes to marriage which included redefining her preconceived expectations about what a relationship should be:

"I read this amazing article, actually, it was by Vanessa Williams in Glamour magazine where she talks about her three marriages and what she learned from being married three times. And I just found it fascinating. I read that and there was something that I took away from that that I really loved. And one of the things was expectations and how you think something is supposed to be is actually what ruins us the most in life. This is supposed to be this way and then when it isn't that way you're like, then it's ruined."

In the past, Adrienne has been transparent about the fact that Israel was not quite what she had envisioned for her future, but ultimately, he turned out to be so much more than she could have expected:

"I think there's something really beautiful to surrendering to your marriage because it's not always going to be the way you planned it to be. And there's nothing like just surrendering to the journey and loving every moment of it as opposed to like it was supposed to be this way. Like I was supposed to marry a man that had never been married before, had never had children before, and that can ruin you the most in life."

Watch the full clip below!

What Makes Our Marriage Work? www.youtube.com

Featured image by Instagram/@AdrienneBailon.

Brooke Obie is xoNecole’s new editor-in-chief, and this sister has the career receipts that prove that she’s set to take the platform to the next level. Let’s start with the proof of real skin in the media game: She is an award-winning journalist, whose work has been featured in The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Guardian, Essence, Marie Claire, Teen Vogue, and many more.

Keep reading... Show less
The daily empowerment fix you need.
Make things inbox official.

Over the weekend, xoNecole held a Twitter Spaces conversation with the cast of Harlem which included the show’s stars Meagan Good, Grace Byers, and Shoniqua Shandai. Host Gia Peppers facilitated the conversation as the ladies dished on topics such as goal-setting, love, and of course unforgettable moments from the hit Amazon Prime show.

Keep reading... Show less

I’m pretty sure that we’ve all heard the saying, “opinions are like buttholes” (yeah, I cleaned that up a bit) and everyone has one. Well, when it comes to the topic of advice, if we’re gonna be real about it, a lot of times all it is, is an opinion too. So, does this mean that we’re never supposed to ask for advice or take any when it’s offered? I mean, I get that since I’m a marriage life coach, it comes off as completely on-brand that I would say that receiving advice can actually be quite beneficial.

Keep reading... Show less

Vivica A. Fox kicked off the new year just right with a solo vacation. The veteran actress visited The Real to dish on her booked and busy career, but during the conversation, she also revealed that she “took a 10-day vacation all by myself.” After spending Thanksgiving with her family in Indianapolis and Christmas with her godchildren, the Two Can Play That Game star jetted off to somewhere tropical for some me-time.

Keep reading... Show less

On a Tuesday evening, I am waiting for an interview that I know will be full of gems and will surely change a Black woman’s life. But I’m also full of nerves and anxiety. Friends and family members all around are testing positive and it's like Omarion took his hit song, "Touch" to a new level. My anxiety is on 1,000. Then, E! News host Francesca Amiker joins the Zoom call. Full of joy and light, I can’t lie, she brightened my day as soon as she turned on her camera, flashed that bright smile, and greeted me the only way a Southern belle would.

Keep reading... Show less
Exclusive Interviews

Boris Kodjoe And Nicole Ari Parker Know “When To Bring Work Home” For Their New Film 'Safe Room'

The husband-and-wife dream team have found their sweet spot.

Latest Posts