
There is something that you should always keep in mind when it comes to your hair and scalp — they aren’t exactly like the rest of your body. What I mean by that is, as far as your hair is concerned, what’s inside of your hair follicle is living (which is why you can feel it when you pull a strand of hair out of your head); however, the rest of your hair? It’s dead (which is why you don’t feel it whenever you cut it).
And your scalp? If you ever hear “it needs to breathe” — well, there is some truth and some exaggeration that come with that.
Yes, your scalp requires oxygen and care because it is skin — and, in some ways, it needs to be handled with even more intention and care than other parts of your body (check out “Your Scalp Ages Six Times Faster Than Your Face. Why It Matters.”); however, does it need to breathe like, say, your lungs do? Nope. And that is why you can feel perfectly fine about wearing your wigs or weaves without worrying that you are damaging your scalp in the process.
There is a caveat to what I just said, though: It’s important that you do some “pre-” and “post-” care for your scalp, just so that it remains in optimal health while you are choosing these particular types of hairstyles. And that is what we’re going to explore today — how to properly care for your scalp before putting on a wig or weave and…after you remove ‘em.
PRE-WIG/WEAVE
A Scalp Treatment
If either you don’t know what a scalp treatment is or you can’t remember the last time that you got one — it’s past time for you to put this on your priority list. Honestly, whether you rock wigs or weaves or not, it’s a good idea to go to a (reputable) salon to get your scalp professionally massaged and exfoliated because the massaging will increase blood circulation to your scalp (which makes your scalp and hair healthier) and the exfoliating will help to remove scalp build-up, unclog your hair follicles and get rid of any dandruff flakes that you may have.
Plus, a thorough scalp treatment can reduce your chances of experiencing hair thinning or loss from your wigs or weaves — and you definitely need to stay on top of that. That said, if you’d prefer to do a scalp treatment at home, some cool recipes can be found here. It’s a good idea to give yourself one 3-5 days before installing your wig or weave.
A Moisturizing Shampoo
Remember how I said in the intro that your scalp typically ages at a much faster rate than the rest of your skin does? A part of that is because scalps tend to be parched — and that’s because we’re not proactive enough about providing it with the moisture that it so desperately needs.
One way to hydrate it is to wash your scalp and hair with a deeply moisturizing shampoo. Those are dope because not only do they not strip your scalp of its natural sebum, they also help to keep the pH balance of your scalp where it needs to be. Amazon has a wide variety of hydrating shampoos listed here.
A Tea Tree and Lavender Oil Blend
I really hope that you don’t forego the scalp treatment tip (especially if you plan on wearing your wig or weave for more than a few days at a time); however, if you do, definitely make sure to create a blend of tea tree oil, lavender oil and a carrier oil — all of these work together to nourish and protect your scalp. Tea tree oil is great because it contains anti-inflammatory and antifungal properties that can reduce bacteria and help to prevent scalp irritation from occurring.
Lavender oil is awesome because it has antimicrobial properties that can reduce itching, inflammation and dandruff. A carrier oil like rosemary will increase blood circulation to your scalp while one like avocado oil can deeply moisturize your scalp. Apply it to your scalp before your installation and keep it on tap for “touch ups” (where you can reach your scalp) along the way as well.
A Silk-Lined Wig Cap
When it comes to wigs, specifically, make sure that your wig cap is one that comes with silk lining. Not only will that help to reduce the friction of your wig (which could lead to frizz and even breakage of your natural hair), it can also help to keep your natural hair from drying out (which can also cause breakage over time). As a bonus, a silk-lined cap is a breathable fabric that can “cushion” your scalp, so that it doesn’t become irritated and inflamed by your wig. A variety of options to choose from are located here and here.
A Quality Wig/A Professional Weave
Wigs these days have come a LONG way, chile. I mean, just think about it — some of them can stay on your head for as much as 4-6 weeks at a time! And that is why it is so important — crucial, even — that you only invest in quality wigs: ones that are lightweight, fit well and are customizable. Some other things to look out for are wigs that shed very little and are advertised to last 1-3 years (if it’s human hair) and no less than 3-6 months (if it’s synthetic). All of these tips will not only help you to get the most out of your wig — it will keep your scalp in tip-top shape for a longer period of time too.
As far as weaves go — listen, YouTube and TikTok will have you out here thinking that you can build a house let alone install a weave. Still, for the sake of your scalp’s overall health and well-being (especially if you plan on keeping your weave in for several weeks at a time), invest in having a professional do it. They can recommend the best hair to use, they are trained to install your weave in a way that is comfortable on your head (and doesn’t pull too tight on your edges and nape) and typically know how to give your scalp some “breathing room,” so that you can care for it while your weave is in.
POST-WIG/WEAVE
A Scalp Detox
If there has been a wig or weave sitting on your scalp for weeks at a time, you absolutely need to detox your scalp once you remove it. Back in the day, I actually wrote an article on this topic entitled, “Treat Your Scalp To A Little Bit Of Detoxing This Weekend.” However, I can also give you some quickie tips here: after taking off your wig or weave, wash your hair and scalp with a clarifying shampoo (to remove any sebum, sweat or product build-up); apply a scalp mask (to deeply cleanse your scalp); rinse your hair and scalp with an apple cider vinegar mixture (to restore your scalp’s pH balance), and consider steaming your scalp (in order to deeply hydrate it).
A Scalp Massage
With a wig or tracks in the way, it’s hard to really get to your scalp — and that’s why it’s always a good idea to either get or give yourself a scalp massage once you remove your “other” hair. Scalp massages are super beneficial because not only do they reduce stress and tension, they also help to get the blood circulation going in your scalp, so that your hair follicles are able to receive even more of the nutrients that they need in order for your hair to be/remain healthy and strong.
Another bonus that comes with a scalp massage is it helps your scalp to produce natural sebum which can condition that part of your body as well. Plus, they feel amazing.
A Hot Oil Treatment
While you’re in the process of getting or giving yourself a scalp massage, it will serve you oh so very well to apply a hot oil treatment to your scalp too. Aside from the fact that hot oil treatments feel wonderful, they can help to reduce hair frizzing, they encourage blood circulation to your scalp and they are ideal for removing scalp flakes that may have made their way to your scalp while you had your wig or weave on.
And which oils should you use for this particular treatment? Jojoba oil helps to balance your scalp’s sebum levels. Castor oil helps to protect your scalp’s follicles. Grapeseed contains antioxidants and vitamin E that can help to heal your scalp. Essential oils like peppermint and ginger help to stimulate your scalp and encourage hair growth and strength.
A Zinc Spray
Zinc is a mineral that can benefit you in a myriad of different ways. It can boost your immunity. It can reduce the stress that is within your system. Due to its powerful anti-inflammatory properties, it can also help to speed up the healing process of acne as well. And when it’s in the form that’s known as zinc pyrithione, the antifungal, antibacterial and antimicrobial properties that are in it can help to clear up any fungal or bacteria-related issues that may have transpired on your scalp while you were wearing your wigs or weaves.
So, whether it’s in the form of a shampoo or spray, you can’t go wrong with applying zinc pyrithione to your scalp (if you’re not allergic to it, that is).
A Thorough Wig Cleansing
I once heard someone say that getting back with an ex is like hopping out of the shower and putting the same underwear back on. SMDH. LOL. While that is semi-debatable (I mean, check out “I'm Thrilled That Ryan Destiny & Keith Powers Are Back Together. 5 Things Before Reuniting With Your Ex, Tho.”), I won’t lie — that is exactly what came to my mind when I thought about this last tip: because what’s the point in following all of these scalp care tips — if you’re just going to turn around and put a dirty wig back onto your clean scalp? RIDICULOUS.
So yes, definitely make sure that you take out a couple of hours to really — and I mean, really — cleanse your wig. There are some videos that can help you out here, here, and here.
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Are wigs and weaves considered to be protective styles? They are. However, what’s the point in using them for that purpose if your natural hair and scalp are suffering in the process?
Hopefully, these tips will help to prevent that from ever being an issue — because, in the long run, a wig or weave is only as beautiful as the hair it protects. Straight up.
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Because We Are Still IT, Girl: It Girl 100 Returns
Last year, when our xoNecole team dropped our inaugural It Girl 100 honoree list, the world felt, ahem, a bit brighter.
It was March 2024, and we still had a Black woman as the Vice President of the United States. DEI rollbacks weren’t being tossed around like confetti. And more than 300,000 Black women were still gainfully employed in the workforce.
Though that was just nineteen months ago, things were different. Perhaps the world then felt more receptive to our light as Black women.
At the time, we launched It Girl 100 to spotlight the huge motion we were making as dope, GenZennial Black women leaving our mark on culture. The girls were on the rise, flourishing, drinking their water, minding their business, leading companies, and learning to do it all softly, in rest. We wanted to celebrate that momentum—because we love that for us.
So, we handpicked one hundred It Girls who embody that palpable It Factor moving through us as young Black women, the kind of motion lighting up the world both IRL and across the internet.
It Girl 100 became xoNecole’s most successful program, with the hashtag organically reaching more than forty million impressions on Instagram in just twenty-four hours. Yes, it caught on like wildfire because we celebrated some of the most brilliant and influential GenZennial women of color setting trends and shaping culture. But more than that, it resonated because the women we celebrated felt seen.
Many were already known in their industries for keeping this generation fly and lit, but rarely received recognition or flowers. It Girl 100 became a safe space to be uplifted, and for us as Black women to bask in what felt like an era of our brilliance, beauty, and boundless influence on full display.
And then, almost overnight, it was as if the rug was pulled from under us as Black women, as the It Girls of the world.
Our much-needed, much-deserved season of ease and soft living quickly metamorphosed into a time of self-preservation and survival. Our motion and economic progression seemed strategically slowed, our light under siege.
The air feels heavier now. The headlines colder. Our Black girl magic is being picked apart and politicized for simply existing.
With that climate shift, as we prepare to launch our second annual It Girl 100 honoree list, our team has had to dig deep on the purpose and intention behind this year’s list. Knowing the spirit of It Girl 100 is about motion, sauce, strides, and progression, how do we celebrate amid uncertainty and collective grief when the juice feels like it is being squeezed out of us?
As we wrestled with that question, we were reminded that this tension isn’t new. Black women have always had to find joy in the midst of struggle, to create light even in the darkest corners. We have carried the weight of scrutiny for generations, expected to be strong, to serve, to smile through the sting. But this moment feels different. It feels deeply personal.
We are living at the intersection of liberation and backlash. We are learning to take off our capes, to say no when we are tired, to embrace softness without apology.
And somehow, the world has found new ways to punish us for it.

In lifestyle, women like Kayla Nicole and Ayesha Curry have been ridiculed for daring to choose themselves. Tracee Ellis Ross was labeled bitter for speaking her truth about love. Meghan Markle, still, cannot breathe without critique.
In politics, Kamala Harris, Letitia James, and Jasmine Crockett are dragged through the mud for standing tall in rooms not built for them.
In sports, Angel Reese, Coco Gauff, and Taylor Townsend have been reminded that even excellence will not shield you from racism or judgment.

In business, visionaries like Diarrha N’Diaye-Mbaye and Melissa Butler are fighting to keep their dreams alive in an economy that too often forgets us first.
Even our icons, Beyoncé, Serena, and SZA, have faced criticism simply for evolving beyond the boxes society tried to keep them in.
From everyday women to cultural phenoms, the pattern is the same. Our light is being tested.

And yet, somehow, through it all, we are still showing up as that girl, and that deserves to be celebrated.
Because while the world debates our worth, we keep raising our value. And that proof is all around us.
This year alone, Naomi Osaka returned from motherhood and mental health challenges to reach the semifinals of the US Open. A’ja Wilson claimed another MVP, reminding us that beauty and dominance can coexist. Brandy and Monica are snatching our edges on tour. Kahlana Barfield Brown sold out her new line in the face of a retailer that had been canceled. And Melissa Butler’s company, The Lip Bar, is projecting a forty percent surge in sales.

We are no longer defining strength by how much pain we can endure. We are defining it by the unbreakable light we continue to radiate.
We are the women walking our daily steps and also continuing to run solid businesses. We are growing in love, taking solo trips, laughing until it hurts, raising babies and ideas, drinking our green juice, and praying our peace back into existence.
We are rediscovering the joy of rest and realizing that softness is not weakness, it is strategy.
And through it all, we continue to lift one another. Emma Grede is creating seats at the table. Valeisha Butterfield has started a fund for jobless Black women. Arian Simone is leading in media with fearless conviction. We are pouring into each other in ways the world rarely sees but always feels.

So yes, we are in the midst of societal warfare. Yes, we are being tested. Yes, we are facing economic strain, political targeting, and public scrutiny. But even war cannot dim a light that is divinely ours.
And we are still shining.
And we are still softening.
And we are still creating.
And we are still It.

That is the quiet magic of Black womanhood, our ability to hold both truth and triumph in the same breath, to say yes, and to life’s contradictions.
It is no coincidence that this year, as SheaMoisture embraces the message “Yes, And,” they stand beside us as partners in celebrating this class of It Girls. Because that phrase, those two simple words, capture the very essence of this moment.
Yes, we are tired. And we are still rising.
Yes, we are questioned. And we are the answer.
Yes, we are bruised. And we are still beautiful.

This year’s It Girl 100 is more than a list. It is a love letter to every Black woman who dares to live out loud in a world that would rather she whisper. This year’s class is living proof of “Yes, And,” women who are finding ways to thrive and to heal, to build and to rest, to lead and to love, all at once.
It is proof that our joy is not naive, our success not accidental. It is the reminder that our light has never needed permission.
So without further ado, we celebrate the It Girl 100 Class of 2025–2026.
We celebrate the millions of us who keep doing it with grace, grit, and glory.
Because despite it all, we still shine.
Because we are still her.
Because we are still IT, girl.
Meet all 100 women shaping culture in the It Girl 100 Class of 2025. View the complete list of honorees here.
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These Black Women Left Their Jobs To Turn Their Wildest Dreams Into Reality
“I’m too big for a f***ing cubicle!” Those thoughts motivated Randi O to kiss her 9 to 5 goodbye and step into her dreams of becoming a full-time social media entrepreneur. She now owns Randi O P&R. Gabrielle, the founder of Raw Honey, was moving from state to state for her corporate job, and every time she packed her suitcases for a new zip code, she regretted the loss of community and the distance in her friendships. So she created a safe haven and village for queer Black people in New York.
Then there were those who gave up their zip code altogether and found a permanent home in the skies. After years spent recruiting students for a university, Lisa-Gaye Shakespeare became a full-time travel influencer and founded her travel company, Shakespeare Agency. And she's not alone.
These stories mirror the experiences of women across the world. For millions, the pandemic induced a seismic shift in priorities and desires. Corporate careers that were once hailed as the ultimate “I made it” moment in one's career were pushed to the back burner as women quit their jobs in search of a more self-fulfilling purpose.
xoNecole spoke to these three Black women who used the pandemic as a springboard to make their wildest dreams a reality, the lessons they learned, and posed the question of whether they’ll ever return to cubicle life.
Answers have been edited for context and length.
xoNecole: How did the pandemic lead to you leaving the cubicle?
Randi: I was becoming stagnant. I was working in mortgage and banking but I felt like my personality was too big for that job! From there, I transitioned to radio but was laid off during the pandemic. That’s what made me go full throttle with entrepreneurship.
Gabrielle: I moved around a lot for work. Five times over a span of seven years. I knew I needed a break because I had experienced so much. So, I just quit one day. Effective immediately. I didn’t know what I was going to do, I just knew I needed a break and to just regroup.
Lisa-Gaye: I was working in recruiting at a university and my dream job just kind of fell into my lap! But, I never got to fully enjoy it before the world shut down in March [2020] and I was laid off. On top of that, I was stuck in Miami because Jamaica had closed its borders due to the pandemic before I was able to return.

Randi O
xoN: Tell us about your journey after leaving Corporate America.
Randi: I do it all now! I have a podcast, I’m an on-air talent, I act, and I own a public relations company that focuses on social media engagement. It’s all from my network. When you go out and start a business, you can’t just say, “Okay I’m done with Corporate America,” and “Let me do my own thing.” If you don’t build community, if you don’t build a network it's going to be very hard to sustain.
Gabrielle: I realized in New York, there was not a lot to do for Black lesbians and queer folks. We don’t really have dedicated bars and spaces so I started doing events and it took off. I started focusing on my brand, Raw Honey. I opened a co-working space, and I was able to host an NYC Pride event in front of 100,000 people. I hit the ground running with Raw Honey. My events were all women coming to find community and come together with other lesbians and queer folks. I found my purpose in that.
Lisa-Gaye: After being laid off, I wrote out all of my passions and that’s how I came up with [my company] Shakespeare Agency. It was all of the things that I loved to do under one umbrella. The pandemic pulled that out of me. I had a very large social media following, so I pitched to hotels that I would feature them on my blog and social media. This reignited my passion for travel. I took the rest of the year to refocus my brand to focus solely on being a content creator within the travel space.

Gabrielle
xoN: What have you learned about yourself during your time as an entrepreneur?
Randi: [I learned] the importance of my network and community that I created. When I was laid off I was still keeping those relationships with people that I used to work with. So it was easy for me to transition into social media management and I didn’t have to start from scratch.
Gabrielle: The biggest thing I learned about myself was my own personal identity as a Black lesbian and how much I had assimilated into straight and corporate culture and not being myself. Now, I feel comfortable and confident being my authentic self. Now, I'm not sacrificing anything else for my career. I have a full life. I have friends. I have a social life. And when you are happy and have a full quality of life, I feel like [I] can have more longevity in my career.
Lisa-Gaye: [I'm doing] the best that I've ever done. The discipline that I’m building within myself. Nobody is saying, ‘Oh you have to be at work at this time.’ There’s no boss saying, ‘Why are you late?’ But, if I’m laying in bed at 10 a.m. then it's me saying [to myself], 'Okay, Lisa, get up, it's time for you to start working!’ That’s all on me.
xoNecole: What mistakes do you want to help people avoid when leaving Corporate America?
Randi: You have to learn about the highs and lows of entrepreneurship. You have a fast season and a slow season and I started to learn that when you're self-employed the latter season hits hard. Don't get caught up on the lows, just keep going and don't stop. I’m glad I did.
Gabrielle: I think everyone should quit their job and just figure it out for a second. You will discover so much about yourself when you take a second to just focus on you. Your skill set will always be there. You can’t be afraid of what will happen when you bet on yourself.
Lisa-Gaye: When it comes to being an influencer the field is saturated and a lot of people suffer from imposter syndrome. There is nothing wrong with being an imposter but find out how to make it yours, how to make it better. If you go to the store, you see 10 million different brands of bread! But you are choosing the brand that you like because you like that particular flavor.
So be an imposter, but be the best imposter of yourself and add your own flair, your own flavor. Make the better bread. The bread that you want.

Lisa-Gaye Shakespeare
xoNecole: Will you ever return to your 9 to 5?
Randi: I wouldn’t go back to Corporate America. But I don’t mind working under someone. A lot of people try to get into this business saying, “I can't work under anyone.” That’s not necessarily the reason to start a business because you're always going to answer to somebody. Clients, brands, there’s always someone else involved.
Gabrielle: I went back! I really needed a break and I gave myself that. But, I realized I’m a corporate girl, [and] I enjoy the work that I do. I’m good at it and I really missed that side of myself. I have different sides of me and my whole identity is not Raw Honey or my queerness. A big side of me is business and that’s why I love having my career. Now I feel like my best self.
Lisa-Gaye: I really don’t. For right now, I love working for myself. It's gratifying, it's challenging, it's exciting. It’s a big deal for me to say I own my own business. That I am my own boss, and I'm a Black woman doing it.
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Originally published on February 6, 2023









