
This Is How Sagittarius Pairs With Each Zodiac Sign In Matters Of The Heart

Sagittarius loves in bounty. This freedom-loving, adventurous soul brings this same type of energy, passion, and open-mindedness into their relationships. They love because it feels good doing so, and there’s not much else to it.
Sagittarius in Love & Relationships
Sagittarius in general isn’t the most emotional sign when it comes to romantic relationships but they are still a valuable partner to have in life as they will always keep life exciting, fun, and purposeful. They live life on their own terms and inspire their partners to live life to the fullest as well. Being with a Sagittarius is like being on a rollercoaster that is always going uphill. You can’t really see where you are headed- but your stomach definitely has butterflies.
One of the best qualities about Sagittarius in love is that they truly make you feel special. This sign has explored the world and then some. They know different types of people, their travel knowledge is typically broad, and not to mention they have a unique spiritual philosophy on life that they love to dive into. So when they find someone they want to spend their time with, you know that someone is special as Sagittarius is a hard sign to pin down.
Sagittarius Love Compatibility: Best & Worst Matches in the Zodiac
Being that Sagittarius is a mutable sign, this sign has a higher chance of getting along with many other different signs, rather than just your typical fire and fire or fire and air duos. Sagittarius in love is spontaneous, loving, and unforgettable.
Who Are Sagittarians Most Compatible With?
Sagittarius + Aries Love Compatibility
Fire sign energy come together to create fireworks. Sagittarius and Aries are an electrifying couple. What makes this duo work so well is they understand each other on a base level and both see life through a similar lens. The passion that they direct toward life goes into their relationships as well and they both see the relationship as somewhere they can experience that passion, excitement, and love they are looking for. Passion runs high with this duo, and they thrive in active environments. This is the type of couple who like doing things together but also highly values each other's freedom and independence as well.
Sagittarius + Taurus Love Compatibility
Sagittarius and Taurus aren’t a duo you see too often, and rightly so. These two live on opposite ends of the spectrum and don’t meet in the middle too often. They both thrive in different environments meaning date nights and time spent together may not be too fulfilling for both of them. The biggest factor that plays into the incompatibility of Sagittarius and Taurus is that Sagittarius prefers its freedom and Taurus prefers its stability. However, these two can learn a lot from each other if they decide to put their differences aside and focus on what they love about each other rather than their differences.
Sagittarius + Gemini Love Compatibility
This compatibility is bittersweet but mostly sweet. Sagittarius and Gemini are on exact opposite sides of the zodiac wheel, otherwise known as sister signs which brings them closer together. However, at the end of the day, these two signs are opposites. What makes this pairing excel in compatibility is that they are both curious, open-minded, and love a good adventure. This is the type of couple that likes to be out and about doing things, and they can be quite the showstoppers. This couple thrives when it comes to mental stimulation and they are a couple that encourages excitement within each other.
Sagittarius + Cancer Love Compatibility
Sagittarius and Cancer can be an unexpectedly delightful pairing. What makes this compatibility better than most fire and water sign duos, is that there is a good give-and-take here. Sagittarius provides to the relationship what Cancer isn’t too focused on giving, and vice versa. For example, Cancer’s mind isn’t focused on philosophy, travel, and the world around them as much as Sagittarius is. Sagittarius’ mind isn’t focused on the home, stability, and their immediate environment, like Cancer’s homebody soul is. This works out for this pairing because they can complete the full picture together and provide each other with good reciprocity. Given the right circumstances, this pairing can work out well long-term for both of them.
Sagittarius + Leo Love Compatibility
Sagittarius and Leo are an exciting duo. They may fight for the spotlight from time to time and can overall have ego clashes within this relationship, but for the most part, this is a pairing you see that lasts the long haul. There is a lot of love and admiration between these two because they both understand where each other is coming from. They both require the same type of zest in life, and sharing a common goal with your partner is a recipe for success at the end of the day. Sagittarius and Leo are going to the same place and at the same pace and these two show up in the relationship with a lot of joy doing so.
Sagittarius + Virgo Love Compatibility
Sagittarius and Virgo are both mutable signs, and the relationship they form together has many different eras, being that both of these signs love to switch it up. Sagittarius and Virgo are a power couple nonetheless when you consider how they are both self-empowered and self-assured individuals. Think Jay-Z and Beyoncé. Sagittarius (Jay-Z) has his empire, and Virgo (Beyoncé) has her own as well, yet when you think of one you think of the other. This is because not only do both signs value their independence, but they put that same empowerment and love within their relationship as well, which helps it thrive.
Sagittarius + Libra Love Compatibility
This pairing is more common than the others, and you can immediately see how these two get along so well. Fire and air signs are one of the best when it comes to compatibility and they work out because they both get each other on another level. Being that Libra loves to love and you can find them in a relationship with any sign, they don’t have the same hangups when it comes to Sagittarius’ changeability as most signs do. Libra is a sign that can keep up with Sagittarius rather than try to hold them down or change their way of being. Libra loves their emotional freedom just as much as Sagittarius, and these two have a way of living in bliss together.
Sagittarius + Scorpio Love Compatibility
Sagittarius and Scorpio are typically a pairing that is better off as friends. Within a friendship, it is easier to understand each other's differences and to put them aside for the sake of the friendship. However, romantically, this is easier said than done. Sagittarius and Scorpio are always on a different vibe. Sagittarius is in their mind, and Scorpio is in their feels. Meeting in the middle requires more effort than they are usually willing to give, especially when it comes to Sagittarius who doesn’t like to be bothered with such emotional waters. When they’re keeping things light, this relationship does well, but when things get serious, this relationship starts heating up in more suffocating ways than romantic for Sagittarius.
Sagittarius + Sagittarius Love Compatibility
A Sagittarius and Sagittarius duo is just wild, to be honest. I can see Sagittarius trying this pairing just for the fun of it. They could have a lot of adventures and fun times together, but ironically, the reflection that they see in one another is a little too close for comfort. When it comes to dating your sign, you are often confronted with aspects of yourself you hadn’t seen before and the truth can be uncomfortable for some. If both signs are willing to grow within themselves and confront any issues that may arise head-on, then this can work, but with Sagittarius being such a curious sign who loves to learn from others and loves the uniqueness of individuality, dating someone who is like them isn’t too enticing for them.
Sagittarius + Capricorn Love Compatibility
Sagittarius and Capricorn is a duo that is more common than people may assume. Relationships with the signs next to yours have a different type of energy and compatibility because they are signs that learn a lot from each other and have a good give and take. Sagittarius and Capricorn both want a love that means something. Legacy is important for both of these signs, and they can create quite a legacy with each other. Capricorn excels in building the strong foundations needed for any relationship to survive, and Sagittarius brings the expansion needed for any relationship to thrive. If these two are on the same page, this can work.
Sagittarius + Aquarius Love Compatibility
This fire and air sign duo tends to be better in theory than reality, but if they are both in the right space emotionally, this can truly be a soulmate pairing that lasts the tests of time. What works here is that this couple has a lot of the same interests, and both genuinely just like each other. However, being that both of these signs aren’t the most romantic bunch of the zodiac, this can leave emotions dry and it can be difficult to know where each other truly stands as they aren’t the most expressive emotionally. If the love is truly there, they will be able to break this barrier, get out of their comfort zone, and let each other in more. If the relationship is not meant to be then there will always be this type of emotional barrier that makes it difficult to grow closer.
Sagittarius + Pisces Love Compatibility
Sagittarius and Pisces are an exciting and happy couple to be around. This is a Jupiter couple, as these mutable signs also share the same beloved ruling planet. They have an underlying energy of believing in the impossible and seeing the brighter side of the lens, and when they come together there is a lot of joy and love shared in this pairing. Commitment, however, can be a different story as that word means something different to both of them. If they can lay their expectations, needs, and wants for the relationship all out on the table, then misunderstandings are less likely and they can learn how to work together and make the relationship grow, rather than always feeling like they are moving in different directions and have to compromise more than they want.
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Adrian Marcel On Purpose, Sacrifice, And The 'Signs Of Life'
In this week's episode of xoMAN, host Kiara Walker talked with R&B artist Adrian Marcel, who opened up, full of heart and authenticity, about his personal evolution. He discussed his days transitioning from a young Bay Area singer on the come-up to becoming a grounded husband and father of four.
With honesty and introspection, Marcel reflected on how life, love, and loss have shaped the man he is today.
On ‘Life’s Subtle Signals’
Much of the conversation centered around purpose, sacrifice, and listening to life’s subtle signals. “I think that you really have to pay attention to the signs of life,” Marcel said. “Because as much as we need to make money, we are not necessarily on this Earth for that sole purpose, you know what I mean?” While he acknowledged his ambitions, adding, “that is not me saying at all I’m not trying to ball out,” he emphasized that fulfillment goes deeper.
“We are here to be happy. We are here [to] fulfill a purpose that we are put on here for.”
On Passion vs. Survival
Adrian spoke candidly about the tension between passion and survival, describing how hardship can sometimes point us away from misaligned paths. “If you find it’s constantly hurting you… that’s telling you something. That’s telling you that you’re going outside of your purpose.”
Marcel’s path hasn’t been without detours. A promising athlete in his youth, he recalled, “Early on in my career, I was still doing sports… I was good… I had a scholarship.” An injury changed everything. “My femur broke. Hence why I always say, you know, I’m gonna keep you hip like a femur.” After the injury, he pivoted to explore other careers, including teaching and corporate jobs.
“It just did not get me—even with any success that happened in anything—those times, back then, I was so unhappy. And you know, to a different degree. Like not just like, ‘I really want to be a singer so that’s why I’m unhappy.’ Nah, it was like, it was not fulfilling me in any form or fashion.”
On Connection Between Pursuing Music & Fatherhood
He recalled performing old-school songs at age 12 to impress girls, then his father challenged him: “You can lie to these girls all you want, but you're really just lying to yourself. You ain't growing.” That push led him to the piano—and eventually, to his truth. “Music is my love,” Marcel affirmed. “I wouldn’t be a happy husband if I was here trying to do anything else just to appease her [his wife].”
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Sometimes I get asked the same question, often enough, that I’m like, “It’s time to address this on a larger platform,” — and for, whatever the reason, as of late, folks have been asking me what different sex acts mean.
No, not from the perspective of positions or techniques. What they’ve basically wanted to know is if making love, having sex, and f-cking are simply different words to describe the same thing or if there truly is something deeper with each one.
Let me start this off by saying that of course, to a certain extent, the answer is subjective because it’s mostly opinion-rather-than-fact driven. However, I personally think that sex is hella impactful, which is why I hope that my personal breakdown will at least cause you to want to think about what you do, who you do it with, and why, more than you may have in the past.
Because although, at the end of the day, the physical aspects of making love, having sex, and f-cking are very similar, you’d be amazed by how drastically different they are in other ways…at the very same time.
Making Love
Back when I wrote my first book, I wasn’t even 30 at the time and still, one of the things that I said in it is, I pretty much can’t stand the term “make love.” Way back then, I stated that sex between two people who truly love each other and are committed for the long haul, when it comes to what they do in the bedroom, it’s so much more about CELEBRATING love than MAKING it. To make means “to produce” or “to bring into existence;” to celebrate means “to commemorate,” “to perform” or “to have or participate in a party, drinking spree, or uninhibited good time.”
The act of sex, standing alone? It can’t make love happen and honestly, believing otherwise is how a lot of people find themselves getting…got.
What do I mean? Tell me how in the world, you meet a guy, talk to him for a few weeks, don’t even know his middle name or where he was born and yet somehow, you choose to call the first time you have sex with him (under those conditions) “making love.” You don’t love him. You don’t know him well enough to love him. He doesn’t love you either (for the same reason). And yet you’re making love? How sway? Oh, but let that sex be bomb and those oxytocin highs might have you tempted to think that’s what’s happening — and that is emotionally dangerous. And yes, I mean, literally.
If I’ve said it once, I’ve said it a thousand times before, that one of the reasons why I like that the Bible defines sex between a husband and his wife is by using the word “know” (Genesis 4:1) is because, well, I think that is what celebrating love is all about — we know each other well enough to know that we love each other, we know each other well enough to know that we aren’t going anywhere, and that knowing is what makes us want to celebrate that union by getting as close to one another and bringing as much physical pleasure to each other as we possibly can…as often as absolutely possible.
To me, that is what the peak of physical intimacy is all about — and the people who choose to use the term “make love,” it should be seen through this type of lens. When this type of mental and emotional bond comes together via each other’s bodies, they are amplifying love, enjoying love, embracing love.
Making it, though? Chile, the love has already been made. Sex is just the icing on the cake.
Having Sex
A few nights ago, I found myself rewatching this movie called Four of Hearts (which you can currently view on yep, you guessed it: Tubi). It’s about two married couples — one that is in an open marriage and another that isn’t although they somehow thought that sharing a night with the other couple would be a good idea (chile). Anyway, as one of the partners found themselves getting low-key sprung, the one they fell for said in one of the scenes, “It wasn’t a connection. It was just sex.” JUST. SEX.
Listen, when you decide to let a man put an entire part of his body inside of you at the risk of potentially getting an STI/STD or pregnant (because no form of birth control is 100 percent except for abstinence), it can never be “just sex” (somebody really needed to hear that too). At the same time, though, I got the character’s point because, if one or both people do not love each other or even deeply care for one another and/or sex is treated as an activity more than an act to establish a worthwhile connection and/or you and the person you are sleeping with have not really discussed what you are expecting from sex besides the act itself — you’re definitely not making/celebrating love.
Not by a long shot. What can make things get a bit complicated, though, is you’re doing the same act that “love makers” do without the same mental and emotional ties…or (sometimes) expectations.
You know, back when I decided to put all of my business out there via the piece “14 Lessons I've Learned From 14 Sex Partners,” now more than ever, I am quite clear that most of those guys fell into the “having sex” category. I wasn’t in the type of relationship with them where “making love” even made sense; however, because I was friends with most of them, we weren’t exactly f-cking (which I will get to in just a moment) either. We had a connection of some sort for the bedroom yet not enough to be together in the other rooms of the house.
We were really attracted and curious, so we decided to act on that. Oftentimes, the sex was good and so we rationalized that “having sex” was enough because if the friendship was, eh, “sound enough”, that we could justify the physical pleasure.
And y’all, that’s kind of what having sex is — it’s the limbo (or purgatory, depending on your situation) between making love and f-cking. The thing about limbo ish is it’s a lot like something being lukewarm: it’s not really one thing or another which means that it can completely blindside you, if you’re not careful (and totally honest with yourself as well as your partner(s)).
So, if you are contemplating having sex, I really — REALLY — recommend that you figure out how you feel, what you want (outside of the act itself) and if you are prepared for what “not quites” can bring. My mother used to say that the consequences of sex don’t change just because the circumstances do — and there is some solid “wow” to that, if you really stop to think about it.
And finally, f-ck. Although most experts on the word (and yes, there are some) agree that its origin is rooted somewhere within the German language (although some say that it might’ve come from Middle English words like fyke or fike which mean “to move about restlessly” or the Norwegian word fukka which means “to copulate”), you might have also heard that it is an acronym that once stood for “Fornication Under Consent of the King”; and there is actually some data that is connected to that as well.
Legend has it that way back in the day, in order to keep reproduction rates where a particular king wanted them to be, he would instruct his residents to have sex with each other — whether they were married or not (hence, the word “fornication” being in the acronym). However, because sex outside of marriage was taken far more seriously at the time, residents had to apply for a permit to participate so that the king could determine if things like their occupation and lineage would prove to be beneficial for the kingdom overall. F-ck: no love; just necessity. And although some believe this to be more myth than fact, what is certain is it was only over time that f-ck was seen as a profane/swear/cuss word — a word that was perceived to be so offensive, in fact, that between the years 1795-1965, it didn’t even appear in dictionaries.
Personally, when I think of this four-letter word, the first thing that actually comes to my mind is animals. Take a dog being in heat, for instance. That’s basically when a female dog is ovulating and wants to have sex the most. It’s not because they are “in love” with another dog; they are simply doing what instinctively comes to them — and since animals do not reason or feel at the same capacity that humans do, although they science says that many of them do experience pleasure when they engage in their version of sexual activity, it’s not nearly as layered or even profound as what we experience.
Let’s keep going. Another reason why f-cking makes me think of animals is due to the doggy style position. Hear me out. Ain’t it wild how, most of us pretty much know that the term comes from how dogs have sex, even though most animals have sex that same way — and think about it: Doggy style doesn’t consist of making eye contact or kissing while having intercourse. It’s “hitting from behind” without much emotional energy or effort at all. Just how animals do it. And so, yeah, f-cking does seem to be more about pure animal — or in our case, mammal — instinct. I don’t need to feel anything for someone, so long as the sexual desire is there. Hmph.
Something else that I find to be interesting about f-cking is how dictionaries choose to define it. Many of them are going to provide you with two definitions: “to have sexual intercourse with” and “to treat unfairly or harshly (usually followed by over)” and that definitely makes me think of another term — casual sex and words that define casual like apathetic, careless and without serious or definite intention. So, the dictionary says that while f-cking is about having sexual intercourse — just like making love and having sex is — it goes a step further and says that it can include being treated unfairly or harshly.
And although that can make you think of assault on the surface, for sure — sometimes being treated unfairly or harshly is simply feeling like someone had sex AT you and not really WITH you; instinct (i.e., getting off) and that’s about it. Yeah, the way this puzzle is coming together, f-cking seems to be more about lust and self and not much else.
Now That You Know the Difference, What to Keep in Mind
Y’all, this is definitely the kind of topic that I could expound on until each and every cow comes home. That said, here’s hoping that I provided enough perspective on each act to close this out by encouraging you to keep the following three things to keep in mind:
1. Before you engage in copulation, be honest with yourself about what you’re ACTUALLY doing — and that your partner agrees with you. You know, they say that our brain is our biggest sex organ and honestly, breaking down the differences between making love, having sex and f-cking helps to prove that fact. I say that because, although the sex act itself is pretty much the same across the board, you and your partner’s mindset can make the experience completely different. That said, if you think that you are making love and they think y’all are just having sex — stuff can get pretty dicey. Bottom line: communicate in the bedroom before attempting to connect outside of it. It’s always worth it when you do.
2. Yes, you can feel one way and do something else. I can just about guess what some of y’all are on: Shellie, we can love our partner and still just want to f-ck. If what you are saying is you can emotionally love someone and physically lust them and want to act sometimes on the lust without really factoring in the love — yes, I agree. Doggy style continues to be a favorite sex position for people, in general, and I’m more than confident that many of the participants polled are in a serious relationship. However, having lust-filled sex with someone who you know loves you is vastly different than doing it with someone who you have no clue what they think about you or you barely know at all. Y’all, please just make sure that you know…what you should know. Sex is too amazing to have a lot of regret after it.
3. Have realistic expectations about sex. Listen, so much of my life consists of writing and talking about sex that I will be the first one to say that it deserves a ton of props for what it is able to do, in a wonderful way, for people mentally, emotionally and physically. Yet again, I’m not a fan of “make love” because something that feels really good doesn’t always mean that it is good for you. Meaning, you’ve got to be real about what sex with someone will do to your mind and spirit — not just what it will do for your body. An author by the name of Gabriel García Márquez once said, “Sex is the consolation you have when you can't have love.” For no one, should this be a constant norm. Feel me? I hope you do.
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One act. Three very different experiences.
It’s kind of wild that sex has the ability to create that — and yet, clearly, it does.
Please just make sure that you know which experience you’re signing up for.
So that you’re having sex (you know, in general) instead of sex having you. Real talk.
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