

I have been on a weight loss journey since 2016. It definitely has had its ups and downs for sure. I was on a trajectory of slowly gaining weight. All of sudden, I was 20-40 pounds heavier than I used to be. And this is when it became difficult to dress myself. I no longer could wear the stylish clothes I was used to wearing. I was so out of shape and nothing looked good on my heavy-set curvy body. I had to learn how to dress myself all over again. It wasn't fun because my clothing options were limited. I could no longer play dress-up. I mainly stuck to t-shirts, jeans, hoodies, sweats, and athleisure wear. Everything in my closet was black, gray, or blue too.
But five months ago, I decided to participate in a transformation challenge at my local gym. I was tired of my excuses, lack of discipline, and poor choices. Basically, I was over my own bullshit. What I did do was become committed and lost a total of 16 pounds. I started to be able to wear my "skinny clothes" again. Even clothes with the price tag on it from five years ago began to fit. Now, I am almost halfway to my ideal weight for my age, height, and body type. Since the challenge, I have maintained my weight, having gained only a pound or two.
Fortunately for me, I kept my old but smaller-sized wardrobe. I mean, I have a lot of cute dresses, jumpsuits, and skirts I have only worn once! I still have the 30th birthday dress I bought on sale from BCBG. I am not about to give that away. As I work my way back to my goal weight and clothing size, I have purchased a few staple wardrobe pieces to complement what I already have. I try not to buy too many new things because I don't want to have to give them away or not be able to wear them anymore.
Here's how you can make your wardrobe work for you when you're in between sizes, gained weight, or lost weight.
Take Inventory Of Your Closet
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Whether you have gained or lost weight, it's important to know what you have in your closet. Try everything on to see what clothing items fit and what doesn't. You then want to make two piles: clothes that fit and clothes that don't fit. Reorganize your closet with only the clothes that fit. This way you know what your options are. Now, most people donate or trash clothes that don't fit. If you are not ready to part ways with your skinny clothes yet, it's OK. Put the clothes that don't fit in a storage container and keep them in a different area of your room or house. If you end up losing weight, at least you don't have to buy a whole new wardrobe. Investment pieces never go out of style.
Get You Some Transitional Pieces
You might have a few of these in your closet and not know it. Transitional pieces include items like wrap dresses, skirts, and shirts. Think jackets, blazers, sweaters, and shirts made from cotton or knit fabrics. Consider pants or skirts with elastic or adjustable waists. If you have any transitional pieces in your closet, I urge you to keep these! There was this denim maxi skirt I had bought from SheIn. It was too cute to pass up. What I love about the skirt the most, is that even though I bought a size 10, the skirt is completely adjustable because of the multiple buttons at the waist. So, regardless of whether I lost weight or gained weight, the skirt would still fit me.
Visit Your Local Seamstress
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The first time I lost an excessive amount of weight, a lot of jeans didn't fit. I had a pair of jeans that I absolutely loved. I didn't want to get rid of them, but I didn't want to wear them as jeans because I no longer liked the style. So, I took them to a seamstress and turned them into shorts. If you have favorite clothing pieces you just can't get rid of, visit your local seamstress or alterations shop. They can transform your wardrobe for you by taking in the material of taking out seams of blouses, jackets, pants, skirts, and dresses to make them fit you. Keep in mind, you don't have to tailor all your clothes, but it's way cheaper than buying new clothes.
Stock Up On Budget-Friendly Essentials
I'm a fitted t-shirt and jeans type of girl. It's my go-to look outside of athleisure wear. So, I always have black, grey, tan, and white t-shirts in my dresser. You can find these at any clothing store for $5-8. I always look for stretchy cotton dresses in different colors and patterns that I can dress up or dress down too. I can easily throw a denim jacket over it with a pair of sneakers or sandals. I can dress it up with a pair of heels too. Jeans or pants are hard to find. I try to find denim and pants that have some stretch in them. You can find inexpensive jeans or pants almost anywhere. Online or in-store.
Numbers can be misleading. Certain brands run small, run large, or in between. I have learned to accept this, you should too. Don't let these brands get you in your feelings. It's not always about the size of clothes, it's how the clothes fit, compliment your body, and how they make you feel.
And this is how I make my wardrobe work for my constantly changing body.
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Adrian Marcel On Purpose, Sacrifice, And The 'Signs Of Life'
In this week's episode of xoMAN, host Kiara Walker talked with R&B artist Adrian Marcel, who opened up, full of heart and authenticity, about his personal evolution. He discussed his days transitioning from a young Bay Area singer on the come-up to becoming a grounded husband and father of four.
With honesty and introspection, Marcel reflected on how life, love, and loss have shaped the man he is today.
On ‘Life’s Subtle Signals’
Much of the conversation centered around purpose, sacrifice, and listening to life’s subtle signals. “I think that you really have to pay attention to the signs of life,” Marcel said. “Because as much as we need to make money, we are not necessarily on this Earth for that sole purpose, you know what I mean?” While he acknowledged his ambitions, adding, “that is not me saying at all I’m not trying to ball out,” he emphasized that fulfillment goes deeper.
“We are here to be happy. We are here [to] fulfill a purpose that we are put on here for.”
On Passion vs. Survival
Adrian spoke candidly about the tension between passion and survival, describing how hardship can sometimes point us away from misaligned paths. “If you find it’s constantly hurting you… that’s telling you something. That’s telling you that you’re going outside of your purpose.”
Marcel’s path hasn’t been without detours. A promising athlete in his youth, he recalled, “Early on in my career, I was still doing sports… I was good… I had a scholarship.” An injury changed everything. “My femur broke. Hence why I always say, you know, I’m gonna keep you hip like a femur.” After the injury, he pivoted to explore other careers, including teaching and corporate jobs.
“It just did not get me—even with any success that happened in anything—those times, back then, I was so unhappy. And you know, to a different degree. Like not just like, ‘I really want to be a singer so that’s why I’m unhappy.’ Nah, it was like, it was not fulfilling me in any form or fashion.”
On Connection Between Pursuing Music & Fatherhood
He recalled performing old-school songs at age 12 to impress girls, then his father challenged him: “You can lie to these girls all you want, but you're really just lying to yourself. You ain't growing.” That push led him to the piano—and eventually, to his truth. “Music is my love,” Marcel affirmed. “I wouldn’t be a happy husband if I was here trying to do anything else just to appease her [his wife].”
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Ashley Versher is known for her work in the Tyler Perry's Beauty In Black series and more recently, she starred alongside Taraji P. Henson in the Netflix film Straw. But she is more than just her acting credits and stunning looks (her hair alone is everything). In an xoNecole exclusive, Ashley dishes on her first celebrity crush, how she spends her downtime, and her go-to haircare products because we need the deets.
Get to know Ashley below.
xoNecole: Where are you from?
Ashley Versher: San Francisco - BAY AREAAAAAA!!!!
xoN: What was your first major acting role?
AV: A 49ers Super Bowl commercial - I think I was 3.
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xoN: Have you ever had an embarrassing or funny audition story? If so, what happened?
AV: Yes! I was doing a self-tape once and I forgot to take off my bonnet. But the tape was so good I sent it in anyway.
xoN: Your hair is gorgeous. What has it been like navigating Hollywood with natural hair?
AV: Thank you so much! Navigating Hollywood with natural hair has definitely been a journey of self-discovery. Early on, I had to make a conscious decision about how I wanted to show up—not just in this industry, but for myself. Once I fully embraced my natural hair and committed to the journey, everything else began to align. It’s been nothing short of empowering.
Navigating Hollywood with natural hair has definitely been a journey of self-discovery. Early on, I had to make a conscious decision about how I wanted to show up—not just in this industry, but for myself.
xoN: What are your favorite go-to hair products?
AV: Ooooooo, right now I’m loving Camille Rose’s Jai Twisting Butter—it’s super moisturizing and gives me a fun, bouncy twist-out! I’ve also recently gotten into oils, and I’m especially loving sweet almond oil.
xoN: We know you as an actress, but what is another special talent you have that most people don't know about?
AV: I trained as a classical violinist for 13/14years.
xoN: Who is your hero?
AV: My mom. She’s incredible - full stop.
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xoN: How do you like to spend your down time?
AV: Ha! What’s that!? Jk jk, I love to travel, that’s honestly my favorite thing.
xoN: Who was your first celebrity crush?
AV: Prince.
xoN: What is your dream role?
AV: One day I will play a witch with Harry Potter-like powers!
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