Cuffing season is upon us, ladies and gentlemen and we are rapidly approaching the prime time of the year for Netflix and Chilling.
There are approximately two months left in the year and now is the time to get your 2020 intentions all the way together, but in the midst of preparing for your rebirth for the new year, it's never a bad idea to catch up on some up on some of the new and Black AF content on Netflix.
Whether it's with your boo, your bestie, or by your own damn self, xoNecole has the perfect list of flicks to add to your watchlist this November.
Bebe’s Kids (Nov 21)
GiphyWe don’t die, we multiply! If you’ve never called someone a “bebe’s kid” then you might want to turn Netflix on and watch this 90s classic. It was just added to their November lineup making it the perfect addition before Thanksgiving.
Sparkle (Nov. 1)
Sparkle
We got to see our fairy godmother in her very last role before her untimely death in this reboot of an old school classic. Starring Whitney Houston, Jordin Sparks, and Tika Sumpter, Sparkle tells the story of a young girl from Detroit with dreams of becoming a star.
Superfly (Nov. 1)
Superfly
I was today years old when I learned that Trevor Jackson looks so damn good with a perm and I'll take two, please. This 2018 crime drama remake stars Trevor Jackson and Jason Mitchell as Atlanta-based drug kingpins who find themselves in more trouble than they can handle.
Love Jones (Nov. 1)
Love Jones
I'ma let y'all finish, but Love Jones was one of the most iconic love stories of all time. More than 20 years after the date of its release, the film has held its ground as truly necessary and essential to the culture, and much to our delight, the film is finally making its way to the streaming platform on November 1st.
Paid in Full (Nov. 1)
Paid in Full
Based on the 1987 hip-hop track by Eric B. and Rakim, Paid in Full is another underrated classic that we didn't know we needed back in our lives. On Nov. 1, you can relive all of the nostalgia of this 2002 crime drama in real-time.
Cleopatra Jones (Nov. 1)
Netflix did not come to play with it's throwback selection of films this month, and the 1973 Blaxploitation action-comedy hit, Cleopatra Jones is here to give you the ultimate boost of feminism and style inspiration that you've been needing this fall.
Getting Played (Nov. 1)
Alamy
This 2005 romantic comedy stars Vivica A. Fox, Carmen Electra, and Stacey Dash as a group of friends who decide to play a game of seduction on a stranger (Bill Bellamy).
King's Ransom (Nov. 1)
Before his hit role as Dre Johnson on Black-ish, he starred as a rich, arrogant divorcee who finds himself all the way f*cked up after staging his own kidnapping and being betrayed by his partners in crime.
American Son (Nov. 1)
This Broadway play-turned-Netflix Original tells the story of an estranged couple who are forced to put aside their differences after the disappearance of their teenaged son.
Burning Cane (Nov. 6)
Burning Cane
As the winner of three awards at the 2019 Tribeca Film Festival, Burning Cane was written and directed by 19-year-old filmmaker, Phillip Youmans, and is set in rural Louisiana. In a story about faith, addiction, and redemption, this young cinemetographer's debut is sure to get you all the way in your feelings.
Let It Snow (Nov. 8)
Netflix
With Christmas time approaching, its understandable to get a touch of the Holiday blues, but Shameik Moore's new rom-com will definitely get you in the spirit.
The Great British Baking Show: Holidays Season Two (Nov. 8)
Netflix
Tis' almost the season for milk and cookies and this British baking competition has you covered with brand new holiday special.
Nailed It! Holiday: Season Two (Nov. 22)
Nailed It/Netflix
Nicole Byers and her crew make failing funny AF and the gang is back together for the holiday edition of the Netflix original cooking competition, Nailed It. Featuring hilarious guest stars and even more hilarious kitchen mishaps, the search is on for America's Best Worst Cook on November 22.
Holiday Rush (Nov. 28)
Netflix
Starring Romany Malco, La La Anthony, and Deon Cole, this holiday comedy tells the story of a radio DJ and his four spoiled children who, after losing his job, are forced to forfeit their lavish lifestyle.
Atlantics (Nov. 29)
Directed by the first Black female director to ever compete at the Cannes Atlantique (and win), this supernatural drama is a "ghost love story" that is inspired by the real-life experiences of Senegalese migrants.
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When they met, Jason had just moved to Atlanta for a new job opportunity, and Elise was living happily in her career and had put dating on the backburner. But luckily, a mutual connection saw something in both of them and thanks to a yoga-themed baby shower and a chance text message, they found their forever. Check out their beautiful How We Met story below.
I’ll start with the easiest question. Can you both tell me a little bit about yourself and your background?
Elise: Sure, my name is Elise. I’m actually from Atlanta, GA – not a transplant. I grew up here and left right after college to pursue my career. Now I’ve been back going on eight years, and I’m in my early 40s.
Jason: And I’m Jason. I’m originally from Racine, Wisconsin. I went to school at Florida A&M University, so I am a rattler. I went back to the Midwest for a period of time, in Indianapolis. Now, I’ve been in the Atlanta area for a little over two and a half years.
Jason and Elise Robinson
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Wow, that’s nice because Atlanta gets a bad rap when it comes to relationships. So you have to give us the deets. How did you two find each other?
Elise: So I work in TV and I was on-air for a number of years and then transitioned into being a producer and then a manager. As a producer, I’d always have guests on. And there was a woman who came on frequently named Rosalynn (@Rosalynndaniels, often referred to as The Black Martha Stewart), and we connected instantly. Anyway, she got pregnant right before COVID and invited me to a “modern-day yoga baby shower.” I came to support, but was also just curious about that theme.
I had an amazing time. And when it was over a few of us stuck around and convos got personal. She ended up asking me the infamous ‘Are you dating’ question. When I told her no, she decided to set me up. So I should tell you, in both of my only two serious relationships, I was set up – so I was like no.
But she pointed at her husband, who was folding up chairs, and said that another friend set her up with him. Sometimes, it takes people outside of us to see what we need. A few months later, she reached out and said she had family relocating and thought I’d really like him. So she gave him my number, and I reached out with a text. He responded with a call, and that night, we talked for about 2-3 hours. So that’s how we met. I was a little nervous because me and Rosalynn were starting a friendship, and here I was, talking to her family!
Jason: It was new for me too. Remember, I was new to the area, and I had heard so many “stories” about how people have been done wrong in the dating world. Whether it’s by theft or scamming (laughs). Plus, I had just got a new job and wanted to focus on that. But I did want to be able to date someone in a more personal way and see where it led. I felt like who better than someone who I trust to connect me. Rosalynn knows I’m private, about business life, and my personal life is important to me.
So let’s get into your courtship. What was your first date like?
Elise: We had our first convo on a Monday, and he asked me out the next day. I didn’t have any plans, but I still said no. I was just playing hard to get (laughs). But we were talking every day, and he told me he wanted to take me somewhere I’ve never been. And I’m like, you’re in my city! But he sends me three options, and sure enough, two of the places I hadn’t gone to. So, our first date was October 1, 2021, and somebody was 45 minutes late.
Now Jason, why were you 45 minutes late?
Elise: It was me – in my own city. I just got turned around, and the traffic was horrible. I kept calling him and giving him permission to leave. Full transparency: I probably wouldn’t have waited if the shoe was on the other foot. But this was my first sign of what I now know and love the most about him. It’s his patience. When I got there, I was frazzled and everything, but he was just super calm. It ended up being a great first date.
Jason: I remember just waiting and being concerned for her well-being. Because I know how traffic can be, especially when someone is rushing. I was just scrolling through my phone and looking through the menu. It was cool.
Elise and Jason Robinson
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That’s beautiful. Now let’s talk about the “what are we” convo? Did you have one of those and if so, who initiated it and how was it?
Elise: I initiated it. Jason was dating me – and still does. But by this time, we had been on a number of dates. We were on our way to a winery, and we had a bit of a drive. So I decided to state my intention. We were just a few weeks in, but we were spending a lot of time together and we are people of a particular age. So I told him, I know Atlanta can be a Black man’s playground. There’s so many beautiful professional women here. But I’m dating with intention. I don’t want to kick it or hang with a good guy even though he’s not my person. I was done with all of that. So I’m “laying down the law” in my eyes, and he didn’t flinch. He let me finish and basically let me know we were on the same page. He was not trying to sow his royal oats.
Jason: Yeah, I was not trying to be Prince Akeem. But also, it was more so about setting a tone and goal for myself. My mama always told me to set my goals. And having a family was always one of mine. I think the biggest thing of it all, was I felt blessed – in terms of moving for work and meeting Elise, now being married. There’s victories being placed in my life.
I love that you both shared that because sometimes I get feedback on these stories and it seems like sometimes we’re afraid to really voice what we desire, no matter what that looks like.
Elise: Yeah, I think sometimes women feel like they don’t want to put pressure on their partner. But it’s not pressure. Look, Jason and I are based in faith, and what is for us is for us. Being upfront and honest is best – and early makes sense. You don’t have to convince someone to be your person.
Jason: I think her sharing those values resonated with me, and hearing her “lay down the law” was fine because I was there, too. I would say to millennial women, don’t be afraid to tell a mate what you want. You never know what that would lead to. Time is a precious commodity. Elise saying that early on showed me that she values both of our time. It showed her heart, character, and integrity, and I was drawn to that and the mature conversation. In the social media world, we don’t have those pointed conversations face-to-face. I would challenge readers to have those conversations in person, and you would get more from that convo than any post or reel. Because you see body language reactions and have deeper communication.
Yeah, I think sometimes women feel like they don’t want to put pressure on their partner. But it’s not pressure. Look, Jason and I are based in faith, and what is for us is for us. Being upfront and honest is best – and early makes sense. You don’t have to convince someone to be your person.
You both have mentioned time, family, and integrity. I’m curious what other core values do you both share?
Elise: Early on, our faith. Not just do you believe in God. It had to be deeper in that. I needed someone who would lead me, our home, and our family. I didn’t want to be in a push-and-pull relationship about prayer, church, or have conversations about being better people. Also, we discussed finances. That doesn’t just mean going to work. We chatted about ownership and what it looks like for us. How do we support each other individually and together? I know I like having my hands in a few different pots, and I needed someone who was supportive of that and likewise.
Jason: My background is that I was raised in the church. My father is a deacon and my mom is a deaconess. They've been married for 55 years. Faith was very important to me and it was crucial that my wife have that relationship as well.
Elise and Jason Robinson
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Can we talk about challenges? Big or small, what are some things you had to grow through together?
Elise: I have never lived with anyone – not a roommate, a sister, friend, boyfriend or anything. Now, I’m in my 40s and I'm living with someone. When you’ve been by yourself for so long that was a challenge for both of us. We weren’t pulling each other's hair out but I’m a bit extreme. Things are color-coded in my closet. For me, working in news is chaotic so I want my home to be peaceful and organized.
Jason: I’m a man, and she’s a woman. That dynamic alone adds a flair to it. She wants things a certain way. She’s a Capricorn. But just in terms of how she wants to keep a home was a big adjustment for me. It took time.
On a smaller level, what are some of the things you disagree about day-to-day?
Elise: Cleanliness and systems. Like, he recycles and I do not. But sometimes I just have to decide if it really needs to be a thing or if I can just take care of it.
Jason: This is where my organization takes over (laughs).
What are your love languages? Do you know?
Elise: Jason’s is an act of service which works because I love cooking for him. It doesn’t feel like a chore to me. I love when I’m out, picking up his favorite juice. The other day I saw he needed t-shirts while folding clothes. So I just like doing small things for him that he doesn’t expect. He’s very much that guy that will ask to help so it doesn’t bother me.
Jason: I’d say Elise is all of them, but physical touch would probably be the biggest one. I had to get used to that. She’s taught me it in a number of ways. I remember we actually talked about love languages, and I sent her this song called “More Than Words” by Extreme. That explained to her how I felt.
Finally, can we end with the proposal? Tell us everything!
Jason: It was at a restaurant. And again, I was trying to find somewhere she hadn’t been. Also, I didn’t want to do it on our anniversary because that would have been too obvious. I contacted one of the restaurant’s staff and decided to change up the dessert menu. Each item was something special to us.
Elise: We go on so many date nights, so I just thought it was a regular night. We had finished eating, and I had to go to the bathroom. They had a nice mirror, girl. So I’m in there taking videos and stuff.
Jason: While she’s in the restroom, I’m getting everything in place with the waitress.
Elise: So as I’m reading the menu, I realize it’s telling our story and he eventually proposed. It was so special; I actually had the menu framed! It was so beautiful and thoughtful.
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