

Let me just start this particular article off by saying that approximately 98 percent of women have cellulite somewhere on their body (men? Only around 10 percent of them do). While that might make some of you want to give me the cynical "gee, thanks" (or quite possibly, even the finger), I actually said that so you could let yourself off the hook a bit. Because, while I don't know too many women who are thrilled at the thought of having cellulite on their body, since it is so common, it's definitely nothing to feel ashamed of or insecure about. After all, cellulite are simply fat deposits (that sometimes look like lumps or dimples) that are underneath the top layers of our skin. And while some are more genetically prone to have more of it than others, factors including body fat percentage and even age play a role in it too.
And just where does cellulite tend to show up the most? Thighs, buttocks and abdomen area are pretty typical. So are underneath and behind our arms. And is there nothing that you can do? Well, that's where today's topic comes in. While in extreme and excessive cases, there are things like laser therapy and other relatively safe procedures that doctors will sometimes recommend, there are also all-natural at-home remedies that can significantly soften the appearance of cellulite too. I've got 10 of 'em right here.
1. Dry Brushing
A very popular way to reduce the appearance of cellulite is a process known as dry brushing. It's a fan favorite because it is a fairly simple way to stimulate blood circulation (which helps to keep fat from accumulating) as it exfoliates dead skin cells too. If you add 3-5 drops of an essential oil like fennel, lavender or rosemary to a carrier oil like coconut, jojoba or sweet almond and then rub the combo into the areas where you'd like to see less cellulite before brushing your skin, the oils will help to soften the appearance of those stubborn fatty areas over time. Byrdie has a list of some of the best dry brushes that are currently on the market; you can check those out here. I also found a video that features some dry brushing hacks that you can watch by going here.
2. Coffee Scrubs
Body scrubs are pretty dope, period, because they are such a great way to exfoliate your skin in order to give it a natural glow.
The reason why coffee scrubs are a good idea when it comes to reducing cellulite is 1) the caffeine in coffee can actually help to tighten up your skin and 2) massaging the scrub into certain areas of your body will increase blood flow which releases toxins which can decrease the amount of cellulite that you have in certain areas of your body.
If you combine a cup of fresh coffee grounds with one-third cup of brown sugar (it's a gentle exfoliant) and ½ cup of grapefruit oil (it helps to detoxify your skin) and apply it while you're in the shower, making sure to focus on the parts of your body where cellulite is, it will help to reduce fat cells and increase the production of collagen. Do this 1-2 times a week for the absolute best results.
3. Body Massages
If you want to go the pampering route in order to get rid of some cellulite, you absolutely can't go wrong with setting up a massage appointment. In fact, if you add dry cupping to your request, that can help to aggressively pull toxins out of your system. While it's not a "cure" for cellulite (unfortunately, nothing can full-on cure it), it is a surefire way to significantly reduce the appearance of it; at the very least, temporarily so.
4. More Potassium and Protein
Potassium is a very necessary mineral; one that, as far as cellulite goes, helps to flush out unnecessary bodily fluids and waste that cells can sometimes accumulate. As far as protein goes, did you know that it helps to keep your metabolism running just as it should? Not only that, collagen and elastin (skin tighteners) are proteins, so, of course, a diet that consists of protein made this list. I put these two things together because a meal that is rich in both potassium and protein can be a delicious way to get rid of stubborn cellulite. Potassium-rich foods include spinach, broccoli, sweet potatoes, mushrooms, cucumbers, peas and potatoes. Foods that are rich in protein include beef, poultry, fish, eggs, quinoa, lentils and Brussels sprouts.
5. Less Sugar and Salt
When it comes to overdoing it on the sugar and salt, it's underneath my arms where I will see some signs that I need to hold myself more accountable. Makes sense too since sugar triggers inflammation as it stores up more body fat and salt causes water retention (bloating). Y'all, it doesn't make sense to eat all of the right foods if you're going to continue to eat a lot of what isn't good for you too. If you're noticing more cellulite than usual, stop to consider if you're spending too much time in fast food drive-thru lines. If so, pulling back from those could cause you to see a noticeable difference.
6. Omega 3s
Some fats are actually really good for you. One of those would be omega-3s. They are a kind of fatty acid that can reduce the risk of heart disease, fight bodily inflammation, decrease the amount of fat that is in your liver, improve bone and joint discomfort and yes, help to dissolve some of the "bad fat" that could be leading to the appearance of cellulite. Foods that are loaded with omega-3s include salmon, trout, sardines, chia seeds, kidney beans, walnuts and flaxseeds.
7. Fiber
I'm thinking that you can probably guess why adding more fiber to your diet is an awesome way to decrease the amount of cellulite that is in your body. Fiber helps to keep us regular and the less toxins that are in your system, the easier it is for stubborn fat deposits to be eliminated. Not only that but fiber can also boost your metabolism levels too. So, if you know you're not consuming as much fiber as you should, be sure to pick up some dark leafy greens, berries, avocados, carrots, oats, chickpeas and almonds the next time you're at the grocery store.
8. Chemical-Free Moisturizers
Oftentimes, when we discuss toxins and how they work against our system, the things that we eat are typically what gets brought up.
Yet it needs to go on record that what we put on our skin can play a direct role too. This is why a lot of holistic experts live by the motto that if you can't eat it, you shouldn't put it on your skin; after all, we've all got around five million pores on our body and many studies support the fact that 60 percent of what we put onto our pores goes directly into our bloodstream (another reason to rethink chemical relaxers; that's another message for another time, tho). For this reason, it really is best to go with chemical-free moisturizers. They're toxin-free and, if you add an essential oil like chamomile, lemongrass, rose, geranium or patchouli to a carrier oil such as argan or avocado, the combo will help to boost collagen while tightening your skin in the process.
Plus, your skin will feel really soft and smooth after applying which is always a bonus.
9. Water
Between 60-65 percent of our body is made up of water. That alone should be more than enough reason to drink as much of it as you can throughout the day. On the cellulite tip, though, it's beneficial because water flushes toxins, increases blood circulation and helps to keep your lymphatic system (it consists of your lymph, lymph nodes and vessels) working properly. On the outside, allowing cold water to hit the areas where any cellulite is for a few minutes every day can trigger blood circulation as well. So, if you don't do anything else on this list, get that water going. It's something that cellulite loathes. And that's a good thing.
10. Exercise
C'mon. Don't act like you didn't see this one coming. All throughout this article, I've talked about how increasing blood circulation and removing toxins can help to get rid of cellulite; well, exercise certainly does both of these things. It also helps to tighten your skin which is always a bonus. Cardio, squats and lunges are super effective ways to make cellulite less of an issue. This is why you should commit to exercising 30-45 minutes a day, 2-3 times a week. Your thighs, buttocks and tummy area will be so grateful. You will be too.
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
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As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Are You & Your Partner Financially Compatible? Here’s How To Tell.
With nearly half of all marriages that end in divorce citing finances as the nail in the coffin to deading their relationship, financial compatibility is one aspect of long-term compatibility that doesn't get talked about enough. Beyond the circular 50/50 discourse and whatever hot-button issues regarding providers and the like, at its core, financial compatibility is about how well your financial behaviors, values, and long-term goals align with those of your partner.
More than it is about how much money a person makes or doesn't make, financial compatibility focuses on how you think about money, how you spend your money, and most importantly, how you plan for the future with your money. Think, questions about money mindsets, spending habits, debt, budget, etc. Are you a saver and he's a spender? Do you see money as a tool for freedom? Does he see it as something to hold on tightly to as a means of survival? Can you talk about your financial goals and plans openly?
Knowing if you and your partner are financially compatible can save a lot of heartache, a lot of headaches, and a lot of money in the end. Keep reading for a few key indicators to pay attention to and learn whether or not you and your partner are truly aligned financially.
Signs You’re Financially Compatible
1. You can talk about money without judgment.
Conversations about money aren't something you dread. You're able to talk to your partner freely and openly about money matters, like debts, bills, the budget, etc., even when it is uncomfortable. There is an understanding that talking about money doesn't have to be something you're on the defense about, instead it's an opportunity for transparency, clarity, and solutions.
2. You respect each other's money personalities.
What is a money personality? According to Ken Honda, author of Happy Money, a money personality is our "approach and emotional responses to money" and there are seven money personalities we can fall under. These personalities can help us understand our own relationship with money, as well as our partner's. For example, maybe you're someone who likes to treat yourself to a fancy dinner once a month and your partner is someone who believes ordering takeout and not cooking meals at home is a cardinal sin.
When you can respect each other's money personalities, neither approach is subjected to judgment and shifts can be made in each other's spending habits as needed and from a place of love versus guilt or shame.
3. You agree on what it means to have "financial security."
Whether it’s building a stacked emergency fund, paying off debt before putting a downpayment on a home or being able to splurge on a baecation without checking your account balance before the bill arrives, your definitions of what it means to be financially secure are in sync, or at least compatible enough to reach a compromise.
4. You are not each other's "financial parent."
You’re not constantly teaching, fixing, or stressing out over what the other person is doing with their money. Although I fast-forwarded through a lot of the most recent season of Love Is Blind, I did pay attention to Virginia and Devin and money seemed to be a recurring theme in their conversations. It was clear Virginia had her ish together when it came to money and her financial plans for the future and Devin was not quite on her level.
Though she said no at the altar for additional reasons, I could also see how sis could eventually get very tired of being her partner's second mama, so to speak. And that's the thing about being your partner's "financial parent," eventually, you could end up feeling like you are one-half of a "parenting" or "teaching" dynamic with your partner instead of feeling like you're equals in a partnership.
5. You make financial decisions with each other in mind, not for each other.
Whether it’s booking a trip, deciding which debt to tackle first, saving up for a big purchase, or planning out your next move, there’s a mutual respect for each other’s input. Those shared goals might look like wealth, freedom, stability, or just a debt-free life that feels soft and secure.
You don’t have to be chasing the same bag in the same exact way, but you do need to be aligned on the vision. What you're building should feel like a joint venture with shared effort and purpose, not one of y’all making major money moves like you're still single. Making financial decisions is not just about where the money goes, it's about where you’re going together.
6. You're aligned when it comes to the big stuff.
Financial compatibility extends to the long-term of money management. The legacy, structure, and shared responsibility that comes with decisions like shared accounts, estate planning, having babies, or even blending families. Will you split bills or combine income? Who’s taking time off if you have a child? How do y’all feel about generational wealth or investing for your family’s future? You and your partner have had the real conversations.
These conversations can’t wait until after the wedding or until after a baby’s here. They’re the foundation for how you function as a unit, and if you're not aligned, or at least willing to get on the same page, that incompatibility can cause friction in the end that love alone can't fix.
Love is cute and all, but building an empire together? That’s the real flex. Tap into our new series Making Cents to see what financial compatibility really looks like when love and legacy go hand in hand.
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