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How To Master The Art Of Allowing
As we’ve entered a new year, it’s time to shed the burdens of the past and prepare for a new chapter in our lives. For me, this season of my life is about allowing - letting go of the baggage of the past and all anxiety about the future. We often hear about “detachment” in the context of “not caring” and being cold and unfeeling, but the art of detachment is about something much deeper and much more liberating than becoming immune to our emotions.
The true beauty in detachment is finding agency in our response to external events, circumstances, and people and allowing the things we truly desire to easily come into our lives.
We’re only here to experience other people - not control them.
It can be hard to let go of that friendship or relationship we wanted so badly, but the truth is, we can’t control other people. Whether they leave us or do us wrong is up to them. We only have control over our responses to those experiences. We’re only here to experience each other and enjoy things while they’re fun or good for us. Mastering how to move on once that experience is over makes difficult situations much easier to navigate. That doesn’t mean it won’t hurt, but this shift in mindset will save you some heartache.
What you hold onto too tightly, you will lose.
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Have you ever noticed how when you stop waiting for that text or checking for that email and move on with your day, that’s when you receive it? Have you ever had a fleeting thought about someone you haven’t spoken to in a while, and they reach out soon after? My favorite example is one I’m sure we’ve all experienced - the minute you get over your ex that’s when they come crawling back. These are all examples of the art of detachment or “allowing.”
When we detach from, or let go of, the outcome, it speeds up our manifestations. Law of Attraction Coach, Abraham Hicks, calls it “flowing downstream” or “allowing.” Imagine the effort it would take to swim upstream vs. downstream or trying to hold a cork underwater vs. allowing it to float on top of the water.
Focus on what you can control.
As the perfectly flawed beings that we are, we feel like we need to control everything in our lives. The idea of letting go can be frightening, but I challenge you to change your perspective on this and see it as liberating instead. Think about how heavy a burden it is to try to orchestrate our every experience. Wouldn’t it be far easier to focus only on the things you can control? This doesn’t mean pretending not to care when you’re hurt, rejected, or betrayed. It means focusing on how you respond to those situations and taking charge of the good-feeling things you can do for yourself.
You can work on your self-confidence by taking on challenging new hobbies or going to the gym. You can work on finding new love by going to events or participating in activities you enjoy with new people. You can find a better job by updating your resume, expanding your network, and refining your skills. By focusing on the things you can control, you open yourself up for more joy to come into your life.
There is only the present.
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You’ve probably heard the saying “all we have is now.” We only ever have the present moment and staying present releases us from the ties of the past and the pull of the future. When we let go of our past hurt and future anxieties and choose to focus on what we can control - the here and now - we allow ourselves to truly romanticize our lives and take each moment as it comes. And, after all, that’s the point, right? As Abraham Hicks teaches, the purpose of life is joy and the result is growth.
What are you trying to let go of? Let me know in the comments.
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UnPrisonedhas returned for its highly anticipated second season, delving deeper into the complex dynamics of the Alexander family.
The series premiere comes a year after its debut season garnered rave reviews from fans and critics and earned record-breaking ratings for Hulu's Onyx Collective brand. UnPrisoned's success can be attributed to its raw, relatable themes and comedic appeal.
Inspired by creator Tracy McMillan's life, the show follows Paige (Kerry Washington), a therapist and single mother whose life takes an unexpected turn when her father, Edwin (Delroy Lindo) --who was released from prison-- moves in with her and her teenage son, Finn (Faly Rakotohavana).
Throughout UnPrisoned's first season, viewers witnessed how Edwin's incarceration deeply affected Paige's life and relationships. In the series, Paige unpacks her trauma through interactions with her inner child and her online followers. Meanwhile, Edwin is overcoming specific struggles with his own past that led to his life of crime, including a dysfunctional upbringing and his mother's arrest. As the Alexanders attempt to reconcile, new challenges arise.
This new season promises to further explore their unconventional family dynamic. Here are several compelling reasons why season two of UnPrisoned should be on everyone's watchlist.
The Alexander Family Life Is Still In Shambles
UnPrisoned's second season resumes where the series left off, with Paige grappling with the fallout from her troubled therapy practice and Edwin navigating life independently after moving out. Meanwhile, Finn faces his own challenges. The teenager is battling anxiety and seeking information about his father—a topic Paige avoids discussing.
The Alexander Family Are Attending Therapy To Resolve Their Underlying Issues
Amid the chaos in their lives, the Alexander family decides to mend their bond by confronting their past traumas. They seek professional help and attend therapy sessions with a “family radical healing coach,” played by John Stamos, a new cast member. This collective effort aims to unravel the complexities of their shared history and strengthen their relationships.
The process of unraveling each character's internal conflicts and their potential impact on future relationships may clash with Paige's textbook therapy approach. While Paige is used to being in the therapist's seat in both career and family, this forces her into the unfamiliar role of a patient during therapy sessions. This shift would compel her to look in the mirror and try a radically different approach.
The Alexander Family Learned A Big Lesson During A Therapy Session
In therapy, the Alexanders are tasked with addressing their individual traumas to salvage their remaining relationships. One of the family therapist’s eccentric suggestions was an exercise involving a family wrestling match. During this session, Paige faces tough questions about her refusal to share information about Finn's father.
While it's unclear whether this scene is reality or fantasy, the image of the family duking it out in the ring certainly makes for hilarious yet compelling television.
Paige Tries Dating Again Following Failed Relationships
Amid her life's chaos, Paige decides to step back into the dating field. However, her many attempts have left her with mixed results. The dating apps have turned out to be a fail, and an outing with her ex Mal (Marque Richardson), who is also her father's parole officer, doesn’t go quite as expected after he brings an unexpected guest – his new girlfriend.
The situation takes an awkward turn when Mal's new partner learns why the former couple split, partly due to Paige's self-sabotage.
UnPrisoned Is A Perfect Balance Of Comedy And Drama
As a dramedy, UnPrisoned takes a comedic approach to its heavy subjects. The show takes us on a ride with Paige's dating misadventures and navigating a friendship with her ex.
Other lighthearted moments include Edwin's attempts at CPR based on online videos and, of course, the antics of the Alexander family's unconventional new healing coach.
The second season of UnPrisoned is now available on Hulu.
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Tubi has been gaining popularity due to its free sign-up and a vast selection of series and films. According to Deadline, the FAST (free ad-streaming television) service has seen a 14.7% growth from May and now has similar numbers to Disney+. So while many people have joked about Tubi having low-budget movies, the numbers don't lie.
In fact, I was one of those people who didn't get the appeal of Tubi, but the more I watched it, the more I enjoyed the content. They have some of our favorite TV series, such as Scandal and Star, as well as big films like the Fast and Furious franchise and cult classic Love & Basketball.
Tubi even has its own original movies and series that are just as entertaining. But while Tubi is on the come up, some of the low-budget movies and hood movies are still a must-watch. From Tubi originals to the hood movies, we've put together a list of shows and movies to add to your watchlist.
Cinnamon
Cinnamon is an original Tubi movie that stars Hailey Kilgore (Juke from Power Book III: Raising Kanan), Damon Wayans, and Pam Grier. It's a love story gone awry after a robbery turns deadly, and a young couple faces many challenges to make it out alive.
The Dirty D
The Dirty D is one of the first things I watched on Tubi, as many people highly recommended it. It's a series set in a Detroit club, and it has all the drama you can think of. Murder, drug dealing, cheating, greed, and more.
Black Men Don't Cheat
In this film, a young woman grapples with the death of her husband while also discovering his secret life, which puts her in danger.
Mother May I
This movie fully captivates the overbearing mother. However, the ending will shock you as she goes a little too far.
The Stepdaughter
When a young girl moves in with her dad and his new wife, a series of unfortunate events occurs. This Tubi original will keep your attention with every turn.
These Men For Everybody
These Men For Everybody is a film that highlights the tangled web of friendships and relationships and how you can't trust anybody.
Best Friend
What happens when your best friend is obsessed with you? This movie, which stars Serayah and Marques Houston, answers this very question and takes us on a ride in the process.
What's Done After Dark
What's Done After Dark shows us that everything isn't always what it seems. The twist at the end is a real doozy.
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