Discipline. Routine. Habits. Sometimes, those can seem like curse words, especially in an unpredictable world where any - and everything can happen, and life is often life-ing. But, as the very true cliche goes: Where there's a will, there's a way, and many successful women prove that good lifestyle habits are the foundation to at least alleviating stress, getting a head start on overcoming challenges, and adding a bit of order to the day.
Check out a few of the lifestyle habits of successful women living out their dreams and be inspired by what might be helpful in your day-to-day life:
1. They are lifetime learners who read, read, and read some more.
For Serena Williams, the Bibleis her jam; for a transformative boost, The Alchemist does it for Issa Rae, and Regina Hall has sworn by Freedom In Exile: The Autobiography of the Dalai Lamai. It's clear that no matter what industry or career you choose, reading is more than fundamental: It's a must for inspiration, motivation, and reflection.
And so many successful women are either leaders of expansive book clubs (hello, Oprah Winfrey, Tanya Sam, and Gloria Edim!), and Bookstagram communities filled with amazing, educated, savvy women professionals and entrepreneurs are no longer just a trend. They are the norm.
No matter what career you choose, reading is more than fundamental, it's a must for motivation.
2. They find passive ways to grow their wealth.
While a love of money is the root of evil, financial freedom is a must, and successful women don't play about those finances. For some, following a budget or facing debt can seem like a real headache and really not something we want to spend our Friday nights doing, but the full picture of success includes one's financial security. That being said, think about any woman you admire (or who has the receipts of a successful life), and name one who doesn't have her hands in more than one cookie jar of income.
I'll wait. Yep, all of them.
Even the most successful doctor, lawyer, entrepreneur, homemaker, or creative is doing more than one thing to get to the bigger bag, with a good number of them earning passive income.
Some find success via investments (i.e., retirement and/or brokerage accounts, angel investment efforts, real estate, or tax-free savings accounts). If they're not investing, they have side hustles that practically make them money in their sleep or with minimal effort on their part (i.e., through book, course or content publishing, music royalties, voice-only YouTube channels, artwork investments or resales, buying and selling websites---the list goes on and on).
This is not to say you need to be a member of TeamToo-Much--- pushing yourself to the limit toward busted, booked, and busy chasing quantity and not quality. If you can find ways to stretch the value of your time and money, be strategic, match those efforts with your actual passions and skills, and do what works for you.
3. They network across and up, and surround themselves with amazing folk.
Issa Rae took the idea of "networking across" mainstream. If you watch the growth of many of your favorite leaders in their respective fields, you'll notice that there are groups of besties, business partners, and friends who lift one another up as they all climb. From Kandi Burruss and Tameka "Tiny Harris" winning in business, TV production, and music together, to Jada Pinkett and Queen Latifah serving as respective powerhouses in Hollywood, to Sherri Shepherd and Niecy Nash holding each other down both personally and professionally, one thing successful women definitely have in common is a good network of friends, associates, and supporters.
Check out the Instagram or TikTok of any successful woman you admire, and you'll probably see some of the same faces at the baby shower, book launch, business opening, conference, or other major event in the photos or videos. They work together on projects, cheer each other on, show up for one another, and are down even in challenging times. They value strong relationships that are balanced, inspiring, and healthy, and they're always thinking about ways to work together for the advancement of their respective groups and those they serve.
Lifting each other up while journeying through success is a common thread shared among successful women.
4. They make mental and physical wellness a No. 1 priority no matter what.
It can seem like we're drilling this into the ground, but prioritizing health and wellness isn't something to take lightly, especially when you're in a glow-up phase or transitioning to ascend to another level in your life and career. You have to be at your best, mentally and physically, to sustain all that comes with being a boss, leading companies, building a business, or giving your best to your job.
Exercise (or some sort of intentional and consistent fitness activity), at least 20 minutes per day, is a common habit among successful CEOs and leaders. Meditation and prayer are also key common activities among successful women who often face quite a few stress triggers throughout their day.
Therapy is also big on the list of habits that boost success, as the practice allows for trauma healing, reflection, emotional release, and simple stress relief.
If you're not into traditional exercise (i.e., pumping up in the gym or running on somebody's treadmill), you can explore other creative ways to incorporate fitness, such as a dance class, walking instead of driving to certain places, taking on Pilates, going for a bike ride, or twisting up in some aerial silks. No matter what size, shape, or lifestyle, adding fitness and wellness habits to your day is a no-brainer when it comes to success.
No matter what walk of life or stage you're in, at least one of these habits could take you that much closer to the life of your dreams. Take a nod from women who have shown that we can continue to be our ancestor's wildest dreams, one step at a time.
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xoNecole: So I know that your father is in the entertainment world, but when did you realize you shared the same passion?
Jazlyn Martin: I think it was very early on. I was a child who was full of attitude and fearlessness that would go after anything I wanted. I believe seeing my dad pursue music made me realize it was possible. I just had this hunger and fire, and my parents consciously fed and nurtured that - they are always all super supportive of whatever I do. So very, very early on, I was like, I'm meant to do this. And I just was like, I'm a star, and I know I'm a star.
xoN: Actually, let's talk about your family. What are some of your most important values, and how have your family and heritage played a part in shaping those values?
Jazlyn: I mean, my mom is like an angel; she's so graceful and kind, and I've had to work hard to get there. When I was young, I was very abrasive, headstrong, and stubborn. Whereas my mom gives an immense amount of grace in the way she carries herself. I had to learn that.
I think being strong is something I’ve always had. My parents always joke that they don't know where my personality came from. Because my dad is shy and timid and my mom is kind, and I'm a fireball. But my Dad always asked the important industry questions like, “Why do you want to do this?” And that instilled some purpose into me. It really carried me to keep going because it's so easy to be discouraged in this field, but that drive has helped me push through all of the challenges.
xoN: I bet. I have such a respect for actors and the way you all navigate the industry. Speaking of, let’s dig into “Bel-Air.” Were you a fan of the show? Did you have to go back and watch the episodes?
Jazlyn: So I actually did watch the show which is crazy because sometimes I don’t. I saw it was a reboot and was like, ‘Oh no, not another one.’ But I watched the first three episodes, realized how good it was, and ended up watching the whole season. I became a fan, and then a few months later, I booked the role!
I think the imagination is such a beautiful and powerful tool, and I feel like if you create something in your mind, it happens. It's a crazy thing, but I really just created Jackie's world - the house she grew up in, her parents leaving her, and everything. I created why she fell in love with dance. I really came at it from a human approach. If I see it, then the audience can see it.
xoN: Yeah, background plays into so much of how we deal with things, how we interact with people, and everything. And I feel like Jackie gets a lot of backlash. Like, we’ve all had a “Jackie Moment” to be real.
Jazlyn: She gets so much backlash! I just encourage people to give her grace and see the God in her because I do think she tells a lot of Black and brown girls' stories. People project on her, saying she’s too ratchet or hood, and I’m like does that mean she’s not loveable?
We have to be careful of what’s said and put out because Jackie has gone through things that I've never had to go through. The fact that she's alive and still highly functioning is a blessing. So what if she gets a little messy? I love her. Because she’s helped me extend empathy to people I don't necessarily want to or don't think deserve to have it. But she's 17, she's figuring it out, and she doesn't have parents. Like, that's such a huge factor.
"We have to be careful of what’s said and put out because Jackie has gone through things that I've never had to go through. The fact that she's alive and still highly functioning is a blessing. So what if she gets a little messy? I love her."
xoN: You mentioned how your character is viewed, which digs a bit into identity. So I want to talk a little bit about some of the emotional songs on your EP “Identity Crisis.” What inspired the track “Perfect?”
Jazlyn: When I was creating “Perfect,” I already had the EP title. So I kind of mapped out, like, the different conflicts I had in my head and categorized them into seven songs, and so one of my identity crises was being perfect. Because I feel like a lot of men tend to put women on pedestals. They're expected to be perfect - especially when you’re in the limelight. You know, you can't slip up. You can't say the wrong thing. Cancel culture is such a huge thing. And I just wanted to encourage people to give people grace to be themselves because that's not an easy thing to do.
I just wanted to take down this facade that I’m perfect because I never pretended to be. I never wanted to be. I think that's something people have placed on me, that I have it all figured out, I think I just carry it well, but that doesn't mean it's not heavy. I just wanted to be very vulnerable and honest. I think people think “perfect” is a compliment, but I think it's a cage because it doesn't allow room for error. It doesn't allow for you to be human and mess up and fail and take risks. So I just wanted to encourage grace.
xoN: Do you ever feel like you went through an identity crisis?
Jazlyn: I go through one constantly. Growing up, I didn't really have one. But I think as you get older and more aware and cognitive, you know how the world goes, and the world starts telling you who you are, instead of you deciding who you are. And I feel like being mixed played a big role in that, not feeling Black or Mexican enough. I wanted to belong to both worlds but didn’t so I was just “other.” That was an identity crisis in itself.
Also, being introduced to a level of fame has been interesting, too. I think we all go through identity crises all the time because we’re evolving and changing. It’s beautiful, but it’s also scary; you see yourself this one way, and then something happens, and there’s a shift. So yeah, I think it’s something we all go through but no one talks about.
"I think as you get older and more aware and cognitive, you know how the world goes, and the world starts telling you who you are, instead of you deciding who you are. And I feel like being mixed played a big role in that, not feeling Black or Mexican enough. I wanted to belong to both worlds but didn’t so I was just 'other.'"
xoN: I love that. And I know Hispanic Heritage Month is coming up, and you'll be speaking at the New York Latino Film Festival. Talk to me about what that moment means to you and what you hope to bring to the event. *Editor’s note: The interview was conducted before Hispanic Heritage Month began.
Jazlyn: I’m bringing some Afro-Latino-ness! I always grew up seeing Latinos being represented in a very specific way—very Spanish, not very Indigenous looking. So I'm really excited to bring the Black experience, with the Latino experience, to the stage because that's something a lot of people don't know exists.
People are always like, “Are you Black or Latina?” Well, I'm both! We were just dropped off in different parts. I’m excited to speak on that and highlight how prevalent anti-Blackness is within Latino communities. A lot of Afro-Latinos have faced an identity crisis because of it, including myself. It sometimes feels like you’re supposed to hate the other half of who you are.
For me, I held onto that little Black girl inside. I refused to let her go. And that’s what I want to represent when I speak—resilience and acceptance of our full selves. I’m also looking forward to meeting fellow Latino people, especially Afro-Latinos, and sharing our stories. It’s not a narrative that gets much attention, and I’m excited to represent.
xoN: I’m excited for you! Finally, with all the praise and recognition you’re receiving now, what has it been like to transition from working in music, dance, and acting to now being in the spotlight? How have you embraced this new level of fame?
Jazlyn: Um, it's overwhelming. I think that's the best word. Sometimes, I'm joyful, because I'm giving back to the community. People resonate with Jackie's stories and see themselves in her, which I think is the biggest compliment to me. But then sometimes, you know, I feel sad because I'm like, ‘Damn, I'm not doing enough,’ like I should be doing more. It's crazy, the industry is so fast-paced that you don't really try to celebrate wins. It's just a transition, an identity crisis of the like.
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