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Good Friends Are Hard To Find! Here's How To Show Yours You Appreciate Them
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Good Friends Are Hard To Find! Here's How To Show Yours You Appreciate Them

It's so easy to take our friends for granted; even the really good ones. In the back of our minds, we might be thinking they're doing what they're supposed to do as friends, so there is no need to acknowledge their consistency. At the same time, we can be so quick to communicate when they do something that doesn't sit right with us.


Sometimes we don't realize the efforts our good friends really go through to show they have our back. And it doesn't have to be as dramatic as it might sound. There are actually seemingly small yet meaningful ways we can show our good friends we see their efforts and appreciate them.

Ask Her How She's Really Doing

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…And be ready to listen to the full answer without waiting for your turn to respond. This one can be difficult for all of us. I mean, as friends, it's clear that we can relate to each other on so many levels. So when she's telling her story, it only makes sense that you've gone through something similar and want to chime in; whether it's to reassure her she's not alone or to let her know it's not that bad. But at times it can be helpful to let her get her full story out, especially if she's venting. Because it can also be just as easy to start explaining how we "get it" and then make the conversation all about us. We're all human, so it's not the end of the world. But taking time to check on a friend and see how she's truly doing can show your appreciation in more ways than one.

Send A Thoughtful Text

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A GIF goes a long way. You've probably already discovered that you and your BFF can have entire conversations with GIFs. Sending your friend a good morning GIF, an inspiring quote or scripture via text is something really small, but can truly help her know how much she's appreciated. I feel like this can be effective in a one-on-one text or even a lit group chat. I think we can all agree that we don't only appreciate good morning texts and thoughtful texts when it comes from our significant other. It might be a different type of feeling but getting a thoughtful text from a close friend can make one's day just the same.

Shout Her Out On Social Media

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And it's not even her birthday. Have you ever had a friend gas you up on social media just because? Unless she's not on social media, this can be a really pleasant surprise. You never know when a good friend might need a little boost of confidence publicly and dedicating a Facebook status to her or a precious Instagram post can have her feeling herself in a way you didn't know meant so much to her. I'm in no way saying that your entire friendship has to be broadcast on social media for other people. But a simple shout out is a small but amazing way to let her know you see her, support her and most importantly appreciate her.

Support Her

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Look, all of us are doing our thing, okay sis? Whether we're starting our own blog, just landed a new job, became a mom, broke up with a jerk, we deserve some type of celebration on the regular just for making it through another season of life. And showing our friends support during all of their ups and downs can express our appreciation. It's not looking for anything in return and saying, "Well since I was there for you on this, you need to be here for me." I think we can all agree that many good friendships are also reciprocal. But supporting her in everything from her tough decisions to new endeavors is more than a basic way to display your appreciation.

Send Her A Thank-You Card

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There's never a bad time for a thank-you card. Especially if it's for someone you consider a good friend. She could have been there for you at a time that wasn't necessarily convenient for her, supported you, or done anything on this list. Sending a thank-you card is so genuine because it goes beyond the efforts of a simple text message. It shows that you went out of your way to show your appreciation. Plus, it's something she can hang on to that will last much longer than a text. We often send thank-you cards after interviews, after getting married, so why not send one out of simple appreciation for a good friend?

Give Her "Me" Time

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Whether you're a self-proclaimed, proud clingy friend, or your friend has a lot going on from kids to work, being an outlet for her is such a great way to show you are grateful for her. You can offer to babysit her children (for the free), or just give her space if she's expressed she needs it, and just let her know you'll be there when she's ready to press play again. I think we all know that being all things to all people can get a little tiring. So give your friend a break to show how much of a difference she's made in your life. It not only reassures her that she doesn't have to be perfect, but it also lets her know she's allowed to take time to woo-sah if needed, so she can recharge and continue being a great friend.

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