It's easy to turn a blind eye to things we swear aren't important or feel are worrisome and don't deserve energy. But sometimes, brushing things under the rug and acting "unbothered" are the core reasons we lack growth in certain areas. When the same lessons keep appearing in different forms, situations, and people, it's because we haven't dealt with certain issues appropriately. It's a reminder that we have some healing to do before we can really move forward freely and live life blessed not stressed.

Aside from being a Mean Girl, when we pretend like nothing matters or ever gets to us, we create this invincible character that people start to believe is really you. We become the "fake" strong friend who no one ever checks on because they think she always has life figured out. We can pretend that nothing ever phases us all we want but the reality of it is, we are all human beings and you're gonna experience a range full of emotions whether you want to address them or not.

You stunt your ability to learn and feel through things when you put up the façade of not giving a damn, and here are five ways being unbothered can hurt you more than help you in the long run:

1. Increased Trigger Points

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We can try our hardest to be cool as a fan and above the BS, but oftentimes things trigger us to be cold, off-putting and downright an ass. When scenarios come around that cause us to become distant or unapproachable, we have to do some deep introspection and uncover why we even feel the way we do. It's totally OK to analyze how a situation or person makes us feel, however, we continue to be unable to identify why something triggers us when we put on a front and disregard our feelings. Denying yourself the right to feel through moments will only cause you to keep experiencing the same instances over and over again.

2. Lack of Compassion

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Avoiding conflict is definitely necessary but when we pretend to have it all together, all the time, we lose touch with reality in the sense that no one walking this green earth will always have "it" figured out. Unfortunately, we all have unforeseen and undesirable moments that occur and it's perfectly fine to make sure nobody is throwing off your vibe. It's, however, another thing to be dismissive and rude to people when they are expressing themselves or going through a rough patch. We don't all grieve or handle issues in the same manner and before we become robotic and make an announcement saying, "Bih don't kill my vibe." You might want to make sure that person is stable enough to handle more rejection before you give the cold shoulder.

3. Unrealistic Expectations

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The motto "you can get with this or you can get with that" only applies when you are choosing if you personally want to identify, acknowledge, or be a part of something. We can't expect anyone to think the way we think, feel how we feel, or understand our point of view. Every individual's outlook and perspective on life and situations are going to be different. We can agree to disagree with people but it's important we have an understanding of what another person's perspective is so that we aren't jumping to conclusions, cutting people off prematurely or just being judgmental.

4. Falsified Reality

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It's all good until it ain't. We all know how to put on a fake smile and give our best Ms. America speech, but when it comes down to looking yourself in the mirror and seeing what your reflection displays, ask yourself, what do you see? It's so much easier for a person to act like it's all good versus expressing what they really are dying to get off their chest. Putting on the smiley mask doesn't deal with the pain, sadness, and unhappiness that may be underneath the disguise on display. The bad part about putting up a front is that when life finally hits you hard, and it will at some point or another, would you even recognize the person you've become after having to hold in so much for so long? Is your life really going in the direction you want it to be?

5. Alienated Perspective

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When you become totally self-absorbed, you lose touch with what's really going on in the real world. It's cool to be focused on you, but let's be real. When everything is all about you, you can't really give a just opinion on certain life moments because you can't understand a person's viewpoint. Especially if you haven't been in their shoes. Of course, it's safe to stay wrapped up in our own lil worlds, but it also hinders us when we don't have many outside interactions with others. It causes us to lack empathy, knowledge, or the basic human nature of showing respect to a person who shows any signs of weakness. We all have our moments when we are down, frustrated, or off track, but that's where using discernment comes in handy. Analyzing whether or not a person is just going through a funk or if they're just an unfit individual will help you from losing out on people who should be a part of your life.

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