Quantcast

Ciara On How Her Father's Love Emboldened Her To Leave Relationships That Don't Serve Her

"I think about my dad's love, and that's how my husband loves me."

Ciara

No matter how many unfruitful relationships I endure, I know there is one man that loves me more than all of the men I've loved put together. It's this fact that has saved me from years of pain and allowed me to leave situations that no longer serve me without regret or a second thought.

A woman's first love is her father, a fact that can be a blessing… or a generational curse and Ciara knows this firsthand. In a recent interview with Vogue, the singer opened up about finding the courage to leave a toxic relationship and find true love, and according to her, she was led by her father's example:

"The male presence is very important for both boys and girls. Your son gets to see how his dad treats a woman, and your daughter gets to see how you are loved. I'm a daddy's girl, and my dad's love is what saved me in situations in my life when I could have taken a left turn."

I don't know who needs to hear this, but if it ain't growing you, it's shrinking you. I'll say that one more time for the people in the back. Your mind is a garden and your thoughts are seeds so if your current situation isn't watering you, it's hindering your growth and Ciara says that as soon as you let go of what's weighing you down, you can level up your life.

"I would think, 'My dad wouldn't love like this.' I think about my dad's love, and that's how my husband loves me."

It's because of her father's love, Ciara says, that she was intentional about finding a partner who could keep that same energy. She explained:

"The simplest things in a child's life can have the biggest impact on who they become, and we take a lot of pride in that. Future has a chore checklist and has been sweeping up around the house. Russ is all about structure – for boys especially."

Despite going through her pregnancy during a global pandemic, Ciara has managed to keep her spirits high by transitioning into "mommy-mode" and falling even deeper in love with her man. She told Vogue:

"I know there's nothing I can't get through. I've had some very hard days, but they've always prepared me for what is to come."

Featured image by Featureflash Photo Agency / Shutterstock.com

HBO's hit show Insecure has been heralded as one of the best and most authentic shows on TV by fans thanks to its real-life depictions of friendships and romantic relationships. One of the friendships that keep fans tuned in is between Issa Rae's character Issa Dee and Yvonne Orji's character Molly.

Keep reading... Show less
The daily empowerment fix you need.
Make things inbox official.

We all know that advocacy for inclusion and equality should be year-round, since we all have to be our fullest selves all day every day. Identity is a key element of doing that, and for LGBTQ+ professionals, this can include the question of coming out at work. Some may wonder whether their personal business is, well, anybody's business at work, while others might want to feel safe in the office being out, loud, and proud. Either way, coming out in the workplace is indeed an issue that not only must be addressed, but addressed appropriately.

Keep reading... Show less

Love is beautiful and social media is a wonderful way to showcase and spread it. However, many times it's the content with a bit of controversy or drama tied to it that gets all the double taps. But as my father once told me, "It's fine to seek drama in your art and interests, but love should make you happy and feel peace." When he said that, it stuck with me. For a long time, I think I sought out excitement in my relationships and that can lead to a lot of unhappiness or unhealthy situations.

Keep reading... Show less

Simone Biles is a decorated U.S. gymnast who captured the hearts of many with her ambitious, yet graceful moves. However, over the past year, fans got to witness another side of Simone after the gymnast began expressing the issues she's faced regarding her mental health. The Olympic gold medalist shocked everyone when she pulled out of some of the 2020 Tokyo Olympic games, citing "twisties" as the reason. The twisties is a gymnastics term that is described as losing control of your body while spinning in the air.

Keep reading... Show less

The relationship we have and nurture with self lays the foundation for how we relate to and connect with others in our lives. Assessing the issues that discourage self-love from prospering are key in order to repair and reignite the freedom that comes when we finally believe the words "you are enough." I chatted with self-love advocate and lifestyle entrepreneur Shelah Marie – who you may remember from when her 2017 photo of doing yoga with boyfriend, rapper Ace Hood, went viral. Shelah's mission is to create a movement of total self-love and liberation for women of color through her platform Curvy, Curly, Conscious – a place where "self-help" meets "real talk" through virtual and offline events and retreats.

Keep reading... Show less
Exclusive Interviews

Adrienne Bailon Wants Women Of Color To Take Self-Inventory In Order To Redefine Success

"You can't expect anyone else to care about yourself like you do."

Latest Posts