The millennial dating world is like a game of Russian Roulette. Sometimes, it can make you feel exhilarated and lucky, and other times, the game of love might just have you ready to end it all.
I, like many women, have often found myself curled up on the couch with some ice cream, deeply submerged in a hole of the latest Netflix releases, seemingly never to be dated again. Although sometimes dating may feel like a game that's best not played at all, Ciara says that it might be because you have the wrong strategy.
The entertainer recently came through with some relationship advice that's clutch for every single woman that's tired of kissing frogs with the unrealistic hope of finding Prince Charming. She opened up to Refinery29 about the strategy she used to meet the man of her dreams and contrary to popular belief, meeting Mr. Right doesn't require a complicated formula or a carefully compiled timeline.
For Ciara, the secret to her meeting the love of her life was simple: Specificity. According to the law of attraction, what you speak into life will come to you, but that doesn't mean that it comes when you want it to. Ciara had this advice:
"Be patient for the right moment, you don't want to rush love. Be specific and clear on what you desire."
The singer also emphasized the fact that everything that glitters isn't gold. She reminded us that it's important to pay more attention to someone's actions than their words; just because someone says that they love you, doesn't mean that they really know how. The entertainer pointed out that becoming specific in your desires will help weed out potential partners that don't have your best interests in mind. She continued:
"When we become clear, we make better decisions versus listening to the first words somebody tells you. It always sounds good in the beginning, but what are they actually saying?"
After her highly publicized break-up with the father of her son, Ciara knows a thing or two about knowing how to bounce back. Anyone knows, that after a heartbreak, it feels like you'll never find the courage or strength the same way you used to. We become jaded, angry, and unable to receive any love that we discover thereafter, but Ciara says it's time to let that hurt go, sis. She told Refinery29 that even though she's been hurt in the past, she had to have faith in God and her purpose to get back up again:
"No matter what I've gone through in my life, I've always believed and always had faith. The most important thing is believing in love. It gives you the courage, the inspiration to keep on pushing forward."
The singer shared these words of advice for women who fear that they'll never fully recover from heartbreak:
"Sometimes, you can get discouraged when you feel like, 'Wow, that was years of my life. What are you doing with your time? But the reality is, time keeps going forward.’
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Ciara reminds us that there's power in a plan, even when it comes to relationship. She's also proves that when your plan falls through, it's usually so that a better plan can fall together. So to all my fellow single ladies: the time has come that we get intentional about what we want. Gone are the days when we settled for a snack. Ciara reminds us that with specificity, faith, and a little bit of patience, we can have a full-course meal.
Read Ciara's full interview here.