Ciara Says You Should Be More Specific About Your Romantic Expectations
Emma McIntyre/AMA2018/Getty Images For dcp

Ciara Says You Should Be More Specific About Your Romantic Expectations


The millennial dating world is like a game of Russian Roulette. Sometimes, it can make you feel exhilarated and lucky, and other times, the game of love might just have you ready to end it all. I, like many women, have often found myself curled up on the couch with some ice cream, deeply submerged in a hole of the latest Netflix releases, seemingly never to be dated again. Although sometimes dating may feel like a game that's best not played at all, Ciara says that it might be because you have the wrong strategy.

The entertainer recently came through with some relationship advice that's clutch for every single woman that's tired of kissing frogs with the unrealistic hope of finding Prince Charming. She opened up to Refinery29 about the strategy she used to meet the man of her dreams and contrary to popular belief, meeting Mr. Right doesn't require a complicated formula or a carefully compiled timeline.

For Ciara, the secret to her meeting the love of her life was simple: Specificity. According to the law of attraction, what you speak into life will come to you, but that doesn't mean that it comes when you want it to. Ciara had this advice:

"Be patient for the right moment, you don't want to rush love. Be specific and clear on what you desire."

The singer also emphasized the fact that everything that glitters isn't gold. She reminded us that it's important to pay more attention to someone's actions than their words; just because someone says that they love you, doesn't mean that they really know how. The entertainer pointed out that becoming specific in your desires will help weed out potential partners that don't have your best interests in mind. She continued:

"When we become clear, we make better decisions versus listening to the first words somebody tells you. It always sounds good in the beginning, but what are they actually saying?"

After her highly publicized break-up with the father of her son, Ciara knows a thing or two about knowing how to bounce back. Anyone knows, that after a heartbreak, it feels like you'll never find the courage or strength the same way you used to. We become jaded, angry, and unable to receive any love that we discover thereafter, but Ciara says it's time to let that hurt go, sis. She told Refinery29 that even though she's been hurt in the past, she had to have faith in God and her purpose to get back up again:

"No matter what I've gone through in my life, I've always believed and always had faith. The most important thing is believing in love. It gives you the courage, the inspiration to keep on pushing forward."

The singer shared these words of advice for women who fear that they'll never fully recover from heartbreak:

"Sometimes, you can get discouraged when you feel like, 'Wow, that was years of my life. What are you doing with your time? But the reality is, time keeps going forward.'

Ciara reminds us that there's power in a plan, even when it comes to relationship. She's also proves that when your plan falls through, it's usually so that a better plan can fall together. So to all my fellow single ladies: the time has come that we get intentional about what we want. Gone are the days when we settled for a snack. Ciara reminds us that with specificity, faith, and a little bit of patience, we can have a full-course meal.

Read Ciara's full interview here.

Featured image by Emma McIntyre/AMA2018/Getty Images For dcp

How To Focus Less On Who You Attract In Dating & More On Who You Entertain

The law of attraction is tricky. A few years ago, I felt something was deeply wrong with me because I kept attracting people who hurt me. No matter how hard I tried to fix myself, and alter my energy, the same type of people kept coming my way. I'd talk to my friends about it and ask them, "Why do I keep attracting this type of person? Why do I keep having the same experiences?"

Keep reading...Show less
The daily empowerment fix you need.
Make things inbox official.
Kelis On The Importance Of Having Black Women On Her Team

As a Black woman, Kelis knows how important it is to work with other Black women, help each other and give each other opportunities. The “Milkshake” singer has always been a voice for female empowerment with her popular female anthems like “Caught Out There” and “Bossy” and in a chat during Refinery 29’s Unbothered Presents The Glow Up festival, Kelis opened up about the Black women behind her legendary career and how Black women should create safe spaces for ourselves.

Keep reading...Show less
A Black man, R. Kelly, stands in a court room, wearing an orange jumpsuit with his hands handcuffed behind his back, accompanied by a police officer in a green uniform, bulletproof vest and gun.

*Editors note: this article contains information about sexual assault, child pornography and rape. Please read with care. If you have experienced sexual violence and are in need of crisis support, please call the RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673). If you are thinking about suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or the Suicide Crisis Line at 1-800-784-2433.

Keep reading...Show less
Halle Bailey Makes Her Red Carpet Debut With Boyfriend DDG: Here’s What We Know About Him

Halle Bailey and her boyfriend DDG are one of the cutest celebrity couples in the game right now. After confirming their relationship in March 2022, Halle, 22, and DDG, 24, made their red carpet debut as a couple over the weekend during the 2022 BET Awards. In an interview with Extra, The Little Mermaid star shared that she was “nervous” about their debut. “We’re like tryna figure out what we were going to wear. All this stuff,” she said. The couple matched each other’s fly with both wearing all-black outfits.

Keep reading...Show less
Here's Why You Should Ditch Fourth Of July And Have A Family Reunion Instead

“Who made the potato salad?” As summertime kicks off, this is the universal question that, without fail, will be asked at every barbeque and backyard kickback over the coming months. With the Fourth of July also nearing, summertime celebrations and cookouts will be in full force. However, as the tide begins to turn in this new day and age, more Black Americans are celebrating Juneteenth, instead of the Fourth of July, because, after all, there were still over 250,000 Black Americans enslaved in Galveston, Texas during this so-called Independence Day.

Keep reading...Show less
Exclusive Interviews
A Black woman looks into the camera and gives a closed-mouth smile. She's wearing a black turtleneck

Miss Diddy Kicks Off BET Awards Weekend With 'A Toast To Black Hollywood'

Her annual event to celebrate the culture has a new name and more intention than ever before

Latest Posts