

The Best Shapewear For Curvy Girls In 2023
I have tucked this stomach into plenty of shapewear throughout my teenage and adult years. A high waist brief girdle was my go-to, and they had me and my pockets in a CHOKEHOLD! However, do you know what the craziest thing is? My best girdle came from JCPenney for less than $30 (I can no longer find that particular girdle), not a fancy $80-something garment from known plus-size retailers. I know what works for my body, but what about other shapes?
As we all know, all shapewear is not created equally, which is a shame. One brand can make an excellent product for hourglass shapes and something subpar for girlies who carry their weight in the middle (me, I am the apple-shaped girlie). And let’s not even get me started on brands not catering enough to plus-size women; they believe all bellies are the same – tuck the same way, move the same way, and are shaped the same way. Therefore, finding shapewear can be a difficult task.
The first step is determining your body shape to choose the right shapewear. If you’re unsure of your body shape, then you can check out this chart via Healthline to give you an idea.
- Apple-shaped bodies have broad, rounded shoulders and full breasts and carry most of their weight on the tummy. Your arms and legs are usually slim and slender, and your hips and booty are average size.
- Pear-shaped bodies have petite breast sizes, narrow shoulders, and tiny waists. Most of this person’s weight is in their hips, booty, and legs, and sometimes on the lower abdomen.
- Hourglass-shaped bodies have a naturally slim waist, proportioned hip and bust area, and an overall balanced figure.
- Rectangle-shaped bodies usually have little to no waist definition, small breasts, and hips, and the weight is distributed evenly on the arms, legs, and torso.
- Inverted triangle-shaped bodies tend to gain more weight in the upper part of their body and have broad shoulders and large breasts combined with narrow hips. This body type is also often called “athletic.”
- Diamond-shaped bodies have a lot in common with apple shapes. This person holds most of their weight in the midsection, bust, hips, and thighs. Their calves and arms are also slimmer.
So, what is the best shapewear for plus-size women to invest in? It honestly depends on your desired look. Do you want a more cinched waist, a smoother finish, etc.? The shapewear industry is booming, primarily because of the beloved Faja. Talk about being snatched to the GAWDS in one of those things, but a snatched with a lifted booty may not be your desired look. Below, I have listed the best shapewear that we curvy girls cannot get enough of this year.
Level 3 Contouring Open-Bust Thigh Shaper
Lane Bryant
The Level 3 Contouring Open-Bust Thigh Shaper will not disappoint! The firm control smooths and shapes your body. I love this one because it gives full coverage, and you can pair it with your favorite bra. Perfect for a pear-shaped body and because of the level of tummy control, it is also great for apple-shaped and diamond-shaped bodies. This bodysuit is a little more noticeable in terms of comfort, but it definitely does its job.
SKIMS Sculpting Bodysuit with Snaps
SKIMS
I first came across this bodysuit thanks to a friend. She allowed me to see the full power of this baby and admitted it was comfortable to wear all day. So, of course, I bought myself one. I was thoroughly concerned when I initially saw it from the packaging because “WHAT IN THE ENTIRE…?” If you have never seen a review on the SKIMS Sculpting Bodysuit and just trusted word of mouth like me, then you will know it doesn’t even feel like enough fabric to cover an inch of anything.
This bodysuit has a stronghold in the core, while it shapes and it lifts our butts. It also provides support for your chest. I love this shaper because it also has one in a thong version and many colors. A popular Amazon dupe is going around TikTok, but the material ripped from my long nails, unlike the SKIMS one. Also, it doesn’t suck my stomach in like this one. The Sculpting Bodysuit is perfect for rectangle-shaped, apple-shaped, and diamond-shaped bodies.
AirSlim 2-In-1 High-Waisted Booty Lift Shaper Shorts
Shapellx
How many of us love a snatched waist? If you said “me,” the AirSlim 2-in-1 High-Waisted Booty Lift Shaper Shorts is the right shapewear for you. Stomach and back control while bringing you in two sizes. And for us “little booty gang” people, this piece gives you an instant butt lift. Thanks to the soft-flex boning, you will not have to worry about it rolling down. I think the reason why I love this one is that it is suitable for multiple body shapes. Shapellx also has a new shaper dress I cannot wait to try!
Shapermint Essentials All Day Every Day High-Waisted Shaper Panty
Shapermint
Remember how I stated my favorite piece came from JCPenney? It was a high waist brief with the best tummy control a girl could ask for in shapewear and as an apple shape. Unfortunately, I can no longer find the item. Not too long ago, plus-size clothing, including shapewear, would be tucked in a dark corner or hidden in the area with the regular-sized items on their way out. Therefore, it was a true gem when I dug through the limited options! Things have since changed, and the options are much more plentiful.
I quickly had to find a replacement for my beloved girdle and was introduced to the Shapermint Essentials All Day Every Day High-Waisted Shaper Panty. It is a chef’s kiss in terms of comfortability. Not as much compression compared to the JCPenney piece, but the best way I handled that was by sizing down; it gives better control in the midsection area.
Seamless 360° Smoothing Slip Dress
Torrid
Torrid’s Seamless 360 Smoothing Slip Dress is the perfect smoothing shapewear. If you have an hourglass-shaped body, it is perfect for you. Hourglass shapes should use the light to medium compression option in their shapewear. I’ve worn this slip over other girdles to have a smooth effect and the tummy control I needed. It conforms to my body under my dresses and doesn’t ride up, which is a plus.
Finding the right shapewear to go under your garments is trial and error, but hopefully, this list makes finding one much more effortless. In addition, our options are no longer limited in style, color/tone, and compression. Happy shopping!
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Smile, Sis! These Five Improvements Can Upgrade Your Oral Hygiene Instantly
This article is in partnership with Sensodyne.
Our teeth are connected to so many things - our nutrition, our confidence, and our overall mood. We often take for granted how important healthy teeth are, until issues like tooth sensitivity or gum recession come to remind us. Like most things related to our bodies, prevention is the best medicine. Here are five things you can do immediately to improve your oral hygiene, prevent tooth sensitivity, and avoid dental issues down the road.
1) Go Easy On the Rough Brushing: Brushing your teeth is and always will be priority number one in the oral hygiene department. No surprises there! However, there is such a thing as applying too much pressure when brushing…and that can lead to problems over time. Use a toothbrush with soft bristles and brush in smooth, circular motions. It may seem counterintuitive, but a gentle approach to brushing is the most effective way to clean those pearly whites without wearing away enamel and exposing sensitive areas of the teeth.
2) Use A Desensitizing Toothpaste: As everyone knows, mouth pain can be highly uncomfortable; but tooth sensitivity is a whole different beast. Hot weather favorites like ice cream and popsicles have the ability to trigger tooth sensitivity, which might make you want to stay away from icy foods altogether. But as always, prevention is the best medicine here. Switching to a toothpaste like Sensodyne’s Sensitivity & Gum toothpaste specifically designed for sensitive teeth will help build a protective layer over sensitive areas of the tooth. Over time, those sharp sensations that occur with extremely cold foods will subside, and you’ll be back to treating yourself to your icy faves like this one!
3) Floss, Rinse, Brush. (And In That Order!): Have you ever heard the saying, “It’s not what you do, but how you do it”? Well, the same thing applies to taking care of your teeth. Even if you are flossing and brushing religiously, you could be missing out on some of the benefits simply because you aren’t doing so in the right order. Flossing is best to do before brushing because it removes food particles and plaque from places your toothbrush can’t reach. After a proper flossing sesh, it is important to rinse out your mouth with water after. Finally, you can whip out your toothbrush and get to brushing. Though many of us commonly rinse with water after brushing to remove excess toothpaste, it may not be the best thing for our teeth. That’s because fluoride, the active ingredient in toothpaste that protects your enamel, works best when it gets to sit on the teeth and continue working its magic. Rinsing with water after brushing doesn’t let the toothpaste go to work like it really can. Changing up your order may take some getting used to, but over time, you’ll see the difference.
4) Stay Hydrated: Upping your water supply is a no-fail way to level up your health overall, and your teeth are no exception to this rule. Drinking water not only helps maintain a healthy pH balance in your mouth, but it also washes away residue and acids that can cause enamel erosion. It also helps you steer clear of dry mouth, which is a gateway to bad breath. And who needs that?
5) Show Your Gums Some Love: When it comes to improving your smile, you may be laser-focused on getting your teeth whiter, straighter, and overall healthier. Rightfully so, as these are all attributes of a megawatt smile; but you certainly don’t want to leave gum health out of the equation. If you neglect your gums, you’ll start to notice the effects of plaque buildup, which can irritate the gums and cause gingivitis, the earliest stage of gum disease. Seeing blood while brushing and flossing is a tell-tale sign that your gums are suffering. You may also experience gum recession — a condition where the gum tissue surrounding your teeth pulls back, exposing more of your tooth. Brushing at least twice a day with a gum-protecting toothpaste like Sensodyne Sensitivity and Gum, coupled with regular dentist visits, will keep your gums shining as bright as those pearly whites.
Black Girls Tennis Club Is Empowering Black Women and Girls To Reclaim Their Space On The Court
The face of tennis is changing, and it’s about time. Over the years, if you were asked to name any Black tennis player, two would come to mind: Serena and Venus Williams — and rightfully so. But as new tennis sensations like Coco Gauff and Naomi Osaka rise to fame for their athleticism and tenacity, it’s clear that there’s a new era of tennis taking shape to bring forth a fresh take on representation and reclamation on the courts.
For that reason alone, there’s no better time than now for Black Girl Tennis Club co-founders Virginia Thornton and Kimberly Selden to lead the charge of making tennis more accessible to Black women and girls so the next Serena and Coco can emerge.
What began as your everyday lunch chat between friends to discuss their mutual dream of owning a boutique hotel turned into a proposition to start a tennis club together. With Virginia being a tennis player since adolescence and Kimberly entering the sport as a hobby in her adult life, the two jumped at the idea of making a space where Black women could discover a new hobby and not feel like the “only one” on the tennis court.
“The club kind of started for selfish reasons, but not in a bad way,” Virginia tells xoNecole. “We realized that there was actually a need for this.”
Kimberly adds, “Now we're literally disrupting a whole industry. We didn't plan it, but it felt divine; like we were called to do this. Black Girls Tennis Club has been a catalyst for personal growth in all areas of life, and we would have never anticipated that.”
Since establishing the Black Girl Tennis Club in 2022, the two have made it their mission to cultivate a space for “Joy Equity and Radical Wellness.” Their platform serves as a means to inform, inspire, motivate, and reshape the narrative around Black women and girls in the tennis world while highlighting the transformative power of sports and play for liberation.
With approximately 78% of tennis players being white and only 6.8% being Black, and the average cost of a private tennis lesson being $60 per hour, racial and economic disparities within the sport are vast. To help close this gap, the two founders have banded together to develop free tennis instruction clinics for girls aged 8-18 and local tennis events that bring adult offerings through programs like the Self Love Tennis Club and Cardio Tennis Classes to HBCU campuses in Virginia.
Both Virginia and Kimberly understand the power of their mission and believe that they were brought on each other’s path to execute it together. “It’s the power of alignment,” Kimberly says. “I think when you're doing the right thing and you're obedient, and answer the call, that’s when things start to happen, and the universe conspires to make them happen.”
We caught up with the founders to discuss their mission, the importance of representation, and how they plan to disrupt the tennis industry one court at a time.
xoNecole: Could you talk a little more about your CARE pillars with change, access, representation and exposure?
Kimberly Selden: As we started to do the work, we saw that there were so many equity issues. Although we knew from our own personal experiences that there are barriers to tennis being an expensive sport, we just acknowledged it as the culture of tennis. Because it's predominantly white, that transfers over to the fashion, the dynamics on the court, the attitudes, and the mindset. And so we knew this required a culture shift for us to ever really feel comfortable.
We were exposing kids to tennis, and then after the clinics, they're like, "Okay, now what?" It's still expensive, and they still may or may not have had access to it if they're not with us. We don't want to just pop in like, "Hey, here's a clinic, bye!" So, the culture change is just a reflection of what our existence looks like. Access is about being able to access the sport through courts, programs, or a coach. Representation is that we can't believe it until we see it.
Granted, there are a lot of pro Black women tennis players taking off, and we love that. But we think about media representation as well [as] representation within the USCA, in the boardrooms, and the people that are making the rules around the game.
xoN: Why do you all think it’s important for Black women and girls to reclaim their space on the tennis court?
Virginia Thornton: It's rare, at least in my world, where you're in a space and see nothing but women who look like you. But it makes me feel great when I can be my authentic self, especially on a tennis court. Just shedding all the weight of pretending to be anything else. You feel at home when you're around nothing but Black women. Even small things like seeing a young Black girl being okay with how God made them is amazing.
KS: [In] the Atlanta clinics we did, everyone was crying. It's just clear how desperately we need it. Connection is the key to a long life. So many of us — especially from the pandemic and working from home — are isolated. With every clinic, it's just fun to be there, and it just fills you up. I think people need hobbies. I think a lot of people, especially people in big cities, feel that way and were confronted with that during the pandemic.
xoN: How did sports play a role in helping you two find your voice and confidence both on and off the court?
VT: I think what people don't realize is that tennis is such a mental sport. You could be a 4.0 player and have a bad mental day, and you will play like you've never picked up a racquet before. So, the mental piece is super important. For me, it's like ‘you against you,’ even though you are playing somebody.
If you're able to work through those mental pieces with yourself on the court, that will translate off the court. I had an issue on the court where I have a habit of saying, "Sorry," — I think a lot of Black women do, honestly. Then I realized that they wouldn't say sorry or they’d use my kindness as weakness. I've learned a lesson in that because everything translates on and off the court.
"If you're able to work through those mental pieces with yourself on the court, that will translate off the court."
KS: It's easy for me to do things that I'm good at, but it's not easy for me to do things that I'm not good at. Tennis is still challenging for me, but it pushes me. It’s a reality check for me; I know when things are aligned, and when they're not. It feels like a big metaphor for me because it's pushing me to do something that's uncomfortable and makes me work for myself more.
xoN: What do you hope the long-term impact of Black Girl Tennis Club will be?
VS: We want to have a space for people who might be workaholics or might be going through depression. It's always great to have a hobby, whether that's knitting, sewing, or what have you. For me and Kimberly, it’s about creating hobbies for Black women and girls but also knowing that it’s okay to not be amazing at it. You don't have to be amazing at tennis; you could hit around the court, and that's okay.
The next Serena or Venus might come from Black Girls Tennis Club.
To support Black Girl Tennis Club’s mission, donate to their cause here and follow their Instagram page to stay up to date with new clinics and events.
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