

I've heard people talk about Spanx. I've also read articles explaining that shapewear is the key to slimming and perfect looks we see on the red carpet, yet I still wasn't moved to purchase a pair. But, a little pink sequin dress from Zara changed that. When I opened the brown box and took the dress out, I thought, "There's no way I can fit into this." I gave it a try sans shapewear and saw my belly poking out. Since I was going to an event where the invite requested we wear pink and I hadn't ordered a backup, I went to Amazon and ordered Robert Matthew Women's Shapewear High-Waist Shapers.
The black shorts came the next day. I tried them on with my dress, and the rest is history. Shapewear changed the entire fit of the dress and gave me the confidence to wear it to a beauty launch party (where I got many compliments). Mission accomplished.
I am now a shapewear stan.
Shapewear isn't an item you only wear for special occasions. You can wear it daily to help smooth places you might not be fond of. For me, that's my stomach. Thanks to my fibroids, I seem to always have a bit of bulge which I'm learning to love and accept. If you're a first time shapewear-wearer, buying online might present a challenge. I was lucky my choice fit perfectly. I looked at a lot of reviews to try to make sure I was purchasing the right size, which was extremely helpful.
Here, I've added items you can buy online and in-store at local retailers like Nordstrom, Macy's, and Neiman Marcus. I have always had good experiences being fitted for bras at these stores, so I'd imagine shapewear would be similar.
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Best Shapewear Options For Women
HoneyLove SuperPower Brief
HoneyLove
Having a brief that can be worn with everything from denim to dresses will help you get the most bang for your buck. HoneyLove says their shapewear won't move even if you're bending or reaching which is important for comfort. What I also like about this brand is their sizing goes up to a 3x.
Robert Matthew Brilliance High-Waist Shaper Panty
Amazon
This was the brand I went for at the 11th hour, and it came through. One thing I will note is that it didn't stay put, which wasn't really an issue for me since my dress was so short. But, if I were wearing a midi dress, I probably would have found the rolling of the fabric on my thighs to be a bit annoying, but for $20 and not having to leave my house, that issue was minor.
Yummie Cooling FX® High Waist Shaping Thong
Sometimes briefs just won't cut it, and you have to wear a thong no matter how uncomfortable they are. Made with Lightweight NILIT® Breeze material, this body-shaping thong will keep you cool, too.
Leonisa Power Body Shaper with Thighs Slimmer and Side Zippers
A jumpsuit option is versatile and would be worth splurging on. Leonisa's shaper sculpts the waist, butt, and thighs. I'd imagine you're wondering how on earth would you be able to take a restroom break in this, well they thought of everything because the suit has side zippers. Talk about a high achiever.
Secret Fit Shaping Panty
I couldn't leave the mamas-to-be off this list. This Motherhood Maternity find has over three hundred reviews and a 4.5-star rating. Reviewers said they help prevent their thighs from rubbing together and "it smoothed out some problem areas and was supportive."
TC Shapewear Sheer Bodybriefer Strapless Shaping Bodysuit
Neiman Marcus
The strapless dress always presents the issue finding the right bra to hold the girls up and keep them in. Well, this strapless shaper does double duty, by giving the bust a push-up and support with underwire while smoothing the waist, tummy, and back.
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'He Said, She Said': Love Stories Put To The Test At A Weekend For Love
At the A Weekend For Love retreat, we sat down with four couples to explore their love stories in a playful but revealing way with #HeSaidSheSaid. From first encounters to life-changing moments, we tested their memories to see if their versions of events aligned—because, as they say, every story has three sides: his, hers, and the truth.
Do these couples remember their love stories the same way? Press play to find out.
Episode 1: Indira & Desmond – Love Across the Miles
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder, but for Indira & Desmond, love made it stronger. Every mile apart deepened their bond, reinforcing the unshakable foundation of their relationship. From their first "I love you" to the moment they knew they had found home in each other, their journey is a beautiful testament to the endurance of true love.
Episode 2: Jay & Tia – A Love Story Straight Out of a Rom-Com
If Hollywood is looking for its next Black love story, they need to take notes from Jay & Tia. Their journey—from an awkward first date to navigating careers, parenthood, and personal growth—proves that love is not just about romance but also resilience. Their story is full of laughter, challenges, and, most importantly, a love that stands the test of time.
Episode 3: Larencia & Mykel – Through the Highs and Lows
A date night with police helicopters overhead? Now that’s a story! Larencia & Mykel have faced unexpected surprises, major life changes, and 14 years of choosing each other every single day. But after all this time, do they actually remember things the same way? Their episode is sure to bring some eye-opening revelations and a lot of laughs.
Episode 4: Soy & Osei – A Love Aligned in Purpose
From a chance meeting at the front door to 15 years of unwavering love, faith, and growth, Soy & Osei prove that when two souls are aligned in love and purpose, nothing can shake their foundation. Their journey is a powerful reminder that true love is built on mutual support, shared values, and a deep connection that only strengthens with time.
Each of these couples has a unique and inspiring story to tell, but do their memories match up? Watch #HeSaidSheSaid to find out!
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Are You & Your Partner Financially Compatible? Here’s How To Tell.
With nearly half of all marriages that end in divorce citing finances as the nail in the coffin to deading their relationship, financial compatibility is one aspect of long-term compatibility that doesn't get talked about enough. Beyond the circular 50/50 discourse and whatever hot-button issues regarding providers and the like, at its core, financial compatibility is about how well your financial behaviors, values, and long-term goals align with those of your partner.
More than it is about how much money a person makes or doesn't make, financial compatibility focuses on how you think about money, how you spend your money, and most importantly, how you plan for the future with your money. Think, questions about money mindsets, spending habits, debt, budget, etc. Are you a saver and he's a spender? Do you see money as a tool for freedom? Does he see it as something to hold on tightly to as a means of survival? Can you talk about your financial goals and plans openly?
Knowing if you and your partner are financially compatible can save a lot of heartache, a lot of headaches, and a lot of money in the end. Keep reading for a few key indicators to pay attention to and learn whether or not you and your partner are truly aligned financially.
Signs You’re Financially Compatible
1. You can talk about money without judgment.
Conversations about money aren't something you dread. You're able to talk to your partner freely and openly about money matters, like debts, bills, the budget, etc., even when it is uncomfortable. There is an understanding that talking about money doesn't have to be something you're on the defense about, instead it's an opportunity for transparency, clarity, and solutions.
2. You respect each other's money personalities.
What is a money personality? According to Ken Honda, author of Happy Money, a money personality is our "approach and emotional responses to money" and there are seven money personalities we can fall under. These personalities can help us understand our own relationship with money, as well as our partner's. For example, maybe you're someone who likes to treat yourself to a fancy dinner once a month and your partner is someone who believes ordering takeout and not cooking meals at home is a cardinal sin.
When you can respect each other's money personalities, neither approach is subjected to judgment and shifts can be made in each other's spending habits as needed and from a place of love versus guilt or shame.
3. You agree on what it means to have "financial security."
Whether it’s building a stacked emergency fund, paying off debt before putting a downpayment on a home or being able to splurge on a baecation without checking your account balance before the bill arrives, your definitions of what it means to be financially secure are in sync, or at least compatible enough to reach a compromise.
4. You are not each other's "financial parent."
You’re not constantly teaching, fixing, or stressing out over what the other person is doing with their money. Although I fast-forwarded through a lot of the most recent season of Love Is Blind, I did pay attention to Virginia and Devin and money seemed to be a recurring theme in their conversations. It was clear Virginia had her ish together when it came to money and her financial plans for the future and Devin was not quite on her level.
Though she said no at the altar for additional reasons, I could also see how sis could eventually get very tired of being her partner's second mama, so to speak. And that's the thing about being your partner's "financial parent," eventually, you could end up feeling like you are one-half of a "parenting" or "teaching" dynamic with your partner instead of feeling like you're equals in a partnership.
5. You make financial decisions with each other in mind, not for each other.
Whether it’s booking a trip, deciding which debt to tackle first, saving up for a big purchase, or planning out your next move, there’s a mutual respect for each other’s input. Those shared goals might look like wealth, freedom, stability, or just a debt-free life that feels soft and secure.
You don’t have to be chasing the same bag in the same exact way, but you do need to be aligned on the vision. What you're building should feel like a joint venture with shared effort and purpose, not one of y’all making major money moves like you're still single. Making financial decisions is not just about where the money goes, it's about where you’re going together.
6. You're aligned when it comes to the big stuff.
Financial compatibility extends to the long-term of money management. The legacy, structure, and shared responsibility that comes with decisions like shared accounts, estate planning, having babies, or even blending families. Will you split bills or combine income? Who’s taking time off if you have a child? How do y’all feel about generational wealth or investing for your family’s future? You and your partner have had the real conversations.
These conversations can’t wait until after the wedding or until after a baby’s here. They’re the foundation for how you function as a unit, and if you're not aligned, or at least willing to get on the same page, that incompatibility can cause friction in the end that love alone can't fix.
Love is cute and all, but building an empire together? That’s the real flex. Tap into our new series Making Cents to see what financial compatibility really looks like when love and legacy go hand in hand.
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