Searching for the perfect bra has been a never-ending struggle for women across the globe. Each of us are created differently with a variety of bra sizes and preferences with a limited amount of bra types and features. Although women have different needs and preferences, all of us can agree that the ideal aspects of the best bras for women are support, comfort, and versatility when shopping for the perfect fit.
Instead of endlessly browsing the internet for what we believe to be the best bras for women on the market, we turned to real women with a range of cup sizes to get personal recommendations of brands and go-to undergarments that comfortably uplift and support their active lifestyles all while boosting self-confidence throughout the day. Each of these women have different needs and levels of support so let's take a look at what they have in common when on the hunt for the best bras ever.
Terrie, 36A
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"Being a member of the IBTC (Itty Bitty Titty Committee) for the last 27 years, it's a waste of time and effort to wear a bra as well as investing in so many when I don't have much breast-to-bra ratio. I look for bras focused more on seamlessness, comfortability, and versatility that have very minimal to no wiring (ex. sports bra, lounge bra, etc.). I know when I've found the perfect bra when I live in it and then proceed to buy in bulk and multiple colors."
Best 36A Bra Recommendations:
Aerie - Seamless
Colsie, Target - Lounge Bra
Gabrielle, 32B
Courtesy of Gabrielle
"I love a bra that isn't bulky or a bra that is seamless so it won't show through my clothing. At the moment, I love Aerie brand bras. I can go through the whole day without adjusting it and it doesn't show through my clothing."
Best 32B Bra Recommendation:
Aerie - Lightly Lined Bra
Julia, 34C
Courtesy of Julia
"I look for comfortability, little to no padding, breathable fabric and something I can easily maneuver to pull down for my son when breastfeeding. I know I've found the perfect bra when it feels like I don't have one on."
Best 34C Bra Recommendations:
True and Co - Seamless True Body Scoop Neck
Pansy Co - Seamless
Tyteana, 34D
Courtesy of Tyteana
"When shopping, I look for comfortable wire bras in a range of cute colors."
Best 34D Bra Recommendation:
Victoria Secret Pink - Lightly Lined T Shirt Bra
AK, 42DD
Courtesy of AK
"When shopping for a bra, support, lift, and most of all comfortability in the band is important. Most people don't realize that your breasts may not be as big, but your cup [or] band size is determined by your overall chest size. I'm bigger around my midriff area so I need a seamless bra that doesn't feel as tight. I know I've found the perfect bra when I achieve an amazing lift, it's versatile and comfortable!"
Best 34D Bra Recommendation:
Auden, Target brand - Lightly Lined Strapless
Kayla Sharayne, 44DDD
Courtesy of Kayla Sharayne
"I look for a bra that will support, minimize, and lift my girls up! I usually prefer a wire bra, but I'm on the hunt for a seamless bra that will be super comfortable while supporting my size. My favorite brand right now is Savage X Fenty—because of the affordable, all-inclusive sizes Rihanna provides—and Lane Bryant/Cacique Lifestyle. I know I've found the perfect bra when I feel and look my best in my clothes! That's when I can really tell my bra is doing what it needs to do."
Best 42DDD Bra Recommendations:
Savage X Fenty - Flocked Logo Unlined
Cacique, Lane Bryant - Lightly Lined Full Coverage
Candice, 38H
Courtesy of Candice
"My bra size fluctuates. I typically wear a 38H, but I also find myself in G or I cups so when shopping for bras, I tend to prefer the breathable fabrics like lace and full supportive accurate cup sizing. In leisure activities and exercise, I prefer seamless and breathable, however I favor wire bras for the look it provides and enhancing the overall shape and fullness of my breasts. I know I have found an amazing bra when I forget I am wearing one altogether. I have an obsession with bras from Parfait Lingerie. They are available in my size and have lots of flirty, supportive looks."
Best 38H Bra Recommendation:
Parfait Lingerie - Padded Bra
Featured image courtesy of Julia
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Although this might seem like a heavy way to intro this particular topic, because the O Method is an orgasm-achieving technique that centers around housing energy, embracing the mental practice of manifestation, and the attempt to achieve the best climaxes ever — it all works together pretty well if you ask me. If you want to take your orgasms to the next level, it’s important that you get out of yourself (to a certain extent), that you see the spiritual role that manifestation plays, and that you are open to trying new things. No doubt about it.
So, let’s learn more about what the O Method is all about and how it very well could be just what you’ve been looking for…even if you didn’t know it.
What Is the “O Method” All About?
GiphyQuestion: When’s the last time you’ve had an orgasm? Not just any orgasm — I mean a really mind-blowing one (I’ll give you a second to think about it). Now, what if you could manifest that experience to the point where it wasn’t a rare occurrence but something that happened almost every time that you and your partner had sex with each other? How absolutely awesome would that be?
That is pretty much what the O Method is all about — helping you achieve the kind of orgasms (and sexual pleasure, in general) that you desire through the practice of manifestation. And since your biggest sex organ is your brain, it would make perfect sense that even with all of the tips and techniques that you might learn to do as far as your body is concerned, honing in on what you think about is super imperative to sexual fulfillment, too. And that’s just where manifestation comes in.
What If You’ve Never “Manifested” Anything Before?
GiphyBefore we get into a quick lesson on manifestation, I think it’s important to mention two things. One, for the cynics, there is a lot of truth in the fact that it’s got some solid spiritual basis to it because even the Good Book says that as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he (Proverbs 23:7). At the same time, that same Good Book tells us that faith without works is dead (James 2:14-26). So, while it is always a good idea to focus on good, positive, and productive thoughts, just thinking about them isn’t enough — at some point, you’ve also gotta get out here and DO something (bookmark that).
Okay, with that mini-sermon out of the way, whether it’s in the bedroom or not, manifestation is basically about focusing on something tangible that you desire, harnessing your energy in such a way that your words and actions are directed towards that longing until what you want, well, manifests. For the record, aside from this having a spiritual backing to it, in many ways, science cosigns on manifesting, too. There is actually a scientific process known as neuroplasticity that consists of reframing your mind so that your actions ultimately end up aligning with your goals — and that is another way to look at manifestation.
So, what if you’re someone who has never set out to do a manifestation practice before? No worries. Something that’s awesome about it is there are several different approaches that you can take.
Some people manifest what they want in their lives via:
- Journaling
- Visualization/Creating vision boards
- Writing down their desires before going to bed (so that they can “download” them into their dream state)
- Creating mantras and affirmations
- Applying the 369 Manifestation Method (you can learn more about that here)
- Meditating
- Learning more about what you want to manifest (which brings forth clarity)
This is important to keep in mind because, when it comes to manifesting the types of orgasms that you want to have, as you can see, you can try different manifestation methods until you find one (or ones) that you are truly comfortable with. One that can ease you into the entire process rather smoothly is something known as sex journaling.
How Sex Journaling Can Actually Help You to Have an Orgasm
GiphyAs a writer, I’m a big fan of journaling. Mostly because it’s a way to get out some of your deepest thoughts and feelings so that you’re able to really process what is happening inside of you in a private setting. And when it comes to sex journaling, specifically, it’s all about centering yourself on the things sexually that you want to “unpack,” get clarity on or come to some revelations about. For instance, if there’s only been one partner from your past who’s been able to help you achieve the type of orgasms that you wish to manifest, journaling about what makes him different from the other guys can provide you with some solid ah-ha moments.
Or if you need help getting as specific as possible about the sexual experiences that you’re after, journaling can help to make that happen for you — because one thing that manifesting reminds us all to do is be as specific as possible.
Yeah, simply saying, “I want to have better sex” isn’t detailed enough when you want to get your energy to match with your desires — instead, describe how all of your senses should feel in the experience, along with why, that can get you so much closer to achieving your goal. Once those things are documented, you can segue into creating mantras and/or meditation that are based on them. Yeah, sex journaling really is an underrated superpower on a lot of levels (check out “The Art Of Sex Journaling (And Why You Should Do It)”).
5 Tips for Making the O Method Work for You
GiphyNow that you know more about what the O Method is and how manifestation plays a direct role in its process, let’s talk about five ways to make the O Method truly effective in your own (sex) life.
1. Focus, FULLY, on your feminine energy. What do rose quartz, amethyst, moonstone (which is a Gemini birthstone as well; yes, I’m a Gemini), selenite, and rhodonite all have in common? They’re crystals that help you to go deeper into your divine feminine energy. Traits that are associated with this include compassion, creativity, kindness, gentleness, and sensuality (feminine energy is also accepting and forgiving). If you were to study energy from a biological standpoint, it’s about producing change, responding to stimuli, and having the ability to do what needs to be done (work). So, when it comes to manifesting the kind of orgasms or sexual experiences that you want, using things like your creativity and gentleness in your thoughts and actions can play a role in bringing balance to your partner’s masculinity, which can create a profound sense of pleasure — after all, opposites do attract.
2. Don’t hold back on what it is that you desire. Whenever I interview sex therapists, something that they all say is, a huge mistake that people make as far as sexual satisfaction is concerned is, they have walls up — not just with their partners but even within themselves. Sometimes, there is intimidation, fear, or even shame around what they really want to happen during sex to the point where they aren’t able to channel their energy fully in those directions in order to manifest what they want. For the O Method to work, you can’t let those types of negative emotions hinder you; the more you are able to articulate what you want and how you want it, the better chance you have of making it happen. So yes, get graphic. As graphic as possible.
3. Make manifestation a daily practice. Repetition is important when it comes to manifestation. That’s because the more you declare what you desire (a mantra), get still and think on it (meditation), or look at the “art” that you’ve created surrounding it (visualization), the quicker it becomes a part of you. So yes, make manifestation a daily practice. For instance, if one of your mantras is, “I am going to have intensely passionate orgasms, one right after the other,” don’t just state that 15 minutes before sex is going to happen. Wake up and declare it. Then say it on your lunch break. And again before turning in. The more your thoughts are “streamlined” in this way, the easier it will be for your body to follow suit.
4. Share this practice with your partner. If you were to do even more research on the O Method, one thing that most of the articles will mention is it’s a practice that you can do alone or with your partner. Indeed. However, I just want to make sure that you get into your psyche that great sex is, in part, about good communication. And so, the more comfortable you are sharing with your partner what you are doing as far as the O Method is concerned and what you ultimately want to happen as a result of the practice, the easier it will be for him to “match your energy” — both in and out of the bedroom. And when your partner is on the same page as you? That definitely increases the chances of attaining your sexual desires — exponentially so.
5. Stay in the moment. While I was reading one article on manifestation, I really appreciated something that the author said: manifestation isn’t some supernatural power. In other words, while it can be beneficial, it’s not like you can just think of something, and it instantly appears out of nowhere. Manifesting is a discipline, and it must be accompanied by action, consistency, and patience — this means that you must also practice mindfulness. Meaning, now that you know better what you’re looking to achieve as far as sex is concerned, every time that it transpires, maintain a level of positive energy, remember what your end goal is, and then determine in your mind to enjoy the moments as they come. Remember, manifestation isn’t to add stress…it’s to cultivate clarity.
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At the end of the day, the O Method is simply a way of reminding you that your mind plays a huge role in your sexual pleasure, and when you channel it and your energy exactly where you want them both to go, you’ll be amazed what your body is capable of doing…and accomplishing.
So, what kind of orgasm are you wanting to achieve? You’ve got a tool to get you there. USE IT.
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