Generally speaking, we all want to achieve "The Big O". Achieving orgasm is a regularly talked about topic amongst the opposite sex. It's also something that's pretty common for them to engage in; but it's just as important for women to enjoy "Masty Time" as men. Being comfortable in our sexuality as women is becoming more and more acceptable in society, however most women still have a hard time exploring the sexual and sensual side of themselves, out of sheer fear of the "judge and jury" side-eyeing the freaky things they may be into.
They don't want their deepest darkest fantasies put on display.
The cat's literally out of the bag when it comes to woman getting that climax she literally "OH" so desires. Studies show that about 75% of women never reach an orgasm with their male counterpart through intercourse. That's where doing the dirty solo deed comes handy. In order for women to be comfortable in their sex life with a partner, it's important that we discover and learn how our bodies work first. Exploring what you like and crave on your own time will surely help amp up your sex life with a partner.
If we aren't aware of the depths of what gets you off, how can you expect for another to take you to those heights? It's important that our solo grind is as satisfying as we'd like it to be.
1.Change Positions
Get creative with it. Bend that thing over, flip it, throw it, bounce and turn it over. Get in a comfortable yet desirable position that relaxes your body but still allows you access to hitting that good ol' G-spot. Every woman's body is different and laying on your back with two fingers or a toy may not get you to that ultimate climax. Getting in your favorite desired position and easing you mind and body could help you get to that ultimate "O".
2.Set The Mood (Lights, Camera, Action)
You have to treat "Masty Time" as if you would do any other sexual experience. It's essentially a self-care routine. You want to get the best out of the experience. Set the mood by putting on your favorite tunes on, change the ambiance with some dim lighting, light some candles/incense to help spark your aromatic senses. Even go as far as putting on your favorite type of adult flick. If you don't have one, explore what piques your interest. It's all about you in the moment. Do what you like.
3.Explore Your Imagination
This is the time for you to let your mind wander freely. There's no shame or judgment when it's just you enjoying yourself on your solo journey. You can literally take yourself to new heights of climax, if you let your mind drift to any scenario you imagine that turns you on. This is where the fun begins. Whatever freaky things you're into, imagine them. Doesn't matter with whoever, however, and whatever it is that you're imagining. The thing is, if your able to open your mind up, you could also open up those floodgates too.
4.Toys & Lube Galore, Oh My
Don't be afraid to "Do it with No Hands". Some women need a little extra stimulation downtown. Whether that be a toy, or you just like to feel like a Slip 'N Slide. It's all your prerogative. There's no right or wrong way on what you can and can't add to your sexy care time. Trying new things allows us to explore our bodies in different ways and also see what truly gets us going. This is of course done without the hassle of embarrassment of someone watching, judging you or knowing your deep dark fantasy. If you're looking to make things even wetter down there, check out article "The Wetter, The Better: A Simple Guide To Getting Off With Lube".
5.Know Your Parts
Knowing your lady parts will help you a lot when it comes to pleasuring yourself. Let's look at in simpler terms; we'll use a car as an example. You have thelabia aka "side mirrors"; just like on the cars, these are there to protect you from danger. The labia protects all your sexual organs. Don't apply too much friction there, you don't want irritation to arise. Then you have the "push to start button or the ignition" which is the clitoris. Just like in a car when you push or touch this area, it turns your engine all the way on. Then, you have your vaginal opening aka "your gas tank". This is where you'll fill yourself up, with toys, plugs or fingers. Just like a vehicle, you want to be extremely careful what you put in there as it could ruin the entire vehicle.
The uretha is also down there but that's more like the fluid you release on a windshield. The anus is like "the trunk". It's a compact compartment but you can cram a lot in there, just make sure you don't over-stuff the trunk; you don't want things slipping out of there, if you catch my drift.
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