Although many of us lose our virginity in our late teenage years and 20s, according to science, smashing doesn't even begin to scratch the surface for women until their 30's and 40's. Just ask Tamera Mowry-Housley, who lost her virginity only a year shy of her 30th birthday and says that a decade later, her bedroom is still popping like the 4th of July.
In the past, Tamera said that due to her heavily religious background, she refrained from sex until she was 29 and afterwards, felt so guilty that she made a pledge to be celibate until marriage.
The Real host, who married her husband, Adam Housley in 2011, says that although she chose to keep her cookies in the jar and away from potential suitors for almost three decades, it didn't keep her from learning the recipe to true self-pleasure. She told the hosts:
"So as you know, I've waited a really long time to have sex. But the thing is, is I knew what I liked and what I wanted because I can remember reading a magazine, actually it was 'ESSENCE', and it was about you know, sex education, pleasing yourself, and knowing what pleases you and what you like."
Along with leveling up her sex knowledge, Tamera says that she also took the time to get her understanding about orgasms all the way together:
"You learn about the g-spot, obviously. Learn how to find it. Mhm. Then you learn that you can have an orgasm two ways. One outside and then penetration."
Tamera knew that before she could ask a man to give her what she wanted, she had to know exactly what that was, thus setting her on her own unique journey of sexual exploration.
"So even though I wasn't having sex I knew what I liked so I was in touch with myself. So, you know, once I got married with Adam and all of that, I knew what I wanted."
The 41-year-old wife and mother-of-two says that having this knowledge enabled her to take her sex life as a married woman to the next level. Although when Tamera and her husband first married, she said that lingerie and sexy time could sometimes be intimidating, nine years later, she's able to let all of her kinks hang out, and to date, Tamera and her husband have at least one sex tape on the books.
Living by what I call the "The Golden Rule," Tamera says because she is intentional about what she wants, her husband is always intentional about giving it to her:
"You know, when Adam and I got together I was like, 'No, no, no babe, oh right here, right here' and he liked that. That honesty, you guys, we've been married for almost nine years. He always pleases me first. I'm always first."
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Tamera Reflects On How Learning About Her Sexual Self Helped Her Love Life Later With Her Husband youtu.be
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