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Want To Feel More Confident In Dating? Consider Vabbing.
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Want To Feel More Confident In Dating? Consider Vabbing.

Thank your vagina later.

Women's Health

I don’t know about you, but the natural scent of a man just does something to me. Ladies, you know what I mean too. But what if your natural scent can make a man more attracted to you or get the attention of that one person you’ve been secretly crushing on? And when I say your natural scent, I am talking about the natural scent of your vagina. According to the latest TikTok trend, there is some type of truth to this and it's called vabbing. A mix between the word "vagina" and "dabbing," influencer and fashion writer Mandy Lee’s (@oldloserinbrooklyn) video about vabbing has gone viral with over 1.5 million views. TikTok users are swearing that vabbing is working for their dating life too.


Let’s explore what exactly vabbing is and what it means for women, sex appeal, and feeling more confident.

What Is Vabbing?

So, the idea of vabbing is inserting clean fingers into your clean vagina and dabbing your vaginal fluids onto your pressure points (wrists, neck, and behind the ears), and using it as perfume. According to Healthline, our vag fluids contain pheromones and its smell is our “sexual scent of attraction.” Who knew? Now, vabbing isn’t as “new” as we think it is. In 2019, sexologist, intimacy expert, and author Shan Boodram shares that she has been vabbing for more than 15 years! She actually put the polarizing concept on the map in her 2019 book, The Game of Desire.

In a YouTube video, Boodram broke down the origin of the word pheromones and its meaning. She explained that by transferring your pheromones you’re transferring your excitement which makes people drawn to your raw human scent.

Does Vabbing Actually Work?

Unfortunately, biology and science say that vabbing doesn’t work. Here’s the thing, pheromones have a role in mating behavior as studies show with animals. According to medical experts, there isn’t enough research to support how pheromones affect human mating behavior. Gynecologists also say vabbing is safe and it does not pose a health risk. With that said, it's important to be aware of your sexual status when it comes to sharing your bodily fluids. Let’s not forget that STIs still exist.

However, there are others who believe vabbing is absolutely absurd. According to ABC network, Professor Mark Elgar says when it comes to attracting a significant other that, “It could be how you look, it could be how you speak, the frequency, your voice that seems to have the influence.” He also states, “If you’re going to look at it from a biological perspective. You don’t need to do any of this stuff. It’s the boys that should be dancing in front of you, telling you how great they are.”

It's Giving Confidence and Sex Appeal

If it’s one thing that women are doing more of in 2022, it’s becoming empowered, building their confidence, and having sex appeal. So, why wouldn’t we vab? It seems that vabbing is more of a state of mind than just a physical act to get a reaction or stimulate the desired response. Shan Boodram further explains that vabbing for her is like a secret weapon. It is her reminder that her vagina is intoxicating AF. In an article by The Cut, Boodram states when it comes to vabbing, “It's not necessary and the fun is when it's something you do because you believe it will make you feel confident.”

In a recent Reel posted to Instagram, Boodram shares, "For me, it's feeling like I have a secret weapon and also it's me claiming the truth that the smell of my vulva/vagina is intoxicating, NOT toxic, which I believe we get the reverse message in society. And whether it's placebo or something legitimate, there have been occasions where I've noticed very different reactions from people when I've 'vabbed' versus when I have not."

Personally speaking, I have yet to try vabbing. But for the ladies looking to feel empowered and explore more of their sexual side, I wouldn’t disagree that vabbing would be one easy way to start. I mean, not every woman is comfortable sticking their fingers in their lady parts, let alone masturbating. Science says one thing, but I would argue that psychology says another when it comes to vabbing. It’s internal. You know what they say, our thoughts become our reality. Confidence and sex appeal are all about what makes you feel comfortable, turns you on, turns your partner on, and makes you feel good.

So, ladies are we vabbing, or nah?

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