The Masturbation Techniques That Can Intensify Your Orgasm
There is no one way to have the big “O.” The beauty about sex and masturbation is that you can take different paths to experience the same pleasure. How one person gets off might look different to another. Oftentimes, the different avenues, techniques, and positions in pleasure tend to be areas of focus spoken almost exclusively when discussing partnered sex. But what if we told you there are also layers to peel back in masturbation? That sometimes it’s not just about the "flick of the wrist" when it comes to self-pleasure and orgasm but also about the knowledge of different tried and true techniques?
In a 2021 study, the OMGYES Pleasure Report, there's a name to four masturbation techniques deemed most effective by a group of 3,000 U.S. women. Through doing this work, there is now language for previously unnamed vaginal penetration and stimulation techniques women most commonly utilize when performing self-pleasure. Researchers believe that now that there are words for these solo sex moves, women can also better communicate and advocate for their needs sexually in partnered sex.
The Masturbation Techniques That Can Intensify Your Orgasm
And what are these four masturbation techniques that can intensify the way you experience pleasure and orgasm? A couple of them you might have heard of, but for the rest, let us lead the way.
1.Angling
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"Angling" in masturbation involves adjusting where your finger(s), sex toy, and/or partner are inside your vagina. By rotating, lowering, and/or raising your pelvis and/or hips while penetrated, you can control the depth, feeling of fullness and where the toy, you, or your partner is positioned inside of your vagina. As its name suggests, it’s all about the "angle" with this technique.
2.Rocking
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While the friction of thrusting in and out is a pleasure worth noting, something that feels incredible but sometimes goes unnoticed is rocking. According to the study, the "rocking" technique is when the base of the sex toy, fingers, or penis rubs against the clitoris repeatedly throughout penetration. This is achieved by keeping the instrument all the way inside of the vagina instead of the in and out movements typically done during penetration.
3.Shallowing
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If the "rocking" technique is all about the depth, "shallowing" is all about the magic that happens on the shallow end. It's a tease that highlights the pleasure from shallow penetration. Here, penetrative touch occurs just at the entrance of the vagina. With the tip of the penis, fingers, or a sex toy (if in solo sex), or using the lips, fingers, or tongue (if in partnered sex), you can practice shallow thrusts for a delirious feeling that will have you longing for more. The fact that the vaginal entrance contains 90% of the vagina’s nerve endings doesn’t hurt either.
4.Pairing
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"Pairing" is a technique that comes highly recommended in solo sex scenarios as well as partnered ones. In fact, this technique can offer quite the assist for women who climax easily through clitoral stimulation (with fingers or oral) but find it difficult to have an orgasm during vaginal penetration. It involves pairing clitoral stimulation (through the use of a finger or a sex toy) with simultaneous penetration. If you desire more orgasms during vaginal penetration, the pairing might be your best bet during solo sex and partnered sex.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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Why We'll Probably Never Hear Lupita Nyong'o Share Her Relationship With The World
Lupita Nyong'o is sharing a transparent look into her life after a recent breakup.
In a cover story for NET-A-PORTER, the A Quiet Place: Day One star shed light on the significant heartbreak she experienced following the end of her relationship with ex-boyfriend and TV host, Selema Masekela.
As a public figure, Nyong'o, 39, sought to divulge the news of the breakup in hopes of presenting a more authentic perspective on the pain that follows a separation.
"I was living in a lot of pain and heartbreak," she told the publication. "I looked at the environment of my social media and thought I don’t want to be a part of this illusion that everything is always coming up roses. Surely there is a lesson for me to learn in this, and I just want to be real about it."
The Black Panther star went on to explain that her choice to be transparent with her fans about her breakup came from the certainty she felt after ending the relationship. “In my mind, when I shared my relationship status with the world, it was because I felt sure about it,” she said.
While she didn’t know how the news would land with her fans, she found relief in knowing she wasn’t alone in her experience.
“I knew how it could be interpreted; I knew it would have a life of its own,” she reflects. “But then I started to see the comments and people were being so loving and supportive. The ones that moved me the most were other people sharing their pain and their heartbreak.”
Nyong'o and Masekela went Instagram official in December 2022, publicly announcing their relationship in a couple's video. In October 2023, Nyong'o took to her personal Instagram account to share the news of her breakup in her caption, writing, "At this moment, it is necessary for me to share a personal truth and publicly dissociate myself from someone I can no longer trust.”
She continued the vulnerable note, "I find myself in a season of heartbreak because of a love suddenly and devastatingly extinguished by deception. I am tempted to run into the shadows and hide, only to return to the light when I have regained my strength enough for me to say, 'Whatever, my life is better this way.' But I am reminded that the magnitude of the pain I am feeling is equal to the measure of my capacity for love."
These days, Nyong'o tells NET-A-PORTER that she is prioritizing profound self-discovery that extends beyond her career. She notes having a deliberate and unhurried approach to understanding herself.
She also alludes to keeping her relationships private moving forward after noting it was "very, very sage" of her not to talk about her private life professionally in the days before her last relationship. "I'm going back to those days by the way," Nyong'o shares of her reinstated boundaries around her personal life.
Earlier this month, Nyong'o made headlines alongside her new boyfriend actor Joshua Jackson. Nyong'o and Jackson went through public splits from their respective SOs in October 2023, with the latter splitting from his long-time partner Jodie Turner-Smith following her divorce filing from the Dawson's Creek alum.
The pair have been spotted together as early as December 2023, but nothing screamed "couple" quite as loudly as their recent getaway to Mexico for Nyong'o's 41st birthday featuring passionate displays of affection.
"Our purpose in life is to love. And so you have to get back in it," she tells the outlet, seemingly alluding to her budding new romance.
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