Valentine's Day has come and gone but the romance in your relationship doesn't have to and if you're looking for a way to add some fire to your love life, Taraji P. Henson and Kelvin Hayden just proved that a baecation to Cabos San Lucas should be at the top of your list.
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Last May, the couple announced that they were happily engaged and while the couple hasn't confirmed an official wedding date, Taraji and Kelvin's never-ending honeymoon has already started. In a recent Instagram post, the actress revealed that she and her boo embarked on an epic romantic getaway to Mexico that has us ready to pack our bags, too.
The 49-year-old actress, who gave us our entire lives in the sexiest black one-piece, posted an image of her posing at Nobu's luxurious Los Cabos resort and gave us hella wanderlust.
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If you needed an excuse to book a flight and head to Mexico with the one you love for a celebrity-inspired baecation, I'll give you 3.
Here are a few couple-friendly hotels and resorts you should definitely consider when traveling to Cabos San Lucas.
Ballin’ On A Budget: The Bungalows Hotel
You don't have to break the bank to have the baecation of your dreams and The Bungalows Hotel will allow you to have a ball while keeping your budget in-tact with rooms starting at $128 a night. Upon googling this 3-star destination, you'll find hella five-star reviews that rave about the hotel's friendly staff, Spanish-style furnishings, and convenient location.
The Extravagent Traveler: Waldorf Astoria Los Cabos Pedregal
If you and your lover are looking for a bad and bougie baecation destination that will allow you to live like royalty for a few days, check out the Waldorf Astoria Los Cabos Pedregal. While rooms are $736 a night, more than 2,000 online reviews guarantee that you won't be disappointed. Each room at the resort comes with room service (with the option to upgrade to butler service), a private plunge pool, and all of the ambiance you and your man need to get the mood right.
Somewhere In Between: Pueblo Bonito Pacifica Golf & Spa Resort
For the couple who isn't trying to blow a bag and desire a more humble flex, check out Pueblo Bonito Pacifica Golf & Spa Resort. Their in-house spa was named one of Conde Nast Traveler's "Best Spas in Mexico & Central America" in 2013 and while you're getting your self-care all the way together, your man can even work on his swing on what Golf Digest calls one of the greatest golf courses in the world.
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The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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