It’s officially been a year and six months since I made the move to Mexico City full-time. And while Mexico is home to rich culture, prideful people, and breathtaking beaches, I’ve come to grow an even deeper love and appreciation for the place I now call my home away from home. Domestic travel will do that for you and has only helped to increase my affinity for all things Mexico. Forbes recently dropped their list of the top five travel destinations of 2023, and coming in the third position nestled right under St. Kitts and just above Japan was Mexico.
After seeing so many travelers on my timeline and my FYP respectively posted up on various beaches, I had no doubts that Mexico’s tourism boom would continue in the year ahead. But what if you want to visit Mexico, and also want to travel a bit ‘off the beaten path’ in comparison to touristy (but still beautiful af) places like Cancun and Tulum? That’s where we come in with this list of places in Mexico to add to your radar in 2023.
It's not an exhaustive list by any means, but it is one based on my own travels as an expat living abroad in Mexico. Keep reading for even more beauty this diverse country has to offer.
San Miguel de Allende
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The cobblestone streets and Spanish architecture are just some of the awe-inspiring beauty San Miguel de Allende has to offer. Perhaps most known for the Parroquia de San Miguel Arcángel located at the city’s center, San Miguel de Allende is a colonial-era small town that has also become synonymous with wellness. One of my favorite things about living in Mexico is how modern often mixes with history in the look and feel of pueblos and cities alike. San Miguel captures the essence of that juxtaposition so beautifully and you feel instantly transported into a storybook town of yesteryear.
The many pastel-colored buildings are only part of San Miguel’s charm, as my time there was spent lavishing in massages at Essential Massage & Watsu, hiking in Charco del Ingenio, sound baths, enjoying bites at the local restaurantes, and visiting Viñedo Dos Buhos, a certified organic winery nestled not too far away from the town’s center.
Tepoztlán
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Whenever I want to take a quick trip from my life in the city and want to feel closer to nature, Tepoztlán is there. Located less than two hours south of Mexico City is the magic town of Tepoztlán in the state of Morelos. The pueblo also has the reputation of being the birthplace of the Aztec god, Quetzalcoatl. I love being able to rent a casita in the town's center or one up in the mountains where I can access some of the hiking trails there, as well as the deer sanctuary. If you're feeling lucky, you can also climb the infamous El Tepozteco. It is steep but worth the view at least once. It really depends on the vibe you’re looking for.
As a town, Tepoztlán is heralded for the wellness experiences it has to offer. Stop by the town center for a deep tissue massage that rivals any four- or five-star hotel. And speaking of hotels, there are quite of a few that have an emphasis on mind, body, and spirit rejuvenation. Visit the urban retreat of Casa de la Vida to reset with the help of packages like Elixir of Life and Detox and Rejuvenate. Hotel Boutique Casa Isabella and Nican Mo Calli are a couple of other accommodation options that are also holistic-centered.
Val'Quirico
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Speaking of Mexico City day trips, Val'Quirico is another beautiful place the country has to offer. Although, not quite. The housing community also has the unique feature of being fictional. So while you can visit it, it's technically not a town at all. Inspired by Tuscany, a visit there will have you feeling like you're walking the streets of Italy without ever leaving Mexico. Val'Quirico has many restaurants, cafes, and even live music, but also plenty of attention to detail which makes for a lot of photo-opp moments. You can choose to lodge there for the night (or multiple nights) or just visit during the day as a quick day trip while you're in Mexico City.
Ixtapa Zihuatanejo
By far, my favorite beach in Mexico is located in Ixtapa Zihuatanejo. It’s one of those places that doesn't feel too touristy yet so I hesitate to add it to this list but we don’t gatekeep around here so here I am, gifting keys to the paradise vacation kingdom. Ixtapa Zihuatanejo is located in the state of Guerrero and is a resort town located on the Pacific Coast. Surrounding the picturesque El Palmar Beach is an array of hotels, restaurants, and bars.
Although we stayed mostly on the private beach at Las Brisas Ixtapa when soaking up the sun rays and sipping on cocktails, the public beach is also a sight for sore eyes and definitely worth a visit whenever you feel like taking a break from your respective resort. I’ve seen some of the prettiest sunsets in Mexico, but being in Ixtapa Zihuatanejo just hits different.
Cabo San Lucas
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Such a list would not be complete without mentioning Cabo San Lucas. Located in Baja California Sur, the popular vacation destination is comprised of picturesque beaches, luxurious resorts, and desert landscapes. Perhaps most known for its natural rock formations aptly called The Arch, Cabo San Lucas is also home to deep sea fishing, water recreation activities galore, and a thriving nightlife. Absolutely soak up the luxury at any of Cabo's plethora of resorts, but don't forget the joy of visiting the resort town's public beach or taking a quick boat ride to see the iconic rock formations up close while visiting the famed Lovers Beach and Divorce Beach (which are only accessible via boat). Even in December, the water was warm and glittered like diamonds underneath a cloudless sky. I was in love and you will be too.
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Again, the answer never changes because, if there is one thing that Shellie Reneé Warren is gonna get, it’s 6-8 (sometimes nine) hours of sleep. However, since my chronotype (check out “Ever Wonder What Personality Traits Make Someone A 'Morning Person'?”) means that I like/prefer to write in the wee hours of the morning, sometimes I will sleep for the night for five hours and take a nap in the day. And y’all, that is just fine with me because I am well aware of the fact that napping does everything from give me more energy, heighten my alertness and even make me more creative to decrease stress levels, strengthen immunity, and reduce my chances of experiencing a heart attack or stroke.
My problem is I will oftentimes go “overboard” with my daytime zzz’s. What I mean by that is, in order to get the most out of a nap, they say thatyou shouldn’t sleep for longer than 25 minutes or so; otherwise, you could wake up feeling sluggish (I don’t but…). Also, it can make resting, soundly, at night a bit of a struggle.
So, what are you saying, Shellie? We should get quickies in? Yeah. And it’s funny that the word “quickie” would come up because just like a sex quickie can do wonders for you (and it can — check out “12 Super Solid Reasons To Have A Quickie Every Single Day”), it’s a full-circle moment when I say that something that can improve the quality of your sex life is to have a power nap (a nap that lasts between 10-30 minutes).
Wanna know how the two things correlate? Honestly, it’s no secret that sleep and sex work together to optimize both (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”). Today, though, we’re going to tap into how a nap, specifically, can have you partaking in some of the best sex that you’ve experienced in a minute. I’ll explain.
Naps Reduce Stress
GiphyIf you’re feeling super stressed out right now, you are not alone. There is plenty of data out here that says that most of us are stressed for at least a couple of reasons at a time — and that can impact your sexual health on a few levels. For one thing, it can bring about feelings of depression and/or anxiety. Stress can also throw your hormone levels off (including your cycle) which can weaken your libido. Stress can make you want to put distance between you and your partner (yes, literally).
Stress can also make it challenging to get aroused or to have an orgasm. And just what can help to decrease stress? Taking a nap. Since sleep has a way of helping you to “get off of the clock” and relax a bit, that can lower your stress levels and “reset” your body so that you are calmer — and that, in turn, can do wonders for your sex drive and ultimately your sex life.
Naps Improve Your Mood
GiphyThere is one person in my life, and fairly 80 percent of the time, she’s in a super good mood. Oh, but let that girl go without sleep, and…who is this woman? LOL. There’s research behind why this happens. When a person is sleep-deprived, it messes with their brain chemicals, and that can amplify emotions like anger, restlessness and sadness. In fact, one study revealed that people who had their sleep disrupted throughout the night, they ended up having their positive outlook on life reduced by about 30 percent.
And geeze, who wants to have sex when they’re not feeling very good? Anyway, since serotonin is a neurotransmitter that helps to regulate your moods, your sleep patterns, and your libido and sleep is what helps to keep it in balance — by taking a nap, not only can it help you to feel better, it can also increase your desire for sex (it can also build up your endurance which is also…sexually beneficial).
Naps Increase Your Focus and Concentration
GiphySomething that some of my clients bring up is how, when it comes to having sex, sometimes the flesh is willing while the spirit is weak because, although the desire for intimacy is there, so much is going on that they aren’t able to get still enough to focus on experiencing copulation with their partner. This also tracks because, when you don’t have enough rest, your brain finds itself not working in harmony and that can make it hard to do everything from approaching life with a sense of flexibility to making necessary decisions.
Certain data also reveal that a lack of rest can cause you to have a really poor attention span and not process things in context (the more you know). So, if you really want to get some yet it’s hard for you to focus long enough to make it happen, ask your bae to lie down with you and take a nap. Between the sleep and the snuggling (check out “Fall's Coming: 8 Wonderful Health Benefits Of Cuddling”) — you may wake up with your mind and body totally on the same page. #wink
Naps Can Make You Feel Better About Your Body
GiphyEven if, overall, you feel really good about your body, I think that we all have moments when we feel less attractive than others — and who wants to have sex when they don’t really feel…very sexy? Well, something else that sleep, in general, can do is increase your confidence in your body.
For one thing, if you want to lose a few pounds, sleep can actually make that happen by helping your body metabolize the glucose (sugar) that’s in it so that you can better manage your appetite. Other studies go on to share that since sleep deprivation can impact one’s mental health and emotional stability in a negative way, of course, getting enough rest would increase body positivity.
Shoot, science even goes so far as to say that insomnia can cause people to have an elevated level of dissatisfaction when it comes to their body image. Don’t take their word for it, though. Look in the mirror before a nap. Then look in a mirror after waking up from me. Do you feel better? I’d be surprised if you don’t.
Makes Your Brain Bigger…Which Could Make Your Orgasms Better
GiphyI saved the best for last by design. Now if you’re wondering how in the world a nap can improve (and possibly increase) your orgasms — oh, there is a method to the madness…trust. For starters, the saying that your biggest sex organ is your brain? That isn’t a myth. Long story less long, the brain is what houses your central nervous system and that is what controls how men and women sexually function (yes, literally).
And since the brain also releases feel-good chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin during sex and brain activity significantly increases in women during sexual activity (especially right before she orgasms) — well, would it trip you out to know that when you take a nap, your brain actually expands? A bigger brain (that’s healthy) can potentially intensify your sexual experiences (and your climaxes) — and who doesn’t want that to go down?
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Like I said earlier, I never have to be convinced to get a nap in. However, if your sex life has been a bit stagnant lately, you’ve been feeling a little sluggish and you’re not sure what to do — I’m hoping that a nap can get you right.
There’s enough science to prove that it can. All you need to do is give it a shot.
Now where’s your pillow and sleep mask, chile?
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