
As old-school as it might seem, a resume is still your key to letting people know what you offer to the job market. The way you communicate your skills, talents, and experience on paper can make or break landing that dream opportunity. And though many things about the job search have gone digital and the process has gotten quite casual with more jobs transitioning to remote work, a good resume is still a requirement for top companies and brands, even if you're a freelancer or self-employed.
According to a survey by Careerbuilder, one of the leading employment platforms, almost 24% of hiring managers spend less than 30 seconds even looking at a resume and another survey showed that 54% of job seekers don't customize their resume for each employer, leading to the less of a chance of even getting a call for an interview, nevertheless an offer. Also, 75% of recruiters "use some form of recruiting or applicant tracking software," or ATS, according to Capterra, an online business software resource.
Need any more proof that what you include in a resume—and how you include it—is important, sis? Take a look at a few tips for refreshing your resume to get optimal results when job-seeking:
Entry-Level: Your resume includes irrelevant, poorly worded, or hard-to-understand sections or formatting.
There's always the debate about whether or not to include an "objective" or "summary" section, however, if you do include either, experts recommend not only customizing it to truly tell, in a conversational manner, what you bring to the table but tell it in a way that will capture a prospective employer's attention.
Experts at Indeed, an OG job-listing website, suggest staying away from overused words and phrases like "team player," "go-getter," or "detailed-oriented," and replacing such expressions with actual details about your work history that illustrate that you embody those phrases.
For example, what specifically classifies you as a "go-getter"? Were you able to secure 20 new clients in the past 3 years working for a company? Did you start a new initiative that brought in revenue? Say that.
And since many recruiters and hiring managers use ATS, you'll want to be sure that you have a Word doc or rich text version of your resume that can be easily understood and dissected through any system that filters resumes for relevance to the position. The experts say that the ATS has a hard time reading specialized formatting like headers, footers, certain text boxes, and colored ink, so using traditional fonts and spelling out acronyms is recommended.
Entry-level: You're not selling your skills in a way that's dynamic.
You might have little to no traditional job experience, but that doesn't mean your resume should be bland or sparse. A good idea is to redirect focus from what you don't have (i.e. experience) to what you can offer. If you've volunteered, interned, or started your own side gig while unemployed or a student, market the skills you used in doing that, and tell the story as if you're the best person for the job you're going for. Don't downplay the time spent doing those things because your talents are valid and those projects often require skills that are transferable to almost any entry-level position.
Be sure to include information on any special certifications, training, or secondary education you've excelled at. Again, the key is to play up what you do offer, not what you don't.
You were the treasurer for your sorority, raising $2,000 for a benefit, collecting yearly dues, and handling the accounting for events and expenses? Talk about what you did and detail the results. Did you volunteer at a local pet shelter, grooming more than a dozen animals per month? Talk about your time management, animal care, and empathy skills in doing that. Did you intern for a small business owner, taking photos, scheduling Instagram posts, and coordinating Reels? Well, sis, that's a social media manager in the making. Toot your horn!
Mid-level: You're using descriptions that signify amateur or vague results.
Yes, the phrases and words you use in your resume can be a reflection of where you are in your career and your level of expertise. You don't want to give the impression that you're not a competitive match for your mid-level peers. Careerbuilder experts point to survey results that show that 38% of HR pros and recruiters aren't keen on "deal-breaking" phrases like "best of breed," while 26% are not fans of "think outside the box," for example.
Also, if you're using jargon or "industry-speak" that was all the rage back when you were in college in the early 2000s (See what I did there!), you might want to freshen up on your industry's language or even up your skills and training to reflect the times.
As a mid-level professional, you're at a level where you've gained quite a few career receipts, so speak on them boldly and with consideration of today's technology, deliverable expectations, and success metrics.
Get into percentages when you talk about growth, increase, or management of anything, name those brands you've done campaigns for, and talk about the talent you've attracted, mentored, and cultivated. Indeed experts recommend using words like "overhauled," "chaired," "championed," or "strategized" and including a professional title at the top of your resume to describe where you are in your career.
Mid-level: You're taking for granted the soft skills and omitting them.
By the time you've gotten to mid-level status, you might have been so focused on climbing up the ladder and getting results that you forgot about the soft skills that are the foundation of success. What's a soft skill? Well, if you have savvy with communicating with a certain audience, you're a great listener, you're a person people just like to work with, or you're great at connecting folk for lucrative collabs, those are soft skills.
And when you're looking at advancing beyond associate or assistant, it's the soft skills that CEOs look for when filling VP and other executive seats.
How do you express these via your resume? By, again, showing vs. telling. So, for example, adaptability is a key soft skill that leaders look for. Add in how you helped your company transition from an old system to new software or how you managed remote workers while bringing in new talent during the pandemic.
Experienced: You're listing information that's more than a decade old.
When you've worked in your industry for more than 10 years, it can be challenging to edit and omit job experience that you are proud of, but experts recommend that job seekers limit their resume to two pages, even if you have lots of experience. (For some jobs, like government service positions, you might have to submit a longer resume, but that's one of the very few exceptions.)
Experts recommend that seasoned professionals with more than a decade of experience list only what's relevant to the job they're applying for or their most recent experience.
There's no need to include your first job or details on a gig you had 10 years ago, especially if the duties you had aren't applicable to the job you're applying for.
Experienced: You're not highlighting long-term impact, honors, and awards.
Experts also recommend that professionals with more than seven years of experience highlight impact. That means if you were responsible for revenue increases, talent acquisition, business wins, or long-term investment projects, include that. If you were able to create overarching innovation that benefited the company, detail the how and why on that. You want to be concise, but don't downplay the larger successes you've had in your career, especially at your level. High-achievers respect results, so show them what you got!
Whatever stage you are in your career, be sure to plan accordingly in order to land that dream gig. If you have to get professional help, do that, but just be sure to be strategic and smart. It's the only way you'll continue to live in your purpose and advance in it.
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This Is How To Keep 'Holiday Season Stress' From Infecting Your Relationship
Hmph. Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like there is something really weird happening in the fall season air (because winter doesn’t officially begin until December 21) that cuddle season is in full swing while break-up season is as well. In fact, did you know that break-ups are so popular during the holiday season that December 11 is deemed Break-Up Day?
The reasons why relationships shift around this time vary; however, I did both roll my eyes and chuckle when I read that a very popular one is because it’s an easy way to get out of getting one’s significant other a Christmas present. SMDH.
Anyway, I personally think that the less shallow folks out here may contemplate calling things “quits” or they at least distance themselves a bit from their partner (and what I’m referring to is serious relationships) due to all of the stress and strain that oftentimes comes with the holidays whether it be financial, familial, due to their tight schedules or something else.
Listen, I would hate for you and your man to miss the fun and happiness of experiencing this time of year, all because you are so overwhelmed or irritated that you can’t really enjoy it. That’s why I have a few practical tips for how to avoid allowing the typical holiday season stress from INFECTING your relationship.
Manage Your Expectations
GiphyUnmanaged expectations. If there is a main reason why the holiday season tends to be so stress-filled for so many people, I’d bet good money that this is the cause. And when you’re in a long-term relationship, expectations can manifest themselves in all sorts of cryptic and/or unexpected ways. You might have relatives who assume that you are going to be with them for Thanksgiving or Christmas when you have other plans in mind. You might be thinking that you are going to spend one amount for presents while your man is thinking something totally different. When it comes to scheduling, your signals may be crossed.
And you know what? To all of these scenarios, this is where clear and consistent communication come in. Don’t assume anything. Don’t dictate anything either. From now until New Year’s, mutually decide to check in once a week, just to make sure that you are both on the same page as it relates to the holidays and what you both are thinking will come along with it. The less blindsided you both feel, the less stressed out you will be. Trust me on this.
Set (and Keep) a Budget
GiphyOkay, so I read that last year, 36 percent of Americans incurred some type of holiday-related debt. Hmph. Last year, there was still some sense of normalcy in this country, chile, so I can only imagine what finances are gonna look like over the next several weeks. That said, since I don’t know a lot of people who don’t find being broke stressful, make sure that you and your bae set a budget and then stick to it this year — no ifs, ands or buts.
Because really, y’all — it doesn’t make sense to deplete savings and/or max out credit cards for a few days of giggles only to be damn near losing your mind because you don’t know how to make ends meet come Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.
And by the way, this tip doesn’t just speak to things like food and gifts; I also mean travel. If it doesn’t make a ton of sense (or cents) to be all over the place this year — DON’T BE.
Keep Matthew 5:37 at the Forefront
GiphyIf off the top of your head, you don’t know what Matthew 5:37 says, no worries, here ya go: “But let your ‘Yes’ be ‘Yes,’ and your ‘No,’ ‘No.’ For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.” That verse right there? Oh, it’s a boundaries lifesaver! I say that because do you see “maybe” or “I’ll think about it” in there? Nope. LOL. It says that you should tell people “yes” or “no” and leave it at that — and that complements Anne Lamott’s quote, “’No’ is a complete sentence” impeccably well. Yeah, you’ve got to remember that anything beyond a yes or no to a request is privileged information; you don’t owe anyone details or an explanation.
Besides, if you are really honest with yourself, when someone asks you something and you give a “Umm, let me think about it” kind of reply, more times than not, you already know what your answer is going to be — so why not let you both off of the hook? Give your response. Commit to that. And let everyone (including yourself) get on with their lives and schedules.
I promise you that when it comes to those holiday parties, you are pissing more folks off by not RSVP’ing or doing so and not showing up than just saying, “Thank you but not this year” off the rip.
Remember That Your Personal Space Is Privilege Not a Right
GiphyA friend of mine recently bought a new house and invited me over to come see it. He’s a single man with no children, so as I was taking in all of the space that he had, especially as I walked through his finished basement, I joked about relatives coming to live with him. “Hell no” and “absolutely not” were pretty much his immediate responses as he went on to say that some folks even had the nerve to be offended when he told them that he had no intentions on taking DNA in.
Ain’t it wild how people think that your stuff is their right? And yes, that brings me to my next point. Your home is your sanctuary space. If you want to host folks this year — cool. If not, ALSO COOL. Please don’t let folks (family included) guilt you into how they want you to act or even into what they would do if the shoe was on the other foot. You are not them — and as one of my favorite quotes states, “If two people were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.” (A man by the name Larry Dixon said that.)
Hell, my friends? They know that I am good for sending them random things that they need or even want all throughout the year. Coming over to hang out at my pace, though. Uh-uh. Chalk it up to being a card-carrying member of the ambivert club yet I like keeping my living space personal — and I sleep like a baby, each and every night, for feeling that way.
Always remember that your space, your time, your resources, your energy and shoot, yourself period (including your relationship), are all things that are your own. You get to choose how, when and why you want to share them. The holiday season is certainly no exception.
Cultivate Some “You Two Only” Traditions
GiphyIt’s not uncommon for some couples to hit me up after the holiday season to “detox.” Sometimes it’s due to the financial drama (and sometimes trauma) that they experienced. Sometimes it’s because they allowed their relatives (especially in-laws) to get more into their personal business than they should’ve. More than anything, though, it tends to be because they didn’t get enough quality time together and so ended up feeling “disconnected.”
Please don’t let that happen. Listen, I’m not even a holidays kind of woman and yet, I will absolutely sit myself down with some hot chocolate and chocolate chip cookies to enjoy a Hallmark holiday film or two. Aside from the fact that most of them are lighthearted and sweet, I also like that they usually focus on couples loving on each other amidst all of the holiday beauty and ambiance — which is something that all couples should set aside some time to do.
Maybe it’s a vacation. Maybe it’s a staycation. Or maybe it’s my personal favorite, A SEXCATION. Whether it’s for a few days, the weekend or even overnight — don’t you let the holidays go by without setting aside time for you and your man to celebrate one another. Don’t you dare (check out “Are You Ready To Have Some Very Merry 'Christmas Sex'?”).
GET. SOME. REST.
GiphyI once read that 8 out of 10 people get stressed out over the holidays and 3 out of 10 lose sleep during to it — and when you’re stress-filled and sleep-deprived, that can absolutely lead to hypersensitivity, making mountains out of molehills and even not being in the mood for sex.
Your relationship can’t afford to go through any of this, so definitely make sure to prioritize rest. I don’t care how unrealistic it might seem during this time, sleep should never be seen as a luxury; it will always and forever be a great necessity.
That said, try to get no less than six hours of shut-eye in (check out “6 Fascinating Ways Sex And Sleep Definitely Go Hand In Hand”) and even ask your bae to take a nap with you sometimes (check out “Wanna Have Some Next-Level Sex? Take A Nap, Sis.”). Not only will sleep help to restore your mind, body and spirit but, when it’s with your partner, it’s an act of intimacy that can make you both feel super connected, even in the midst of what might feel like chaos.
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Holiday season stress is real. Still, never give it the permission or power to throw your relationship off. Put you and your man first and let the holidays be what they are gonna be, chile.
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I was born in Lincoln, Nebraska. My mother was a New Yorker. So yes, the cold is just fine with me. And when it is super chilly outside, nothing makes me happier than pulling out one of my cable-knit blankets and sipping on something closer-to-hot-than-warm while watching a movie on my television screen.
In times past, I’ve shouted out warm drinks that are great for the fall and winter seasons (here) or are good for your overall health and well-being (here). Today, let’s touch on ones that have been proven to do wonders in keeping your skin, hair, and nails naturally beautiful.
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1. Bamboo Leaf Tea
Raise your hand if you’ve ever tried bamboo leaf tea before. If you’re a doula like myself, you may have recommended it to a mom who is getting really close to her due date because some studies say that it can help with uterine contractions when it comes to making them more bearable.
Because we are focusing strictly on beauty today, though, this particular tea makes the list because it’s rich in amino acids, magnesium, zinc, antioxidants, copper, potassium and calcium that all work together to provide you with healthy skin, strong hair with reduced breakage and, thanks to the silica that is in it, nails that will grow the length that you want them to as well.
2. Warm Pea Milk
Another word for warm pea milk is ripple milk; it’s a milk alternative that’s been made from yellow peas that is rich in protein, Vitamin D, iron, potassium and calcium (reportedly 150 percent more than cow’s milk. Wild, right?). Since it’s great for the environment (y’all, almond milk actually isn’t) and it’s low in sugar and carbs, that’s why it’s becoming more and more popular, en masse.
As far as beauty tips go, this is a drink to try because, mentioned nutrients aside, something else that it is rich in is sunflower oil. Your skin will appreciate that because sunflower oil helps to protect it from free radicals while supporting your skin’s barrier so that it remains moisturized for longer periods of time. This oil, along with the vtamin E that it also contains can reduce hair breakage and, since sunflower oil also has antifungal properties, it can help to prevent fungal infections on your nails while providing a natural sheen to them.

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3. Mexican Hot Chocolate
If nothing makes you happier than a cup of hot chocolate, treat yourself to some Mexican hot chocolate before the holiday season ends. It’s basically hot chocolate that has a bit of a “kick” to it, thanks to the chili and/or cayenne and cinnamon powders that are added to it.
And yes, it’s those things that help to make it a great beauty drink too. Since chili powder (which is ground chili peppers) contains the chemical compound capsaicin, that can reduce the pain and inflammation that is associated with psoriasis; plus, it helps to reduce skin inflammation, reduces the appearance of cellulite and contains anti-aging properties too. Cinnamon has been known to support hair growth while hindering hair loss and word on the street is cinnamon is an all-natural way to treat toe fungus as well.
4. Hot Oaxacan Penicillin Cocktail
I’ll be honest — out of all of these, the one that I learned the most about is a drink known as the Hot Oaxacan Penicillin Cocktail. What makes it hot is hot water. What makes it a “beauty drink” is the tequila, ginger and honey. Tequlia can be good for your skin, thanks to the astringent properties that are in it. Ginger is good for your skin because its antioxidant, anti-inflammatory, anticancer and antimicrobial properties can help to slow down the aging process.
Ginger is also good for your hair because it stimulates your hair follicles, so that they can get more of the nutrients that they need while helping to soothe and heal an irritated scalp. Ginger can also to keep your nails nice and healthy. And honey? Honey is a humectant; this means that it can help to keep your skin, hair and nails moisturized from the inside out.

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5. Milk Thistle Tea
I grew up with a mother who basically obsessed over herbs, so I’ve been knowing about milk thistle, in supplement form, for a long time now. What I remember most about it is it’s an herb that helps to detox your liver — and that alone can make it a great beauty addition since, the clearer your system is, the healthier your skin, hair and nails will be in return. In fact, thanks to its pretty potent antioxidants and anti-inflammatory properties, milk thistle can help to speed up the healing process of acne.
Also, it can help to even out your skin, slow down signs of aging and deeply hydrate your skin too. Your hair will like milk thistle because it helps to stimulate hair growth while also helping to prevent hair loss. And, as far as your nails go, milk thistle is great because it supports the production of keratin, so that your nails remain strong instead of brittle.
6. Wassail
Right around Christmastime, many people find themselves drinking wassail. It’s basically a type of apple cider that has citrus fruit, fresh apples and spices in it (sometimes it also has cranberries and bourbon or brandy in it too). In fact, since there are so many ingredients in this particular drink, I’m only going to shout-out a few ways that it benefits your hair, skin and nails (feel free to Google each ingredient for more intel).
Apples are good for your skin because they are loaded with antioxidants that can help to keep your skin healthy. They also have acids in them that can help to prevent too much dead skin accumulation; plus, they contain collagen that can keep your skin looking young, fresh and radiant. The spice nutmeg is good for your hair because it contains properties that reduce hair shedding, dandruff flakes and it helps to heal scalp infections. Another popular spice in wassail is cloves. They can be good for your nails because they can fight nail fungus; oftentimes before it even starts.

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7. Honey, Lemon and Mint Water
If you’re feeling like a cold is coming on, the combination of honey, lemon and mint water can do you a world of good. Not only is honey soothing to a sore throat, it contains properties that can actually shorten the lifespan of a cold. Lemon contains vitamin C that can help to boost your immune system. And mint water? Well, it has antimicrobial, anti-inflammatory and antioxidant properties that can help to fight the viruses that cause colds in the first place.
Beauty-wise, this combination is impressive too. Honey also has antimicrobial properties that can help to keep breakouts at bay. Your hair will like honey because it reduces breakage while adding shine. And your nails? Honey can keep your nails strong and your cuticles in a hydrated state, so that you don’t have to worry about hangnails so much. The vitamin C in lemons helps to boost your collagen levels so that your skin, hair and nails looks youthful. And mint water is an awesome detoxifier for your skin, clarifier as a hair rinse and it’s another way to keep your nails looking healthy from the inside out.
8. Crockpot Red Wine Hot Cocoa
Geeze: wine and cocoa? In the same drink?! Yep. Not only is this particular recipe absolutely delicious but, as we close this all out, it’s one more drink that is good for you, from head to toe. You can read my article “12 Ways Dark Chocolate Can Benefit Your Body From Head To Toe” to learn more about how chocolate is able to soften the appearance of wrinkles, protect your skin from damaging skin rays and deeply nourish your scalp. Also, dark chocolate can help your nails because the copper in chocolate can help to fight off bacteria while the magnesium and iron in chocolate are able to produce the healthy forms of keratin that your nails are made out of.
And red wine? Skin-wise, it helps to protect it from free radicals, reduces inflammation and improves both the texture and tone of your skin over time. Hair-wise, it helps to reduce frizz while also fighting to prevent hair loss. Also, since red wine contains properties that slow down cellular aging, it can help to keep your hands and nails looking younger for longer periods of time too.
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Is there anything more soothing and comforting than a mug that is full of a warm and delicious drink? And now that you know of something that can have you looking better than you already do — it’s time to Instacart some of these ingredients (recipes are featured in some of the hyperlinks).
Your skin, hair and nails are just waiting for you to!
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