Burn Baby, Burn

Experts estimate that while riding or in cowgirl, women burn anywhere from a buck twenty in calories to a buck seventy-five, depending on how hard you get your blood pumping. This can be done by incorporating more hip movements and with this workout, you will have the stamina to do so.

The main muscle being worked while in cowgirl are our quads, but as always we forget how valuable and useful our cores are. One thing I can undoubtedly say is that Tyomi makes sure she hits the core and every other muscle you will need to use to take first place at the Rodeo — every week was a full body workout and left me gasping for air. Of course, this got easier over the course of the week like any fitness routine.

Find Your Flow

What I will say is that with this being a workout that required me to channel my sensuality and thus confidence, I felt uber uncomfortable watching my awkward but full hips roll in the mirror. Yet, thoughts of self-doubt distracted me from the slow burn I was feeling in the lower half of my body and that's definitely a benefit. As someone who hates dancing, mostly because repeatedly saying I can't dance has become a self-fulfilled prophecy that I play up to avoid uncomfortable attention — I often transfer that same energy to sex because they feel as though they're one in the same.

But with every day that I carried on, I took Tyomi's advice and truly tried to wrap my mind around doing it for myself. I mean I'm not having sex and haven't in quite some time, so in a way, it was for me but everything in me was still worrying about how embarrassed I'd be if I actually mirrored what I saw in the mirror on the D.

In overthinking, I realized I was making the experience about men and their pleasure and not myself, my pleasure, and my comfort. Although these thoughts were still present, I did these workouts in the span of a week but if I were to do them three times per week (as suggested) for the next couple of months, I could envision the inevitable change in my confidence and body that might come.

Have Fun With It

And, while I have no doubt that the workout would improve my skill, I'm adamant that developing my abilities in the bedroom has a lot to do with the growth of confidence in ways I hadn't even realized I lacked. The confidence that comes from simply letting go and embracing where you are in order to just have fun with it.

One might say it's one part core and quads working and two parts confidence that builds the skill we're all looking for when it comes time to be on that tip.