What In The World Is A G-Scale Orgasm?
Something that I really appreciate about sex — other than the fact that it's, well, sex — is there really is so much to learn about it. Just when you think that you know all that there is — BOOM! Some new info reveals itself that helps to take things to a whole 'nother level. In walks, the G-Scale orgasm.
If you've never heard of it before, I'm pretty sure that you're absolutely not alone. I mean, I wasn't super familiar with it either until a few weeks ago. Once I did some reading, researching and pondering, I must admit that I do dig the concept. So, if you're ready to make your orgasms even more intense than they (hopefully) already are, knowing where you land on the G-Scale may be just what you need.
So, What Does “G-Scale” Mean?
OK, so from what I've researched, it would appear that when it comes to the actual concept of a G-Scale orgasm, the credit needs to go to a female neuroscientist and sex therapist by the name of Nan Wise, Ph.D. who decided that it would be cool to come up with a literal Richter scale for orgasms. Meaning, you know how earthquakes have levels to them and they are measured on the Richter scale? Well, Dr. Wise figured that this same mindset can apply to how powerful an orgasm is — or not? Because let's not sit here and act like all orgasms are created equal…that some aren't way more intense than others.
So, besides just knowing that some feel different, how do you actually measure an orgasm? Well, it would seem that the intensity that we feel, on many levels, is directly connected to the erogenous zones that are stimulated during sexual activity. For instance, when focus is put on to your clitoris (including your clitoral hood), an area of your brain known as genital sensory cortex is awakened; the more it is stimulated, the more powerful your orgasms will feel.
And just how do you figure out where you fall on the Richter scale? Well, that is where the sex toy company Hot Octopuss comes in. They actually created a quiz that you can take that will help you to determine where you currently fall on the scale (you can take the quiz for yourself here). And what if you discover that your orgasms don't leave you nearly as "shaken up" as you deserve to be? Well, that's where the next point comes in.
How Can the G-Scale Make Your Orgasms Better?
So, here's the deal when it comes to orgasms as it relates to the G-Scale. According to it, if you pretty much only cum when your clitoris is stimulated, that would be considered a "one-level" orgasm (I know, right?). Now an orgasm, period, is pretty grand. Still, check this out — a six-level orgasm (which is pretty much the peak) is defined as being where you land when you've had your vagina, clitoris, G-spot, nipples and also your mind aroused. When you've got a partner who is able to literally touch you in all of these areas, he's been able to get you into what is known as "the M-Zone" — and baby, if you're there, you've literally reached the mountaintop of orgasms!
So, you get where this is going, right? If you want to achieve more pleasurable climaxes, it's important that more than your genital region is stimulated (surprise, surprise). Matter of fact, Dr. Wise believes that the more that we are mentally aroused, the lighter (less stressed and "heavy") our brains will become and the easier it will be to have more fulfilling orgasms (orgasmic meditation, anyone?).
3 Ways to Up Your Orgasms on the G-Scale
With all of this broken down, what do you do if you realize that you've been sitting at around a 1 and you want to get close to a 6 on the G-scale? Good question. After taking the quiz, there are three hacks that can definitely help you, as soon as tonight, even.
1. Mentally connect more with your partner.
I don't know about y'all but I personally feel bad for people who've never really had a strong mental and emotional connection with a sex partner. I don't care of it's a man or a woman, almost everyone I've talked to about this topic can vouch for the fact that when two people are in sync beyond the physical, sex goes to an entirely different dimension. And, as you've already read, in order to get to a 6, to hit the M-Zone, that's exactly what needs to happen.
Verbally affirm one another. Go on "love language dates" more often (check out "15 Date Ideas Based On Your Love Language"). Become intentional about being a better listener. Make the sexual experience more romantic.
When you feel connected, you feel seen. When you feel seen, it can make you feel cherished. And when you feel cherished, the sky really is the limit on how passionate the sex can become. Amen? Amen.
2. Be intentional about exploring (more) erogenous zones.
So, from what I have researched, men and women both have approximately 14 different erogenous zones — scalp (cue Mario's "Braid My Hair"), mouth, neck, ears, nipples, armpits, wrists, hands, bottoms of the feet, behind the knees, stomach (especially the belly button), lower back, inner thighs and of course, the genital region. This means that there are at least 14 different places we all can go to make our partners feel absolutely amazing.
When it comes to getting to a 6, edging (bringing certain erogenous zones to the brink of orgasm before backing off for a spell) helps. So does mastering foreplay when it comes to these spots; especially when it comes to — for us — the nipples, vagina, clitoris and G-spot. Once again, a reminder that intercourse alone can "get us there" but to really reach the peak, other body parts need to be involved.
3. Slow the process down.
Personally, when I think of what could be done to enter into the M-Zone, having sex in the spoon position definitely comes to mind because it's an easy way for your partner to stimulate all of the parts of your body that need to be in order to achieve a 6. Yet more than anything, what I got out of all of this is sex needs to be intentional — slower, intensified, with both people exploring all of what their bodies have to offer.
Put a playlist together. Get the clock out of your bedroom. Lose yourself in one another. Do that and things can go from mild tremors to literally y'all shaking the room up! The M-Zone, indeed.
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Different puzzle pieces are creating bigger pictures these days. 2024 will mark a milestone on a few different levels, including the release of my third book next June (yay!).
I am also a Professional Certified Coach. My main mission for attaining that particular goal is to use my formal credentials to help people navigate through the sometimes tumultuous waters, both on and offline, when it comes to information about marriage, sex and relationships that is oftentimes misinformation (because "coach" is a word that gets thrown around a lot, oftentimes quite poorly).
I am also still super devoted to helping to bring life into this world as a doula, marriage life coaching will always be my first love (next to writing, of course), a platform that advocates for good Black men is currently in the works and my keystrokes continue to be devoted to HEALTHY over HAPPY in the areas of holistic intimacy, spiritual evolution, purpose manifestation and self-love...because maturity teaches that it's impossible to be happy all of the time when it comes to reaching goals yet healthy is a choice that can be made on a daily basis (amen?).
If you have any PERSONAL QUESTIONS (please do not contact me with any story pitches; that is an *editorial* need), feel free to reach out at missnosipho@gmail.com. A sistah will certainly do what she can. ;)
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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6 Spring Events To Boost Your Professional And Social Networks
When spring arrives, we all want to be outside, looking fabulous, and back to socializing. And now is the perfect time to add a few great events to your calendar to get you through the quarter in order to make new friends, build new partnerships, and talk new opportunities to level up.
Spring is a high season for networking and social events for Black women, with many organizations and event entrepreneurs booking prime locations and offering dynamic experiences that you can maximize in whatever way possible. Write down your goals, and get out there. Start with a few of these events between now and the start of summer:
New Orleans Jazz And Heritage Festival, April 23 - May 3
The New Orleans Jazz And Heritage Festival is a 10-day event held over two weekends, bringing together thousands of musicians, craftspeople, and food lovers to share in common threads of culture in the heart of New Orleans. You'll get to enjoy works by artisans local to Louisiana as well as from across the U.S. and around the world.
Black Food Truck Festival, April 26-28
Hosted in Charleston, S.C., the Black Food Truck Festival includes an opening party, access to more than two dozen food truck vendors, and a time to workout with other attendees. Charleston has long been known as a Southern foodie destination, with global recognition due to James Beard-awarded chefs heading popular restaurants there and a renewed focus on Gullah and Geechee culture and food in the region. And what better conversation ice-breaker than to talk about food with a new acquaintance?
Black Women's Mental Health Conference, May 4
Hosted by New York University, this is a one-day event to tackle issues of mental wellness and health that uniquely affect Black women and girls. The keynote speaker for this year is Kim Young, MSW, LCSW, founder of Dope Black Social Worker® and host of the podcast Revolutionary Hoodrat, and leading licensed professionals in the field will offer their insights and share their experiences. And, of course, no college-led event is without time blocked specifically for networking.
Strength of a Woman Festival, May 11-12
Anything with Mary J. Blige headlining or leading is a win, especially if we're talking about women's empowerment and enjoyment. This event will be held in New York City, and beyond the performances from some of our favorites like Muni Long, Jill Scott, and The Clark Sisters, there will be a Gospel Brunch. And even if you're not able to attend or concerts aren't your thing, just being in the city during that time will mean you're bound to run into plenty of other women to network with at local bars and restaurants nearby.
Carefree Black Girl Cookout, May 4
Held in the Queen City, Charlotte, N.C., this is a day festival amplifying the voices and brands of Black women entrepreneurs, artists, and creatives. There will be vendors, glam and beauty bars, and complimentary meals for the first hour (according to the platform's website). They're hosting another cookout in Philadelphia on May 25.
Black Women Leading Live, May 13-16
Touted as an “intimate retreat + conference,” this Virginia Beach, VA event will be held on a resort and is offering a professional development experience led by Laura Knights, founder of the Black Woman Leading® program and podcast. It’s an ideal fit if you’re a mid-level or senior professional, as the topics and approach are set to cater to those levels of career experience, with coaches and speakers pouring into attendees with a holistic approach.
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