

Something that I really appreciate about sex — other than the fact that it's, well, sex — is there really is so much to learn about it. Just when you think that you know all that there is — BOOM! Some new info reveals itself that helps to take things to a whole 'nother level. In walks, the G-Scale orgasm.
If you've never heard of it before, I'm pretty sure that you're absolutely not alone. I mean, I wasn't super familiar with it either until a few weeks ago. Once I did some reading, researching and pondering, I must admit that I do dig the concept. So, if you're ready to make your orgasms even more intense than they (hopefully) already are, knowing where you land on the G-Scale may be just what you need.
So, What Does “G-Scale” Mean?
OK, so from what I've researched, it would appear that when it comes to the actual concept of a G-Scale orgasm, the credit needs to go to a female neuroscientist and sex therapist by the name of Nan Wise, Ph.D. who decided that it would be cool to come up with a literal Richter scale for orgasms. Meaning, you know how earthquakes have levels to them and they are measured on the Richter scale? Well, Dr. Wise figured that this same mindset can apply to how powerful an orgasm is — or not? Because let's not sit here and act like all orgasms are created equal…that some aren't way more intense than others.
So, besides just knowing that some feel different, how do you actually measure an orgasm? Well, it would seem that the intensity that we feel, on many levels, is directly connected to the erogenous zones that are stimulated during sexual activity. For instance, when focus is put on to your clitoris (including your clitoral hood), an area of your brain known as genital sensory cortex is awakened; the more it is stimulated, the more powerful your orgasms will feel.
And just how do you figure out where you fall on the Richter scale? Well, that is where the sex toy company Hot Octopuss comes in. They actually created a quiz that you can take that will help you to determine where you currently fall on the scale (you can take the quiz for yourself here). And what if you discover that your orgasms don't leave you nearly as "shaken up" as you deserve to be? Well, that's where the next point comes in.
How Can the G-Scale Make Your Orgasms Better?
So, here's the deal when it comes to orgasms as it relates to the G-Scale. According to it, if you pretty much only cum when your clitoris is stimulated, that would be considered a "one-level" orgasm (I know, right?). Now an orgasm, period, is pretty grand. Still, check this out — a six-level orgasm (which is pretty much the peak) is defined as being where you land when you've had your vagina, clitoris, G-spot, nipples and also your mind aroused. When you've got a partner who is able to literally touch you in all of these areas, he's been able to get you into what is known as "the M-Zone" — and baby, if you're there, you've literally reached the mountaintop of orgasms!
So, you get where this is going, right? If you want to achieve more pleasurable climaxes, it's important that more than your genital region is stimulated (surprise, surprise). Matter of fact, Dr. Wise believes that the more that we are mentally aroused, the lighter (less stressed and "heavy") our brains will become and the easier it will be to have more fulfilling orgasms (orgasmic meditation, anyone?).
3 Ways to Up Your Orgasms on the G-Scale
With all of this broken down, what do you do if you realize that you've been sitting at around a 1 and you want to get close to a 6 on the G-scale? Good question. After taking the quiz, there are three hacks that can definitely help you, as soon as tonight, even.
1. Mentally connect more with your partner.
I don't know about y'all but I personally feel bad for people who've never really had a strong mental and emotional connection with a sex partner. I don't care of it's a man or a woman, almost everyone I've talked to about this topic can vouch for the fact that when two people are in sync beyond the physical, sex goes to an entirely different dimension. And, as you've already read, in order to get to a 6, to hit the M-Zone, that's exactly what needs to happen.
Verbally affirm one another. Go on "love language dates" more often (check out "15 Date Ideas Based On Your Love Language"). Become intentional about being a better listener. Make the sexual experience more romantic.
When you feel connected, you feel seen. When you feel seen, it can make you feel cherished. And when you feel cherished, the sky really is the limit on how passionate the sex can become. Amen? Amen.
2. Be intentional about exploring (more) erogenous zones.
So, from what I have researched, men and women both have approximately 14 different erogenous zones — scalp (cue Mario's "Braid My Hair"), mouth, neck, ears, nipples, armpits, wrists, hands, bottoms of the feet, behind the knees, stomach (especially the belly button), lower back, inner thighs and of course, the genital region. This means that there are at least 14 different places we all can go to make our partners feel absolutely amazing.
When it comes to getting to a 6, edging (bringing certain erogenous zones to the brink of orgasm before backing off for a spell) helps. So does mastering foreplay when it comes to these spots; especially when it comes to — for us — the nipples, vagina, clitoris and G-spot. Once again, a reminder that intercourse alone can "get us there" but to really reach the peak, other body parts need to be involved.
3. Slow the process down.
Personally, when I think of what could be done to enter into the M-Zone, having sex in the spoon position definitely comes to mind because it's an easy way for your partner to stimulate all of the parts of your body that need to be in order to achieve a 6. Yet more than anything, what I got out of all of this is sex needs to be intentional — slower, intensified, with both people exploring all of what their bodies have to offer.
Put a playlist together. Get the clock out of your bedroom. Lose yourself in one another. Do that and things can go from mild tremors to literally y'all shaking the room up! The M-Zone, indeed.
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney & Jill Marie Jones On 'Games Women Play' & Dating Over 40
What do you get when you mix unfiltered truths, high-stakes romance, and a few well-timed one-liners? You get Games Women Play—the sizzling new stage play by Je’Caryous Johnson that’s part relationship rollercoaster, part grown-woman group chat.
With a powerhouse cast that includes Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney, Jill Marie Jones, Carl Payne, Chico Bean, and Brian J. White, the play dives headfirst into the messy, hilarious, and heart-wrenching games people play for love, power, and peace of mind. And the women leading this story? They’re bringing their whole selves to the stage—and leaving nothing behind.
From Script to Spotlight
The road to Games Women Play started over 20 years ago—literally.
“This script was written 20 years ago,” Jill Marie Jones said with a smile. “It was originally called Men, Money & Gold Diggers, and I was in the film version. So when Je’Caryous called me to bring it to the stage, I was like, ‘Let’s go.’” Now reimagined for 2025, the play is updated with sharp dialogue and modern relationship dynamics that feel all too real.
Demetria McKinney, no stranger to Je’Caryous Johnson’s productions, jumped at the opportunity to join the cast once again. “This is my third time working with him,” she shared. “It was an opportunity to stretch. I’d never been directed by Carl Payne before, and the chance to work with talent I admire—Jill, Claudia, Chico—it was a no-brainer.”
Claudia Jordan joked that she originally saw the role as just another check. “I didn’t take it that seriously at first,” she admitted. “But this is my first full-on tour—and now I’ve got a whole new respect for how hard people work in theater. This ain’t easy.”
Modern Love, Stage Left
The play doesn’t hold back when it comes to the messier parts of love. One jaw-dropping moment comes when a live podcast proposal flips into a prenup bombshell—leaving the audience (and the characters) gasping.
Demetria broke it down with honesty. “People don’t ask the real questions when they date. Like, ‘Do you want kids? How do you feel about money?’ These convos aren’t happening, and then everyone’s confused. That moment in the play—it’s real. That happens all the time.”
Jill chimed in, noting how the play speaks to emotional disconnect. “We’re giving each other different tokens of love. Men might offer security and money. Women, we’re giving our hearts. But there’s a disconnect—and that’s where things fall apart.”
And then Claudia, of course, took it all the way there. “These men don’t even want to sign our prenups now!” she laughed. “They want to live the soft life, too. Wearing units, gloss, getting their brows done. We can’t have nothing! Y’all want to be like us? Then get a damn period and go through menopause.”
Dating Over 40: “You Better Come Correct”
When the conversation turned to real-life relationships, all three women lit up. Their experiences dating in their 40s and 50s have given them both clarity—and zero tolerance for games.
“I feel sexier than I’ve ever felt,” said Jill, who proudly turned 50 in January. “I say what I want. I mean what I say. I’m inside my woman, and I’m not apologizing for it.”
Demetria added that dating now comes with deeper self-awareness. “Anybody in my life is there because I want them there. I’ve worked hard to need nobody. But I’m open to love—as long as you keep doing what got me there in the first place.”
For Claudia, the bar is high—and the peace is priceless. “I’ve worked hard for my peace,” she said. “I’m not dating for food. I’m dating because I want to spend time with you. And honestly, if being with you isn’t better than being alone with my candles and fountains and cats? Then no thanks.”
Channeling Strength & Icon Status
Each actress brings something different to the play—but all of them deliver.
“I actually wish I could be messier on stage,” Claudia joked. “But I think about my grandmother—she was born in 1929, couldn’t even vote or buy a house without a man, and didn’t give a damn. She was fearless. That’s where my strength comes from.”
For Jill, the comparisons to her iconic Girlfriends character Toni Childs aren’t far off—but this role gave her a chance to dig deeper. “If you really understood Toni, you’d see how layered she was. And Paisley is the same—misunderstood, but strong. There’s more to her than people see at first glance.”
Demetria, who juggles singing and acting seamlessly, shared that live theater pushes her in a new way. “Every moment on stage counts. You can’t redo anything. It’s a different kind of love and discipline. You have to give the performance away—live, in the moment—and trust that it lands.”
Laughter, Lessons & Black Girl Gems
The show has plenty of laugh-out-loud moments—and the cast isn’t shy about who steals scenes.
“Chico Bean gets a lot of gasps and laughs,” Claudia said. “And Naomi Booker? Every scene she’s in—she’s hilarious.”
But the play isn’t just about humor. It leaves space for reflection—especially for Black women.
“I hope we get back to the foundation of love and communication,” said Demetria. “A lot of us are in protector mode. But that’s turned into survival mode. We’ve lost softness. We’ve lost connection.”
Claudia agreed. “We’re doing it all—but it’s not because we want to be strong all the time. It’s because we have to be. And I just want women to know: You can have peace, you can be soft. But stop bringing your old pain into new love. Don’t let past heartbreak build walls so high that the right person can’t climb over.”
Final Act: Pack the House
If there’s one thing this cast agrees on, it’s that this play isn’t just entertainment—it’s necessary.
“Atlanta is the Black entertainment hub,” Claudia said. “We need y’all to show up for this play. Support the arts. Support each other. Because when we pack the house, we make space for more stories like this.”
Games Women Play is more than a play—it’s a mirror. You’ll see yourself, your friends, your exes, and maybe even your next chapter. So get ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe even heal—because the games are on.
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It’s officially Miss Keri, Baby season again—and if you ask us, it’s been a long time coming. After 15 years away from the music scene, Keri Hilson has returned not only with a brand-new album, but also a captivating new role in Lifetime’s Fame—the latest installment in The Temptations film franchise.
Between the album We Need to Talk: Love and her leading role in Fame, this isn’t just a comeback—it’s a rebirth. The Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter turned actress is letting us into her world like never before, unpacking themes of vulnerability, healing, and inner strength with grace, grit, and raw artistry.
Now streaming on Lifetime, Fame follows two superstar sisters—played by Keri and singer/actress Keshia Chanté—as they navigate the cost of stardom, sibling rivalry, and the dark side of desire. The film also stars Romeo Miller, Ecstasia Sanders, Nathan Witte, and Sophie Carriere, and is executive produced by Derrick Williams and Adriane Hopper Williams of the Seven Deadly Sins franchise.
As for the music? We Need to Talk: Love is a three-part album (Love, Drama, Redemption) that tells the story of a woman who’s been through it—and has risen from the ashes. “It was time to speak for myself,” Keri says.
We sat down with Keri to talk about her return to music, her passion for acting, the emotional depth of Fame, and how she’s learning to care for herself amidst the chaos.
From R&B Queen to Drama Star: Keri Gets Into Character
“Even though she’s famous—as am I—it was really her humanity that I wanted to portray.”
Keri plays Cherish, one half of a superstar sibling duo who must confront their fractured relationship in the wake of a traumatic robbery. For Keri, the role was more than a character—it was a psychological study.
“I enjoy departures from reality. That’s why I love acting,” she shares. “Psychology is one of my favorite things in life. I became a writer because I’m an observer of human nature, emotion, and behavior. I think I did a good job showing her humanity.”
The Fame Isn’t Always Worth the Price
“Keep the main thing the main thing.”
Keri doesn’t sugarcoat the industry. When asked about what Fame reveals about the dark side of celebrity culture, her answer is clear:
“It’s a cautionary tale. It reminds you to keep your family close and not allow anything to come between them—especially in pursuit of success. Keep the main thing the main thing. For me, that’s family, love, spirituality, and values.”
Three Chapters, One Story: Love. Drama. Redemption.
“I’ve shed the fear. It was time to tell my own story.”
Released April 18th, We Need to Talk: Love is Keri’s first album in 15 years—and a deeply personal one at that. The three-part project (Love, Drama, Redemption) represents a timeline of healing and growth.
“I’m finally in a place where I’m able and willing to open up more,” she says. “For a while, I became really guarded—shell-shocked, even—after making mistakes in the public eye. Whether it’s all your fault or not, the scrutiny takes its toll. But now, I’ve shed that fear. It’s time to tell my story.”
Cooking, Walks, and Recalibrating in the Chaos
“I’m not doing the best job—but I’m doing what I can.”
Between eight-hour rehearsals, press runs, and music releases, Hilson admits she hasn’t quite figured out the balance yet—but she’s trying. For her, the key is carving out small rituals of normalcy.
“I enjoy cooking. That’s my sanctity,” she says. “I’ll go home, take my makeup off, put on my rehearsal clothes, and cook a meal. I take walks. I run. These little things help me feel like myself again.”
Art Imitates Life (and Album Tracklists)
“Cherish goes from Love… to Drama… to Redemption.”
Asked which album chapter her Fame character would fall into, Keri doesn’t hesitate. “She fits into all three,” she says. “You see her go from love, to drama, to redemption. That arc mirrors the journey of so many women who’ve had to navigate pain and find their way back to themselves.”
No Pressure, Just Art: Keri Wants You to Feel Something
“Just enjoy the art. That’s it.”
After all the time, patience, and healing, Keri isn’t asking for much. She just wants fans to press play—and feel something.
“I just want people to enjoy what they’re seeing and hearing. Enjoy me on screen. Enjoy me through their ears. People have waited, and I feel blessed by that. That helps me keep it all pure and simple.”
As Keri Hilson steps boldly back into the spotlight, it’s clear this era is all about alignment, artistry, and authenticity. With Fame airing on Lifetime and the first chapter of We Need to Talk: Love setting the tone, we’re more than excited to see what’s next.
As she continues to unfold the album’s next two chapters—Drama and Redemption—one thing’s for sure: this isn’t just a comeback. It’s a reintroduction. And we’ll be watching, listening, and cheering her on every step of the way.
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