Boobs are pretty awesome if you ask me. Whether big or small, perky or slightly saggy, real or surgically enhanced, they are a lot of fun to play with and quite arousing. Depending on the person, breast play can be either foreplay or the main event. Breast play is an act of touching, rubbing, or sucking on nipples during sex. It involves fondling a woman's breasts or even a man's nipples.
There are a lot of women who really, really enjoy breast play so much that they can reach orgasm through nipple stimulation alone, while others need breast play in conjunction with genital stimulation. According to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, sensation from the nipples travels to the same part of the brain as sensations from the vagina, clitoris and cervix. How cool would it be to learn how to please your partner by simply playing with their breasts? Well, lucky for you, I have some techniques here to get you started.
Focus on the areola.
Areolas surround the nipple and are more sensitive than the nipple itself. You should focus on the upper quadrant of her breast, between 10 and 2 o'clock. It’s the most sensitive part of the bull’s eye. Stroke the nipple and circle the areola gently with a finger, or circle the nipple with your thumb and forefinger.
Use your mouth...
If the nipples are erect, use your tongue to draw circles around them. You can alternate between licking and sucking the nipple. Use your lips, tongue, and teeth, as well as your hands to lick, suck, and nibble on them. Use your tongue to flick the nipple a few times before slowly and gently taking it into your mouth. You can also get some temperature play going by licking a breast and lightly blowing on the moistened spot. Start gently, and gradually increase the pressure until you find what works for your partner if he or she enjoys a lot of pressure.
But, don’t bite.
Never bite someone’s nipple without consent. Nipples are sensitive AF and everyone doesn’t think pain is pleasure. You do not want to interrupt a good time by doing that. Before nibbling or pulling on her nipple, ask, “Do you want more?” or “Harder?”
Build the intensity.
Nipples are similar to clitorises: some people can barely stand direct contact, while others require strong pressure. Just like the clitoris, it's best to begin gently, then work your way up to more pressure. If they want more intensity, gently pinch the nipples between your thumb and forefinger.
You can gradually increase the pressure, and ask them to let you know when it goes too far. You can also gently twist the nipples, but be careful with this move since it's pretty intense. You can also cup the breast in your hand and gently pull on the nipple with your thumb and forefinger.
Don’t forget the toys.
For new sensations on the breasts, you can use vibrators or feather ticklers. Silk ties or scarves can feel great too. If your partner prefers intense nipple play, you can buy nipple clamps or suckers. In addition, you can blindfold your partner and use different toys or materials to touch It. You can also apply lube or massage oil to help your hands really slide around on their breasts.
Combine breast foreplay with clitoral stimulation.
In order to achieve the best nipplegasm, combine nipple stimulation with stimulation of the clitoris. Start stimulation through your mouth while simultaneously using your hands or a sex toy like a vibrator to tease the clitoris.
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