Are You Interested In Partaking In Some 'Thanksgiving-Themed Sex'?

1. Light Some Pumpkin and Lavender Candles

Something that I have shouted out, pretty much ever since I first found out about it, is the fact that, when it comes to using the power of scent (check out “How To Incorporate All Five Senses To Have The Best Sex Ever”) to intensify sexual activity, the combination of pumpkin and lavender are unmatched. So much, in fact, that studies say that when men get a whiff of the combo, it can increase blood flow to their genital region by as much as 40 percent!

So, if you put some pumpkin and lavender-scented candles in your space — not only will the lighting be hella romantic, your man’s erections will very possibly be stronger than ever, sis. Give thanks.

2. Fill the Space with Chrysanthemums

If you like to be surrounded by fresh flowers during sex, there is something to that. Science tells us that certain blooms contain chemical compounds that are able to sexually arouse us. And in the spirit of Thanksgiving and gratitude, if you want to stick with the theme, consider going with some chrysanthemums. Not only are they in season right now, they are flowers that represent things like happiness, longevity, life, renewal and yes, even gratitude. Now how fitting is that?

3. Indulge in a Sweet Potato Cocktail

Although I personally can appreciate both pumpkin and sweet potato pie, thanks to KevOnStage and his incessant need to gaslight people about this topic — LOL — he is who immediately comes to mind around this time of year (IYKYK). Anyway, wherever you land on which pie is better, at least consider treating you and your bae to a sweet potato cocktail. ​

Not only is it pretty damn good — thanks to the vitamin B6 (which increases sexual arousal) and potassium (which increases endurance) that are in them, sweet potatoes are considered to be a top-tier aphrodisiac. With that being said, one of my favorite sweet potato cocktail recipes is located right here.

4. Play Around with Some Cranberry Lubricant

When you think about the foods that are considered to be signature Thanksgiving ones (check out “Eat Up, Sis. Thanksgiving Foods That Are Great For Your Sex Life.”), I’m pretty sure that cranberry sauce is at least in your top five list. And that’s why, I thought that it made all of the sense in the world to bring some lubricant that is made from cranberry extract to your attention.

Since it’s flavored, that can make sex with or without condoms super sweet (literally); plus, the wetter — eh hem — things are during sex, the better they tend to be (check out “The Wetter, The Better: 10 Creative Ways To Use Lubricant”). The lube that I’m referring to? Check it out here.

5. Wear Some “Eating” Undies

Personally, I couldn’t see myself having sex with someone who I would have to convince or compel to go down on me. However, if you’re currently in that kind of, umm, bind, here’s a fun fact about cunnilingus: men can actually get a small dose of probiotics in their system by partaking (I’m not kidding). And in honor of that, I found some panties that will encourage him to bless both him and yourself: Click here and you will see that they say “Wanna Eat My Pie.” Adorable.

6. Put a Twist on the Macy’s Day Parade

I’m personally not a big holidays person; however, I grew up in a home with a woman who was. Plus, my mother was a New Yorker to her core and that is home of the Macy’s Day Parade. This year, put a twist to it in your own home by modeling some of your partner’s favorite lingerie to some of y’all’s favorite sensual music.

Even have him narrate what you are wearing, how you are moving and what he likes the most about it — then return the favorite. Parades are a form of celebration and celebrations should be a huge part of sex. We all need to do it more often.

7. Add Bows to Your Legs (Instead of the Turkey’s)

My deep and incessant passion for knowing random information? Hands down, I get that from my daddy. That said, do you know why some Thanksgiving turkeys are served up with little booties on them? It’s to cover up the turkey leg bones so that they look more appealing. The more you know.

Well, since I’m putting together a Thanksgiving-themed sex list, I absolutely had to incorporate something that would be an honorable mention for the most popular food of that holiday, right? And that’s where BDSM leather ankle cuffs come in. If you need some help connecting the dots of what those are for, basically if you want to restrain your partner’s legs (or you want him to restrain yours), ankle cuffs can get that accomplished.

And for your ankles, especially, in found some really cute ones with bows on the back that are similar to Turkey booties. I found them on one of my favorite shopping sites: Etsy (here).

8. Tell Your Partner What You’re Grateful for — SEXUALLY

American writer William Arthur Ward once said, “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” And at the end of the day, gratitude is all about recognizing and acknowledging what you are thankful for when it comes to people, places, things and even ideas; especially when it comes to how they have personally manifested in your life.

OK, so think about your sex life with your partner. What are you thankful for and have you told them? I used to do this with a couple of my past sex partners and boy, you should’ve seen their eyes light up and watched things “grow” as I went down the list of what I enjoyed most about experiencing copulation with them.

Everyone wants to feel appreciated — including when it comes to how they are able to please, fulfill and satisfy their partner in bed. In the spirit of Thanksgiving, now is a good of a time as ever to let your boo thang know.

9. Put a “Sex Gratitude Jar” on Your Nightstands

My “go way backs” probably remember when I wrote, “5 Reasons Why Every Married Couple Needs A Sex Jar” back in the day. Basically, whenever a couple has sex, they put money in the jar and then spend it on something special after collecting the dough for 6-12 months. Along these lines, put a mason jar on each side of your beds and declare it to be your “sex gratitude jar”

Agree that, starting Thanksgiving night, you will each put a sex compliment on a small piece of paper, once a week (because healthy couples have sex at least that much), along with a sexual promise of some sort (like “I promise to give you a sexual pressure point massage this month” or “I promise to wake you up with a blow job for the next week”).

Then, once a week, both of you pull something out of each person’s jar and take in the compliment and then do what is stated on it. It’s a Thanksgiving-themed sex tip that will make the entire year something (sexually) special.

10. Pile on the Whipped Cream

A few years ago, I penned an article for the platform entitled, “12 ‘Sex Condiments’ That Can Make Coitus Even More...Delicious.” When you get a chance, check it out because, although I agree with an ex of mine who used to say, “If food needs condiments, it wasn’t prepared right” (and I feel this translates our to bodies as well — LOL), condiments of all kinds can make, partaking, more enjoyable and satisfying — in every room of the house.

And when you think of the most popular condiment for the Thanksgiving season, I’d be shocked if you didn’t mention whipped cream. That said, while you’re putting together your holiday grocery list, get a can of Reddi-wip — the extra creamy kind. Bring it into the bedroom. You won’t regret it. AT ALL.

Hmph. Talk about a Happy Freakin’ Thanksgiving! #wink

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