An Underrated Cause For Being Able To Climax Easily? DNA.

What Your DNA Has to Do with Your Sexual Pleasure

Goodness. Talk about putting a whole new spin on Victoria Monét's, “On My Mama” song. Yep, believe it or not, there are studies that say that having orgasms has quite a bit to do with one’s genetic material. See, some intel states that if a woman does have a problem with “getting there,” she might want to do some digging into her family tree because there is a significant amount of evidence to support the fact that if she can’t climax, her sisters, mother and grandmother(s) may have a hard time in that area too.

And how much of an impact does DNA make? Some say as much as a whopping 60 percent! A part of the study came from the result of testing identical twins vs. fraternal ones and seeing the sexual commonalities that they had. What they discovered is the identical twins had a lot of orgasming or not orgasming in common.

Now, I’ll be honest with you — there is a lot of science involved in all of this including things like what your dopamine levels (which plays a role in regulating pleasure) may be genetically if you have a predisposition to depression and anxiety; what your androgen levels (which are a type of sex hormone) are, and where the exact location of your G-spot is (although people are still debating if there is even such a thing; for the record, close to 60 percent of women believe that they do indeed have one).

If you add to this what I already said about your clit-to-vaginal opening factor (which definitely is an anatomy issue) — can you see how it really does make sense that your DNA plays a role in your (peak) sexual pleasure (as far as orgasms go)?

And why should you know all of this? Well, if you are climaxing easily — you know, you’re the kind of person where it really doesn’t take much to get you going — and you’ve always wondered why, your gene pool would like a bit of praise. On the other hand, if you’ve been doing all that you can to either have orgasms or to experience more consistent ones…try and give yourself (and your partner) a bit of a break. As you can see, some of what’s going on has nothing to do with you — or him. And does that mean that you just have to surrender to never “reaching the mountaintop?” No. I’ll get more into that towards the end of all of this.

Before sharing some (hopefully) helpful hacks, I first want to bring up one more thing that I found while reading up on this topic; something that caused me to partly chuckle and partly roll my eyes.

Something Else That I Found to Be…Interesting

Okay, so, although I personally think that something in the buttermilk ain’t clean (as far as tone goes) with a particular article that also touches on this topic, some other intel claims that another reason why some women cum easier and quicker than others is that — get this — they are more willing to settle for “low-quality men” (somebody sounds like a hater to me but…).

What’s the connection? Well, it would appear that, once upon a time, a part of the indication that a man would be an overall good provider and that he could be relied upon is if he could bring a woman to an orgasm. The theory is that since it takes a woman around twice the amount of time to have an orgasm as a man, if a guy is willing to put his needs aside to make sure that hers are met, then he is worthy of a relationship — and that a woman should require a man to “show up” (and some might say show out as well) in this way.

I don’t see a problem with any of that — in theory. Two things to consider, though: one, implying that the women who don’t need “the compromise” are settling when it comes to men is pretty close to ridiculous. Two, it really is time out for thinking that only men are responsible for women having orgasms. In fact, all of the stuff that I said about genetics and climaxing? That wasn’t just about when two people are engaged in sexual activity; many women who can’t have an orgasm aren’t able to do so via masturbation as well — and since we all know that it consists of having sex alone…well…that can’t be on the fellas, now can it?

Still, there is a takeaway from all of this that should be emphasized: If orgasms don’t come easily and naturally to you, do make sure that you have a partner who doesn’t Elmo shrug that off. Because although you can have great sex without an orgasm, a good partner will want to do what they can to help you get the absolute most out of intimacy with them — orgasms included.

With all of this out of the way, if you sense that a lot of what’s been standing in the way between you and some or more orgasms is indeed your DNA, what can be done? I’m glad that you asked.

What You Should Do If You Are Someone Who Has “Gene Pool” Challenges?

Okay, I’m gonna be real with you — DNA is DNA. So, I’m not gonna sit up here and act like there are some overnight miracle cures in this department. At the same time, though, because some of this is simply about having lower hormone levels than others naturally do, there are a few hacks to keep in mind.

If your dopamine levels are what’s on the lower side, it’s important that you get an amino acid known as tyrosine into your system. It’s beneficial because it is what dopamine is actually made from. Some foods that contain tyrosine include protein-enriched ones like beef, chicken, and fish, as well as white beans, squash and pumpkin seeds, and wild rice. Other things that can kick your dopamine levels up a few notches are exercise, reducing your sugar intake, meditating, listening to some of your favorite (non-triggering) music, and getting no less than 6-8 hours of rest every night.

When it comes to things like depression and anxiety, did you know that some studies say that around 50 percent of depression-related causes are considered to be genetic and that anxiety has some heredity tied to it, too? Just one more reminder that if you’re struggling in these areas, it’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

See your physical doctor (so that they can check your hormones and other aspects of your health) and consider also speaking with a reputable therapist and, when it comes to sex-related stuff, a sex therapist as well (check out “Have You Ever Wondered If You Should See A Sex Therapist?”).

As far as your androgen levels go, although different forms of therapy are available to get it on track since testosterone is the main focus when it comes to androgen, consider doing things like lowering your stress levels, getting more ginseng and zinc into your system, staying at a healthy weight, consuming less alcohol and refined grains (because they can mess with your blood sugar levels and that can jack your testosterone up).

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Y’all, knowledge really is power, and one of the things that I appreciate about findings like these is they’re a reminder to stop pressuring yourself when it comes to things like orgasms. Contrary to popular belief (or assumption), climaxing is not a black-and-white issue. Many layers go into why it’s easy for some and…not so easy for others.

And since one of those layers just happens to be your genetic material — please don’t beat yourself (or your partner) up (anymore). Do some (more) research. See your doctor and/or a therapist. Be patient with the process of learning more about what your body naturally needs. And with a few tweaks here and there, you never know what could happen — how you can buck your DNA all the way, chile.

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