

5 Adults-Only Resorts Adding Some Heat To Our Summer Travel Plans
There are two constant questions in life: when/where is the next trip and how can our sex lives get even better? And, if you’re not asking these questions, we might have something else to unpack other than vacation clothes. Alas, summer is near and if you haven’t already, the time has come to start planning your holiday. Quickly. If you haven't started yet, here is your sign to do so now! There’s plenty of space and opportunity to heat things up in your sex life. In fact, for those of you who are asking the aforementioned deep, philosophical questions, allow me to make your day by presenting to you travel destinations with a twist (because, modern times, of course).
Yes, I’m presenting you the opportunity to take a Hannah Montana-type of vacation, as in best of both worlds – not illicit drugs. But, perhaps illicit lovers. For the booked, beautiful, and ‘bout it we’re going to drop the pin on some erotic resorts that you can book your next trip–from nude beaches to swingers parties on-site, you’ll want to check out this list. While you may be wondering who you take to a resort such as this, I can assure you that you can swing this (no pun intended) in any way – baecation, solo dolo trip, or group trip. There’s something super enticing about the idea of taking a group of attractive (whether inside or out–don’t stone me) friends and seeing where a weekend like this leads you.
But, hey, that’s just me! I’ll leave the rest of the details to you. After all, I'm already providing you with five relaxing adults-only resorts to stay at.
1. Hedonism II (Negril, Jamaica)
There’s nothing like a vacation to lower inhibitions and try things outside your norm. And this is, by far, one of the more known resorts to date. This resort offers clothing-optional facilities, kinky parties, and lots of room for play, literally! All bets are off at this resort where just about anything goes (with permission, of course), whether you choose to enter their playroom (i.e. the romping shop) or not. After all the term "hedonistic" does mean to explore the pursuit of pleasure or sensual interest.
While this resort does offer a day pass, you are not permitted to go into the roaming room due to liabilities on the day pass so keep that in mind for those who are simply wanting to pass through.
2. Couples Tower Isle Resort (Ocho Rios, Jamaica)
Another Jamaican resort, which tells us all we really need to know about the culture for those of you who have yet to see them in motion when dancehall music drops. Hell, now that I think about it, Stella Got Her Groove Back took place in Jamaica. Hmm. Yeah. Enough said! Moving along, now. While it may not be a free for all like Hedonism II, Couples Tower Isle Resort seems to still know how to have a good time as this all-inclusive resort has plenty of adult-only activities and amenities, one of which is a nightclub.
3. Desire Pearl Resort (Cancún, Mexico)
Unlike the previous resorts, this resort is exclusive to couples. They do still, however, provide a clothing-optional environment and the space to explore sexually. Desire Pearl boasts that you can have the time of your life, may it be “mild or wild” during your stay with the liberating clothing-optional policies and their mysterious but “spicy” pool parties. Though they don’t advertise it on the website itself, if you wander off onto their social media, you quickly find that they too offer a playroom where you can join, watch, or be looked upon *insert grinning devil emoji*.
Note: If you’re looking to stay in the United States, these next two resorts on our list might be the happy medium for you.
4. Monterey Stay and Play (Salinas, Cali)
More than nudity itself, this erotic bed and breakfast speaks more to the overall interest in BDSM. They offer a BDSM room for couples equipped with some kinky gadgets to elevate your sexual experience. These gadgets range from ropes and leather cuffs to chastity devices and my fave, the Violet Wand (for those into erotic electrostimulation). Easy access to a dungeon is a top-tier selling point, but do keep in mind that unlike the others on our list, this is not an all-inclusive vibe. While you will be amongst like-minded people, you shouldn’t assume that this is a space where couples wish to join you – not even loosely.
5. Caliente Club & Resorts (Land O' Lakes, Florida)
Though the site doesn’t look all that exquisite, they don’t mince any words or videos in regards to getting to the point–upon entering the site you can see that this is going to be an erotic time, if nothing else. Another thing that’s for certain is the endless list of events that the resort offers, which makes it that much easier to meet your match to take things a little further if you and your partner wish to do so. It should be noted that Caliente Club & Resorts gives more of a college spring break vibe (the atmosphere, that is) than luxury, so if luxe is something you’re looking for, do your due diligence.
This is only a short list, as I’m sure there are many more out there. If for some reason these don’t meet your needs, there is something for everybody. When looking, it may behoove you to reach out to a travel agent who can help you quickly narrow down your options.
But for now? Consider this to be your kinky starter pack.
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Exclusive: Gabrielle Union On Radical Transparency, Being Diagnosed With Perimenopause And Embracing What’s Next
Whenever Gabrielle Union graces the movie screen, she immediately commands attention. From her unforgettable scenes in films like Bring It On and Two Can Play That Game to her most recent film, in which she stars and produces Netflix’s The Perfect Find, there’s no denying that she is that girl.
Off-screen, she uses that power for good by sharing her trials and tribulations with other women in hopes of helping those who may be going through the same things or preventing them from experiencing them altogether. Recently, the Flawless by Gabrielle Union founder partnered with Clearblue to speak at the launch of their Menopause Stage Indicator, where she also shared her experience with being perimenopausal.
In a xoNecoleexclusive, the iconic actress opens up about embracing this season of her life, new projects, and overall being a “bad motherfucker.” Gabrielle reveals that she was 37 years old when she was diagnosed with perimenopause and is still going through it at 51 years old. Mayo Clinic says perimenopause “refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years.”
“I haven't crossed over the next phase just yet, but I think part of it is when you hear any form of menopause, you automatically think of your mother or grandmother. It feels like an old-person thing, but for me, I was 37 and like not understanding what that really meant for me. And I don't think we focus so much on the word menopause without understanding that perimenopause is just the time before menopause,” she tells us.
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"But you can experience a lot of the same things during that period that people talk about, that they experienced during menopause. So you could get a hot flash, you could get the weight gain, the hair loss, depression, anxiety, like all of it, mental health challenges, all of that can come, you know, at any stage of the menopausal journey and like for me, I've been in perimenopause like 13, 14 years. When you know, most doctors are like, ‘Oh, but it's usually about ten years, and I'm like, ‘Uhh, I’m still going (laughs).’”
Conversations about perimenopause, fibroids, and all the things that are associated with women’s bodies have often been considered taboo and thus not discussed publicly. However, times are changing, and thanks to the Gabrielle’s and the Tia Mowry’s, more women are having an authentic discourse about women’s health. These open discussions lead to the creation of more safe spaces and support for one another.
“I want to be in community with folks. I don't ever want to feel like I'm on an island about anything. So, if I can help create community where we are lacking, I want to be a part of that,” she says. “So, it's like there's no harm in talking about it. You know what I mean? Like, I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change. I'm just getting better and stronger and more intelligent, more wise, more patient, more compassionate, more empathetic. All of that is very, very welcomed, and none of it should be scary.”
The Being Mary Jane star hasn’t been shy about her stance on therapy. If you don’t know, here’s a hint: she’s all for it, and she encourages others to try it as well. She likens therapy to dating by suggesting that you keep looking for the right therapist to match your needs. Two other essential keys to her growth are radical transparency and radical acceptance (though she admits she is still working on the latter).
"I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change."
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“I hope that a.) you recognize that you're not alone. Seek out help and know that it's okay to be honest about what the hell is happening in your life. That's the only way that you know you can get help, and that's also the only other way that people know that you are in need if there's something going on,” she says, “because we have all these big, very wild, high expectations of people, but if they don't know what they're actually dealing with, they're always going to be failing, and you will always be disappointed. So how about just tell the truth, be transparent, and let people know where you are. So they can be of service, they can be compassionate.”
Gabrielle’s transparency is what makes her so relatable, and has so many people root for her. Whether through her TV and film projects, her memoirs, or her social media, the actress has a knack for making you feel like she’s your homegirl. Scrolling through her Instagram, you see the special moments with her family, exciting new business ventures, and jaw-dropping fashion moments. Throughout her life and career, we’ve seen her evolve in a multitude of ways. From producing films to starting a haircare line to marriage and motherhood, her journey is a story of courage and triumph. And right now, in this season, she’s asking, “What’s next?”
“This is a season of discovery and change. In a billion ways,” says the NAACP Image Award winner. “The notion of like, ‘Oh, so and so changed. They got brand new.’ I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
"I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
She continues, “So I'm just trying to figure out what's next. You know what I mean? I'm jumping into what's next. I'm excited going into what's next and new. I'm just sort of embracing all of what life has to offer.”
Look out for Gabrielle in the upcoming indie film Riff Raff, which is a crime comedy starring her and Jennifer Coolidge, and she will also produce The Idea of You, which stars Anne Hathaway.
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I didn’t think much could get better about the blissful high that comes with oral. That was until I came across the Kivin Method.
As someone who was never a huge fan of oral sex and could largely take it or leave it, I must admit that I have started to come around in recent years. With my head thrown back, hands gripping sheets and hair, and toes curling from the intense sensations of the work my partner is putting in at my center, I now give myself over to the pleasurable act wholly and unapologetically.
When I came across a way to maximize the pleasure I receive from cunnilingus (already), I had no choice but to tap in. Who knew the key to taking oral sex to new heights was giving it a sideways twist? For those of you who might also be interested in ways to spice up the way you do oral, experience faster and stronger orgasms, or simply want to indulge in something new with your partner, the Kivin Method could definitely be the oral sex technique for you, too.
Keep reading to learn about the method that is sure to have you writhing in ecstasy in no time at all.
What Is The Kivin Method?
For the uninitiated, the Kivin Method is an oral sex technique that focuses on stimulating the clitoris from a different angle. Dubbed “sideways oral” by some, this method involves the action of giving head from a side-to-side movement as opposed to the up-and-down motion that people typically perform when giving head. (If you need a visual, this illustration is helpful.)
The difference in approach as you’re receiving head can be a game-changer in how you receive pleasure. Not only does the giving partner have access to the clitoris, but they can also access more easily the vulva and the labia, which are objectively a bigger focus in this version of cunnilingus. More access means wider coverage, and that, plus the new sensation of oral from a different angle, can heighten the way you experience oral sex that much more.
Where more pleasure flows, intense orgasms are sure to follow.
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How To Do The Kivin Method
If you want to know how to do the Kivin Method, it’s actually pretty straightforward. The receiver lays on their back while the giver positions themselves perpendicular to the receiver. Their head will be facing the vulva, but instead of vertical, their face will be horizontal to the vulva.
From there, the giver can get to business, ensuring that they keep their head perpendicular to the receiver’s vulva while working on their craft. Because this technique can be more intense for some receivers, start slowly by stroking the vulva and clitoris sideways with the tongue, and allow sensations and communication from the receiver to be a guide of what you need more or less of with the Kivin Method.
Ultimately, the Kivin Method allows experimentation and unlocking what pressure, rhythm, and tricks work best for the giver and the receiver. Try implementing a finger or two, or adding a sex toy to the mix to intensify the act even further.
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